Tag: Narcissist

Not who she used to be

She’s not crazy… she was abused.

She learned how to stay quiet in rooms where she should’ve been protected. She learned how to survive in love that felt more like a battlefield.

She’s not irrational…. she’s carrying pain that no one ever apologized for. The kind of pain that teaches you to question your own reality, just because someone else wanted control over it.

She’s not stupid… she was manipulated.

There’s a difference. Love-bombed, gaslit, lied to, twisted up in someone else’s brokenness. She believed words over patterns because she wanted to believe.

She was taught that love meant enduring…. so she endured. She was told it was all in her head, when really, it was all in his hands. The control, the silence, the guilt. That wasn’t stupidity. That was hope…. weaponized.

She’s not shy… she’s protecting herself.

She doesn’t trust easily anymore. She’s guarded, not because she wants to be cold, but because warmth once betrayed her. She’s quiet because her voice was once ignored. She’s observing, calculating, studying who is safe and who just pretends to be. Her silence is her shield…. not her flaw.

She’s not bitter… she’s speaking the truth.

Calling out what happened isn’t bitterness. It’s bravery. Naming the pain is healing. Holding people accountable is not holding onto hate… it’s refusing to sugarcoat the damage.

She’s not angry, she’s awake. And she’s done shrinking herself to make other people comfortable with their own wrongdoings. She’s not stuck in the past… she’s been damaged.

Trauma doesn’t live on a calendar. Healing isn’t linear. Sometimes the memory of pain walks right back into her day, uninvited. She’s not “dwelling,” she’s rebuilding. You can’t rush a heart back to wholeness. Not when it was shattered by the very hands that once held it.

She’s not delusional… she lived a nightmare.

The kind of nightmare that smiles in public and destroys you in private. The kind that no one believed because he looked charming and she looked tired. She’s not exaggerating…. she endured. She’s not dramatic…. she survived.

She’s not weak… she was trusting.

She gave people the benefit of the doubt. She believed love was enough. She forgave more than she should’ve, stayed longer than she deserved to, and loved harder than she was loved in return. That’s not weakness…. that’s humanity. She wore her heart on her sleeve in a world that keeps trying to rip it off.

She’s not giving up…

She’s healing. 💜

And that healing? It’s messy. It’s loud sometimes, and silent at others. It looks like pulling back. It looks like losing friends. It looks like crying in the shower and smiling at strangers. But it’s real. And it’s happening.

So don’t mislabel her process. Don’t mistake her silence for surrender or her tears for defeat. She’s not broken…. she’s becoming. Stronger. Softer. Smarter. Wiser. Louder. More careful. More powerful.

She’s not who she used to be… and that’s a good thing.

Man cannot handle the same hurt he gives a woman

A man can’t handle the same hurt he gives a woman—and that’s a truth most won’t admit.

She cries. Breaks down. Questions herself. Holds on longer than she should. Tries to make it work even when her heart is breaking. She carries pain in silence, forgives what she shouldn’t, and still hopes he’ll change. She fights with herself trying to understand how someone she loved so deeply could cause so much damage.

And when she finally walks away?

It’s only after carrying far more than anyone ever should.

But him?

The moment he feels a fraction of the same pain—a missed text, an unanswered call, a shift in energy—he’s spiraling. Angry. Hurt. Accusing.

He made her feel invisible… but can’t stand being ignored for a second. He gave her silence, but can’t handle it himself. He broke her trust—but suddenly, every small distance feels like betrayal.

Because when a woman starts mirroring his energy, he has no choice but to face himself. And that reflection? It’s too heavy. Too real.

Men want women to absorb pain without breaking—like strength is endless in her, while they give nothing back.

But here’s the truth:

Just because she carried it doesn’t mean it was light.

She was strong—not because she wanted to be alone—but because she had no other option.

So yes.

Men say “she changed.”

But really?

She just got tired of feeling everything—and getting nothing in return.

When a man leaves; everyone pays the price

The absence of a father is a child’s greatest disaster, not poverty or divorce. Emotionally, spiritually, and structurally, it fractures their foundation.

1. Cheating Breaks More Than Marriage

A man’s betrayal teaches his son loyalty is optional and his daughter love is unreliable, shattering their identity.

2. Women, Stop Pushing Men Out

Turning homes into battlefields and using courts to take kids isn’t motherhood—it’s manipulation backed by legal weapons.

3. Courts Enable Generational Damage

Faithful men lose everything, while emotional sabotage is rewarded with custody and praise, leaving kids fatherless.

4. Science Says Fathers Matter

Children thrive with two parents, but fathers uniquely provide structure, discipline, and identity. Only men raise men.

5. Men, Lead or Don’t Start

If you can’t commit to monogamy, don’t create a family. One moment of lust can fracture decades of lineage.

6. Kids Don’t Heal from Absence

Children don’t understand “irreconcilable differences.” They just know Dad’s gone, carrying unanswered questions into adulthood.

Final Word: Stay Revolutionary

To men tempted to leave: fight harder. To women weaponizing courts: stop.

To fathers who stay: thank you. When a father leaves, he takes the structure with him.

Much Love Ramxo ❤️