Tag: survivors

Minnie Zola, Grandmother

I just discovered , this picture which seems to validate , that my Dad’s Dad, Warner , was a moon shine maker .

The clear liquid in the jar , equals addiction and money , and of abuse that left my beloved Grandmother , homeless, and without support , as the court found in his favor , dismissing her .. Her parents gave them the 120 acres , on which he grew corn, made moonshine , and reports of sacks of high value paper money.

He ran her away with just she could carry , fearing for her life, grieving at having to place her youngest children , and the rupture of her family .

She got nothing , but abuse, and his character assignations ..

While it did not destroy her, and her adult children and their children loved her, it altered each of them as born out in their lives, their health and deaths …

Indoctrination of Alienated / Psychologically Abused Child

These alienated children are so indoctrinated and enmeshed that they lose critical thinking skills when it comes to the ‘target’ parent. They can easily hurt our feelings and provoke a reaction from us by their words and behaviours, and we have to find the strength and calmness of mind to remember not to react in anger, not to make them feel guilty, not to talk about our feelings (hurt, anger, frustration). It only pushes them away, which is often what they’re trying to actualize because cutting off makes it easier for them when they’re under such emotional pressure. Be calm, be loving, be non-reactive. They will come up with the most unbelievable fictions. I was told once: ‘It’s not fair a parent is alone at Christmas’. This was the reason given that they never saw me! Do they forget we are parents too? No. But they ‘split’. They can’t deal with it, so they almost pretend it’s not happening. It gets buried. It is too confusing and too upsetting. That is because they do love us. They’ve been prevented from feeling it’s okay to love us and told all sorts of horror stories to make them reject us which they can perpetuate themselves. But deep down, they know the truth. It’s a matter of them finding it and setting it free.

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Choose YOU

Whenever someone acts cruelly, make a point to do something nice for yourself to neutralize it.

They’re giving you the silent treatment? Instead of waiting by your phone with a white-knuckle grip, make plans with friends, go see a movie, take a daycay, visit a family member, or go to the zoo.

Did they suddenly stop love-bombing you and went cold? So what? You can love-bomb yourself. Take yourself to a fancy dinner and order a glass of champagne. Deliver flowers to yourself. Take yourself to the salon and get your hair styled the way you like it.

Do they want you to feel small and ashamed? Instead of cowering under their glare or giving them the satisfaction, give them the ultimate Rhianna look of disgust. Look them in the eye and say, “And??”

These are all things I’ve done in past toxic relationships when I stopped jumping through hoops, auditioning for approval, and trying to make someone see how special I was.

But do you know what the ultimate power move is? Leaving. Cutting the anchor and sailing away.

It might not happen the same day or overnight, but it’s time to stop sacrificing your dignity for someone who doesn’t even deserve your attention.

Choose YOU.

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Always thinking of you,

Kim xo

Light

“Those who understand the value of light have once sat in the darkest rooms. Those of greatest faith have once lived during trials when the angels were silent. Those who have found their calling have once lived in unimaginable emptiness. The most loving have been cruelly betrayed. Many who now live in abundance once had nothing. For these souls, the world was once a terrible place, not a home. In truth, the greatest have many times been the least.

These souls are alchemists. They have asked to die in their old traumatized selves and resurrect new ones. They know the darkness but give it no energy. They have become what they themselves once needed most. Light, and they know that’s how all the suffering will stop.” – Eden Atlantis ❤️

How thyroid issues mimic mental illness

This indeed is a gift 🎁

I did have thyroid issues circa 1989

I was using raw thyroid which I bought from a health food store kept refrigerated .

The DSM at that time stated clearly that a patient with thyroid issues , should NOT be on psychotropic RX .

Psychiatric, ordered me to stop my raw thyroid , prescribed Synthroid, a synthetic , which does not address all the Ts required for a healthy thyroid . He ignored my kidney function, which had been battered with many UTIs etc

I’m allergic to metals , and many antibiotics, yet my 1st drug was Lithium , a metal , which destroyed my gut and weakened my kidneys , requiring blood work , frequently .

It’s as though he wanted me dead, or was horrifically incompetent.

I have read, and heard of others being drugged like this as well.

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Targeted parents , don’t see it coming

As target parents, we do not foresee alienation from our child/ren. That is not because we are weak, gullible, stupid or ignorant. It’s because it’s not loving behaviour, and it is not something a mentally healthy parent would do. It’s not what we would do. There may have been signs (narcissism, for one) but still, we didn’t imagine the other parent would be willing to hurt the child/ren so they could hurt us. We hoped and trusted that the child/ren would be of the highest importance. Someone told me yesterday that a judge, before taking custody of his son, said the ruling was ‘against his better judgement’. How ridiculous! If the judge thinks it’s not right, then why make the ruling? He’s a judge! That’s his actual, paid job, to use his best judgement, and not make a ruling that goes against his best judgement. This father also described receiving letters with such statements as; ‘in the best interests of the children’. What hypocrisy! Family courts should understand that a loving parent does not badmouth the other parent, and have the child aligned with them against the other parent. A loving parent encourages and supports the child/ren in having a good relationship with the other parent. They do not coerce the child into fearing, hating and rejecting the other parent. This is psychological abuse. A parent capable of engaging in parental alienation will typically refuse to see the harm they’re doing or to collaborate in any way that’s helpful or remedial. These people do not change. They have poison in their own systems, and their parenting is pathogenic. We have to do all we can, when we can, to be the opposite of the alienator. We have to stay sane, we have to remain the mentally healthy parent amidst the pathology of abuse and lies, and a corrupt/broken healthcare system and appalling family court misunderstandings, rulings and theatricals. It helps to work on ourselves, to find understanding and some kind of acceptance, to be firm/know our boundaries, to be strong, to live a fulfilling life, to stay calm and non-reactive to provocation, to be happy, and to be mentally healthy – all the things the alienating parent is not able to do or be.

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Charlie Mc Cready , The “ Child Catcher “

Do you remember the sinister Child Catcher in Chitty Chitty Bang Bang? He terrified me when I was about the same age as the brother and sister in the film, Jeremy and Jemima Potts, especially when he abducts them. The character didn’t appear in Ian Fleming’s book but was a creation of the writer of some of the greatest villains of children’s literature, Roald Dahl and the director, Ken Hugues. In his long black hat, the Child Catcher searches the streets for children with a butterfly net, luring them to him with promises of lollipops. His horsedrawn carriage is transformed into a cage as soon as the children enter it, and he carts them off to prison under the orders of the evil rulers of Vulgaria, Baron and Baroness Bomburst. Their father Caractacus along with Truly Scrumptuous finally rescue all the children, topple the evil regime, and Vulgaria becomes a free country.

In many ways, alienating parents are like child catchers, and what they do is tantamount to a kidnapping. It feels like robbery, our children were taken from us with lies instead of lollipops. But we have to be so careful about the rescue mission. First of all they have to understand they’ve effectively been enmeshed/stolen from us. It reminds me of these quotes:

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Psychosis Is an Expression of Early Childhood Trauma | Daniel Mackler – Mad In America

This is a perfect summation of trauma, born of abuses unspoken , ignored for decades , until life stressors bring it up for review and healing .

It was so with me, and I was powerless to prevent it , when medicated , I watched it going on with our sons..

With regards to myself and sons , the denial was and still is the foundation for Dad , as it has been his family code, and must be protected from exposure at all cost.

The signs have been there, and in trying to protect or get help , our family was erased and all the icky stuff , denied healing until it’s a monstrous mountain that’s impossible to surmount . Dodging the big stuff , only creates bigger stuff, and when everyone around you has unhealed trauma , denial etc , this becomes a normal set point .

We , as a family attended 1 family counseling session, and ex said he would not return.. not interested

Faith/church/religion was the same; NOT interested..

I came to know his lack of interest in me also, but I noted lack of interest in himself , and a very dark soul wound that drove his desire to be happy , elsewhere , creating a past that served his victim , survivor ” experience”

What makes psychosis confusing is that an eruption of infant trauma is expressing itself through the lens, the body, and the voice of someone who is now an adult.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/05/psychosis-is-an-expression-of-early-childhood-trauma-daniel-mackler/

Fishing with a Beloved , who exited years ago Circa 1972

She still is … a sacred part of me, much like a thread , a combination of threads, makes the cloth .

I was very thin, I had little money for food, smoked cigarettes and weed, not big on drink .

I stayed up in my head, not so comfortable in the relationship and stayed stressed out , over pretty much everything .

I adore fishing…if I’m catching 😉