No Value : Childress

You are of no value.

Mothers are of no value. Fathers are of no value. This is a pathology of lies.

The central theme is a select person is of no value. Which person is selected, whether it is the mother or father in the family, depends on the circumstances of the pathology. It is always the other person in a partnership who is of no value

I am your everything. They are of no value. This is a pathology of lies. This is a pathology of projection.

Mothers are of value. Fathers are of value. Human beings are of value. No one is of “no value” – that is a perverse belief. Who holds that belief that another human being is of no value?

Anyone who holds the belief that another person is of no value is pathological and pathogenic. Everyone is of value just for being. Mothers are valuable to their children, they are irreplaceable and unique. Fathers are of value to their children, they are irreplaceable and unique.

Who taught this child that people are of no value? Who taught this child that their mother is of no value? Who taught this child that their father is of no value? Who taught this child that people are of no value? That is perverse instruction in values.

This is a pathology of lies. Where is the origin for this lie? Who is of “no value” – no one who is here. Who then?

Them. The one who holds the pathology and is expressing it, the pathological parent is the holder of the “no value” theme – they believe they are of no value – to the core of their being. That is the pathogen in their attachment networks… the damage from the failure of parental empathy… they are of no value.

Zero. None.

They collapse into an abyss at their core, they must avoid their core at all costs. They need constant emotional supply to their fragile narcissism to avoid the gravitational pull of the black hole at their core, they are on the edge of collapse into the dark abyss of the truth, that they are of no value.

They are the source of the lie. They spread the lie about others, that they are of no value, to give themselves value.. they are more than nothing, almost… as long as no one uncovers their secret. Their secret that they are of no value. They are fundamentally unlovable just because of who they are.

This is a pathology of lies. No human is of no value. All mothers are valuable. All fathers are valuable. Because of love.

They are empty and malevolent people. There is no love in them. They are damaged and broken inside. They are Dark personalities of cruelty. They need love.

The child loves them. The child’s love gives them value. They are of value because the child loves them, they are of value to us because we love the child. They are of value because of the child.

That’s mom. That’s dad. All mothers have value. All fathers have value. This is a pathology of lies. Everyone has value simply by the nature of their humanity. No one is without value.

No one is without value.

Who holds that belief? Where is the perversion among us? Who believes people are of no value, anyone? Who spreads that lie into us? Who teaches that lie to the child?

There are mental health people who believe that perversion of humanity, that someone is of no value. They believe that mothers and fathers are of no value because of this-and-that reason for justification.

They are wrong… immensely wrong… they are perverse in their beliefs. Everyone is of value, no one is of no value. These mental health people are the pathology, and they are pathogenic. Everyone – everyone – is of value.

Even the allied parent. We never reject family… not even them. Because they are of value simply because… and more… because they are loved… by the child… and by us because we love the child and the child loves that parent.

The child will not abandon that parent to the abyss. To rescue the child we must understand the child’s love. We must rescue everyone, because everyone is of value.

The child is of value… immense value. The child loves two humans, one is mom, a unique human being, one is dad, a unique human being. Both mom and dad are of immense value to the child.

To understand the child’s value is to understand the child’s love. The child only has one unique mother, who is of immense value to the child. The child only has one unique father, who is immense value to the child. Simply because they are mom and dad. Simply because the child’s love gives them immense value to the child.

Who says mothers are of no value to the child? Who says fathers are of no value to the child? This is a perverse belief of cruelty and a lie. This is a pathology of lies.

The premise, the ground of truth we stand on, is that everyone has value. Especially mothers. Especially fathers.

Who says mothers are of no value? Who says fathers are of no value? Who spreads that perversion? Who spreads that lie? Who teaches the child that people are of no value?

That is a perverse teaching, That is a perverse value. That is a lie.

This is a trauma pathology, a rippling of unresolved trauma across generations. It ripples in the patterns that formed it, the rock of the abuse that created the splash of the trauma, that now ripples out across time.

The patterned theme is that someone is of “no value” – who is of no value in the trauma-across-time? The child – the abused child is of no value. The failure of parental empathy is the abuse, and the abuse is the failure of parental empathy… the child is of no value.

Zero. Nothing.

This is a pathology of lies. It is born in lies, it continues in lies. The child – now turned in a fragile mind to be the “bad parent” – is of no value.

You can go away now. The child loves me and not you. You are of no value, I am the everything of love for the child. The child loves me and not you. Because I need the child’s love to be of value. If the child loves you, they won’t love me… because I am of no value.

This is a pathology of lies.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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