Tag: Children

Inner Child Wounds

From the lived experience of our personal reality, our inner child wounds certainly are real, as they reek havoc throughout our lives and relationships causing much pain.

Our minds disconnect these traumatic painful events which, during our formative years, we are unable to process in a healthy emotional way. They are pushed into our subconscious minds where they wait, causing disruption from behind the curtain, until we have the conscious awareness and emotional fortitude to re-engage and heal them.

Once we release the emotional blockages, and hence the emotional charge of these suppressed memories, we gain awareness that they have no real power over us unless we continue to ignore and suppress them.

Through healing, we liberate our souls from the shackles of these subconscious mind constructs. The fear, pain, guilt, shame, etc., dissolves as it is incorporated and integrated into our conscious awareness. Once this perspective is reached, and healing is achieved, the memories and emotions are realized as illusionary constructs of a subconscious mind that used them to fortify the ego, in its own bid for control over its own illusionary existence.

The ego, from the perspective of a higher consciousness, exists to create its own illusions of false beliefs to challenge our soul’s full expression, which ego sees as a threat. We believe these illusions are real until we shine the light of our conscious awareness into the darkness of our subconscious ego mind.

The darkness then dissolves as it is brought into the light, and we become whole.

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-JMB

When the “ living connection ” of mother & child is broken

One of the most challenging goodbyes occurs when we love someone yet recognize the impossibility of establishing a healthy relationship with them. Remaining in the relationship means continuing to wait for changes that will never materialize, tolerating hurtful actions, accepting minimal effort, and losing ourselves in an attempt to avoid loss. Although departing will be painful, it will ultimately lead to healing. Conversely, staying will perpetuate the cycle of hurt, causing the wound to deepen. Sometimes, choosing to leave is not a reflection of a lack of love for the person, but rather a demonstration of self-love and self-care, which necessitates leaving with love. -Unknown

Narcissist Relationships

When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, there will always be another secret life going on behind your back.

This is because these people are very empty, and they need stimulation from multiple sources just to face existence. They’ll be doing drugs or pornography. They’ll be stringing multiple partners through flirting and emotional affairs. They will be chasing financial intrigue that occasionally gets them into scams and trouble.

The reason they must flirt with other people is also because they’re seeking to move on to other people who don’t know the games they play.

They know they’ll get bored with you eventually, or you’ll learn to resist their shenanigans. And since being alone would kill them, they begin to groom possible replacements among anyone whom they can charm.

You’ll also notice this habit of making promises to you and then using those promises as a dangling carrot to get compliance from you. If you don’t do what they want, they’ll withdraw the promise.

Sometimes, they’ll deny having promised at all, or they postpone it until you give up. The truth is that they never intended to fulfill it in the first place.

Narcissists have lost all sense of right and wrong. Everything is about satisfying themselves.

When you finally leave, they’ll circle back to you, pretending to be checking on you when actually they’re checking if they still have access.

If you have a child with them, they would weaponise that child to torture you until you cut them off totally or you manage to enforce boundaries with the help of the law.

But the child will be scarred or wasted by the counter parenting and objectification from the narcissist.

Society knows very little about narcissists.

Sometimes, you stay because you fear the pain of letting go until you realize the pain you’re already taking for holding on.

Other times, you think you’re staying for the children until you realize that the narcissist is turning all of them into other small narcissists and broken empaths.

Your solution is to recognize that this person is incapable of peace. They’re only excellent at pretending and confusing you.

You will never have a life until you detach from them and direct your life towards wholeness and emotional stability.

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Walking Away

Stop testing the limits of my patience and my love. I’ve given you my trust, my loyalty, and my heart…but even I have boundaries. If you continue to deceive, manipulate, and betray me, don’t expect me to stay.

I’ve stood by you time and again, forgiving your mistakes, overlooking your flaws, and believing in the person I hoped you could become. I’ve poured everything into this relationship…my love, my energy, and my faith…even when it hurt me, even when you didn’t deserve it. That’s what love is: showing up, holding on, and believing in someone, even when it’s hard.

But love and loyalty are not infinite. They have limits, and they come with expectations. Cheating is not an accident; it’s a choice. Narcissism is not just a flaw; it’s a refusal to see anyone but yourself. If you keep exploiting my forgiveness, testing my understanding, and shattering my trust, there will come a moment when I no longer have the strength or desire to repair what you’ve broken.

And when that moment comes, don’t act surprised. Don’t play the victim. Don’t accuse me of walking away too easily. I’ve given you every opportunity to change, to grow, and to prove that this relationship is worth saving. But if you continue to take me for granted, you can’t be shocked when I finally choose to walk away.

When I leave, it won’t be out of anger or hate…it will be out of self-respect. And when you finally realize what you’ve lost, remember: it wasn’t me who gave up…it was you who pushed me away.

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Weaponized Children waken

As an alienated child grows older and gains more independence, they may begin to have a deeper understanding of the manipulation and coercion they experienced. They may start to realise that they were used as a weapon to reject a parent they once loved and who loved them unconditionally. This realisation can evoke a wide range of emotions, including betrayal, anger, confusion, and sadness.

The alienated child may feel betrayed because they were led to believe hurtful and false narratives about the targeted parent, causing them to say and do things that they now recognise were unjust and harmful. They may feel guilty and regret their actions, and have different ways of dealing with this.

As they mature and gain a broader perspective, some alienated children may try to see both sides of the story rather than solely aligning with the aggressive alienating parent. They may feel a longing to reconnect with the rejected parent and seek understanding and reconciliation. However, the process of navigating these complex emotions can be challenging, as they may still harbour feelings of anger and resentment towards the alienating parent. They may also have to work hard to ‘deprogramme’ as if detoxing from years of poisonous narratives.

Ultimately, each alienated child’s experience and feelings may vary based on their unique circumstances and individual resilience. Some may choose to distance themselves from the alienating parent, on realising the toxicity of the relationship, while others may strive to establish a healthier connection, aiming for personal growth and healing. The journey towards finding peace and restoring the parent-child relationship can be a difficult and multifaceted one, requiring support, therapy, and a commitment to self-reflection and understanding.

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