Tag: child Psychological abuse

Child Psychological and Physical Abuse

After my son disclosed abuse in a forensic interview

The Texas detective who broke the law

To created a fake arrest on me

Told me

“I know that man didn’t do this”

This was the same man who had raped me

She then tried to convince me

My son was making it up

Even though his therapist testified twice for him

My son told 8 professionals

I had a binder full of proof of years of verbal abuse

Therapy notes

Pictures of physical abuse

The detective told me it was now her job

To help our abuser to take my son away

The court appointed psychologist

Diagnosed him as a sociopath

My son has been in the custody of a

Pedophile sociopath rapist

Who broke a Temporary Protective Order 3 times

For over a year now

With no contact with his mother

Please come and support us November 20th

Quachita Parish, LA

Our abuser is pleading guilty

1 count of breaking the Temporary Protective Order

We need your support

What is Histrionic Personality Disorder?

Typical bull shit from a non scientific DSM , that targets the highly sensitive person.

I was given this tag , as I was evaluated in an emergency situation, after 2 weeks of taking Xanax , which I was unaware of doing . Xanax has born out the highly addictive ” side effects ” but all was ignored and labeled by a diagnostics ” Bible” concoction of physical , social, behavioral, and spiritual abuses that generates lots of revenue , and is a ” mental and often physical straight jacket ” .

I hear of this more often towards women , and believe it’s targeted towards women by the patriarchal mindset.

The smartest thing I did as I began to wake from the nightmare of induced mental illness was order 13 years of psychiatric files which confirmed the atrocities committed by a Dr, pledged to DO NO Harm .

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Charlie Mc Cready – Child Psychological Abuse

I always stress that it’s not a good idea to share my posts with your alienated children/grandchildren because they are very likely to be insulted and upset. Much as you’d like to educate/support, this can backfire. It is a minefield, and best to tread carefully. These are coerced, vulnerable children, who believe they’re autonomous, and they may be concealing, from you, a great deal of suffering, guilt and confusion. What we often only get to experience is the anger or the emotional cut-off. ⁠

However, I always appreciate when people share my posts (including my link) because I’m working very hard to spread awareness. My posts go out on social media every day. I give my time and energy to this because I have been through alienation myself, I have over 20 years of experience, and I’m here to help others with my posts, program and coaching. The posts are free for everyone. To inform, spread awareness and, where I can, to provide some comfort too. You’re not alone. It’s not you. It’s a pathology. Although it is not officially recognised (yet) it is real.

We are up against several well-funded and supported, united lobbies who claim parental alienation not only doesn’t exist but is a dangerous concept. For those of us who have been through it – fathers, mothers, grandparents, step-parents, step-siblings, not to mention alienated children – this is frustrating and upsetting. I hope we can come together, those of us who work in this space – life coaches (parental alienation) such as myself, legal and mental health professionals, those involved in safeguarding, schools, family courts, therapists – and collaborate. I wish I could multiply myself x 12, I am, as I’m sure you can imagine, at full capacity, full-time, doing these posts every day, seeing my 1-2-1 clients, and trying to advocate and engage others who might be able to lobby, support and spread awareness. ⁠

I am always glad and grateful when you write to me saying my posts help, and when you can share my work, not with alienated children, but with those who can help me , help you, and help all of us who want ‘parental alienation’ recognised as abusive, disordered pathological parenting which is causing harm to so many. ⁠

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Thanks, ⁠

Charlie.⁠

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Charlie McCready – Alienator

Abusive people who lie, cheat manipulate, and hurt others with impunity, and no accountability or guilt, sometimes actually think of themselves as victims. No matter how badly they treat people, it’s not their fault. It’s your fault. In fact, the problem probably started when you started noticing their abuse. And to add to this problem, the fact they get away with their abuse, without facing punishment or consequences, the fact they can carry on, in their minds, justifies their behaviour. The alienating parent often genuinely believes they are right and good. Wow!⁠

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The concept of cognitive dissonance can help us get our heads around this. To resolve any discomfort from being ‘in two minds’, people tend to either adjust their beliefs or justify their actions. The alienating parent may engage in self-justification, convincing themselves that their actions are for the child’s well-being. They may genuinely believe that they are protecting the child from the other parent’s perceived harm or influence. This self-justification can lead them to see their behaviour as morally justified. They also often adopt a victim mentality, perceiving themselves as hard done by or failed or hurt in the past, and this somehow excuses/accounts for their current behaviour. It can also lead them to cast blame on you. It is a way of deflecting responsibility. They deny and project their negative qualities onto you, rather than face their own flaws and shortcomings. Some alienating parents lack self-awareness and may not recognise the harm they’re doing to their children. The alienating parent typically resists counselling or any situation where they may have to confront their behaviours, and in this way, they can carry on in their belief that they are right, and you are wrong.

While I hope this explanation helps shed light on the mindset of abusive or alienating individuals, it does not justify, excuse or condone the harm they cause to others, especially children caught in the middle. My wish is that if you understand these psychological dynamics, it can be enlightening, even empowering, enabling you to navigate the situation with more clarity and compassion, both for yourself and for your child. Most importantly, know that you are not alone, and there is hope for positive change. The love and bond you share with your child can endure, even in the face of alienation. Stay resilient, focus on your child’s well-being, and believe in the possibility of reunification and healing in the future. Your unwavering love and commitment can significantly impact your child’s life. Strive to be happy.

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Suddenly you were my everything

Exactly how I felt, knowing the exquisite, love of our 1st born , triggered his Dad , and much abuse of both of us proceeded .

However I have been targeted as the “ evil “ monster , and the distortion has destroyed our mother child relationship ..

That’s not acceptable to Divine ,whose got her hands on the steering wheel and will correct the abuser , who has never heard me on the effects of his distorted acts on our children and grandchildren . So glad to have as much closure as possible on my own, and to have healed through tremendous challenges , and this clears the generational abuses and traumas .

Beautiful, Charlie Mc Cready

I noticed the distancing – preempting what I later became ‘parental alienation’ – happen sometime before my children left. When it was particularly unpleasant and upsetting in those weeks and months before they moved to the other side of the world, I tried to remind myself that this was how they were bracing themselves to cope with such a monumentally life-changing, scary/exciting/brave/unknown decision. I didn’t always deal with it well, either. I’d been through parental alienation before, as a step-parent in 2001, but this took me to another level of grief long before the alienation kicked in. ⁠
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It was 2009, and in the time before they left, Eminem’s’ Beautiful’ was played a lot in my children’s bedrooms. It’s a song that expresses a struggle with depression, self-doubt and a yearning for understanding, acceptance, and a desire for a better life. After they’d gone and I heard the song, I grieved. I convinced myself that the lyrics were a child’s hope for a bridge between worlds, and that mine could come back anytime. The time with their other parent became permanent, and then I was cut off, no longer necessary, and even deemed unsafe. It’s the 180 turnaround from good parent with happy, healthy children to monster that’s nonsensical and horrifying. ⁠

But they don’t lose us – we’re still here. ⁠
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The song ‘Beautiful’, to me, is about alienation. It’s about longing for connection after being rejected, building ourselves up no matter how many times we’re set back or fall. We and our children are disconnected by enforcement and manipulation. We cope with it the best we can. The ‘distancing’ or ‘emotional cutoff’ is also known as disassociation. This is something in our children that the alienating parent can exacerbate, too.⁠
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There are times we have to let things run their course. We need the time and space to figure things out, and so do they. We’re still here. Mine did figure things out, reach out, and they came back. It is my heartfelt wish that yours do, too. ⁠

Beautiful by Eminem

https://youtu.be/lgT1AidzRWM?si=G3qG6JMzlBspAnBG

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Backstabbers- Narcissist Alienators

The alienating parent will change their story depending on who they’re telling it to and what outcome they hope to achieve. They will provoke and abuse you until they get a reaction, then blame everything on you. Does this sound familiar? In a post the other day, I described how a client called in the police after a great deal of harassment from his ex-wife. The police called on her and she was understandably aggrieved. But it was just another mechanism of turning it all on him, telling the children, ‘look what he’s like!’ It is the same with court cases. The alienating behaviours often intensify. Sometimes the alienating parent will play victim, sometimes the protector, the victor, the hero. It really depends. It’s all an act. Behind it all, lies a self-serving, pitiful coward, afraid of being found out, afraid of losing control, afraid of being exposed … and so they project it all onto the ‘target’ parent instead. That’s why they lie and manipulate others, and how, shockingly, they weaponise and coercively control their children. Parental alienation is abuse.

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Adultification – Charlie McCready

“Identification with the aggressor” (or defensive identification) is an unconscious defence mechanism whereby a victim of aggression and suffering (an alienated child) aligns with and behaves like someone (the alienating parent), who is more powerful, hostile, poses a threat, or cannot be overcome. In this way, an alienated child will learn to lie and manipulate as their ‘winning’ and ‘stronger’ parent does. Alignment and identification with the bully/aggressor also helps to suppress deeper feelings of guilt, vulnerability and shame. It’s like Stockholm Syndrome when a hostage feels powerless and aligns with their captor. They start to feel gratitude towards the aggressor when they are kind and (conditionally) loving. Deep down, the child/hostage will be aware that their alienating parent isn’t particularly healthy-minded or loving. The child knows, from experience, this parent is unpredictable, selfish/narcissistic, volatile, they run hot/cold – their parenting involves reward/punishment.

The children are parentified, their childhood sacrificed to the adult problems of the alienator, and their reaction to narcissistic wounding as a result of what is usually a high conflict separation or divorce. To love a parent like this the child often will ‘split’ in order to cope. To make the alienated parent the villain/baddie is to make their life easier in dealing with the painful experience of alienation, and no longer being allowed to spend time with a loving and loved parent. It’s to switch off, and totally align with the alienating aggressor. The child is actually afraid of the alienator, and they can partially conquer that fear by becoming more like them, and that pleases the alienator too, which means the child may be less abused. Also, when a child witnesses emotional, psychological (or physical) abuse of a parent, it’s intimidating, terrifying, confusing, upsetting, and as a survival tactic, they feel that it’s best for them to be with the terrorising parent, the one it seems unwise to fall out with. There will be consequences. They are afraid and feel they’ve lost one parent and don’t want to lose the other. What they see their alienating parent is capable of could be turned on them. The child ‘trauma bonds’ with the parent who poses the biggest threat. This is why the child feels negatively towards the things the alienator/aggressor is negative towards – it’s safer and easier to do so. They forget that their aggressor is really the origin of their suffering. I hope this goes some way to explain the phenomenon of why an alienated child supports, defends, loves and aligns with an abusive, mentally unstable parent while rejecting their more balanced and loving one.

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