Severely character disordered people aren’t going to change. When these people are your family or someone else you love dearly, this is a hard truth to accept. It is not that these people cannot change, it is that they see no need to change.
Why would they change if they don’t value love? Their approach to relationships is to take everything for themselves so they are happy. Yet, the irony is that there is never enough of anything or anyone that satisfies their needs for happiness.
Many question ask how our toxic family members can they be so totally okay when losing a relationships with us. The answer is, they don’t see it as their loss. They see our losing a relationship with them as our loss.
They do not allow themselves to take ownerships for the truth of why we end relationships with them because they never genuinely cared about our happiness to begin with.
Let them go. Move on. Find your happiness. Live your best life while they continue to live lying to themselves.