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Intregrity

GAWD. Was this ever taught me and resulted in celibacy!

I met a young man who said the same thing .

I just wanted to clear that energy and I’m surely vested in ending the horrors that can and does traumatize and psychologically affect children .

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Childress- Court Solutions / Child Psychological Abuse

My next Sunday’s coffee talk should be interesting. I want to talk about the solution in the family courts.

Number one is to fix the broken mental health system in the family couts. Forensic custody evaluations need to go. Clinical psychology needs to return. Standards of professional practice need to be established – then enhanced.

Judges don’t diagnose pathology. The doctors need to step up to our responsibility to the courts. It begins with the doctors.

Once we fix the broken mental health system in the family courts, this will allow us to fix the broken legal system approach to pathology. There’s a deeply pathological parent in the family.

The legal system needs to understand the pathology, anticipate it and prepare for it. We need early identification and early intervention in a step-up system of increasingly more intensive therapeutic interventions.

We know what the pathology is.

Research indicates that 90% of post-divorce parents handle child custody schedules without the court’s involvement, only 10% of families become high-conflict surrounding child custody.

Research indicates that about 6% of the population has Borderline Personality Disorder, and about 6% of the population hae Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Those are both high-conflict personalities who trigger on rejection and abandonment fears. We don’t need to diagnose the parent to know what the pathology is and it’s patterns of expression.

Recognize it as it enters the courts and intervene in a structured and step-wise approach of increasingly more intensive intervention.

My morning coffee talk this Sunday should be interesting.

The ignorant “forensic” psychologists you’ve been given are a risk-management response to the dangerousness of your ex- and the dangerousness of the courts.

Everyone in clinical psychology knows what the pathology in the family courts is – duh – narcissistic and borderline personality disordered parents activated surrounding child custody conflict.

Narcissistic and borderline personalities are high-conflict and are a way-dangerous pathology set for clinical psychologists. They are manipulatory, vengeful and retaliatory, and delusional… and delusional. They say false things and make false allegations.

A person who is deluisional and makes false allegations of “abuse” is a dangerous human until the rest of the world knows they are delusional… in case you hadn’t noticed.

A delusionally vengeful narcissistic-borderlin4-dark personality parent is a dangerous human to a clinical psychologist, especially when that dangerous human has an attorney who’s sole job is to discredit you in any way possible. The family courts are a dangerous world for clinical psychologists.

So we don’t come here. It’s a risk-management response… “I don’t work with high-conflict divorce, you want a forensic psychologist.”

We gave you your own “special” psychologists, we call them “forensic” psychologists and then gave them permission to do whatever they needed to do to protect themselves. No one cares if they actually fix anything.

No one actually thinks they can.

That is a mistake from clinical psychology. We abandoned your children and you. Forensic psychology is a complete failure. Clinical psychology needs to return to court-involved family conflict.

Treatment not custody. Solutions not fighting. We can do that. Diagnosis guides treatment.

I’m the first to return. I never turned to the dark side, I remained a doctor doing doctor things. Custody schedules are the court’s decision. I’m a doctor. My role is to identify the problem – diagnose the pathology – and fix it – treatment.

The pathology is no longer the only thing in the family courts that is dangerous to psychologists – knowledge is immensely dangerous to ignorance. You, the targeted parents are now also dangerous to the ignorant forensic psychologists.

You know more than they do about the pathology they’re treating.

The patient should NEVER know more than the doctor, but you do. That’s dangerous to the ignorant doctor. As the dangers elevate in the family courts, the psychologists will take a risk-management response.

They will A) leave, or B) learn. If they remain and don’t learn what they’re doing, then that will become increasingly dangerous to their license.

If they remain but don’t learn, that’s job security for me in my old age providing second-opinion review of their mental health reports.

If they do learn… then everything’s fixed and solved. Once the psychologists start making the accurate diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse (DSM-5 V995.51), the courts will have the necessary clarity to take the needed actions.

We need to structure our response into a predictable approch. We know what the pathology is. Anticipate it and prepare for it. The pathology is always the same, always consistent. Identify it and fix it. Diagnose and treat the pathology in the family – a shared persecutory delusion and Child Psychological Abuse.

The moment they want to solve things – it’s solved immediately. They don’t want to solve anything because they’re exploiting the situation for their own financial gain.

It should be interesting this Sunday as I ramble on about this and that.

A Clinical Psychologist in the Family Courts – How to Escape the Adventures in Wonderland. Coffee & Crumpets this Sunday.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

The “ Commonwealth “ of Virginia explained

This paragraph says it ALL to me

They wanted to replace the old form of colonial government with a structure that reflected their rationale for separating from England. Distrust of executive authority, after rejecting the concept of a hereditary monarch, was fundamental.

On the backs of slaves , women and children ….. still

Defines Patriarchal

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The Crone

“If you weep, the Crone will move closer to you. Laugh, and she wants to hear the joke. Dance, and she wants to dance with you and in you. She has help for the hurt and for the one poisoned by bitterness. She can pull the thorn from the breast, and tattoo your scars with flowering boughs.” This is the power of the Crone, ready to assist each of us to “fulfill the callings of the souls on this earth ~ with verve, with style, with critical insights, with wisdom, and with love.”~

~Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés

🖤🖤 art via Pinterest 🖤🖤🖤

End of Soul Contracts

So many relationships, family ties and long-term connections are currently in chaos and emotional pain…The divide between those who embody Love and those who still live in fear is very real. We’re seeing some people we’ve known and tolerated for years on a completely different wavelength…

Literally. We no longer have anything in common and our differences are greater than the karmic bond that once held us together. This is all a natural misalignment of energy… The quantum realignment process. As energy attracts, and different energies repel…

As ever higher frequency energies continue to hit the planet, those of us who can absorb the light are no longer aligned with those who cannot. The change is taking place on a very physical level.

Those we no longer resonate with are literally vibrating out of our lives as we align with different levels within dimensions. While we may still be aware of their presence on the planet, the energies ensure that our paths no longer cross.

This is the physical shift that divides 3D and 5D that is being created in our individual reality.

You may have tried everything to maintain those relationships or maybe some kind of change has occurred and you instinctively know to walk away. Listen to your intuition and follow the messages you are receiving.

These relationships have already expired.

You have learned everything you need to learn from this situation and it is time to let go and move on. Send love and healing to those you are releasing.

As you come out of these soul contracts, you will raise your vibration and align with your Soul family.

🌹💜🌹-Christine Chris-

Katie Mach – What Can She Do?

What can she do when you took the last breath from her? Took the strength that held her staying afloat, in the waves of your anger and the love that you were?

She’s looking for the precious pieces of her heart, that you always planned on stealing while you were “playing your part.”

She cried and cried and begged you care, but how long did you expect her to carry all the pain that she, for so long, bared?

Until she dies within herself, or dies within her soul, or dies from the body that was always hit with it all?

No one sees the trauma you have distiled in her mind, so no wonder they all are so so blind.

You’re the good guy to all of them, but behind closed doors they don’t see how long you’ve made her life so deeply dim.

But just wait until she’s ready to fight you back, then maybe they’ll see, they will realize the empathy for her that you’ve always lacked.

She can’t keep carrying this burden, no matter how long she’s loved you through it, because now she finally wants to find herself again bit by little bit.

Copyrighted. Author, Katie Mach

Hidden Knowledge-Inspired

This message was perfect and expressed my life long attempt to live in harmony with Gaia and those around me .

I have great faith in my self and try to hold that faith for our sons but allow that I can be the warning , if not thy r example of how women have been used as the catalyst to control men and children . To abuse the mother , trickles down to the kids .When secrets , lies and denial of truths that would allow healing and liberation as I have surrendered to time after time , year after year until 2021 made it clear just how “Dead ” I am and how beneath them I am , how stupid , how inept .

No Thank You !

I head their Dad’s words , his conditioning , his culling his sons to hate and reject their Mom . He could not liberate himself from his and I failed in not freeing him from their trauma bond .

I am so totally ready and eager as I have been for decades, learning all I could , creating and evolving as I noted for a decade or so how these episodes and challenges are intent to imped my efforts and or break me ; hoping I’ll commit suicide and since I’ve been told by a very frank in law , our son’s friends think their Mom , me is DEAD !!

And yes huge pieces of their Mom is dead and the desire to begin anew , to communicate to heal their trauma is rejected . Grandchildren are with held to show me their power if I don’t do as I’m told !

Nope ❤️‍🩹

I’m aware of Heaven on Earth and plan to see the results of the evolution that no longer exalts abuse and depravities that dishonor the family . Or target one member to insure a WIN 💯

Blessings & Peace

Dona Luna

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Legacy – Family History

The picture I’ve included here is of ( left to right) , my great grandmother Laura Margret Creasy Wheeler, James Abner Wheeler , Dad , holding me and Granny Minnie Zola holding my cousin Pam Ragland .

I was born 2/29/52

* Due to a ” hint” on Ancestry I learned that Minnie Zola Creasy Wheeler lost her Dad in 1952!!

What grief must have dwelt in her soul 👁

I have tears for her, I had my Dad but major parts of him became lost to me due to my psychiatric “care” and his grief / anger/depression.

I’m so glad we had our time together to heal so much and for me to do my best to see that he had the dignity that he deserved .

Unfortunately 2 siblings took over his legal and medical and he made dementia based decisions . He was used and over medicated ; the greed was sickening .

Sadly I knew it all too well as surely did Granny Minnie Zola❤️

This was spring or early summer and Great Grandmother Laura is in a coat and scarf . Apparently already ill , she passed on June 7, 1953. She was born May 20, 1878.

* Ex left Dec 98, Mom died 4/9/99

Minnie Zola was born 1906.

Died 1994

** I vaguely remember her funeral , and did see her before she passed. Granny had warned me that if she could no longer take care of herself , she’d saved medications and do it herself.

**Valium did not take her out ; not quickly anyway and I saw her . She reached out for me her nails grazing my cheek . The gesture frightened me for I was 1 year on Psychiatric RX , certainly not myself . I long since accepted that she was scared out her mind and wanted to warn me . Her big brown eyes were wild .

* Minnie Zola – Valium

Dona Luna – Xanax

Both highly addictive Benzos

Warner Hartwell Wheeler -1908

Died 1977..

Granny Minnie Zola had been run off from her family farm with what she could carry ; by Warner and had to place the 2 youngest children, a son and a daughter until she became stabilized .

Warner and Minnie Zola had 5 sons and 2 daughters and lost 1 son .

The family farm was 120 acres given my grandparents by her parents Laura and James Edward.

I had heard stories of his abuse and temper which necessitated my Dad live elsewhere at an early age . He spoke of Warner not buying his school books .

He did have some kind of relationship with Warner until I was around 10/12

Warner it would seem was a moon shine maker , his sons were to help him with the fields of corn he grew . He had boxes of cash money seen by other family members .

Granny Minnie Zola struggled the rest of her life .

A baby boy was near term when Warner pushed her on outside steps and though a doctor was sent for baby David died and she was blamed . Of course he blamed her .

At some point as the new psychiatric RX came on the scene she was given Valium as was Granny Cora was , when the farm was sold to APCO electric company to create Smith Mountain Lake . Granny Cora was highly sensitive already and very religious and became labeled with a psychiatric disorder .

Valium decreased life vitality and increased mental stressors which neither Granny deserved .

I feel that somehow they knew I would solve the issue by having similar experiences with regard to psychiatric “care”.

I’m not sure why I had to learn these historical facts so late in life , experiencing the trauma with regard to the end of my marriage and my Mom’s death months later .

My aunt had taken Granny Cora to the same psychiatrist I ended up with but didn’t like him and Granny was spared , his medical abuse . Nothing was said when he became my psychiatrist for 13 very long and tragic years but it seemed to answer the prayers of ex who attended the same collage as Dr and to my knowledge never met Dr

My dentist and psychiatrist both had last names that started with an L and both were Polish and honored ex as my ” concerned ” partner !

So I’m sure that with the ancestry of abuse , the support and guidance of ancestors all these decades , that completion of these cycles have been cleared as I survived the trauma and abuse and alienation of a marital partner , loss of finances , character assignation and disposal by children , extended family and friends and religion that has not healed but continues to target me .

11/23/21 brought another partner in business that had groomed me in a case of fraud that was to deprive me of all I have financially and I experienced yet another lesson in law that did not serve me or the factual truths but the criminal who still walks freely, committing his crimes . My request for codes and for a detective were ignored by one office .

I am grateful to have installed a new battery and new tires in my 98 4Runner as on Dec 14 after breaking into my place and shutting off my internet , my jeep became my ” office ” .

My old jeep , a 4 cylinder could not make it up the steep icy driveway and I had to call a wrecker who was very kind . In the Spring I had to pay out $1200 for engine repair from the effort .

My business partner claimed to own the property and gave me an inclusive price of $650

Electric , internet and rent for a very shabby single wide that was to be my shelter until spring 2022 when we would build my house .

He did not mean a word of it , I discovered he rented the single wide and has no physical address . He later turned off my electric but thankfully I had received my pay and hired a lawyer who informed him of the illegal transaction and it was back on by days end . I later discovered he has not paid the electric in months and was shut off just after I left May 1 2022

I have been in a motel at triple the expense of rental , yes it’s inclusive . My things are in storage , one being 40 miles away costing $300 per month .

I am Thankful to the magistrates I talked to who informed me there were many laws broken and the many deputies I talked to but each were unable to help until the orders were given by the one office that much like ex and business partner and our children …are not interested in me what so ever .

I’m sure Granny Minnie Zola felt the sting as did I but I allowed that I would keep my head and heart on my intended outcome .

I met ex in Nov around this time and he offered to rent me a room ; I eventually moved in and acknowledge that stability and safety were never part of our life over the next 21 years . And of course all he surveyed was his , controlling every aspect of my life until I started to wake in 2004 and he began the process of trying to strip me of everything I had ; his property. $$$$

His sons , his grandchildren and his story , all ripe for the truths that release the trauma bonds and end the insanity of malignant intimate partner violence and effect much better laws that end the erasing of families due to the distorted reality of one who has no God , no morality no empathy and no place in my life !

Blessings & Peace

Dona Luna