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Dr Craig Childress PsyD : Diagnoses Breakthrough 🎊 Child Phycological Abuse

I’ve been thinking…

Now that I have the three DSM-5 Diagnoses seminars up on my YouTube channel, 1) the DSM-5 Diagnosis, 2) Diagnosing a Persecutory Delusion, and 3) Diagnosing a Factitious Disorder Imposed on the Child, I know what my next Diagnosis Chapter is…

4) Diagnosing Child Abuse

Because the forensic custody evaluators never diagnosed the child abuse – they never diagnosed anything, they do something different of their own devising – they put all the legal professionals to sleep… like things weren’t that important.

This is child abuse. We need an accurate diagnosis in six to eight weeks.

Which means the legal system must respond much-much more quickly… however we also need the psychologists to conduct the clinical diagnostic assessments.

Parents and the courts can ask for a diagnostic assessment of the family conflict as much as you want, if the psychologists don’t do that then it’s not available.

A diagnostic assessment is being withheld from parents and the courts for the personal financial gain of the forensic custody evaluators.

I’m in the AFCC now. I’ll be encountering the forensic custody evaluators there, and they’ll be encountering me.

Paradigms are changing. It’s not incremental change, it’s transformational change. Forensic custody evaluations are entirely leaving – bye-bye – a failed experiment on parents and children.

Clinical psychology is returning, diagnosis and treatment.

All mental health professionals have duty to protect obligations. This is child abuse – and spousal abuse of the targeted parent by the allied using the child, and the child’s induced pathology, as the spousal abuse weapon.

Duty to protect obligations are active – we need to get a proper risk assessment with an accurate diagnosis within six to eight weeks.

Since it will be a disputed diagnosis, each litigant-parent should be allowed to appoint a consultant to participate in the diagnostic assessment sessions through telehealth.

The ONLY cause of the child’s symptoms – a child seeking to flee a parent; a directional change in a primary motivational system – is child abuse by one parent or the other.

We need a clinical diagnostic assessment for child abuse to the appropriate differential diagnoses for each parent. How do we assess for child abuse?

That’s what I’ll explain in the next seminar: Diagnosing Child Abuse.

I served as the Clinical Director for a three-university assessment and treatment center for children ages 0-to-5 in foster care, CPS was our primary referral source.

I’ve personally treated all four forms of child abuse, and I have lead the treatment teams for all forms of child abuse that have included CPS social worker involvement.

I should describe how to assess for child abuse.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 71538481

OR 3942 – CA 18857

Mother

We can hold the grief and sadness of not having that Mom… or we can heal those wounds and try to see her humanely . I regret that lost the ability to heal while she was still in her body .

It’s very difficult to acknowledge that our children are so detached from feeling anything but hatred … I’ve accessed my part ( that I’m aware of ) and amassed the varied influences that lead to alienation , fear , hatred and detachment.

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A child’s view of parental alienation

From a child’s perspective:⁠

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Mom/Dad tells me I can’t see my other parent because they’re bad and they’ve done all these bad things, but I don’t understand why they’d do that. I always felt happy to be with them and I miss them. It hurts when I’m not allowed to see them. Why can’t I have both my parents like before? Why can’t I see both my parents like my mom/dad does? They’re angry with my mom/dad, but I’m not … although the things I hear are really upsetting. ⁠

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I remember when we did things together – like picnics and playing games. Now it’s just me and Mom/Dad. They say the other parent doesn’t care about me, but I can’t believe that’s true. Surely that’s not right! They used to laugh with me and hug me. It’s confusing because the stories I hear are so different from what I remember. It’s like my Mom/Dad I miss so much has always been a monster, and I didn’t know it. All the time, I had no idea how bad they really were, and I can’t get my head around it. I’ve kind of lost all the good memories too because I didn’t know the truth of what they have been all this time. It’s so sad. ⁠

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I try to understand it all, but it’s hard. I want to ask questions, but I’m scared it’ll make Mom/Dad angry or sad. Sometimes I hear them talking about court or lawyers, and I don’t know why. I wish I could tell them that I love both of them and want to see Mom/Dad too. It feels like a secret I’m not supposed to say out loud.⁠

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I don’t know why everything changed. I don’t want to think that one of my parents is bad. It’s like my heart is split in two, and I want things to go back to how they used to be. I wish I could understand why this is happening. I don’t think I can cope with thinking about it anymore. I’m just going to have to cut off because it’s too hard and upsetting. I do believe what my Mom/Dad says. Why would they lie to me? They are doing all they can to protect me from all this.

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No closure

THE HARDEST TRUTH IS ACCEPTING THAT THEY JUST DON’T CARE ANYMORE

It’s hard, isn’t it? Waiting for a reply that never comes. Watching your messages sit there, unanswered. You keep telling yourself they’re just busy—or maybe they forgot. You check your phone a hundred times, hoping, praying for even a single word. But nothing.

And then it hits you. They’re not busy. They didn’t forget. They’re just not interested anymore.

You replay every conversation in your head, wondering what you did wrong—where it all started to fade. You remember how they used to reply so quickly, how their messages felt warm, full of life. Now, there’s only silence.

It’s painful to realize that someone who once made you feel special now treats you like you don’t exist. It’s like you’re holding onto memories of a person who’s already moved on. And the worst part? They don’t even care that you’re still waiting, still hoping.

So here you are, staring at your phone, trying to accept the truth. They’re not coming back. They’ve chosen to let you go—without saying a word.

And maybe it’s time for you to let go too, as hard as it is. Because you deserve someone who won’t make you question if you’re worth their time. Someone who will reply because they want to, not because they feel they have to.

Being fair to her

If you think her reactions are always excessive or out of place, maybe it’s time to look at yourself.

A woman doesn’t just become difficult or hot-headed for no reason; most of the time, it’s a reaction to the way you treat her.

Are you focusing on every little flaw of hers? Do you point out her mistakes while ignoring your own? When was the last time you really took a hard look in the mirror and asked yourself if you’re being fair to her?

She’s not the problem if all you’re showing her is disrespect, neglect, or indifference. You can’t just judge her like that when your own behavior is left unchecked.

If you want a woman to love you fully, you need to take care of her trust and respect. In the end, she’s not looking for perfection. She just wants to feel valued by you, in both words and actions. Maybe the reason you think she’s toxic is because you haven’t yet understood the importance of being a responsible partner.

Hold my hand

Will you… hold my hand for a little while?

I don’t need you to save me.

No need for you to fix anything.

No need for you to carry my pain.

But will you simply hold my hand?

I don’t need your words,

Your thoughts,

Nor your shoulders to carry me.

But will you sit here for a while with me?

Whilst my tears stream,

Whilst my heart shatters,

Whilst my mind plays tricks on me,

Will you, with your presence, let me know that I am not alone, while I wander into my inner unknown?

For my darkness is mine to face,

My pain is mine to feel,

And my wounds are mine to heal.

But will you sit with me here, while I courageously show up for it all, my dear?

For I am bright because of my darkness,

Beautiful because of my brokenness,

And strong because of my tender heart.

But will you take my hand lovingly when I sometimes journey into the dark?

I don’t ask for you to take my darkness away,

I don’t expect you to brighten my day,

And I don’t believe you can mend my pain.

But I would surely love it if you could sit for a while and hold my hand, until I find my way out of my shadowland!

So, will you… hold my hand until I return again?

Final Separation

I have long been over the connection with X and certainly over my abandonment issues . In discussing this passionately due to the varied legal/business and psychological aspects, I guess others could infer that I am still connected to X .

That’s so not true

The Final Separation between partners after a long relationship is difficult, not just emotionally but also physiologically.

Throughout the relationship, even one with problems, both individuals activate neural networks that produce chemical neurotransmitters and peptides, giving their experiences a certain emotional tone and reinforcing their personalities.

The two become so accustomed to the relationship that, even when they decide to end it, they cannot immediately destroy the neural connections and chemical attachments between them.

After the breakup, memories of their experiences remind the body that it is now deprived of its usual chemical stimulation.

The pain of ending a relationship can be caused by the interruption of a neurological habit.

Considering the chemistry of emotional dependence, it’s no surprise that so many couples break up, reunite, and then repeat the cycle.

We may separate from others, but we remain chemically dependent on the emotional states generated by the relationship, at least for a period of time.

When we feel a certain attraction toward a partner, we are convinced that they are the right one for us.

However, most of the time, the person we are drawn to reflects the unresolved emotional wounds we carry.

Often, when we feel a strong attraction to someone, it’s not just hormones at play- we are intuitively drawn to partners because we subconsciously believe they will help us resolve our emotional issues, even ones we are unaware of.

The more abandoned we feel, the more we are attracted to people who tend to abandon those who care about them.