Tag: grandparents

Suddenly you were my everything

Exactly how I felt, knowing the exquisite, love of our 1st born , triggered his Dad , and much abuse of both of us proceeded .

However I have been targeted as the “ evil “ monster , and the distortion has destroyed our mother child relationship ..

That’s not acceptable to Divine ,whose got her hands on the steering wheel and will correct the abuser , who has never heard me on the effects of his distorted acts on our children and grandchildren . So glad to have as much closure as possible on my own, and to have healed through tremendous challenges , and this clears the generational abuses and traumas .

The age of the grandparent has arrived

The ratio of grandparents to children is higher than ever before. Discover how longer lifespans and changing family structures are reshaping grandparenting | International
— Read on www.economist.com/international/2023/01/12/the-age-of-the-grandparent-has-arrived

Let them – Elders Parents message to their children

When Parents Grow Old!

Let them grow old with the same love that they let you grow… Let them speak and tell repeated stories with the same patience and interest that they heard yours as a child… Let them overcome, like so many times when they let you win… Let them enjoy their friends just as they let you… Let them enjoy the talks with their grandchildren, because they see you in them… Let them enjoy living among the objects that have accompanied them for a long time, because they suffer when they feel that you tear pieces of this life away… Let them be wrong, like so many times you have been wrong and they didn’t embarrass you by correcting you…

LET THEM LIVE and try to make them happy the last stretch of the path they have left to go; give them your hand, just like they gave you their hand when you started your path!

Grandmother – Granddaughter – Child Psychological Abuse

My grandchildren just left and it’s so sad .I know it’s hard on any mother or father that going through this and the rest of the family .my grandchildren were brain washed into thinking their mom didn’t love them and she didn’t want them . My grand daughter told her mom today that she was going to leave something here that belonged to her so her mom wouldn’t forget her .I told her straight up that her mom has always wanted her and her brother. I left it at that I don’t know what else to say or do . We
Are grow up we know the truth of the matter but these children hasn’t had a choice in what they believe it was forced on them .my granddaughter doesn’t understand . She back talks her mom calls her names . Gives her a real hard time while they are here but when it’s time for them to leave my granddaughter can’t talk because she’s crying so hard . It hard on us but imagine the children’s feelings . They believe what has been forced in their little minds anyone that could do this to a child should not be allowed around children period . Myself I’m trying to have something done about this it’s not fair that the innocent have to pay for this .

Granny wisdom

“Grandma, how do you cope with pain?”

“With your hands, honey.

If you do it with your mind instead of relieving the pain, it toughens even harder.”

“With your hands grandma?”

“Yes, our hands are the antennae of our soul.

If you move them; knitting, cooking, painting, playing or sinking them into the ground, you send care signs to the deepest part of you and your soul lights up because you’re paying attention to it.

Then signs of pain will no longer be necessary.”

“Hands are really that important?”

“Yes my daughter. Think of babies: they start to know the world through the touch of their hands.

If you look at the hands of old people, they tell you more about their life then any body part. Everything that is done by hand is said to be done with the heart.

Because it’s really like this: hands and heart are connected.

Masseurs know well: when they touch someone with their hands, they create a deep connection.

It is precisely from this connection that healing comes.

Think of lovers: when they touch their hands, they make love in a more sublime way.”

“My hands grandma…. how long I haven’t used them like this!”

“Move them, my love.

Begin to create with them and everything within you will begin to move.

The pain will not pass away.

And instead what you do with them will become the most beautiful masterpiece and it won’t hurt anymore.

Because you have been able to transform its essence.. 💕💕💕

Elena Bernabe

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Mother in Law

The war never ended from her possession of her son . I gave up after years of trying ; once sitting with her and stating that it was ok if she didn’t care for me , that we could have some semblance of a relationship. She replied ” as a Christian, I’ve never met anyone that I didn’t like ” .

I understood her from that point on and witnessed her get hands on and loving towards our sons when someone was watching .

She was abusive to me openly and it was witnessed and he said nothing in my defense for it was very uncalled for .

I watched her smack at her 90 year old Mother’s hands for getting flour on the floor when making biscuits!

I believe her eldest children experienced a lot of trauma at her hands and he alluded to my having no idea .

I believe he found his Dad weak to her as she called him Mr _____ and he allowed her to rule . As he faded out , she lamented the place’s they would not be able to travel and her health challenges but how she couldn’t do her thing for taking care of him . His obit declared her a Daughter of the Eastern Star and he a 32nd degree Mason which I was unaware of ! Why the secret ?

She talked so sweetly to her daughters and never once had that tone with me .

Inviting her and sister in law to cook outs at our home stopped when the 4 huddled in one area as if too good to mingle with my parents.

My Mom’s Mom died close to Thanksgiving and we were eating at her house and as she said the prayer my Mom began to cry and had to leave the table , which was met with shame from her and I was so stunned I just sat there .

So as his partner and confidant I was used as leverage and as his ” crazy” drugged and vulnerable wife whom he just offered was sick or didn’t want to attend a family function , when he was ready to jump in with the new supply, she was totally supportive and our sons became possessions that could not betray her or their Dad by being in anyway supportive or compassionate toward me .

Mother in laws , aunts and wives have assumed the mother toll, discouraging any healing or connection with me as they admire her wealth and longevity. She is quite an artist and I’ve been told of her abuse towards our sons that was uncalled for .

I’m sure she feels she has a place in Heaven but to me she is demonic and hides under her know it all attitude and money/power .

I long ago allowed her to know I was not impressed and found the bond between she and her son unholy . He’s attached to her so deeply and it proved to destroy his relationship with his twin , another 20 years of leveraging a woman to get Mom’s favor and execute her finances !

God only knows what he’s pocketed , for anything he touches and wants belongs to him .

What a house of cards !!!

Mother In Law – Ted Talks

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Waiting for an Opening , and much needed change ( abused parent-child)

Unfortunately, too often alienated parents are told to ‘wait for their kid to come around someday.’ Even more unfortunate, too many parents listen to that.
I was an alienated child. Then an alienated ADULT child. Still a child nonetheless. I know what your minor and adult child actually wants–a relationship with you. Despite all the negative things they say and do, they actually want their parent. They want to love and be loved by you. But guess what? When parents decide to wait around & then stop showing up for their alienated child, this sends a counterproductive message to the child, which adds to their confusion. In short, if you want to reunite with your child, it is going to take a lot more than simply waiting around. Not sure where to go from here? Luckily, I have a webinar and in-depth program for parents who want to learn what it takes to reunite with an adult child. I reunited with my dad as an adult, and he and I (and his grandchildren) got to experience the relationship we always deserved.
All you have to do is click the link below to get started- it starts with you. Let’s go get your [adult] kids back.🧡💪🏼https://www.consciouscoparentinginstitute.com/reunited-replay/