Tag: trauma
Stella Davis – 1937
I had no idea of the content of this movie before watching it and it was so sad , I cried .
It concerns the mother – daughter relationship in which the Mom gave in to releasing her daughter to her Dad who remarried and was very secure and supportive of daughter .
The last scene is the daughter’s wedding and it moved me to tears .
I was not allowed to attend a wedding of any of the 3 sons I shared with the partner / husband whose win was vital .
I’m sure as I heard later in another family function , ex MIL was asked if it was ok if I attended an after party . The event was the Christening of granddaughter . I wasn’t allowed to attend her birthday party the day before , buying her Christening dress and a pearl bracelet was allowed . Taking chocolates to the Priest who remarked he preferred wine .
Exactly why I brought chocolates 😎
The then partner of the ex refused to attend if I were allowed .
Her Mom died ,and she had to travel out of town.
The paternal grandfather had his wallet stolen in the parking lot of the cathedral! He was not ever nice to be around , and even less so for his loss of money etc.
The ex MIL sat beside me and he on her right ; and as we sang a song of welcome, I looked her straight in the eyes allowing her to make the gesture . It was a ” draw” but she was aware of my intention as I quickly sat down .
I noted these things 2013 Neither brother nor their family attended the Christening because I was there .
I honked the horn , and maybe called for son to come out and get gifts , which he did.
I did not give up , nor am I giving up now , I’m ending the cycle of such distortion as to test the soul . I am ending being a target by a vicious , retaliatory, distorted ex partner who wishes me dead and would do anything to do me harm .
www.amazon.com/Stella-Dallas-King-Vidor/dp/B001NSNGXG/ref=nodl_
Childress – Trauma is absence of empathy
David Lucas There is a mind-virus among us. It was born in trauma. It seeks to itself.
Trauma is the absence of empathy. The absence of empathy is the capacity for human cruelty. It is a cruel heart – there is an insensitivity, an absence of empathy, a cruelty – sometimes a sadistic delight in creating suffering in others.
It seeks to itself to justify the cruelty – they “deserve” it – now simply designate the “they” to unleash the cruelty on.
Compassion is a better guide for the child than cruelty. Compassion is a better guide or humanity that cruelty. The pathogen was born in cruelty. The pathogen does not comprehend compassion.
That’s an easy tell – no compassion – the capacity for cruelty – does it take delight in the pain it causes – is causing pain “sport” for it? There is a mind-pathogen among us – born in trauma – born in cruelty.
Trauma Bond with Narcissist
Divorce – Jordan Peterson
Waiting until I was drugged by psychiatrist, and our youngest was of age ensured he’d have divorce his way
Divorce like having cancer – definitely malignant!
A personal account : what has psychiatry done for me ? – Mad in America
What Psychiatry Has Done for Me
Tammy
The stigma and discrimination I have had to endure due to my ‘diagnosis’ crushed my spirit and the dreams I had for my life. But the most devastating part of all is how it altered my relationship with my two sons.
In psychiatry’s wake, society continues to deny people their civil rights based solely upon its perception that ‘they’ need ‘help’. But is psychiatric help the answer? I can think of far more kindhearted and empathetic methods and less stressful ways of helping someone cope with a life crisis or distressing situation than locking them up, forcibly drugging them and stigmatizing them with a scarlet letter for the rest of their lives.
Another accounting of the damage / abuse of psychiatry :
The road to hell, they say, is paved with the best of intentions. As a boy of ten, a psychiatrist diagnosed me with a condition then known as MBD (Minimal Brain Dysfunction) which has, in the years since, become what is now known ADHD, I was put on a daily dose of 350mg of Thorazine and remained on it for roughly seven years. Now the possibility that because I was a child, along with three siblings, who had been abandoned by both of his parents before the age of six, sent to live with a psychologically (and sometimes, physically abusive,) grandfather, placed in an orphanage by the age of eight, and separated from his siblings two years later, would have anything to do with the emotional and mild behavioral issues I presented, did not seem to cross her mind. I was an intelligent (IQ of 145) and sensitive child who had experienced a considerable amount oain and disruption in his young life and was a target for bullies in school which led me to become withdrawn from and subsequently rejected by his peers, which led a psychiatrist consulted by my long term psychologist to suggest that I was borderline psychotic (a diagnosis which my therapist, thankfully, didn’t accept.) None of the psychiatrists and psychologists that dealt with my case had intent to do me harm, but their good intentions resulted in my growing into an adult who would never achieve his full potential and who would spend his entire life in social isolation. I went twenty five years without contact with my siblings after graduating highschool and my relationship with them, save the youngest of my two oldest sisters, is tenuous at best. Now, at the age of sixty, with my life winding down, I look back across the years and despair over what might have been if I had never crossed paths with that first psychiatrist.
www.madinamerica.com/2022/12/what-psychiatry-has-done-for-me/
Discover Your True Self – Gabor Mate’
Trauma & Betrayal
Because of their lack of empathy, a narcissist cannot really love you.
When they first meet you, they can and do become infatuated. But it’s not with you as a person. It’s the unrealistic fantasy they form that you see them as flawless. This is why the love-bombing period is so intense (in most cases).
However, they simply cannot maintain this charade forever. Love bombing is initially fun for the narcissist, but it eventually becomes draining and an annoyance to them.
This is not only when you begin to see their true colors start to peek through, but also when they begin to see that you’re a regular human and not the Peter Pan story character they made up in their mind.
They recognize that you’re beginning to understand that something isn’t quite right and this is when you fall from grace and the devaluation begins.
When it’s all said and done, narcissists know of only one way to keep people entangled with them and it’s through trauma and betrayal.
Repeated trauma and betrayal carried out by the narcissist strengthens insecure attachments and abandonment wounds (often borne through the narcissist) guaranteeing you will feel jealous, needy, and worried all the time, perpetually seeking reassurance and validation from the narcissist – the very person who will never give you either of those things.
Stop trying to have a heart-to-heart with the narcissist in order to get them to understand your point of view or discuss the ever-elusive resolutions to your relationship problems.
Narcissists don’t want to solve problems because that’s how they keep you hooked.
They can’t comprehend that you have willingly given your love and forgiveness to them because you care for them. This explains why nothing you do is ever good enough.
To the narcissist, compatibility means that you have learned their love language and are engaging with it.
And the longer you stay with them, the more they believe this to be true.
Kim

Distorted Mind of a parent who abuses child Psychologically

He Did it ; His way
Somewhere in the coverage of his break with protocol, perhaps at the 21 Club , the camera zoomed upward to the roof line .
Of note , though no one mentioned it , were ” lawn jockies” which are considered racially discriminatory in todays world .
A black jockie who had a ring to tether one’s horse in the past .
That’s where patriarchy dwells and wishes most of the planet to dwell as well ,as Trump shadow repressed and depressed the change needed in this nation and our world .
It comes regardless of those who attempt to force choice on citizens that’s is not healthy nor in step with creation of new earth .
