Choose YOU

Whenever someone acts cruelly, make a point to do something nice for yourself to neutralize it.

They’re giving you the silent treatment? Instead of waiting by your phone with a white-knuckle grip, make plans with friends, go see a movie, take a daycay, visit a family member, or go to the zoo.

Did they suddenly stop love-bombing you and went cold? So what? You can love-bomb yourself. Take yourself to a fancy dinner and order a glass of champagne. Deliver flowers to yourself. Take yourself to the salon and get your hair styled the way you like it.

Do they want you to feel small and ashamed? Instead of cowering under their glare or giving them the satisfaction, give them the ultimate Rhianna look of disgust. Look them in the eye and say, “And??”

These are all things I’ve done in past toxic relationships when I stopped jumping through hoops, auditioning for approval, and trying to make someone see how special I was.

But do you know what the ultimate power move is? Leaving. Cutting the anchor and sailing away.

It might not happen the same day or overnight, but it’s time to stop sacrificing your dignity for someone who doesn’t even deserve your attention.

Choose YOU.

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Always thinking of you,

Kim xo

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser .. View all posts by GreatCosmicMothersUnited