Tag: Dire Results Of Domestic Abuse

Toxic Responsibility: Sherrie Campbell PhD

Pathologically selfish people prey on those of us who love to help other people. They prey on us as a matter of responsibility. Toxic people despise being responsible for themselves, so they choose people who they can manipulate into being responsible for them. This way, if anything goes wrong, they have you or someone else to blame.

Protect your heart. Protect your time and energy. It is not wise to be helpful to just anyone. If you put yourself in this position to help anyone who needs your help, you often set yourself up to be used, abused, and blamed.

Most healthy people do all they can to take full responsibility for themselves before they reach out to others for help. Toxic people do not attempt any level of responsibility, they pawn it off on those who love to help.

It is unwise to make yourself responsible for others. Not only does it stunt another person’s growth, but you exhaust yourself trying to satisfy the unsatisfiable. Hold the mindset that the healthiest and most loving thing you can do to help someone is allow them to take responsibility for themselves.

Delusional Distorted Disorder ~ Childress

I have two questions for you:

Q1: What happens when you’re a sane person surrounded by people in a shared delusional disorder?

Q2: Am I talking about the family courts or our current political surround?

It’s called parallel process. It’s because they are both from the same pathology, the collapse of narcissistic personality pathology into persecutory delusions (Millon, 2011)

A show of hands, is my first question about the family courts or about our political surround? One… two… keep your hands up… three… Okay, wait, maybe this will be easier. All of you who think Q1 is about you in the family courts, go stand in that corner, and all of you who think it’s about our political surround, go stand over there, that’ll make it easier.

It’s called parallel process – if you have the eyes to see.

Forensic psychology and Gardner’s PAS were created by the pathology – they are symptom features of the pathology.

Take a deep breath, we’re going the next level in. There is a reason I refer to it as a pathogen. It operates like a virus of the mind. It’s in our attachment networks, from unresolved childhood trauma. The attachment system is a motivational system.

This pathogen (damaged information structures) has access to our motivational networks. It has motivational control of us.

You’re unique here. You have your own “special” psychologists just for you… who specifically do NOT diagnose or treat pathology. Curious.

You’re given a diagnosis to achieve by one man, a Richard Gardner back in 1985 – PAS – that’s not really an actual diagnosis, which has no treatment, and which has to be proven to a judge at trial – the hardest thing possible to do. Curious.

It’s a shared delusional disorder. Why don’t you simply diagnose the pathology with real diagnoses? Curious.

We are returning to the established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline. We are going to accurately diagnose the pathology in the family courts, and we are going to fix the pathology in the family with effective treatment.

This is child abuse. If you believe the shared delusion, you become part of the shared delusion, you are part of the pathology. When that pathology is child abuse, you are part of the child abuse, you are the child abuser.

This was an attempted coup, the overthrow of American democracy. If you believe the shared delusion, you become part of the shared delusion, you become part of the overthrow of American democracy, you become a traitor to America.

Q1: What happens when your a sane person surrounded by people in a shared delusional disorder?

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Epidemic of HateCrimesAgainstWomen&Girls

thetyee.ca/Analysis/2022/07/15/The-Ignored-Epidemic-Hate-Crimes-Against-Women-Girls/

Dad takes his life due to legal and grief over his kids

CW-Suicide

This is the final photograph of Phillip Herron 34, crying in his car, literally minutes before he took his own life.

He was a single Dad of three young children, struggling with escalating debt of over $20,000 and was desperately waiting for a Payday lending payment he’d applied for. But it’s paid in arrears, with a 5 week wait time. That wait drove him even deeper into debt, and when he died he had $4.61 in his bank account and clearly couldn’t see any other way out.

Like a lot of people, especially men, he kept all of this to himself, nobody else knew how bad things were getting. The poor man even had to tell his children that Father Xmas wouldn’t come this year, and in his suicide note he wrote that they’d be better off if he wasn’t there any more.

And now he isn’t.

We need to talk more. We need to be kinder. And we need to be a country that helps people when they need it the most.

Boys learn to isolate or anger as toddlers . It’s too feminine to allow emotions , tears ???

Be a Big Boy 👦

My Little Man 👨

He’s a child and worthy of expression of his feelings in a way that is not anger or rage but expressed in communication that is received compassionately and doesn’t project or target the other person .

Children deserve truth per maturation/age etc because they do get curious and asking around in peer’s can mislead or pressure an opinion .

Boys can be harsh and very physically intimating on impressionable younger boys and so they deserve to have a foundation that allows them participating in open , factual discussions per age and readiness .

Too late I realized that younger kids who hung out with our sons but had over 5 years life experience ; had much trauma at a young age sexually and other ways . This did not become fact to me until later in life as did the competition as I had our 1st child . I did not pick up on jealously and that would extend to lust for what I had in partnership . It was very unbalanced and I have had moments of clarity about the negative influences early on towards our 3 children .

I have grieved deeply about this and baby sitters and relatives that had our children when we were not there to witness and protect them .

This Dad could not take anymore . I’m not suicidal and I’ve had decades to surrender to the horrific cost of distorted alienating that is a living death when one has no contact with one’s children as punishment that continues Domestic Abuse/ Malignant/ High Conflict / Intimate Partner Violence that is non gender specific and is Child Abuse

Anger

“If you don’t like something someone is doing that’s your shadow”

“If you have a negative judgement about someone that’s a projection”

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“If you feel angry that’s actually your past trauma getting triggered”

“If you feel a strong NO to something that’s your ego being in resistance”

And-

“All of these are opportunities to look within. Work on yourself. As well as open and surrender your resistance”

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I used to believe these things.

They informed my life and my choices.

Yes, sometimes they are true.

They are not rules to be applied blindly to everything.

Like many “conscious women” they paved the way for my own ritualized self harm in the form of pathological self gaslighting.

They drained my life force and dissociated me from my self protective instincts and wisdom.

They entrapped me in narcissistic cult/abusive relationship dynamics.

They groomed me to be perfect prey.

I have watched so many people lost in this labyrinth of false spirituality, completely disconnected from themselves.

Completely dissociated from their own precious human existence. Their own sacred inner knowing.

Getting no where in their “healing” or “awakening”.

Spinning their wheels with no wisdom.

Trapped in the mind and held hostage by these beliefs.

Beliefs which I now believe are a kind of virus that originated from the minds of abusers wrapped in spiritual robes.

I have seen women’s healthy defenses completely dismantled by this paradigm.

I have watched women become sick and sucked dry because of these beliefs.

One woman I loved even died.

Anger is what broke this spell for me.

Anger is what clarified my ability to see.

Anger was the medicine that brought me back to life.

Anger is what grounded me back into my body and sanity.

Anger is exactly what this paradigm does not want you to feel and own.

Now I wonder who would be motivated to tell you that?