Tag: relationships

Stockholm Syndrome

Stockholm syndrome is a coping mechanism used by many people in toxic and abusive relationships. Instead of feelings of fear, terror, and hostility toward your abuser – which is what you should be experiencing – you may feel a sense of sympathy for them. Your positive feelings toward your abuser are very common and normal when learned helplessness has set in. Subconsciously, you feel you’ve no other choice but to stay with your abuser.

Stockholm syndrome can, and often does, cause targets of abuse to feel as if they’re deeply in love with their abuser.

But, those who have left and started their healing journey soon discover that what they thought was love was a coping mechanism and was the only way they could survive in a dangerous and life-destroying relationship.

If you don’t know how to deal with Stockholm syndrome in the aftermath of narcissistic abuse, it can paralyze you. It sure did me at the beginning of my own journey because I didn’t know how to handle it. But I do now, and I want to help you overcome this awful feeling, too.

Read the article here:

👉👉 https://bit.ly/OvercomingStockholmSyndrome

Always thinking of you,

Kim

Challenges towards Growth – Kim Saeed

I don’t know who needs to see this, but when you leave an abusive relationship or marriage, this isn’t the only challenge you will face. Once you’ve removed yourself from the vortex of lies and manipulation, you may begin to lose friends and family, as well. Your Church might turn on you. Relationships and situations will fall apart around your ankles.

While this is initially horrific and traumatizing, it’s actually a Phoenix process. You are leaving the realm of false narratives and denial. You are removing yourself from the program. The people and situations that hurt you will have no choice but to slowly disintegrate as you make space for your new world.

This phase may take a while, especially if you have to deal with court hearings. This is usually an entire layer of H*LL in itself.

Think of it as an update to software. The bugs are removed so your internal code can go back to normal. The software is your life, and the bugs are all the things that aren’t in alignment with your highest good.

Once this painful phase begins to acclimate, a quiet peace sets upon you. You are no longer surrounded by abusers, fakes, and ignorance. You are no longer amongst flying monkeys, minions, or fair-weathered “friends” who used to go between you and your abuser, stirring the pot. They may try, but your new reality doesn’t acknowledge them. Ideally, you’ve blocked these people out of your life so that any attempts they make to hook you back into the vortex are met with your indifference or even utter unawareness.

Your tolerance for drama and backbiting is zero. You no longer care what the ignorant are up to.

Things worth doing, things that will transform your life… may feel painful while your new world is being built. This is when you need faith in yourself. Faith in what’s in store. Faith in our Creator. This is when you need to stop looking back and, instead, put all your focus on forging your new path.

I’ve gone through many painful Phoenix processes…but what comes afterward is always worth it. Every. Single. Time.

Surgery

The exploratory surgery while I had a very bad UTI and ruptured appendix procedure has me weak but able to use the urnial to the amazement of my aids ; I’m damn good at it .

Slicing and dicing my bowels is painful and I’ve not had anything for pain since arrival at Rehab which is cruel. It’s affecting my sleep and I plan to resolve it

I have weakness in my legs which others are reporting as well and have plans to do energy work as well as supplements to correct .

I’m working on increasing my insurance coverage asap which I’ve tried to do for several years

When I woke from matrix of bipolar mental illness and learned that my cobra serve was running out , my fears of a catastrophic illness or disease would challenge me .

I tried unsuccessfully to get insurance , all took my deposit and a few payments , received a pre approved medical bill and threw me out. One company didn’t even cover the state of Virginia and I found this out 3 months after waiting for an appointment with a specialist , who told me upon arrival for said appointment that ” I’m not taking new patients” !

After buying my last house and in legal battles with ex , I signed on with Anthem Blue Shield with poor credit was $3000 deposit just to sign up

My Bipolar diagnosis still in play the policy would be $1000 per month , and I had a new $1000 house payment It was very scary and when I received a bill for $3000 2 weeks after signing up ; I quit that matrix

The coverage at $1000 per month did not cover glasses or dental !

Blue Cross/ Anthem did not refund my $3000 deposit and my futile efforts to have that money returned has met nothing but dead ends .

I’m in awe of the mostly women who have cared for me and their dedication and compassion are inspiring.

They do release our current medical model is in dire need of improvement, better pay and work conditions. I have deep gratitude and respect and share my experience and cutting edge quantum healing which they seem interested in .

Teacher/Student the beat goes on and I’m aware of the lessons I’m learning and light I’m receiving and dispersing.

Blessings & Peace

Dona Luna😘❤️🥰

Spirituality

Tested time after time , my surgery and recovery are yet one more hurtle .

I’m better but have a ways to go and my faith and determination are solid .

Magical people assist me and come into my life wherever I am and I’m gratified

What falls away is supposed to to make space for what’s in my best interests now.

I used to worry what did I have to offer , what was my worth and how could I best serve ? After years of being targeted by distortions to protect unspeakable abuses , I had to learn again I am love and I bring love and not everyone has the eyes to see and the heart to accept me ❤️

This surgery has brought me to a place of comfort and peace and patience because of the very special and unique earth angels that are at the ready to stand beside me and support me and that’s beautiful; money cannot buy happiness or these bonds that are of value beyond that I have known in the past . With the exception of the Heaven on Earth I knew as a young Mom I have never known that love ; the sweetest ever and that challenges the distorted , greedy and controlling.

I know I’ll be on my own and that’s ok until the man shows up that has a hand for my back and no knives to harm me . It’s hardly a consideration now as I fight to regain my physical strength and return to my room and seek my home 🏡

Medical treatment this time around has twice opened the door to psychiatry which I politely slam shut just as I reject the common offer of chemo for 1 cancerous polyp.

# I Got This

Detox from High Conflict Families of No Love

Being raised in high conflict families, we are raised to be our own worst enemies and harshest critics. High conflict family environments do not operate from love.
These families are driven by competition, comparison and conflict. To gain any sense of peace in these toxic environments, we must go against what is in our best interest to fit in.

Cutting off from a family like this, requires going through a period of a “major detox.” We need time to detox from all the poison and brainwashing. This detox requires examining and understanding the totality and vastness of our family’s dysfunction. It requires grieving and a strong commitment to moving forward. It requires self love.

This detox period is the launching pad for the development of a healthier sense of personal power that does not include forcing, pressuring, controlling, criticizing or competing.

There are far better, and more empowering ways to do life than from the same type of dysfunction we were raised in.

Sherry Campbell PhD

Know Mothers who do this and wives who are challenged by Mother-Son

Ex is still bound to his Mom and I’ve had to consider his reasoning in destroying relationships with sons was to thwart and sever our ” living connection”

But then he saw himself as the superior ultimate Dad/Mom and imprinted them early on . Our family was never more important that his Mothers requirements .

Of course his causal connection celebrated birthdays etc with money not his presence and I declined in competition with his detachment of being and giving

I believe this was an issue with the next supply as he became toxic and detached when she became so ill she couldn’t work and he had the responsibility of paying for her health care . Mentioning in court these facts and even how much she spent on bras !

He is still owned and still selfish even as he steals from me . That’s clearly not going to heal in mid 70’s and mid 90’s

His partner, his confidant is Mom who allows him to have relationships and listens to his complaints and supports his ending said relationship.

www.facebook.com/reel/1165803610730924

Life With a Narcissistic Parental Alienator

Certainly seems alien

Please see more of my posts on Instagram.

https://www.instagram.com/charliemccready1/

Parental alienation is probably the hardest experience you will ever go through and screws you up mentally and emotionally. I know because I have been there too!

The alienating parent’s childhood trauma may have been triggered by the separation/divorce, and they fear abandonment, feeling worthless and empty, and losing control – so they rewrite the narrative, recasting all the roles. Good parent becomes bad. Victimizer becomes victim. They cling to the child/ren as the emotional attachment bonds with their spouse/partner sever.

I also know that although it was the alienator that put you onto this emotional rollercoaster, ONLY YOU can get yourself off. Every day that you sit on that ride experiencing pain, is another day that the alienator wins. It is another day that you are less able to help your children and your family.

Many of us need help to get off the rollercoaster, learning how to best support our children in ways to be more effective in dealing with alienators.

The Personal Authority 9-Step Program can start making a difference to your life in just a few weeks. DM me and start taking back control today!

.

.

.

. #familylaw #familycourt #highconflictdivorce #parentalalienation #parentalalienationawareness #coparentingwithanarcissist #childcustody #custodybattle #parentalalienationischildabuse #parentalalienationisacrime #fathersrights #mothersrights #parentalalienationsyndrome #cognitivedistortions #psychologicalsplitting #familyviolence #survivingparentalalienation #generationaltrauma #hostileaggressiveparenting #parentalalienatingbehaviours #FamilyLaw #falseallegations #alienatedparent #parenting #alienated #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #coercivecontrol #childrenfirst #StopParentalAlienation #fathersrights #mothersrights #reunification #coparentingwithanarcissist #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #traumabonding #divorcinganarcissist #EndParentalAlienation #consciousparenting #consciousparent #consciousparentingcoach #childhoodtrauma #targetparent #targetedchild #parentalrights #childsupport #Custody #cognitivedistortions #splitting #familyviolence #survivingparentalalienation

Highly Toxic Parent

At their core, the alienating parent is afraid, jealous and cannot bear to think there could be time spent, let alone love given, to anyone but themselves. Their wounded ego needs revenge, and this will be inflicted on anyone (especially a ‘target’ parent) who exposes the truth of who they are inside (often triggered by separation/divorce – it can’t be their fault). They can’t bear it. They even hide from themselves. To deal with this, they try and control everyone and everything. They rewrite the narrative. They encourage and magnify any natural discord that happens in the course of childhood with parents. The children are coercively controlled, and weaponised. They’re not allowed independent thought or any positive feelings or even memories about the ‘other’ parent. But the child/ren loved you, and they still do, they’ve just been ‘indoctrinated’ to think otherwise. Once they remove their gas mask, their toolkit of survival, they can breathe. They can live their sovereign lives as they deserve. They can reunite with you. Please see more of my posts at:

https://www.instagram.com/charliemccready1/

AND PLEASE DO JOIN ME ON MY NEW COMMUNITY PAGE as we reached capacity here. Thanks.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/3214325232164553

.

.

.

#familylaw #familycourt #highconflictdivorce #parentalalienation #parentalalienationawareness #coparentingwithanarcissist #childcustody #custodybattle #parentalalienationischildabuse #parentalalienationisacrime #fathersrights #mothersrights #parentalalienationsyndrome #cognitivedistortions #psychologicalsplitting #familyviolence #survivingparentalalienation #generationaltrauma #hostileaggressiveparenting #parentalalienatingbehaviours #FamilyLaw #falseallegations #alienatedparent #parenting #alienated #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #coercivecontrol #childrenfirst #StopParentalAlienation #fathersrights #mothersrights #reunification #coparentingwithanarcissist #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #traumabonding #divorcinganarcissist #EndParentalAlienation #consciousparenting #consciousparent #consciousparentingcoach #childhoodtrauma #targetparent #targetedchild #parentalrights #childsupport #Custody #cognitivedistortions #splitting #familyviolence #survivingparentalalienation