Tag: Children

Holy War

This gave me full body chills…

“👁️ Did you ever wonder why the baby’s taken across the room? Why the cord is clamped fast, the mother left shaking, the lights so bright it feels like judgment?

Did you ever feel the stillness—the eerie quiet when the father’s hands are empty, the grandmother’s not in the room, and the newborn is nowhere near a breast?

It’s not just medicine.

It’s not just policy.

It’s a ritual.

And it’s not ours.

🧬 They inject pig-derived Pitocin to mimic the hormone God designed to flood a woman’s brain in labor. But it doesn’t reach the brain. It only contracts the body.

The love doesn’t flow.

The imprint doesn’t land.

The bonding doesn’t seal.

Just pressure. Just force.

💉 Synthetic love.

⚡ Counterfeit release.

🧠 Neurological silence.

And while the woman is watched but not touched, while the baby is wiped but not suckled, while the father is praised for being “supportive” but not leading—

they cut the thread.

👶 The mother-baby dyad was made to reflect divine intimacy. To pass down trust, peace, protection.

But when it’s broken—

the body remembers.

The child stores the grief.

The mother learns disconnection.

The father fades from view.

That’s how it starts. But it doesn’t end there.

Then come the bottles.

The cribs.

The high chairs.

The eight-hour separations called school.

The praise of independence that is really just early detachment.

The lie that the nuclear family is enough. That Mom runs the home. That Dad is just for weekends. That children are safest raised by strangers in buildings funded by gods they do not know.

🕳️ We are not looking at broken systems.

We are looking at precision-engineered fragmentation.

And you feel it. You’ve felt it all along.

That something was taken before you could name it.

That someone was missing even while you were being told you had “everything you need.”

But listen: the lie only wins if we let it.

And we won’t.

We are pulling the babies back to the breast.

We are restoring the mother’s voice in the birth room.

We are putting grandmothers back at the table.

We are praying over the placenta.

We are keeping them close at night.

We are burning the counterfeit and walking in the design.

This is not soft work.

It is a holy war”

– written upon the heart of almost every midwife

– author – Cardinal Birth Midwifery Service

Family Court-Daniela Cueva Perez

I always assumed that victims of injustice had avenues for complaint or appeal, and ultimately could overcome systematic abuses through collective activism… but the reality is much sadder and more complicated.

The abuse and corruption in family courts is real—by judges, GALs, reunification therapists, parenting coordinators, supervisors, and even attorneys. The experiences of family court victims often sound so outrageous and egregious; it’s hard to believe they are commonplace or that NOTHING is being done by legislators, judicial departments or the media to protect victims of abuse. But the reality is: family courts deal such a destructive blow of psychological and financial abuse, most victims are too traumatized to file appeals or complaints.

Here’s why, backed by what the research shows:

• Over 70% of family court litigants represent themselves, often because they’ve run out of money. Family court disputes can cost between $50,000 and $500,000 or more. Appeals can cost $15,000–$50,000+ and require legal precision most parents can’t manage alone.

• Family court decisions are rarely overturned. In many states, fewer than 10% of family law appeals succeed unless there’s clear legal error or misconduct—something hard to prove without transcripts, which cost thousands. Family court judges have such wide discretion, their decisions are nearly impossible to appeal even if one side has a mountain of compelling evidence. Family court judges have that much power and discretion— not to mention ”weighing factors” for decisions in family court  are often vague and contradicting. 

• Judicial oversight is minimal. In 2022, only 1.5% of formal complaints against state judges nationwide resulted in any public discipline. Most are dismissed or resolved in secrecy. Judicial fitness committees are made up of fellow judges, and colleagues, which creates an obvious conflict of interest. 

• Complaints often go back to the same system that caused the harm— meaning that appeals go back to the same biased judges. Parenting coordinators, GALs, supervisors and reunification therapists are rarely held accountable because they are protected by court appointment and private contracts that require immunity from suit—and there’s no centralized oversight. In Oregon, for example, the AFCC (Association of Family and Conciliation Courts) maintains close professional ties between corrupt attorneys, evaluators, supervisors and therapists in order to protect and perpetuate this lucrative industry. 

• Parents are told not to complain, and to pay the exorbitant bills of all of the court appointed affiliates who have insinuated themselves into a family court case, out of fear of retaliation. Attorneys often advise clients to “stay compliant” or “don’t stir things up,” warning that even valid complaints could be used as proof of “parental alienation” or non-cooperation. 

• The victims of the system are ultimately too traumatized to go back and fight it.  The mental and physical trauma creates a lifetime of collateral damage that leaves victims crawling away or running for their lives. 

The result is system where harm happens behind closed doors, and the people most affected feel powerless to speak out. Children are pawns whose voices are silenced systematically by the very people who are supposed to protect them. 

#onemomsbattle #familycourtcorruption #oregonfamilycourt #stopcourtabuse #custodypeace

The Blessings of Being Rejected by your child

Watching your child(ren) go through so much of life enmeshed with a parent who abuses them , to savage you … is the Hell on Earth no one wants or deserves .

That said , I have been on my own since 1993 . As the toxic RX increased the unpleasant side effects of being the target physically, I had no one who cared .

Realizing the blatant abuse and X’s desire to recreate as much of my trauma of childhood , I could more easily distance myself

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Powerless Triggers – Charlie McCready

I’ve come to understand that this isn’t about me personally; it’s a deeply rooted attachment pathology, and complex family dynamic involving disordered parenting. It’s spiralled into a situation where my child’s thoughts, beliefs and behaviours have been significantly influenced – trauma-bonded, coercively controlled, emotionally manipulated. Learning about this has helped me see the bigger picture, though I am working on my sense of isolation, frustration, injustice, and of course the grief. There’s nothing like it. People say it’s like a ‘living bereavement’ and that’s so true. It seems people don’t truly understand this unless they’ve been through it, and alienated parents are united in feeling let down by the mental health and family court system.

Still, I’ve learned a lot. I’ve learned not to react to the hurtful behaviour anymore. Sometimes, I catch myself just shaking my head, thinking, ‘Oh, this again.’ It’s like recognising a pattern. I remind myself that ‘this too will pass.’ My focus now is on maintaining my love for my child, even if they can’t see it right now. Detaching with love has become my way of preserving our bond through this difficult time. Nobody can take the love I have for my child away from me. Nothing and no one.

Conscious parenting plays a significant role here. It’s about recognising the importance of my child’s emotional well-being even when they may not fully comprehend it themselves. So, I make an effort to create a safe and loving space for them whenever/should they ever walk through my door. My door, and my heart, are open. I don’t let their negative behaviour dictate my response. Instead, I model the behaviour I want them to see—unconditional love, patience, and understanding. It’s challenging, but it’s also empowering because I believe this will help me and it will help my child heal and come back into my life when they’re ready.

Meanwhile I’m getting on with my life and not feeling sad or guilty about it. I have my moments, but I’m focussing on the present not the past, the love not the loss. If I can do it, and I’ve been in the pits of despair believe me, I know you can too.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

Spousal & Child Psychological Abuse via Narcissist

I post daily, spreading awareness about parental alienating behaviours, trying to empower you with a greater understanding, hoping to uplift you a little, and letting you know you’re not alone.

Parental alienation, often termed pathogenic parenting or an attachment disorder, encapsulates manipulative behaviours and psychological dynamics within familial relationships. A previously loving child will begin to change their behaviours, generally around the time of their parent’s separation or divorce, though it may have begun unnoticed earlier. If challenged, there will be denials by the other parent or caregiver that they unduly influence the child.

Their tactics often include coercive control, where the pathogenic parent exerts undue influence over the child through various forms of psychological manipulation (punishment/reward), intimidation, and threats. Coercive control serves to instil fear and dependency in the child, thereby undermining their relationship with the targeted parent.

Furthermore, the pathogenic parent engages in denigration, systematically disparaging the targeted parent in the child’s eyes through a campaign of lies, false allegations, and character assassination. By poisoning the child’s perception of the targeted parent, the pathogenic parent perpetuates a cycle of emotional abuse, both towards the child and the targeted parent.

Parental alienation shares parallels with Stockholm syndrome, wherein the child develops a skewed allegiance to the pathogenic parent out of fear, dependency, and perceived survival. This complex interplay of coercive control and psychological manipulation constitutes not only child psychological abuse but also spousal psychological abuse, as the targeted parent is subjected to ongoing trauma and victimization.

Parental alienation represents a severe breach of trust, perpetuating cycles of trauma and dysfunction. Recognising the insidious nature of these behaviours is crucial in addressing and combatting them, as it requires a comprehensive understanding of the underlying dynamics and a concerted effort to prioritise the well-being of both the child and the targeted parent.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#alienatedchild

#narcissisticabuseawareness

#narcissisticparent

Living Bereavement- Charlie McCready

An alienated parent experiences profound emotional turmoil, feeling trapped between a rock and a hard place. They are often isolated from their child due to the alienating tactics of the other parent, which can lead to overwhelming loneliness and confusion. The deep sense of loss, akin to a ‘living bereavement’, encompasses not just the physical absence of their child but also the loss of the once-strong emotional bond. The alienated parent feels helpless, unable to protect their child from further harm, and may experience anguish and betrayal as their child parrots negative statements from the alienating parent.

To navigate this hugely difficult situation, alienated parents can seek support through counselling to express their emotions, develop coping strategies, and gain perspective. In the case of the coaching I do, I sometimes work in small groups, and I offer 1:1 coaching too. Sometimes the ‘target’ parent will be accompanied by a partner, a parent (grandparents suffer too), and I have given coaching to alienated children too. They are not always willing to talk at first, but often open up and find it is a neutral space where they can talk freely, and I can guide them towards seeing the bigger picture.

Prioritising self-care, both physically and emotionally, is crucial. Learning about parental alienation, maintaining boundaries, and considering legal recourse when necessary can empower. Focusing on reconciliation rather than retaliation when interacting with alienated children is crucial. Recognising and addressing these complex emotions is the first step toward healing and potentially rebuilding the parent-child relationship.

These daily posts are here to spread awareness, inform and (where possible) uplift. Please don’t hesitate to contact me directly if I can help you with coaching. There’s more information on my website. I am also working on a series of e-guides (downloadable online guides), the first one is available now for the price of a few coffees.

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#parentalalienationcoach

#highconflictdivorce

#parentalalienation

#parentalalienationawareness