Internet

I spent an hour in the bank with my dad,

as he had to transfer some money. I couldn’t resist

myself and asked…

”Dad, why don’t we activate your internet banking?”

”Why would I do that?” He asked…

”Well, then you wont have to spend an hour here for

things like making a transfer.

You can even do your shopping online. Everything will

be so easy!”

I was so excited about initiating him into the world of

Net banking.

He asked ”If I do that, I wont have to step out of the

house?”

”Yes, yes”! I said. I told him how even groceries can

be delivered at your door now and how amazon

delivers everything!

His answer left me tongue-tied.

He said ”Since I entered this bank today, I have met

four of my friends, I have chatted awhile with the staff

who know me very well by now.

You know, I am alone…this is the company that I need.

I like to get ready and come to the bank. I have

enough time, it is the physical touch that I crave.

Two years back, I got sick. The store owner from whom

I buy fruits, came to see me and sat by my bedside

and cried.

When your Mom fell down a few days back while on

her morning walk, our local grocer saw her and

immediately got his car to rush her home as he knows

where I live.

Would I have that ‘human’ touch if everything became

online?

Why would I want everything delivered to me and force

me to interact with just my computer?

I like to know the person that I’m dealing with and not

just the ‘seller’. It creates bonds of Relationships.

Does Amazon deliver all this as well?”’

Technology isn’t life..

Spend time with people .. Not with devices.

Writer: Unknown

May be a cartoon of one or more people

Alcohol

I went to a play date the other day at someone’s house. Almost the moment I stepped through the front door, the mom giggled “Mimosa time!” and my body froze up.

I wasn’t prepared for this.

Most times, when I’m heading to a social gathering, I have time to prepare. I mentally prepare, I physically prepare (I always bring a kombucha with me), I emotionally prepare.

I think about what I will say when someone asks why I’m not drinking. I think about how deep I want to get in the conversation — because some days I’m ready to go there, and other days I want to talk about anything BUT that.

Today, because I was so caught off guard, I probably looked like a deer in headlights. I almost said “Yes” and thought about just pretending to sip it. But I said “Not right now, I’m good thank you” and the conversation veered to something else.

But it came up again about 15 minutes later. And again another 15 minutes later. And I was practically banging my head against the wall mentally thinking “why don’t I just tell her I don’t drink?”

But I didn’t. I was afraid she would think I wasn’t fun. I was afraid she wouldn’t want to have more play dates with me.

I read a meme yesterday that said “I determine my kids play dates by which mom I want to drink wine with”.

Being alcohol free can truly feel ostracizing. And it’s strange to think that alcohol is the only drug that we have to explain NOT using.

Time to change the narrative. Alcohol free is a choice that should not require an explanation, embarrassment or fear of condemnation. #changethenarrative

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Childress on Gardner

Debate. I wanna debate someone sometime.

I don’t care who, I don’t care what it’s about. It can be about forensic psychology. It can be about Gardner’s PAS. It can be about AB-PA. It can be about the future of the family courts.

Forensic psychology is a failed experiment in service delivery that needs to end, and we need to return to clinical psychology – diagnosis and treatment – in the family courts.

Forensic psychology needs to end. It solves nothing and never has.

Gardner’s PAS is the worst model for a pathology ever developed in the history of humanity – the worst – in 2013 it had a full and complete review by the American Psychiatric Association and it was fully rejected as a diagnostic construct.

The Gardnerian PAS “experts” are a fringe group of mental health people (not professionals) who reject the diagnostic guidance of the American Psychiatric Association and the ethical guidance of the American Psychological Association.

Forensic psychology and Gardner’s PAS are both creations of the pathology designed to degrade the mental health response to the pathology. We need to return to clinical psychology.

We need to establish standards of practice to which ALL mental health people can be held accountable – this is the APA ethics code. Everyone – everyone – must apply exactly the same knowledge (the best) to reach exactly the same conclusions (accurate) and make exactly the same recommendations (effective).

Everyone must be held accountable to ethical standards of practice – ethical practice is not optional – it is required… mandatory… no exceptions because you think you’re “special” – everyone.

Do you want to argue that? Fine. Let’s debate. A 2-hour moderated online debate – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: The Role of Forensic and Clinical Psychology in the Family Courts – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: Does PAS Offer a Solution to Custody Conflict in the Family Courts? Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: Does AB-PA Offer a Solution to Custody Conflict in the Family Courts? Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: AB-PA vs. PAS as a Solution for the Family Courts – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: Does “Parental Alienation” Exist? – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: Are Forensic Psychology and PAS Creations of the Pathology? – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: Anything You’d Like – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

A 2-hour online moderated debate – Dr. Chidress vs. Anyone about anything. Pick the topic, pick the opponent, set the date and the platform, send me an invite… and let’s debate the issues.

Dr. Childress vs. Anyone about anything.

Bill Bernet? Jennifer Harman? Karen Woodall? Anyone?

Stahl or Simon? Susan Deutsch? Matthew Sullivan? Anyone?

Crickets is all I hear. The pathogen does not want to debate issues, it wants to hide in ignorance and apathy.

If there’s a debate… there’s clarity… and it remains online, up on the Internet for everyone to see. The pathogen does not want to be seen. They refuse to debate because they will be exposed for all to see.

I know that. They know that. I see the pathogen moving in minds that you don’t necessarily see… yet.

Forensic psychology and Gardner’s PAS are products of a pathogen – a trauma pathogen in the attachment networks – their purpose is to degrade the mental health response in the family courts.

Forensic psychology is the capture – PAS is the bait.

Find a forensic psychologist or PAS “expert” who disagrees – Debate – a 2-hour moderated online Debate: Is Forensic Psychology a Product of the Pathology it Seeks to Solve?

Find a Gardnerian “expert” who disagrees – Debate – a 2-hour moderated online Debate: Was PAS Created by the Pathology as Bait for Parents?

Topic: Is Forensic Psychology in Violation of Multiple Ethical Standards and Principles of the APA Ethics Code?

Affirmative – Dr. Childress
Negative – ? ? ? no one… because it’s true.

The forensic psychologists are exploiting a “vulnerable population” (compromised autonomy in decision-making) for their own personal financial gain. Forensic psychology is in violation of Principle D Justice protections for equal-access and equal-quality of services. Forensic psychologists are routinely and consistently in violation of Standards 2.04, 9.01, 2.01, and 3.04 of the APA ethics code, and routinely in violation of the duty to protect obligations.

Debate – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

July, 2022… I wonder how long they can hide? The pathogen loves to hide. That’s it’s first defense. It’s second defense is to seek allies. Don’t agree… let’s debate it – anywhere – anytime – anyone.

The pathogen hides… not anymore.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Narcissist Take Away Consent

Narcissists take away your consent. This can happen in many different contexts and ways. Whether it’s duping you into a relationship where their intentions are misrepresented or your resources exploited, sexually abusing you, profiting off your labor in the workplace, taking away your rights as a medical patient, or imposing upon you traumas that violate your well-being, they feel entitled to take what they want without permission. They erode your agency and ability to consent in an informed way.

#narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #sexualabuse #medicalmalpractice #shahidaarabi

Let ‘Em Go Sherrie Campbell PhD

Wednesday Wisdom

Severely character disordered people aren’t going to change. When these people are your family or someone else you love dearly, this is a hard truth to accept. It is not that these people cannot change, it is that they see no need to change.

Why would they change if they don’t value love? Their approach to relationships is to take everything for themselves so they are happy. Yet, the irony is that there is never enough of anything or anyone that satisfies their needs for happiness.

Many question ask how our toxic family members can they be so totally okay when losing a relationships with us. The answer is, they don’t see it as their loss. They see our losing a relationship with them as our loss.

They do not allow themselves to take ownerships for the truth of why we end relationships with them because they never genuinely cared about our happiness to begin with.

Let them go. Move on. Find your happiness. Live your best life while they continue to live lying to themselves.

The induced patient; yet another experience

I spent almost three decades in the system. Forced treatments caused me to lose everything. Job, home, relationships, my reputation. I was reduced to a drooling shuffling incontinente moron that couldn’t read a sentence!
I ran for my life and went through horrible withdrawals. The bipolar schizoaffective that NEVER WAS!!
I haven’t had a single episode of depression in almost 6 years since I started the withdrawal from their poisons. Rounds and rounds of ECTS. Depression was my primary symptom but the cause all of it was the treatments. By drugs by electricity by forced confinement and lies. By being treated Less than Human. I was hospitalized all most every year, sometimes several times a year.
None of that now, No hospitals, no obsessive thoughts, no symptoms!! No drugs, No mental health system!!!
I am SLOWLY recovering some of my brain. So much damage. So much loss.
I’m working part time now and I have a car.
I wouldn’t even turn the lights on when I brushed my hair when I was so drugged I could barely walk.
It’s HORRENDOUS what they do to people, what they did to me…
I tried to get a lawyer, I was so angry that I thought I could demand change.
No one would take my case.
I would still sue, if I had the chance.