Tag: Narcissist

War Vet Brains in kids of Alienation Conflict

A groundbreaking study using brain scans has revealed a disturbing parallel: children exposed to intense family conflict show brain changes similar to those found in combat veterans. That’s right — the emotional warfare inside a home can mimic the neurological toll of literal battlefield trauma.

Researchers found that kids who witness chronic yelling, aggressive arguments, or domestic tension have altered brain activity in areas linked to fear, stress, and emotional regulation. These are the same brain regions often affected in soldiers returning from war zones.

The amygdala, a part of the brain responsible for processing threats and fear, becomes hypersensitive, constantly on alert. Meanwhile, the prefrontal cortex, which helps manage emotions and make rational decisions, often becomes underdeveloped or impaired. This combination can lead to long-term emotional difficulties, anxiety, or even PTSD-like symptoms later in life.

What makes this even more alarming is that many families underestimate the impact of loud fights or emotional tension on children. But the science is clear: a child’s brain is shaped by the emotional climate they grow up in.

This discovery highlights the urgent need for family therapy, safe environments, and emotional education to protect developing minds. Just because there are no visible bruises doesn’t mean the damage isn’t real.

#DidYouKnow #ChildPsychology #BrainFacts #MindMirror #FamilyHealth #TraumaScience

The Freedom Exodus

I read that this was coming before COVID ;

that relationships would end and a mass

migration would result .

I spoke of the patriarchal system going

after women’s reproductive rights to a

guy who reminded me of my warning

as they reversed Roe vs Wade

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Alienators are mentally ill

People who are mentally stable—who feel balanced, happy, and secure, and who love and are loved—don’t engage in alienating behaviour. They don’t need to overpower or control others. Alienating behaviours typically stem from fear, unhealed wounds, selfishness, and narcissism. It is rooted in deep insecurity, entitlement, and a relentless need to dominate or punish for perceived wrongs to their ego/character. Narcissistic people lack empathy, guilt, and remorse. They exploit those around them and justify their most harmful actions.⁠

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Alienating parents don’t care about the feelings, needs, or well-being of others—even their own children—unless it serves them. Their relationships are purely transactional. They exploit and manipulate those around them, presenting a charming and sweet façade when they want something, but discarding or punishing people when they’re no longer useful. To the sociopathic character, true kindness is weakness. They see others as pawns in their game, people to use, control, or discard when necessary.⁠

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There is always a price to pay for remaining entangled with an abusive person, and the best approach is to distance ourselves as soon as possible. But beyond distancing, we can empower ourselves by understanding how they operate. Their behaviour is highly manipulative, but also predictable. Their motivation is entirely self-serving. Their needs, wants, and desires are paramount. They have no equal—they feel superior, beyond reproach, and above the law. They will not hear or believe anything that contradicts their worldview. They do not apologise or admit fault. Instead, they twist reality to suit themselves, projecting blame onto others/the target parent. They build themselves up by tearing others down. They fabricate allegations, lie without hesitation, and manipulate conflicts to get what they want.

Unfortunately, those caught in their web often accept whatever ‘crumbs’ they offer because it provides temporary relief, creating the illusion that they might change. But they don’t change. Their anger is a means of control. Their lies and blame-shifting serve to deflect from their own behaviour. Their favourite subject? Themselves. Their friends? People who can boost their image or serve a purpose/enable. Criticism is intolerable. To them, the rules do not apply—they break them, rewrite them, and twist the truth without a second thought.

Remember, the behaviour of the alienating parent is not a reflection of your worth or abilities as a parent. Continue to stand firm in your love for your child, and seek out the support you need to navigate this challenging journey. Reach out if I can help you with the coaching I offer.

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