Mad

Those who are called ‘mentally ill’ or ‘mad’ are the voices in the wilderness, the ones who point to the distress of society, the ones who convict it of its crimes. By their ‘strange’ appearance and parting from the ‘norms’, they challenge and reveal that humanity is not free. They reveal that what is normal is but an accepted madness of the majority. Wars, conflicts, social injustice, abused children, all are accepted by the madness of the majority. But the one who dreams awake, that voice crying from the wilderness, sees something different. The eyes of perception are awakened, and a door to a new existence is opened. Yet the opening of this door is a frightful experience, for it unleashes all that which is the human condition, every experience, every vision, the collective realm of human beings. If there is any illness, it is not with the ‘madman’, it is the society that is ill. And this society has driven the ‘mad’ to that barren place, to that desert. As the prophets of old were rejected by their own, the voice and message of the ‘mad’ is often misunderstood and unheard by those around..

Dr. Dan L. Edmunds

I add this quote

n telling the native’s side he said, “I am telling my story that all may know the war we did not want. War is made to take something that is not your own.”
Yellow Wolf

Childress : Child becomes “regulator object for NPD/Borderline Personality

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The Walrus, the Carpenter- Dr Craig Childress

Many years ago, I fell down the rabbit hole to here and discovered all you parents and your children trapped.

I also found a large menagerie of curious creatures surrounding you in the Wonderland of the family courts, parenting coordinators, “reunification therapists” (there’s no such thing), custody evaluators, GALs, and experts-experts-experts everywhere you look.

You can’t turn around in the Wonderland of here without bumping into an “expert.”

You were trapped in Wonderland of crazy. I had to get you back out to the real world. The creatures of Wonderland, including your “experts”, don’t want you to leave… with your money, they covet your money.

They’ll seek to hold you trapped.

We’re leaving… we’ve left.

Not one more child. We are not losing one more child. We are not losing your child… specifically. We are OUT of Wonderland.

The Red Queen of forensic psychology and the hookah smoking caterpillars of your “experts” will try to keep you from leaving.

Leave.

There is another path – a choice. Established knowledge and clinical psychology, assessment, diagnosis, and treatment.

You want a written treatment plan – google mental health treatment plans and read the top two returns – you want one of those please.

Don’t follow the Walrus and Carpenter little parental clams, or they’ll eat you for their supper and throw your empty shells away.

Walrus & the Carpenter (Childress, 2019)

https://drcraigchildressblog.com/2019/11/17/the-walrus-the-carpenter/

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

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Lonesome

This began before I was 35 , I was lonely for adult support and friendship in a trusting marriage .

It was very sad to acknowledge and live with , but healing lessons taught me , on my owness and a more equable relationship has not shown itself . I’m ok with that , I won’t know the detached , distorted abuse of past .

I haven’t been allowed to participate in anyway with 6 grandchildren as the trauma bond and emotional extortion prohibit growth, healing ❤️‍🩹 based on facts without drama .

Writing found from a nursing home resident.

“I am 82 years old, I have 4 children, 11 grandchildren, 2 great-grandchildren and a room of 12 square meters.

I no longer have a home or expensive things, but I have someone who will clean my room, prepare food and change my bedding, measure my blood pressure and weigh me.

I no longer have the laughter of my grandchildren around me, I don’t see them growing, hugging and arguing. Some come to me every 15 days, some every three or four months, and some never.

I don’t bake cakes anymore, I don’t dig up the garden. I still have hobbies and I like to read, but my eyes quickly hurt.

I don’t know how much longer, but I have to get used to this loneliness. Here at this home, I lead group work and help those who are worse than me as much as I can.

Until recently, I read aloud to an immobile woman in the room next to me, we used to sing together, but she died the other day.

They say life is getting longer. Why? When I’m alone, I can look at photos of my family and memories I brought from home. And that’s all. I miss them.

I hope that the next generations will understand that families are born to have a future (with children) and that they do not forget about the family even in old age.”

PLEASE DON’T FORGET YOUR LOVED ONES.

Adult Children ; Survivors of Alienation by parent

As target parents we sometimes lose sight of how hard it is for our alienated kids to reunify with us, especially when our alienated kids are adults as it seems they should be able to easily resume treating us normally. It’s important to remember that it can take super-natural bravery for our kids to reunify with us as they face so many hard and scary scenarios to reunify with us. One of the hard and scary scenarios they must face is…What to tell people about how they’re letting you back into their life when people have been thoroughly convinced that you’re too “crazy, unsafe, unstable, etc etc etc” to have a relationship with? Maybe you’ve been alienated for years to the point that you were excluded from the child’s biggest life moments such as their wedding or the birth of a child so people really are fully immersed in the lies that you’re deserving of total rejection. After all, you MUST be a monster to have not even been included in your own child’s wedding or the birth of their child. After many years of an alienation so deep with convincing lies, it can be overwhelming for the alienated adult child to think about how to explain to people why they would let you back into their life. After all, an alienated child is not going to say “Well, to be honest, my parent was never actually a bad person or did anything wrong. I was put in the position to reject them by my other parent.”

So what can or should you say if you want to reunify with your target parent but don’t know how to explain it to people. The answer is simple. As in almost everything related to reunification, saying less is more. All the adult child needs to say to people is “We’re working things out.” That’s it. “We’re working things out.” Repeat as needed. If you’re an adult child who is reunifying with your target parent and are struggling with this specific challenge, keep a few things in mind. 1) It only takes 2 seconds to say “We’re working things out.” 2 seconds. 2) When you give such a direct and firm answer, people rarely ask more questions. It’s highly unlikely that they will ask you for specifics. If they do ask you, you can say “We can talk about it later” or you can say “”We just wanted to work things out.” You’re under no obligation to anyone to explain further unless it’s someone you want to explain it to further. 3) 99.9% of people will be HAPPY for you! Their response will mostly likely be “That’s great!” because the truth is most people know that we all naturally want good relationships with both of our parents.

While it’s “simple” to make the 2 second statement of “We’re working things out,” we need to recognize that it’s still hard to do. And this is just ONE OF the reasons it’s hard for alienated adult kids to reunify with their target parent. We need to recognize the incredible courage an alienated adult child must use to reunify with their target parent. This is a bigger brave than many people can ever imagine.

Times Up for Shadow Forces

Feeling the putrid shadow energy OUT there ; resisting any urge to engage with it .

Faith , Fall, and Foundations .

It’s Awakening to transformation to Heaven on Earth .

I’m certainly forced to rest , my budget is stretched beyond ..

The Groundhog Day effect of renting , finding my health endangered as I’m invited to shadow dance and refuse , retaliatory abuses by lords and ladies of the homes begins fast and furious . Purposely withholding leases , in masked brother or sister hood , doing a 360 and slum lording.

Law is currently compliant with the lord and ladies who have lawyers ( think ambulance chasers ) deal with the situation and hiring one is pouring money down the drain .

Change is upon us and I’m more than ready to end decades this life of abuses and previous lives as well as cellular awareness of healing blood lines , 14 generations of abuses , inherited in shadow play and challenges beyond darkest nightmares .

I believe October is the month I was removed from our family home , which was a shadow of our vision . 13 years in , I knew he was not interested in home nor hearth . 11 years in via trauma and Xanax , I descended to hell on earth and I held on to light that damn near extinguished.

That was repeated many times until I accepted time lost , sons lost , parts of me lost . Deeply grieving for decades and spending time on my own aided in my personal transformation and the varied experiences added to ancestral experiences shared beg forgiveness and healing , never to be repeated .

I’m at a place of peace and respite , my body not quite harmonic yet due to the current living conditions, ongoing struggle for my home which I feel closer to resolving .

I’m extremely grateful for my place in the world and I’m honored by the guidance and trust afforded me while I have been rejected by family and friends , which afforded me the opportunity to form relationships that support my current journey .

I’m responsible for myself and as a truth teller I must receive truths ,and that has included many masked people and many who are in distorted mental states . Witnessing and being the target of this energy is draining energetically and I surrender it to Divinity .

#ThyWillBeDone ⏰

Be Well🙏👁

Dona Luna ☮️❤️

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Childress : Let’s Roll

What happens when Bill Bernet dies, what happens to the Gardnerian PAS movement? Who takes over?

Not to be morbid, but Bill’s old, I’m old, what happens when we depart? With AB-PA, I’m not involved so everyone just goes on applying the knowledge of Bowlby, Minuchin, and Beck, the established scientific knowledge of the disciple.

But when Bill departs for the hinterlands, who follows him as the leader of the PAS-squad? Linda Gottlieb? No. Amy Baker? She’s a researcher. Jennifer Harman? She’s likely going down with Linda. Karen Woodall is in England… Demosthenes Lorandos? I don’t think he’ll have the clout to carry a movement… and with Dr. Childress attacking on Standard 2.04 and 2.01, I don’t think Demosthenes is going to be the next leader.

I don’t see one. Who’s the rising young star of Gardner’s PAS model? All the early career psychologists will go toward AB-PA because it gives them more expanse to grow into their profession.

I think we’ve reached the time death for Gardner’s PAS model. We’re watching the final death throes of PAS.

Everything shifts to the forensic psychologists. The DV-monkeys are active and howling, with Kayden’s Law they smell victory. They want Dorcy… the no “reunification workshops” of Kayden’s Law could be called the Dorcy Clause, and it could equally read – “No Dorcy.”

The pathogen hates Dorcy, frothing hatred. The pathogen hates her because it knows she has the cure of its pain, the cure for the pathology – the pathogen knows she sees it… and solves it.

For over a decade the pathogen has tried to destroy Dorcy with every manner of slander and attack. She’s still here. Stupid pathogen.

There is no way Dorcy, an unlicensed professional, survives a decade in the immensely hostile world of the family courts… unless she’s the real-deal.

She’s the real-deal. That’s why she has the full support of Dr. Childress – she’s had my full support since 2014 and I haven’t wavered.

We’re going into Kayden’s Law world now, here come the DV-monkeys. They want to stop Dorcy – by legislation. Stay close, Dorcy. I’m at your side on the battlefield and I’m not going anywhere.

Bring it. It’s time. Let’s do this and finish this.

We need to end the fight-and-fight surrounding the child. So let’s do that. If that means more fighting for a while… okay. Let’s do it and get it done… so we can move forward.

I formed a Facebook group with Dorcy, the Alliance to Solve Parental Alienation. I got it up to 16,000 members… then I left. I gave the group to Dorcy. I had a platform of 16,000 members and I gave it away.

Why?

Because I am entering a period of conflict. I carry the voice of destruction. Dorcy is all about reunion and bonding. We are carrying different energies to the same purpose.

I wanted to maintain the separation to keep her clean from the fight-and-fight to come… my job. My people, my job.

She can remain focused on her role. Each to our role, you have the most special role of all. Dorcy will explain it.

Battle’s coming. I hear the horns, do you hear them? I do. They’re calling us, it’s time. Break out the drums and pipes, don your armor, prepare.

The paradigm is shifting.

The outcome I recommend is an AB-PA/High Road pilot program for the family courts with university involvement for evaluation research. I’d recommend Stanford Forensic Psychiatry as the PI. If you want a solution, that is the solution.

They don’t want a solution… yet. We just need to get their attention first. That will be happening soon.

The change agents I’m using do not create incremental change – they create transformational change. They’re different change agents than most people use, sort of a craftsman’s art of change.

There’s big change and little change, and then there’s transformations, an entirely different change agent set. The transformational change agents come from humanistic-existential psychology. They’re hard to use.

Most people don’t know how to create transformational change.

Dorcy used contextual change agents, no one else uses the change agents she uses. I wouldn’t call them complicated or hard, I’d call them elegant and immensely effective for trauma pathology.

Psychotherapy uses change agents based on the treatment school, cognitive behavioral use their change agents, family system therapy uses its agents of change, psychoanalysis uses it’s change agent approaches.

None of them use a context-based change agent like Dorcy in her High Road workshop. That’s why when we co-presented her High Road ABA single-case data to the national convention of the American Psychological Association I submitted to Division 24 Society for Theoretical and Philosophical Psychology.

By analogy, if psychotherapy were all the different types of carbon-based lifeforms, Dorcy’s change agent approach is like a silicon-based life form – entirely unique.

Everything is headed for the Tower of Destruction, watch as it all collapses – the Gardnerians – the forensic psychologists – the approach in the family courts – everything is changing.

Because it needs to change.

Dr. Childress & Dorcy Pruter will hold the center of the battlefield. Not a chance we’re budging. We know exactly where we are, and we’re exactly where we are supposed to be, doing exactly what we are supposed to do.

Your turn. You’re the chosen parent. You’re the protective parent. You’re the authentic parent. It’s time to live into your role. You just need support. You have support. Let’s go get you more.

Ignore the chaos, ignore the destruction. That’s my job. Remain focused on your task… you want a written treatment plan to fix things… for that you’ll need a diagnosis… for that you’ll need a proper assessment to reach an accurate diagnosis to guide the development of an effective treatment plan to fix things.

Because it’s always in the child’s best interest to fix family conflict. So let’s do that.

I want Valkyries.

Craig Childress, Psy..D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Lawyer : Industry of Family Law Fail

I am a lawyer.  It didn’t help me any.  We need to create a network of lawyers in all 50 States who are experts in this.  I have attended Family Law bar meetings (not lately) but the INDUSTRY of family law from a lawyer’s perspective is “for profit” and “winning.”  Until we have a group of lawyers that actively believe that the for profit/winning mentality is superceded by saving a relationship (good luck) no one ever can win.

We need to start collating cases.  That means, having court observers, reading the dockets for your county, and finding ALL the targeted parents.  I am sure everyone knows the AMBER law, for a missing child, but there isn’t crap for the targeted parent.  Sadly as a pragmatist, and a survivor, venting is one thing, but changing things is another.  I want ANOTHER.  

This only works if this group wants to do the hard work.  I know that I LOST at every turn.  I was outsmarted and out maneuvered and I have exactly zero trust left.  None. I don’t trust anyone, anywhere.  Everything I did was used against me.  

Tonight on 60 minutes was a young man who started teaching the law to men in African prisons 13 years ago.  He is making change and was on Amanpour and 60 minutes.  Lawyers are smart.  They will find an answer to every answer.  So we have to be smarter.

I have lost both my children.  I have nothing better to do for the rest of my life.   Who wants to do this?  Not alone.  I can’t do it alone.  I waited to long. 

NOT ALONE.