Acceptance of what has been , Accepting no positive healing
No one to my knowledge has supported our children healing
Their shame of how I am forced to live .
Their shame of aligning with the covert abuse and lies of their family , allows
continued rejection of me , ignoring any corporation . Aware that justice in
exposing all….sadly that property , finances and saving face …a face that mask
such hatred, self loathing , projection and lack of healthy emotional or moral
boundaries or foundations , has meant my annihilation..
Our sons are in good places in their family life, have no tenderness or heart
nor forgiveness and new beginnings , as indicated , after these 20 years
and it’s difficult to accept in my soul .. However the harsh toll of awareness
that I have been disposed of , no longer exist to each of them , and that means
no more to their Dad than he won …
So I do what I need to do for myself , end this horrific cycle of abuse , and aid
those who seek to step away from lies , shadows created to kill the connection
and the love ❤️.
It is so very sad, to meet this energy , in 40, 50, 60, and 70 year old males
I am ever grateful for those Divine Masculines who speak openly of love
for Divine Feminine , as my girlfriend and I were treated to Sunday ..
It was the best night out in a long time , as the unfettered souls , made
our divinity so loving ..
Very grateful Divine Masculine , may your ease encourage other masculines 💗👋
©️
Blessings & Peace ,
Doña Luna
I did not write the following
Letting go of an abusive or narcissistic child is tough. Hold space for them to mature but expect NOTHING. If they have a personality disorder — whatever the reason — loving them from a distance and getting on with YOUR OWN LIFE as a HUMAN (rather than as a parent) is CRUCIAL to Narcissistic Abuse recovery.
If the thought of them returning to your world continues to fill you with dread as the days, weeks, months, and years progress — maintain the enforcement of your own healthy boundaries.
The toxic shame you feel over “abandoning” a child that wants NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU has nothing to do with reality or with them. It has everything to do with shame lessons you were most likely taught since early childhood by people who actively and willingly enable abusers.
Having a child should NEVER be a death sentence for a parent. It does not imply indentured lifelong servitude.
Once a child is emancipated or an adult, a relationship with them is supposed to be loving, kind, respectful, and RECIPROCALLY beneficial.
If an adult child loathes a parent, finds their goodwill ANNOYING, and does nothing but take extreme emotional and financial advantage of a parent or family unit while they callously show an appalling lack of care, consideration, or appreciation?
END THE ENMESHMENT.
Once a person shows you who they really are at their core, believe them. No blood bond can cause a Cluster B thinker to value or appreciate having an ongoing, lifelong relationship with a loving, kind, and HUMAN parent.
Consider their betrayal and essential abandonment of you, as their despised and/or discard pile parent, as YOUR “Get out of jail FREE” card.
Once they turn 18 and disappear or they do things like lie to your face, break personal trust, strive to socially shame and ridicule you, break financial or physical trust, they abuse a pet, they gaslight targeted marks in order to do things like manufacture hateful triangulations between you and their love interests/friends/in-laws, they take the side of an abusive parent or toxic grandparent known for being INSANELY abusive, etcetera… let them go.
The pain they are likely to bring to your life and the situational abuse they coordinate as leader of a mob is not worth the strife of striving to maintain an unappreciated contact.
They may not have the physical ability (if they are over the age of 28) to love anyone except for themselves. If the neuroplasticity is simply not in the brain, the harder you try to get them to let go of vertical thinking the more you are likely to frustrate and abuse them.
[Realizing that trying to teach a Cluster B person or die-hard vertical thinker to let go of socially competitive thinking in order to “wake them up” is as productive as yelling at them and demanding they change their height or eye color.]
That may or may not be YOUR failure as a parent… but regardless of whose fault it is the youngster experienced trauma in youth, it’s their personal responsibility to own their own shit. If they are over the age of 12 and they do things like abuse or lie, the karma and social responsibility for their PERSONAL choices is on them.
As a human, protecting yourself from a Cluster B PERSON is the survival imperative. You simply cannot allow personal guilt to cause you, as an adult human, to enable another human being to abuse you.
A good litmus test for when it’s time to break away from a relationship is when you consider your child a stranger. If you met them on the street or at a social function TODAY would they be the kind of person you would want to start a close personal or professional relationship with straight out of the gate?
If the answer is HELL NO, then you know. Adult Children are ADULTS.
Honestly, who their bio family is ultimately does not matter in any way. Putting the loss of your physical, daily, personal relationship with them into proper, non-grandiose historical context, consider how many people have succeeded in life who were orphans, who had limited to no contact with family members, or who only see or speak to family members for a few hours or days in every decade.
For instance, consider the plight of immigrants who came to America in the 18th, 19th, and 20th century specifically. Think of all the generations of second born sons who left their families in Europe and moved to the United States, fleeing primogeniture in pursuit of narcissistic gains while abdicating taking personal responsibility for the continued success and caretaking of their birth family, family lands, and management of estate properties. And consider the plight of the young women who followed them.
Connect the Dots
Why Dark Triads manufacture chaos while attention seeking
Millions of immigrants started a new life, never looked back, and most never saw their parents or siblings or extended family again. Those folks are the people American culture tells citizens they are supposed to emulate.
Do you think their parents felt abandoned? Did their family members feel hurt, neglected, put upon, and abused because their relative chose to follow their own quest to go on an adventure to alleviate boredom?
BOREDOM is at the core of most Cluster B people’s behavior. So is socially competitive thinking.
Individuals fleeing Europe to avoid religious persecution were motivated by a different agenda than those who came to the United States because they were insanely jealous of the first born sons who inherited the right to own family property.
The obsession with capitalism, when taken to an extreme, prompted many Narcissistic Abuse tactics to be employed by Cluster B thinkers to ensure their personal needs and desires were met. Ask a former slave family or women who were sold into the marriage equivalent of indentured servitude to understand more about the psychological phenomenon to which we are energetically referring.
Did it breed an epidemic rise in NARCISSISM and Sociopathy in modern culture? YES.
But, it is what it is. It’s what the kids at the time wanted… and all Americans have been culturally nurtured to overlook and ignore the inherent dysfunction.
NOW, with the biological ability to FEEL empathy waning, generations of human beings have been damaged. In 2015 researchers were finally able to prove that trauma can damage DNA in such a way that dysfunctional thought patterns and stress related illnesses are actually inheritable.
But, adult children who are still able to self-reflect are evolving. Those who cannot self-reflect and process complex emotion while thinking are prone to situationally abusing others while genetically devolving.
Some adult humans grow out of the peer pressure to emulate Cluster B thinkers. But actual Cluster B people — those who are BIOLOGICALLY impaired — are unable to socially or emotionally mature.
It’s a tragic fact, but most Cluster B people calcify their personality type by or before the ripe old age of FOUR.
If you are reading HERE, chances are you are one of the empathic… regardless of your own parent’s behavior. If you have the ability to self-reflect and behave with empathy despite having been abused by your own parents or children and/or step-children, understand you have chosen WISELY.
Take a watch of the old Indiana Jones movie and give yourself a pat on the back for being smart enough and willing to pick the proper chalice.
Why?
Because it’s ALWAYS important to remember the map is NOT the territory.
How you think and feel about your personal relationship connections with any and every other human being on the planet is a reflection of your own internal map. If you were raised by enablers, abusers, or toxic thinkers, chances are it needs some corrections.
Give yourself permission to let go of an emotional attachment to BEING a parent first before considering trying to make a relationship with an adult child who has little to no respect for you as a human being work. If you think it’s YOUR moral obligation to socially pursue an ongoing entanglement with a child who does not love, like, or value their relationship with you, understand the logical schema you are following due to earworms an NLP savvy Abuse Enabler, family, or peer group put into your head about your own rights and responsibilities as a person or parent are reflections of their own elders thinking.
It’s not 1900 anymore. It’s damn sure not 1500, 1600, 1700, or 1800 either.
The life lessons about social skills taught generationally to help second sons, women, and elderly senior parents survive are likely, in the 21st century, to cause all adult children on the planet to fail to thrive. Be a better role model by letting go of the people who hurt you.
Abusive personality types are simply not the kind of people anyone wants or needs to be around. Tolerating abuse only ensures two things.
1.The ABUSER is able to more efficiently and comprehensively socially, physically, and emotionally abuse their preferred scapegoat targets and collateral damage victims.
2.The TARGET is likely to develop C-PTSD and have their own life, health, and happiness stolen from them when and if they leave the front door unlocked to the metaphoric bank, heart, and mind.
Connect the Dots
What is ‘Narcissistic Rivalry’ and how does it relate to NPD?
Let children who see no value in your human worth find happiness elsewhere. There’s NO commandment that says, “HONOR THY CHILDREN” and let one prone to pathological lying, conscience free behavior choices, and a compulsive “gimme” nature on their own learn how to thrive and survive.
You be you. Take back your power, be the kind and loving person that you are, and when the urge to parent strikes? Volunteer as a Big Brother or Big Sister or at a similar non-profit organization as a mentor… or offer to babysit someone else’s children for a while.
Considering the number of human beings on the planet who would love nothing more than to have a parent or mentoring figure who loves and cares about them, give back to them. Let the Cluster B adult kids of the world do their own thing elsewhere.
Stay focused on being the best human being that you can be. And, when and if that happens to include the option of being able to parent, don’t let bad blood between you and your bio stop you from stepping up to the plate and helping another person’s biological replicant.
You don’t have to be blood-related to act as a loving stand in for a child, young adult, or even an old person who needs a bit of mothering or advice from a sage elder or parent. You also don’t have to have children of your own who love or respect you in order to be or have been a good person or kind and loving parent.
All you have to be is a human being who loves themselves while simultaneously caring about and considering the well-being of other humans. So, while it might hurt to be pigeonholed into the role of scapegoat targeted parent to a Cluster B child or as a person deserving of exile and persecution by a brutally narcissistic and overwhelmingly toxic family unit, understand that once you stop caring about what they think it’s perfectly okay to mourn their loss.
You are not being a bad person when and if you give yourself permission to grieve the loss of a relationship with your own flesh and blood. Just remember — if they are Cluster B, the older they get, the more ruthless and Machiavellian all of them are going to be.
Remind yourself of that proven psychology truth when and if you feel waves of nostalgia wash over you. Love them from a distance, but grieve the loss of the relationship in a way that promotes their psychological well-being as well as your own.
They will NEVER find your kindness anything but annoying if they are spiritually and mentally broken.
You will NEVER find their abusive behavior or toxic thought patterns acceptable.
Once you grasp that you showing care, compassion or concern for them only incites rage and infuriates them, leaving them and avoiding communication at virtually all cost is truly the most humane way to treat your relationship with them. Be there if and when they ask for clarification of a life or medical history detail, but aside from that?
If their behavior is abusive, understand they are grown adults abusing another. And that, dear friends and discard pile parents, is simply a social posture that defies logic, is morally insane, can legally and spiritually be described as deplorable, and is ultimately simply beyond the pale.
If you are the parent of an adult child with a Cluster B personality disorder, understand going low to no contact with them is humane — the polar opposite of mindless, rash, stonewalling, rejecting, or callously narcissistic and anti-social personality disorder driven abandoning behavior.
Breaking the spell the Narcissist casts over you with their insidious gaslighting! I really wanted to go into some detail of how the Narcissist basically uses gaslighting to make YOU question your sanity, well-being, memory, or basically everything about you so they gain the upper hand by keeping you in a constant state of confusion and reality questioning – YOUR reality not theirs!
Breaking the spell the Narcissist casts over you with their insidious gaslighting! I really wanted to go into some detail of how the Narcissist basically uses gaslighting to make YOU question your sanity, well-being, memory, or basically everything about you so they gain the upper hand by keeping you in a constant state of confusion and reality questioning – YOUR reality not theirs!
https://afternarcissisticabuse.wordpress.com/2020/01/11/breaking-the-spell-the-narcissist-casts-over-you-with-their-insidious-gaslighting-i-really-wanted-to-go-into-some-detail-of-how-the-narcissist-basically-uses-gaslighting-to-make-you-question-your-san/
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Soul Power by Shannon Port
There are many souls in our world who have much more power
than they realize.This is because they have pure love within their hearts and they know what it means to feel for their fellow human beings.
When we can feel the hearts of others –
even those who are different from us, and even those
who oppose the things we believe in,
we have the power of compassion and truth in our aura.
Evil rules hatred, and there are those who are taken over by evil temporarily and those who have sold out entirely to its expressions. This is part of our reality on Earth and it is the part that we are working to heal within ourself. So many veils have been created to hide the truth and to manipulate
our vision and our hearing. The purpose of this is to direct
our emotions and to use them to further an agenda that has nothing to do with healing or justice. It’s one wave after another of chaos, drama, pain and suffering, to sway us
into a state of emotional confusion and disconnect us
from our power to effect change.
Those who can feel love and who truly desire liberation for all souls can counter the illusions and the disinformation by holding truth in their own space. Each of us is the magician of our auric field and we have the ability to balance our world and project the power of Love into the collective.
A balanced auric field is the perfect container for
the conception of miracles. When we connect to the unconditional love and wisdom of our Divine Presence,
the higher Will can flow through us and go where it is
most needed. The Higher Self of humanity looks endlessly
for the opportunity to work through us.
Emotions play a powerful role because they alert us and awaken us to what is really going on. We must feel and
we must know what to do with our feelings through
our intuition. This is the true Wisdom. Our world is begging
for those who are capable to wake up and to hold space and commit to being the truth embodied. There is a power,
a humility and a grace that is unmistakeable in this work.
The power struggles of the human personality and the feelings of victimhood fall away and bow to the Light of Love –
the only power that disarms, dismantles, dissolves and
heals the endless futility of the fallen consciousness.
We are one family and those who are able to do this must
do so and not judge those who are asleep. Some will awaken and some will not, but those who can feel now must lead the way. The days of waiting until tomorrow are long gone.
This is it. We are in the movement of the Great Shift on Earth and it is an exciting time to be here!
Shannon Port ❤
I cut my ex out of our daughter’s life: Now I’m glad he fought to see her | Daily Mail Online
Ruby nearly didn’t have a daddy. For the first two-and-a-half years of her life, I did everything I could to scupper her relationship with her father.
— Read on www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2529272/I-cut-ex-daughters-life-Now-Im-glad-fought-tooth-nail-her.html
What Kurt Vonnegut Taught Us about the Science of Happiness. | elephant journal
But before I give you that magical sentence from Mr. Vonnegut, let me share two memories. Memory One: I was eight years old when my relative pinched my love handles and called me Po
— Read on www.elephantjournal.com/2016/05/what-kurt-vonnegut-taught-us-about-the-science-of-happiness/
Heart and Mind Balance

The portals to the other dimensional state are now widening.
The portals open through the open heart, and pure intent and
not so much through the mind.
This is a time when the heart and mind need to be brought into balance,
in order to access the higher dimensional state.
The heart, itself, through the soul energy, acts like a key
to unlock the portals of the dimensional states.
At this time souls who are on the same wavelength and frequency band will find each other. We all need to do so,
so the dimensional shifts can gain momentum and we can start to weave those webs of light all over the planet.
The more lights which go on, as souls awaken and become conscious and connect with the others, those already leading the rest lead more, will accelerate the ascension process of humanity.
It is all happening in the here and now.
What is more the shifts are gaining momentum.
You will feel this in all areas of your life.
Sometimes it will feel that you are light-years ahead of
your family and friends, who are still walking in the 3D, and
not yet awaken to the degree that you are. That is ok. In their own time, they will – they have free will and choice.
Just be simply yourself. You do not need the approval of others. And you most certainly do not need their applause. This is why we will find our soul family coming to fill the gap, and to help and support us, as they will often take on the roles the family members cannot as yet fulfill anymore.
Remember that the highest paths to enlightenment go deep within.
WITHIN yourself, lie all the answers, all the knowing, and if you truly wish to walk this path, you will find that guidance comes, and that insight, visions and a deep revelations come.
The deepest knowing, wisdom and Divine and cosmic connectedness, goes through the portal of your heart and soul. Your soul can span dimensions, and gain access to information, your mind cannot access.
I just love this transformative and transcendental time!
Expansion and change and more changes.
We are now travelling at intergalactic speed, and accelerating.
Indeed, we are all galactic souls,
having a short sojourn on earth.
Bring it on!
Judith Kusel
From a Dad who has been targeted , hang strong for your kids
On another thread there is a discussion of Ted Talks, get this human a Ted Talk. That is an excellent description of both the situation and what parents can do, at least as far as the broken mental health and legal systems will allow the parents to do.
Get this guy a Ted Talk. Oh wait, he’s already available on YouTube. Anyone anytime can hear this. They just don’t care. Sloth, laziness, apathy, exploitation… they don’t care.
He’s my Ted Talk, I’m posting a link to this personal “Ted Talk” of a dad on my website. We have enough “experts.” He’s an expert. He knows this pathology well.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychology, PSY 18857
Men in name only: New study shows testosterone levels in American males are dropping dramatically. Why would that be? — RT Op-ed
Pollution, sedentary lifestyles, soy and even social ‘feminization’ have been blamed for a deepening testosterone crisis. But finding the answer fast is important – the future of America’s population literally depends on it.
— Read on www.rt.com/op-ed/478234-testosterone-crisis-america-future/
Hemp Cleans Up Radioactive Soil and So Much More
Could hemp be the plant that saves the planet? It is the best soil contaminant cleaner, and that includes radioactive waste.
— Read on www.rxleaf.com/hemp-cleans-up-radioactive-soil-and-so-much-more/
