Masculine “Attuned”

Masculine men SHOULD be dominant leaders.
Nah…
Deep integrated masculinity can be intuited by touching the word “Gentleman”.
Gentle-Man.
A man who is gentle.
Yet this does not mean a pushover.
This does not mean a simp.
This does not mean a man who is passive.
A gentleman leads, yet he leads with attunement.
Attunement is a sensitivity to her.
Sensitivity as in being of the senses.
He senses her, he senses her needs and her desires…
He senses what will take the intimacy deeper, what will light her on fire…
When he get’s really good at this, he can sense her body and her heart even before her own mind can.
That’s when he takes her further than she could ever go on her own.
Yet he does all of this without neglecting or compromising himself.
And that’s what every feminine woman wants.

Replace the word ‘dominance’ with ‘attunement’ and you’ll get a sense of what healthy masculine leadership is about.~

~Damien Bohler

Line Em Up – James Taylor

Of course I’m a huge fan , my Dad and 2nd son are named James , which translates to supple-mentor.

A deceased soul mate was also named James and died of extreme complications from years of IV drug use .

The detached upbringing and loss of both parents ; created this grieving soul who captured my heart in a bond that I could not escape . Addiction to this addict did not resonate and I married for several weeks to break the tie that bound me . I had experimented to better understand and it did not please me and it was easy to abstain except for “pot”.

In marriage it was the same , an occasional Valium , or smoke.

Sleep was threatened from the get go , with intense snoring and I don’t do well with lack of sleep . My nature then was high strung and active but I became weak and moody but did not understand why .

The reasons have lined themselves up , as it were . Our family was destroyed for reasons of addiction , control and ego .

The eyes have become more beady . And darker . As have some of our leaders , exposing a consciousness lack that is staggering .

After hearing Romney state that morality had nothing to do with politics , yesterday I heard the GOP rep talk about morality in the GOP.

That’s a good thing because I know Republicans that are moral and the greedy eyes are lining up . I don’t need to name names but look at the eyes ! Note who peers over their glasses in a passive aggressive profession / authority , manner ?

We each are part of a whole and as the harvest comes in we do harvest the truths that are clearing the way to new earth and less greedy little eyes !

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Preference for Alone Time : Bad Ass

I have always spent time alone since childhood and came to appreciate my alone time ; on my own time upon beginning waking 03/04.

Of course I have met lots of lonely folks and defined that I could not and would not be a space filler

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Childress : Not an Attorney

I am a psychologist, not an attorney. But from where I sit, attorneys are failing.

To me, as a psychologist, parents in the family courts represent a category, a class of people. They are a particularly vulnerable class of people because their rights to self-determination and autonomy in decision-making is compromised by the court’s involvement.

This vulnerable population has been expelled from clinical psychology (treatment) and has been given their own “special” psychologists for this group alone. No other pathology has their own “special” psychologists – not ADHD, or autism, or eating disorders. All of those pathologies (problems) are treated by clincal psychologists.

Only court-involved families are restricted to their own “special” psychologists created just for them, just for this special class of parents for no other reason than their court involvement… with compromised autonomy in decision-making and restricted rights of self-determination.

Because “forensic” psychology is a “sub-specialty” practice, all licensing board complaints are given to other forensic psychologists on the licensing boards for review… and they all do the same thing. They are allowed to self-review – there is no oversight of the forensic psychologists by anyone other than other forensic psychologists.

The field of “forensic” psychology needs outside and independent review. It is a cesspool of professional practice. Where are the licensing boards enforcing ethical standards of practice? Nowhere to be seen… which is why it’s a cesspool.

The licensing boards are corrupt with the influence of exactly the “forensic” psychologists they are tasked with reviewing. The practices of forensic psychology in the family courts need outside and independent review.

Do not get a forensic custody evaluation. Parents want a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse, i.e., a possible shared persecutory delusion with the allied parent as the primary case – which would be a DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.

Forensic psychologists are ignorant, incompetent, and unethical. I am willing to debate this anytime with anyone, send me the date, time, and platform log-in: The Role of Forensic vs. Clinical Psychology in the Family Courts – Dr. Childress representing clinical psychology and Anyone representing forensic psychology.

I’d like to see a debate sponsored by a law school.

But maybe if the attorney world isn’t able to generate a class-action lawsuit with the AFCC and APA as deep-pockets on something like what’s happening in the family courts (I think it warrants a RICO racketeering look), maybe the legal profession isn’t up the the task of self-examination.

I guess I’ll just have to solve this entirely as a lone clinical psychologist using the power of diagnosis. Because I’m not a lawyer, I never went to law school, I went to psychology school instead so I don’t know legal stuff.

But from where I sit as a clinical psychologist, the attorneys are failing. Or maybe you just haven’t found the right attorneys. I wonder if the ACLU might have an opinion on your situation?

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Stepping Out

You are the medicine, woman,

if you dare to embody your healing,

if you step out of the life you had,

the life they tell you that you must lead,

and step with shaking faith, onto another path,

a path of healing,

defined by your boundaries and needs.

If you are prepared to step out of our sick culture

you will step in to healing place.

~ Lucy H. Pearce,” Medicine Woman: Reclaiming the Soul of Healing “

Womancraft Publishing

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Art by Josephine Klerks :: SoulArt Klerks ::

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Past Trauma Shows up in your body

“I don’t remember much about my past or childhood.”

A common reality for many.

“Do I have to?” No.

“Can I still heal?” Yes.

Your past is stored in your body. You are quite literally a walking, living, breathing product of your past. The evidence of your past is present in your daily life.

It’s present in your triggers.

It’s present in your habits.

It’s present in your beliefs.

It’s present in your relationships.

It’s present in your patterns.

It’s present in your reactions.

There’s no need to remember a thing, because your body remembers it for you.

Your body can heal. Your nervous system can heal. You can heal.

By noticing the automatic self.

By becoming aware of the patterns.

By bringing safety to your body.

By regulating the nervous system.

By consciously choosing different.

By reprogramming your subconscious.

By listening.

By nurturing.

By becoming fluent in the language of your body, which is sensation.

By showing compassion.

By increasing empathy.

By meeting your own needs.

By effectively communicating.

By being vulnerable.

And so much more. 🙏🏻

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Free Spirit – John Lennon

“I’d rather let my spirit fly free, than be caged by religion. Become a Buddha not a Buddhist; become a Christ not a Christian. One implies an awakened state of consciousness, the other a dogmatic approach to life.”God” is too big for one religion. Love & quantum physics are my religion. At one level, all religious traditions have the same aim—to transform the individual into a positive being. I love Jesus, I love Shiva, I love Krishna, I love Buddha. All rivers lead to the same ocean. “I believe in God, but not as one thing, not as an old man in the sky. I believe that what people call God is something in all of us.” ॐ ❤

John Lennon

The thing about her

“That’s the thing about her.

She was sensitive, loving, kindhearted, and soft.

She felt what you felt.

She felt your happiness, worry, stress, and pain.

Yet she was strong willed and she took no crap.

She voiced her opinion and thoughts, and she stood up for those she cared about.

She wasn’t always that way.

She was made into that at a young age.

Trauma shaped her.

Maybe that was a good thing.

Maybe she had to go through all that to become the person she is today.

A mix of both heaven and hell. Softness and strength.

Chaos and wild.

Fragility, and steadiness.

Follows the rules, yet goes against the crowd.

She could break glass ceilings with eloquent precision.”~

~Michele, Simple Elegance