Toxic Responsibility: Sherrie Campbell PhD

Pathologically selfish people prey on those of us who love to help other people. They prey on us as a matter of responsibility. Toxic people despise being responsible for themselves, so they choose people who they can manipulate into being responsible for them. This way, if anything goes wrong, they have you or someone else to blame.

Protect your heart. Protect your time and energy. It is not wise to be helpful to just anyone. If you put yourself in this position to help anyone who needs your help, you often set yourself up to be used, abused, and blamed.

Most healthy people do all they can to take full responsibility for themselves before they reach out to others for help. Toxic people do not attempt any level of responsibility, they pawn it off on those who love to help.

It is unwise to make yourself responsible for others. Not only does it stunt another person’s growth, but you exhaust yourself trying to satisfy the unsatisfiable. Hold the mindset that the healthiest and most loving thing you can do to help someone is allow them to take responsibility for themselves.