Category: Parential Alienation-Child Abuse

Childhood Lessons

“My parents beat me when I was a kid and I’m not traumatized,” says a male alcoholic whose partner reported him for physical abuse.

“As a child I was punished a lot and I’m fine,” says the man who complains every time he makes a mistake.

“When I disobeyed as a child, my father locked me in a room and for that I am grateful to him today,” says the woman who suffers panic attacks and fear of tight spaces.

“My parents forced me to attend an apprenticeship in this profession, where I make a lot of money, and for that I’m very grateful,” says the man who can’t wait for Friday because he hates his job.

“When I was little, my parents made me sit at the table until I ate everything,” says a woman who doesn’t understand why she struggles with eating disorders.

It’s time to break through the generational trauma and become aware of our past patterns. It is time to be compassionate to ourselves and our children.

A child learns to solve problems through conversation, if we solve conflicts in the family this way. If problems with threats and penalties are solved, one day it will act the same way.

A child learns compassion when we are compassionate towards them.

A child learns to listen to others when we listen to the child, when we are interested in how they feel and what their world looks like.

A child learns to believe in himself if we believe in him.

We don’t have to raise our children, we have to lovingly cultivate them. ❤

Can’t loose real friend

“You cannot lose real friends.

You just can’t.

They won’t go, no matter how hard you push them away when you are not yourself.

They will wait

and wait

and wait,

until they see a tiny glimmer of your light breaking through

and back they will come, with open arms.

Your real friends are still there.

And if they feel lost to you right now,

perhaps it’s because they are lost to themselves.

Just wait

and wait

and wait,

then knock on that door,

reach in, just in case they can’t reach out.

And do it again until they answer.

If you are feeling sad about the people you have ‘lost’ along the way my friend,

don’t.

They were never yours to keep.

Real friends don’t need to be earned, or appeased, or coaxed.

They are in it for the long haul and for all the right reasons.

And each of those friends is worth a dozen fair-weather,

so count your lucky stars if you have even one.

Keep your circle small but let its light be mighty.

You can’t lose real friends,

they just won’t go.”

~By Donna Ashworth

From ‘the right words’ ~🧡

Artist : Shelly Penko

Grief , Sorrow, Loss = Strength

In the Lakota tradition, a person who is grieving is considered most wakan, most holy.

There’s a sense that when someone is struck by the sudden lightning of loss, he or she stands on the threshold of the spirit world. The prayers of those who grieve are considered especially strong, and it is proper to ask them for their help.

You might recall what it’s like to be with someone who has grieved deeply. The person has no layer of protection, nothing left to defend. The mystery is looking out through that person’s eyes. For the time being, he or she has accepted the reality of loss and has stopped clinging to the past or grasping at the future. In the groundless openness of sorrow, there is a wholeness of presence and a deep natural wisdom.

Women’s Sacred Power

“You are no longer raising your own family, the menstrual cycle has seized, and you are transitioning into what it means to truly be in your Sacred power and Sovereignty. In the last 5000+ years we have been severed from the Feminine Lunar era as we abruptly entered into the Masculine Solar era, and here the true wisdom of menopause is hidden and even shamed in order to keep women from their power. This is the culture we have been steeped in. And yet all women know deep in their bones, there is a mystery they are biologically and spiritually linked to.

What isn’t spoken about is that since the beginning of time, the SHAMANS were really the MEDICINE WOMEN, honored for holding that holy space between the physical and the spiritual, the seen and the unseen. Medicine Women continuously healed individuals and communities through sacred communication with the Earth, with the Divine, acting as that holy channel between the portals of life and death.

Why have women been so denigrated and devalued? Simply because this very inherent power in women that has been persecuted and horribly condemned for the last 5000+ years, has posed a threat to the power of the domination cultures and their need to control all aspects of life, including the land. But the time has come… all that is changing now… as we awaken to the true Essence of Feminine Consciousness and the holiness that exists within us, within the land and within all of creation.”

-Leonor Murciano-Luna, Ph.D., “Menopause: Initiation of Sovereignty,” excerpt from our upcoming anthology, The Crone Initiation and Invitation: Women Speak on the Menopause Journey.

Painting by Liliana Kleiner

Birthing

“They told you about the contractions but did they tell you about the expansion?

Did they tell you how your body would open to make way for the whole universe to pass through?

Did they tell you how your heart would explode with a love bigger than anything you’ve ever known as you pulled your baby to your chest

They told you about the ring of fire but did they tell you about the crown of stars?

Did they mention that there is a moment when your baby enters the world and you leave your body and touch the heavens and become the light of a million galaxies?

Did they tell you how the pain of stretching to receive your child would be more exquisite than any sensation you’ve felt?

They told you you would scream but did they tell you about how you would roar?

Did they tell you about the power that would rise up from your belly as you called your baby forth with your mighty voice?

Did they tell you how you would embody the wild woman within you and breathe fire with your song?

They told you you would bleed but did they tell you how that sacred blood wouldn’t scare you?

How you would feel grateful for that magical liquid of life as it trickled down your leg?

How you would honor its flow and how it would help you heal a lifetime of hating your body’s bleeding cycles?

They told you these stories and taught you to fear birth, to fear your power, to fear yourself.

But you’re stronger and wiser than that mama.

You know that birth is your divine dance, your soul’s song, your moment with God, and you walk fearlessly into her open arms.”

~ Catie Atkinson

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Art: Medha Srivastava, “Motherlove”

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I wish I knew

She spoke to the teachers

they told her to sit

to wait for her turn

and to speak with respect

She spoke to her parents

they told her to try

to never give up

to work hard and strive

She spoke to her friends

they told her to change

to act more like them

to stop being strange

She spoke to her self

she wondered what’s wrong?

why don’t I fit in?

why cant I belong?

And finally when

her exhaustion was high

she wandered bereft

out into the night.

She spoke to the moon

and the stars let her see

you’re already enough

why can’t you just be?

You sparkle with life

you’re so full to the brim

why worry about

the need to fit in?

You’re made of pure sunlight

with so much to share

don’t walk down the same road

you’re not going there…

Donna Ashworth

From ‘I wish I knew’: https://amzn.to/3JVMJlZ

#poetry

Art by Josie Wren #josiewrenart