Tag: abuse narcissistic behavior

The Medicalization of the American Mind – Mad In America

As I experienced the pathology of a diagnosis that was false; a cover up for Domestic, Spiritual,Emotional and financial abuse , I found myself loosing everything . Family destroyed, children ignored and after years of investment in the healing of children , I am surrendering to further investment in myself , with children who like their mother/father guide of 20 years plus , has a trauma bond , secrets, shame etc that’s predominate over healing . Ie : stuck, in denial, or desirous of my demise.

I have been toughened up enough to not show emotions , and not to invest my energies , where I’d prefer not to be any longer .

Watching on the sidelines, taking no interest in me whatsoever, living in distortions , and unforgiving . Knowing how their spirits and souls are affected , and not being heard , in any mode but shaming , blaming and disposal.

Our sons have been guided, by other mothers, wives and abusive relationships , that ” own ” them, and disallow that healing matters, due to the influence that healthy healing might have on their relationships.

Lashing out at me, years ago , requesting I commit suicide , not once but twice …setting me up to be illegally arrested …threatening me with exposure of sexual abuse , writing of these memories ,citing highly distorted experiences , 2 of 3 trying to buy my property , with no though to my future , deny the fact that healing is needed.

With knowledge and awareness of the destiny of actions and none actions , I have no choice but to release , forgive their actions/non actions , for a past , and present that is far from normal , far from love , that prefers secrets, disposal and non forgiveness , and I am assured and assuring that these shadow energies will not be my future.

My efforts to heal myself , will not be breached, of this I am sure , as everything I knew of love was attempted to be destroyed , but I held on .

My prayers for a life of spirit , of sharing experiences and wisdoms are at hand , after much effort , I know my worth , and pray for the deliverance of each child, and adult that lost their normal, natural path , due to a distorted, partner, addictive and abusive , debilitating drugging by psychiatry who have been instrumental in ” erasing families “.

Failure with my own children , who prefer status quo , has taught me well, as years of co council with young people their age , who favor me , and my wisdoms .

While that may not be my future , one on one for the drain on my energy , I will be writing , reading and moving forward unfettered by grievances, abuses etc …for that’s exactly what’s most desired ..that I give up and give in, which just isn’t realistic. Generational trauma and abuse has been resolved , I understand and respect free will, and release the painful , often horrific experiences of past , and disallow any repeats .

Dona Luna 🐸✌️😘❤️

One cause of fragility? Pathologizing our children with psychiatric diagnoses and focusing on a medical solution to life’s problems.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/05/medicalization-american-mind/

Parent : Forgive Yourself and Release your Adult Child whose unforgiving

This came in , just when I needed to hear this message the most …..

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Don’t devalue yourself , parental alienations are expect manipulators

Self-worth and self-love are integral to our happiness. If we don’t get a sense of our own value when we’re children, during school years, or with our spouse/partners, we can potentially open ourselves up to experiences in our lives that reflect our low self-esteem/lack of self-love back at us, reinforcing the proverbial vicious cycle.

“You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.” Wayne Dyer

“Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds” Bob Marley

I speak from experience. I have been through many dark nights of the soul over the years. Many. And always it comes back to the need for more self-love and worth. It starts with that.

You’ve heard it before, I’m sure, but we must love ourselves first and be our own best friends. We must love and care for ourselves as we love and care for others. Those people and experiences we’ve attracted into our lives, like those parental alienators, take advantage of kindness and generosity, love and compassion. Healthy relationships come from mental and emotional maturity and balance. Boundaries. Self-respect. Love is not conditional – attachment, promises, control, manipulation. We don’t need validation from others. We are enough We can let go of fear, anger, grief … I know, it’s hard, but it can be done. With time, kindness, and some conscious effort of course. We can start afresh every day. A clean slate. We are not victims. We can transform pain into power. The past is over. Our memories can’t hold us back forever.

“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” Carl Jung

Nobody else has the permission to tell us we are less, not good enough, unlovable … that stems from their own issues and fears. We should know better if only our minds would just give us a break and be our friend, not our prison guard. Today offers the gift of the present. We can be the saviour, the hero and the creator of our lives.

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I did allow his opinion, as well as his Moms to matter, and later I did care very much of our children’s opinions.

I did go through times when I devalued myself that I dishonored myself , but I was never suicidal . I was grieving that I had no one around me who authentically loved me , in my own home and cared enough to delve into my misdiagnosis, my physical illness(s) , in general my well being .

Or our kids …neglect was my reality and I know our children felt the same about themselves .

Many universal and man’s laws were abused , broken , mangled and it seems that was supported by the brotherhood of men in power .

Narcissistic Manipulation

Narcissists and psychopaths often portray themselves as the “choosers” in romantic relationships, even if in reality they were the ones who ardently pursued targets that initially rejected them. ❤ Learn more about manipulation at http://www.selfcarehaven.org ❤ Victims of abuse may attempt to leave the narcissist many times only for the narcissist to beg for forgiveness or threaten them in return. When the victim finally leaves or the narcissist discards them, they depict these same victims they chased incessantly as “obsessed” or “crazy.” This is a form of gaslighting where the narcissist twists the narrative to make it seem like they were the ones being chased all along. In reality, their victims usually did not even like the narcissist in the beginning and were pursued endlessly by the narcissist. Beware if the narcissist claims their past victim is “obsessed” with them – it’s very likely the narcissist themselves are stalking and provoking that same victim all along. #narcissisticabuse #toxicpeople #toxicrelationships #hoovering #emotionalabuse