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Child Psychological Abuse NOT Parental Alienation- Childress
Stop using “parental alienation” in a professional capacity, it will only lead you to your destruction. Use Child Psychological Abuse instead.
“I am concerned the other parent is psychologically abusing our child. I am concerned that the other parent has formed a shared persecutory delusion with my child targeting me, that is destroying my child’s attachment bond to me… as described in these quotes from Walters & Friedlander.
From Walters & Friedlander: “In some RRD families [resist-refuse dynamic], a parent’s underlying encapsulated delusion about the other parent is at the root of the intractability (cf. Johnston & Campbell, 1988, p. 53ff; Childress, 2013). An encapsulated delusion is a fixed, circumscribed belief that persists over time and is not altered by evidence of the inaccuracy of the belief.” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)
From Walters & Friedlander: “When alienation is the predominant factor in the RRD [resist-refuse dynamic}, the theme of the favored parent’s fixed delusion often is that the rejected parent is sexually, physically, and/or emotionally abusing the child. The child may come to share the parent’s encapsulated delusion and to regard the beliefs as his/her own (cf. Childress, 2013).” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)
Walters, M. G., & Friedlander, S. (2016). When a child rejects a parent: Working with the intractable resist/refuse dynamic. Family Court Review, 54(3), 424–445.
“I’d like a risk assessment for possible Child Psychological Abuse surrounding a possible shared persecutory delusion of the other parent with the child.”
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857
No Value : Childress
You are of no value.
Mothers are of no value. Fathers are of no value. This is a pathology of lies.
The central theme is a select person is of no value. Which person is selected, whether it is the mother or father in the family, depends on the circumstances of the pathology. It is always the other person in a partnership who is of no value
I am your everything. They are of no value. This is a pathology of lies. This is a pathology of projection.
Mothers are of value. Fathers are of value. Human beings are of value. No one is of “no value” – that is a perverse belief. Who holds that belief that another human being is of no value?
Anyone who holds the belief that another person is of no value is pathological and pathogenic. Everyone is of value just for being. Mothers are valuable to their children, they are irreplaceable and unique. Fathers are of value to their children, they are irreplaceable and unique.
Who taught this child that people are of no value? Who taught this child that their mother is of no value? Who taught this child that their father is of no value? Who taught this child that people are of no value? That is perverse instruction in values.
This is a pathology of lies. Where is the origin for this lie? Who is of “no value” – no one who is here. Who then?
Them. The one who holds the pathology and is expressing it, the pathological parent is the holder of the “no value” theme – they believe they are of no value – to the core of their being. That is the pathogen in their attachment networks… the damage from the failure of parental empathy… they are of no value.
Zero. None.
They collapse into an abyss at their core, they must avoid their core at all costs. They need constant emotional supply to their fragile narcissism to avoid the gravitational pull of the black hole at their core, they are on the edge of collapse into the dark abyss of the truth, that they are of no value.
They are the source of the lie. They spread the lie about others, that they are of no value, to give themselves value.. they are more than nothing, almost… as long as no one uncovers their secret. Their secret that they are of no value. They are fundamentally unlovable just because of who they are.
This is a pathology of lies. No human is of no value. All mothers are valuable. All fathers are valuable. Because of love.
They are empty and malevolent people. There is no love in them. They are damaged and broken inside. They are Dark personalities of cruelty. They need love.
The child loves them. The child’s love gives them value. They are of value because the child loves them, they are of value to us because we love the child. They are of value because of the child.
That’s mom. That’s dad. All mothers have value. All fathers have value. This is a pathology of lies. Everyone has value simply by the nature of their humanity. No one is without value.
No one is without value.
Who holds that belief? Where is the perversion among us? Who believes people are of no value, anyone? Who spreads that lie into us? Who teaches that lie to the child?
There are mental health people who believe that perversion of humanity, that someone is of no value. They believe that mothers and fathers are of no value because of this-and-that reason for justification.
They are wrong… immensely wrong… they are perverse in their beliefs. Everyone is of value, no one is of no value. These mental health people are the pathology, and they are pathogenic. Everyone – everyone – is of value.
Even the allied parent. We never reject family… not even them. Because they are of value simply because… and more… because they are loved… by the child… and by us because we love the child and the child loves that parent.
The child will not abandon that parent to the abyss. To rescue the child we must understand the child’s love. We must rescue everyone, because everyone is of value.
The child is of value… immense value. The child loves two humans, one is mom, a unique human being, one is dad, a unique human being. Both mom and dad are of immense value to the child.
To understand the child’s value is to understand the child’s love. The child only has one unique mother, who is of immense value to the child. The child only has one unique father, who is immense value to the child. Simply because they are mom and dad. Simply because the child’s love gives them immense value to the child.
Who says mothers are of no value to the child? Who says fathers are of no value to the child? This is a perverse belief of cruelty and a lie. This is a pathology of lies.
The premise, the ground of truth we stand on, is that everyone has value. Especially mothers. Especially fathers.
Who says mothers are of no value? Who says fathers are of no value? Who spreads that perversion? Who spreads that lie? Who teaches the child that people are of no value?
That is a perverse teaching, That is a perverse value. That is a lie.
This is a trauma pathology, a rippling of unresolved trauma across generations. It ripples in the patterns that formed it, the rock of the abuse that created the splash of the trauma, that now ripples out across time.
The patterned theme is that someone is of “no value” – who is of no value in the trauma-across-time? The child – the abused child is of no value. The failure of parental empathy is the abuse, and the abuse is the failure of parental empathy… the child is of no value.
Zero. Nothing.
This is a pathology of lies. It is born in lies, it continues in lies. The child – now turned in a fragile mind to be the “bad parent” – is of no value.
You can go away now. The child loves me and not you. You are of no value, I am the everything of love for the child. The child loves me and not you. Because I need the child’s love to be of value. If the child loves you, they won’t love me… because I am of no value.
This is a pathology of lies.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857
Former psychiatric patient speaks up
I just need somewhere to vent my feelings about both psychiatry & allopathic medicine in general (some fields more than others but there are a LOT more lies than just the field of psychiatry).
Without getting into too many details (I’ve spoken about it elsewhere), the level of anger, rage, and betrayal that I feel towards psychiatrists and other medical professionals is quite unreal. I was so young, innocent, and naive when doctors decided to push their bullsh*t drugs on me, and at the time I did not realize such levels of hatred which I feel were even possible. I also didn’t realize such evil existed in our corrupted medical system, which many people blindly accept as being fantastic.
The entire field of psychiatry is inhumane, barbaric, dishonest, and abusive beyond belief. The amount of death, suffering, and pain that these humans have caused (working in tandem with dishonest drug companies) is on a level most people can’t comprehend because it far exceeds the deaths/injuries from many other causes.
One of the worst things about this injustice is that it is never recognized anywhere in the mainstream. All doctors (including psychiatrists) are praised as heroes in white coats, respected, even revered. Most see them in a God-like manner, where they can do no wrong. Thus, when you try to explain that a doctor harmed you / lied to you, nobody will believe you – it’s always the victim who gets blamed.
I know for a fact that my doctor lied to me about the effects and risks of the psych meds I was put on, because I clearly remember the conversation – and every single other patient has said the same exact thing. The American Psychiatric association has been systemically misinforming patients for decades, as an organized mafia selling drugs. Yet nobody believes me when I say that my psychiatrist told me these drugs were safe, non-addictive, didn’t harm the brain, and don’t have any long-lasting effects. Everyone blames ME for taking them, saying it was “my fault” for not knowing, and even gaslighting me for not being warned about the risks.
The amount of abuse and gaslighting I’ve received from psychiatrists and other doctors is downright disgusting. It’s as if they have taken NLP training courses to learn how to manipulate you, and narcissistic abuse / emotional abuser courses to learn how to gaslight you. They are masters at it. Every single one of them without fail has blamed me for the symptoms I developed, instead of their toxic drugs. They defend drugs, not patients. Their egos are larger than life, they cannot listen, admit they are wrong, or realize they have caused you harm. They act in a way that makes you question your own sense of reality, even though you know that they have lied to you and caused you harm.
I still have a hard time comprehending how these people can be such abusive human beings, masquerading as “helpers”. Many of them are likely just clueless idiots, but some of them are psychopaths who only care about money and enjoy being able to control and manipulate others via mind-altering chemicals and a position of authority which gives them a power trip.
I hate these people more than anything, and I feel that many of them deserve a life sentence for the way they’ve harmed so many of us. Unfortunately, the reality is that justice will never be served, but I can only hope that the scandal of modern-day psychiatry will one day be recognized for what it is: disgustingly evil.
Thanks for listening. F*** these lying psychos and I’m sorry for everyone harmed, abused, and gaslit by a psychiatrist/doctor.
Triangles : Childress
There are no two-person arguments in a family. In a family, conflict always breaks down into a three-person triangle.
Bowen Center: “A triangle is a three-person relationship system. It is considered the building block or “molecule” of larger emotional systems because a triangle is the smallest stable relationship system. A two-person system is unstable because it tolerates little tension before involving a third person. A triangle can contain much more tension without involving another person because the tension can shift around three relationships. If the tension is too high for one triangle to contain, it spreads to a series of “interlocking” triangles. Spreading the tension can stabilize a system, but nothing is resolved.”
Bowen Center: Triangles
https://www.thebowencenter.org/triangles
There are no two-person arguments in a family. Either they break down into a coalition of the parents against the child (called the “identified patient”), or into a coalition of a parent with the child against the other parent (called a “cross-generational coalition”).
Salvador Minuchin, the founder of the Structural school of family systems therapy has a Structural family diagram depicting a cross-generational coalition of a father and son against the mother, resulting in an “emotional cutoff” (Bowen) in the child’s relationship with the mother.
Cloe Madanes, the co-founder of the Strategic school of family systems therapy, describes the cross-generational coalition in her 2018 book, Changing Relationships.
From Madanes: “In most organizations, families, and relationships, there is hierarchy: one person has more power and responsibility than another. Whenever there is hierarchy, there is the possibility of cross-generational coalitions. The husband and wife may argue over how the wife spends money. At a certain point, the wife might enlist the older son into a coalition against the husband. Mother and son may talk disparagingly about the father and to the father, and secretly plot about how to influence or deceive him. The wife’s coalition with the son gives her power in relation to the husband and limits the husband’s power over how she spends money. The wife now has an ally in her battle with her husband, and the husband now runs the risk of alienating his son.”
From Madanes: “Such a cross-generational coalition can stabilize a marriage, but it creates a triangle that weakens the position of both husband and wife. Now the son has the source of power over both of them. Cross-generational coalitions take different forms in different families (Madanes, 2009). The grandparent may side the grandchild against a parent. An aunt might side with the niece against her father. A husband might join his father against the wife.
From Madanes: “These alliances are most often covert and are rarely expressed verbally. They involve painful conflicts that can continue for years. Sometimes cross-generational coalitions are overt. A wife might confide her marital problems to her child and in this way antagonize the child against the father. Parents may criticize a grandparent and create a conflict in the child who loves both the grandparent and the parents. This child may feel conflicted as a result, suffering because his or her loyalties are divided.”
Jay-Haley, the other co-founder of Strategic family systems therapy provides the professional definition of a cross-generational coalition.
From Haley: “The people responding to each other in the triangle are not peers, but one of them is of a different generation from the other two… In the process of their interaction together, the person of one generation forms a coalition with the person of the other generation against his peer. By ‘coalition’ is meant a process of joint action which is against the third person… The coalition between the two persons is denied. That is, there is certain behavior which indicates a coalition which, when it is queried, will be denied as a coalition… In essence, the perverse triangle is one in which the separation of generations is breached in a covert way. When this occurs as a repetitive pattern, the system will be pathological.” (Haley, 1977, p. 37)
Notice Haley calls the cross-generational coalition a “perverse triangle.”
These are the top people in family systems therapy – Bowen – Minuchin – Madanes – Haley.
Do you think family systems therapy would be relevant to apply to family conflict in the courts?
Yes.
Do they apply family systems constructs and principles to their work with family conflict in the courts?
No.
Is that unethical practice in violation of Standard 2.04 Bases for Scientific and Professional Judgments that requires – mandatory – that psychologists apply the “established scientific and professional knowledge of the disciple” as the bases for their professional judgments?
Yes.
Do they even know family systems constructs and principles when assessing and treating family conflicts?
No.
Are they in violation of Standard 2.01 of the APA ethics code for practicing beyond the boundaries of their competence?
Yes.
Do the licensing boards care that they are in violation of Standards 2.04 and 2.01 of the APA ethics code?
No.
Why not?
I don’t know. Someone should ask them and find out why they don’t enforce ethical standards of practice in the family courts.
Don’t you deserve to have ethical and competent psychologists treating you and your children?
Apparently not.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857
Released from Time : Ascension Truth
Karma is gonna tag the Distorted Energy that is Narcissistic
Awareness of the laws of cause and effect has been the base of my authentic self upon reflection .
I took responsibly for 14 months younger brother and was highly empathetic to him which was too much responsibility as a toddler .
Aware of his misdirected, anger , need to avenge lasting decades and this showing up in stage 5 kidney disease .
Brother is part of a solid marriage , and many intense men talk to me for hours pre COVID as we bond in some common core truths and I hear how awesome I am and of course the same is true of them and I always shine a light towards my communication (so I’m told )
But very harsh lessons have tempered my concern in other but surrender to free will and the journey that’s very necessary and individual .
My priority is my earth home and a safe reliable new SUV , foodstuffs and peace ☮️
Blessings & Peace
Dona Luna
Updating Current Energy 8/16
It’s feeling quantum again and what he speaks to is true to me , repeated many times in many resources besides just feeling it !
My journey including following a writer for years until she changed life paths and she was extremely tuned in to energies . Karen spoke of the 11% of world population to create this evolutionary leap/shift/recreation . We have had that for years and all is in alignment as necessary healing of not only personal trauma but ancestral trauma , as we own our new earth created and the Age of Aquarius , does provide the dawning of consciousness unlike has been the earthly experience .
It is sad to accept that not everyone is or will wake to the beauty of these days . Fear cost me and my pledge in 2016 has been renewed many times , as I clear past that is daily a factor in matters that deserve to be clarified truthfully and business matters legally addressed .
The effort has been proved as tool to keep me compliant , quiet , and living grief that would drive me to suicide .
The effort failed ; it was not the loss of a husband that has been my grief … it was the behavior of an abuser that seemed to be accepted as my having deserved the abuse, secrets , lies , indiscretion’s and thus disadvantage , spiritually , physically , mentally and financially. I would not appeal to other men and thus still his to manipulate .
I released this energy long ago and had faith for change for the better .
Assured Thy Will is Done , I am unto myself , resting and holding faith that completion of a cycle of detachment and distortion as attachment , trust and acceptance of grace for those Beloveds in my life with a hand on my back ❤️🙏
I am very grateful and wish each person Godspeed and no more repeats of cycles for our efforts 👁👍🎯🙊🙉🙈
Blessings & Peace
Dona Luna 🧜♂️
Relationships ; Joni Mitchell
Joni Mitchell on MONOGAMY:
“I don’t know if I’ve learned anything yet.
I did learn how to have a happy home, but I consider myself fortunate in that regard because I could’ve rolled right by it.
Everybody has a superficial side and a deep side, but this culture doesn’t place much value on depth — we don’t have shamans or soothsayers, and depth isn’t encouraged or understood. Surrounded by this shallow, glossy society we develop a shallow side, too, and we become attracted to fluff. That’s reflected in the fact that this culture sets up an addiction to romance based on insecurity — the uncertainty of whether or not you’re truly united with the object of your obsession is the rush people get hooked on. I’ve seen this pattern so much in myself and my friends and some people never get off that line.
But along with developing my superficial side, I always nurtured a deeper longing, so even when I was falling into the trap of that other kind of love, I was hip to what I was doing. I recently read an article in Esquire magazine called ‘The End of Sex,’ that said something that struck me as very true. It said: “If you want endless repetition, see a lot of different people. If you want infinite variety, stay with one.” What happens when you date is you run all your best moves and tell all your best stories — and in a way, that routine is a method for falling in love with yourself over and over.
You can’t do that with a longtime mate because he knows all that old material. With a long relationship, things die then are rekindled, and that shared process of rebirth deepens the love. It’s hard work, though, and a lot of people run at the first sign of trouble. You’re with this person, and suddenly you look like an asshole to them or they look like an asshole to you — it’s unpleasant, but if you can get through it you get closer and you learn a way of loving that’s different from the neurotic love enshrined in movies. It’s warmer and has more padding to it.”
~ Joni Mitchell
Art: Joni Mitchell, Self Portrait, 1997
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