Affirmations – Charlie McCready

Affirmations are more than just words—they are tools for transformation. Many parents I’ve worked with have found that affirmations can reframe negative thought patterns and restore a sense of self-worth and clarity, even amidst the emotional turmoil of parental alienation. Let’s delve into the science behind affirmations and how they can help you reclaim your inner strength.

Remarkably, our DNA has a language of its own, capable of being influenced by the words we think and speak. Research suggests that even the 90% of DNA once labelled as “junk” has a telepathic-like quality, transmitting and receiving information in ways far more advanced than the internet. Positive affirmations effectively reprogramme your DNA, sending empowering instructions to every cell in your body.

By replacing the negative narratives instilled by an alienating parent with affirmations, you can reclaim control over your inner dialogue and reshape your emotional responses. This process reinforces the idea that by changing your thoughts, you can change your mindset—and ultimately, your life.

Neuroscientist Dr. Joe Dispenza explains, “Nerve cells that fire together wire together.” Repeating positive affirmations strengthens neural pathways linked to self-belief, motivation, and resilience. This process, known as neuroplasticity, allows the brain to reorganise itself, replacing harmful patterns with healthier ones.

Your subconscious mind absorbs the tone of your self-talk without distinguishing between sarcasm, doubt, or criticism. It treats your words as direct instructions. Telling yourself, “I am capable” or “I deserve love and respect” lays the groundwork for a healthier state of mind and being.

Quantum physics offers another perspective on affirmations. Nobel Laureate Max Planck, the father of quantum theory, stated, “All matter originates and exists only by virtue of a force… the existence of a conscious and intelligent mind.” Your thoughts are vibrational energy that shapes your reality. Repeating affirmations like “I am strong” or “I am whole” not only influences your mindset but also sends positive energy outward, transforming how you engage with the world.

Pay attention to the tone of your inner dialogue. Is it nurturing or critical? Awareness is the first step towards transformation. Replace statements like “I’m not good enough” with “I’m learning and growing every day.” Gratitude activates brain regions associated with reward and bonding, reinforcing positive neural pathways. Spend a few moments daily imagining yourself as the person you want to be—calm, confident, and resilient. Say your affirmations aloud or silently, particularly upon waking or before sleep, when your subconscious is most receptive.

You can make up your own, but keep it ‘I am’ and avoiding negatives. Here are a few examples: I am worthy of love and respect. I have the strength to face challenges and grow. My children love me, even if they can’t show it right now. I am reclaiming my peace and happiness. Each day, I move closer to healing and wholeness.

As you nurture this new way of thinking, you’ll notice positive changes not only within yourself but also in how others respond to you. Affirmations help you project a calmer, more compassionate energy, influencing your interactions and allowing you to remain centred, regardless of external circumstances.

Remember, you are always listening to what you say about yourself. Pause and ask: What am I telling myself right now? Let your next words be kind, hopeful, and filled with self-belief. You deserve it.

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Allergies & high sensitivity in baby- Mom’s story /jab related

Eldest adversely reacted to Soy and I was helping care for him ; very scary .

Youngest son was highly allergic to egg products that I know of and slept a lot early on .

Of course with the youngest ,I sensed jab related responses . His elder sibling also showed symptoms that are jab related .

Parents aren’t open to my concerns , and I have no idea of youngest son’s 2 . We have never met …

So my oldest son went into anaphylaxis last night from touching a BASKETBALL and I was truly grateful to have a brother who is a doctor that I could call about the situation.

My son never had any reactions to food or anything at all until the day of his 2 month shots.

Literally I took him to the doctor and held him while he got the DTAP, HiB, IPV, and the PCV shots. That morning my mom warned me that I shouldn’t do that, because that’s a lot of vaccines at once and my son was just a little baby. She said she spaced them out for me, and I should space them out for him.

I made fun of her to her face because they give these shots to PREEMIES, for crying out loud. I told her, of course my son would be fine. He was born at nearly 11 pounds! He was a giant! If 2-month-old preemies could handle these things, my giant gigantor son certainly could.

So I took him in and held him while he screamed as he recieved 4 shots for 6 antigens at 8 weeks old.

That evening, I had eggs for dinner — which I had had before — but this time, when he nursed afterwards, he screamed and screamed and screamed. That was the beginning of our personal sorrows with food allergy.

After that, he hardly STOPPED screaming. He would get hives after nursing. He was exclusively breastfed but it was obvious after a few weeks that he now was allergic to foods I was eating.

At 8 months old I took him into an allergist. We got a blood test done. He was allergic to peanuts, all bovine protein (both dairy AND meat, anything from a cow), soy, egg, and latex. He was also sensitive to all cruciferous vegetables.

So I had to drastically alter my diet. He was still exclusively breastfed so even the amounts of those proteins traveling through milk itself were causing problems.

It was horrible because he was allergic to most kinds of proteins and that was a real bummer.

At the first birthday party he ever went to, he touched a balloon and had an anaphylactic response. It was horrifying. We stopped going to birthday parties and I feel like crying just thinking about it.

In about 2018 I discovered heavy metal detoxing and decided to give it a try. I knew that ongoing anaphylactic responses come from GUT PERMEABILITY. Anaphylactic sensitization can only happen when an intact protein enters the bloodstream directly. So I put my son on a detox protocol — and literally after about 6-8 weeks on it, he asked to try a bite of scrambled egg, and I allowed it, and he was actually fine. No response.

So after some serious heavy metal chelation and subsequent gut healing, my son was able to touch and eat a lot of the foods and items he previously couldn’t.

However, peanuts–and apparently latex–are the allergy that haven’t healed.

4 years ago he was exposed by a kid at school lunch, and ended up going into anaphylaxis. I had him drink 3 bottles of nano zeolite immediately before I planned to call an ambulance from the school, but after a few minutes his reaction had reversed. Clinoptilolite zeolites detox histamine, the stuff responsible for anaphylactic shock. So we didn’t need an ambulance that time.

Last night, my son played basketball after dinner with a brand new basketball. After a few minutes his entire back was covered in hives and then the rest of him was, too. I had him drink 5 bottles of zeolite and then I felt like it was time to finally break out the Epipen I have kept within arm’s reach for these 13 years just in case. So we Epipen’d him and called my brother instead of an ambulance.

Thanks, my brother!!

The conclusion was to just monitor him and at the first sign of terrible breathing to rush him to the urgent care or ER. Between the zeolite and the Epipen Jr, that was not necessary. My husband and I stayed up until midnight just watching him to make sure his breathing was okay. I feel so grateful he is fine. I feel a little surprised that I finally ended up using the Epipen I bought for him after his 8 month appointment with the allergist. I feel very grateful I had it around.

We concluded it was the basketball because my husband found a Reddit thread of people with latex allergies who had gone into anaphylaxis after touching that brand of basketball we had just bought. It was my son’s first time trying this brand new basketball.

Here is the deal.

Like I said earlier, a person only becomes sensitized to anaphylaxis when an intact protein ends up in their bloodstream directly.

Intact proteins do not usually come into contact with the bloodstream. We have a stomach to prevent that, specifically. In all of recorded history, there were only TWO recorded deaths from anaphylaxis — one from a pharaoh and one from some dude in Europe in the 1700’s, if I recall correctly — and both were from BEE STINGS.

Because how it works is: you basically have to bypass the body’s natural defenses to get an intact protein into the bloodstream, and the way you do that is INJECTION. Bees inject people with intact protein through stinging. The first time this happens it CAN (though obviously not always DOES) sensitize a person to anaphylaxis. After that, subsequent exposures can trigger anaphylactic responses.

The thing that changed everything with anaphylaxis was the invention of the HYPODERMIC NEEDLE in the last 1800’s. This was the first time human beings had a way to inject proteins into blood streams.

The word “anaphylaxis” was actually coined by a VACCINE RESEARCHER, Dr. Charles Richet, who won a Nobel Peace Prize for the “discovery” of anaphylaxis in 1913. It’s worth it to read his Nobel acceptance speech.

But this vaccine researcher discovered anaphylaxis because he started injecting dogs with food proteins to see what would happen, and what happens is that after they are sensitized that way, they have anaphylactic responses to the food they eat. So Dr. Richet was a real pioneer of discovering how this works.

Not all modern anaphylactic sensitization comes from injection. Beyond injection, GUT PERMEABILITY can lead to sensitization. Heavy metal toxicity and various pesticides and herbicides lead to gut permeability. Gut permeability can now begin in the womb, thanks to the never ending toxic assault on our bodies. Researchers have found plastics, Teflon, forever chemicals, formaldehyde, and more in the umbilical cords of newborns. I have 2 children who never were injected with anything, but who were in my womb while I recieved injections, and they both were born anaphylactically sensitized to peanut proteins.

Anyway, I could talk about anaphylaxis all day. But now I’m tired. I’m glad my doctor brother was on hand to talk me through it in the moment of our stress last night. I’m glad that if we have to live in a world with rampant anaphylactic sensitization, we can also have access to epinephrin and zeolite. It was a scary night last night. We are fine now. No more latex basketballs. The end

A child’s view of parental alienation

From a child’s perspective:⁠

Mom/Dad tells me I can’t see my other parent because they’re bad and they’ve done all these bad things, but I don’t understand why they’d do that. I always felt happy to be with them and I miss them. It hurts when I’m not allowed to see them. Why can’t I have both my parents like before? Why can’t I see both my parents like my mom/dad does? They’re angry with my mom/dad, but I’m not … although the things I hear are really upsetting. ⁠

I remember when we did things together – like picnics and playing games. Now it’s just me and Mom/Dad. They say the other parent doesn’t care about me, but I can’t believe that’s true. Surely that’s not right! They used to laugh with me and hug me. It’s confusing because the stories I hear are so different from what I remember. It’s like my Mom/Dad I miss so much has always been a monster, and I didn’t know it. All the time, I had no idea how bad they really were, and I can’t get my head around it. I’ve kind of lost all the good memories too because I didn’t know the truth of what they have been all this time. It’s so sad. ⁠

I try to understand it all, but it’s hard. I want to ask questions, but I’m scared it’ll make Mom/Dad angry or sad. Sometimes I hear them talking about court or lawyers, and I don’t know why. I wish I could tell them that I love both of them and want to see Mom/Dad too. It feels like a secret I’m not supposed to say out loud.⁠

I don’t know why everything changed. I don’t want to think that one of my parents is bad. It’s like my heart is split in two, and I want things to go back to how they used to be. I wish I could understand why this is happening. I don’t think I can cope with thinking about it anymore. I’m just going to have to cut off because it’s too hard and upsetting. I do believe what my Mom/Dad says. Why would they lie to me? They are doing all they can to protect me from all this.

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Reconnection Trauma & Trust /Charlie McCarthy

The short answer is: Yes, relationships can be restored.

The longer answer is that, speaking from personal and professional experience, rebuilding trust (the love is there, just dormant/suppressed/disallowed) after experiencing parental alienation and the subsequent trauma can be a challenging journey for both the parent and the child. Many of us are so thrilled when we have communication and contact again, that we get our hopes up, giddily high. It’s obviously amazing to get to that point, having suffered the loss of our children from our lives, and so unjustly, but the road ahead can still (not always) be a winding one with some twists, turns and speedbumps along the way.

Here is some guidance that I hope will help:

Remember that healing is a unique and individual process for each family. Acknowledge and celebrate small milestones in the healing/reconciliation process. Recognise and appreciate the positive moments that signify progress.

Recognise and validate the emotional pain caused by parental alienation. It’s crucial to acknowledge the trauma both you and your child have endured.

Gain a deeper understanding of parental alienation, its effects, and strategies for overcoming it. Educate friends, family, and professionals involved in the child’s life to create a supportive network.

Where it might help things along, engage with mental health professionals who specialise in trauma, family dynamics and have a firm understanding of ‘parental alienation’ (though they might not want to mention those words out loud as they’re loaded and potentially insulting/upsetting to the child.

Consistency in your actions and words is crucial. Demonstrate reliability and a commitment to rebuilding the relationship by being present and involved in your child’s life. Understand that rebuilding trust is a gradual process. Be patient and set realistic expectations for yourself and your child. Avoid rushing the reconciliation process.

Create an environment where open and honest communication is encouraged. Both parties need to express their feelings, fears, and hopes without judgment. However, I would suggest that the child speaks more fully. It can even be that, years down the line, the child is unable to accept that anyone but them was the victim. They have endured a hell of a lot of ‘programming’ in that alienation period. It’s heavy with guilt, shame, anger, grief … let them unload (this isn’t easy) in a ‘safe space’ with you, one where your child feels emotionally secure. It might have to be neutral ground at first. And let them not fear retribution and anger. Do all you can to give them a sounding board, empathy, patience and love.

I hope you enjoy our daily posts, offering guidance. Reach out if I can help you with the coaching I offer.

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