Tag: family

Personal Authority – Badmouthing the other parent .

I found myself responsible for speaking factual, unsavory information while medicated . My efforts to extract myself from his energy was ever present . Total opposites after the mirroring that he was everything , had and knew all in a non competitive way .. it was very difficult that person did not exist .

When a child hears one parent badmouth the other, or when both parents badmouth, they feel upset, anxious, angry, confused, and deeply uncomfortable. At first – unfortunately, they can grow accustomed to it. Children have attachment bonds to both parents they love and who love them. What the alienating parent is doing, with their badmouthing (lies, defamation, casting aspersions, insults etc) is damaging the child and ‘target’ parent’s relationship, whether it is wilful and completely conscious or not.

During divorce proceedings and post-divorce, parents might not be at their best. It is a highly stressful situation. Disagreements and misunderstandings can get blown out of proportion, and this isn’t helped by an adversarial legal system. But the children are also stressed at this time. What they do not need is their sense of vulnerability and anxiety being compounded by alienating behaviours such as badmouthing. It’s actually an unkind, abusive and sinister thing for a parent to do. To tell a child their other parent is unloving, unavailable, and unsafe and to repeat these aspersions until the child succumbs to them (just to make it stop) is child psychological abuse. It is traumatic.

There are subtle, covert ways the alienating parent can make the child feel they’ve lost a parent. Calling that parent by their name rather than ‘mum’ or ‘dad’ is one example. The child might start doing the same. The parent is devalued, demeaned and demoted to nothing more than a distant relative. The alienating parent may take some half-truths and exaggerate them. For example, ‘they’re lazy’ can become ‘they’re deliberately not working hard enough, so they don’t have to contribute to our financial well-being, and they’re lying about what they earn’, and ‘they don’t care about us’.

No party should disparage the other. Nor should any third party, especially within the hearing range of the child. Children should not be privy to what one parent thinks about the other. It doesn’t curb someone’s right to free speech, it’s just good parenting.

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My maternal Grandfather with his parents . Grayson Oswald Thomason

Youngest son , named his 1st son Grayson, not knowing his great grandfather shared the name .. I waited a few days to share that news.. Our sons don’t claim my side of the family , just Dad’s

#ChildPsychologicalAbuse

Professor Sam …Man Child – Narcissistic Individual

Whew!

He brought up terms I had not heard as he described the development of a person, who becomes the victim as they feed off the survivor of his unhealed trauma and considers them selves unique , one of a kind and you are nothing .

All this creates self supply as they destroy the supply out of necessity, survival in their alone in between time..alone

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Craig Childress PsyD – Pathology of Lies

Devoid of truth or light … know this all too well

This is a pathology of lies. How many times have I told you that?

Countless times – because is is true. Stop reacting like it’s unexpected. It’s not. It’s a symptom feature of the pathogen, it lies all the time. Not some of the time… all of the time.

Even when there is no reason to lie… it lies. This is a pathology of lies, the pathogen lies all the time. All. How do you know when the pathogen is lying? Its lips are moving. All the time, it lies ALL the time.

I wish I had an example from our everyday world I could show you of a narcissistic, psychopathic, manipulative Dark Triad personality who is collapsing into persectuory delusions and constant continual lies.

You know what that’s like. Your pathological ex- lies to the judge in declarations and you spend hours and hours compiling all the evidence to prove the lies. What do they do when you prove their lies are lies?

They lie again. They just don’t stop lying. It’s a symptom feature of the pathology. So are your huge mountains of evidence you’ve compiled trying to prove reality to people.

You don’t need to prove reality to me. I already know reality – you’re fine – you did nothing wrong, it’s not your fault, you’re ex-spouse is psychotic and cruel – the type of psychotic (out of touch with reality) is called a “persecutory delusion” – delusion is the professional term for the big-lie, the one at the core.

The big lie is that the child is being malevolently treated in some way by you. That’s not true, that’s a lie, that’s just crazy… the professional term for “that’s just crazy” is a delusion, in this case it’s a persecutory delusion – a fixed and false belief in supposed victimization.

I wish I had an example from everyday life I could show you. I think a real-life example would make it oh-so-clear… lying is a symptom feature of the pathogen, it lies all the time – all of it. All.

Its lips are moving… it’s lying again.

The pathogen seeks to destabilize you in every way possible. It creates a false reality of lies. You trigger… don’t trigger. Stay grounded. You’re the healthier parent, you’re the protective parent. You have work to do, you’ll need to step-up and step into leading the family.

You will face challenges because the mental health system in the family courts is immensely broken. We’ll need to fly the airplane at the same time as we fix the airplane. That’s a challenge. I’m a certified pilot, I’m here with you and will talk you through it.

We have to obtain an accurate diagnosis for the cause of the attachment pathology with you and your child. You want a treatment plan to fix it. Hold onto that and don’t let go… you want a treatment plan to fix the attachment pathology being displayed by the child.

The pathogen tells lies about you. Of course it does – it lies all the time, not some of the time… ALL the time. Even when it doesn’t have to lie… it lies. It’s the craziest thing to see… it doesn’t need to lie… but it can’t help itself… it lies all the time.

Perhaps if you look around you can find an example from our everyday life of a narcissistic, psychopathic, manipulative Dark Triad personality who lies all the time – all of it – forcing the real-world to generate mountains of detailed evidence proving the lies.

And what’s the pathogen’s response when caught – in detail – in the lie? It lies again. Expect it. Anticipate it. Don’t trigger. Don’t disprove the lies – speak the truth – it’s a shared (induced) persecutory delusion – and get an accurate diagnosis because you’ll need a treatment plan to fix the attachment pathology in your child and family – to fix the problem.

You’re the healthier parent. We need your leadership in times of chaos and collapse. You’re the protective parent. I know that and you know that. So let’s get to work protecting your child.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Human Rights Education can Shift Medical Students’ Perspectives on Psychiatry

The 80’s known as the ” society of suicide “, has numbed many folks who have no idea what human rights are legally violated , championed by the law and justice system, the Pharmaceutical Industry ( of death$$$) as its invaded every aspect of life . Erasing families , choosing to use the 1 , scapegoat, fooling, repeating the trauma , true insanity by medicating a traumatized individual , and reducing them with toxins , altering their truth and character which is denied ..

This is progress as stated below, long past due and more folks are awake to the facts .. For this I am grateful . It’s past time to get to the heart of the matter .

A new study explores how training and education centered on human rights facilitates increased awareness and advocacy for change to psychiatry in medical students.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/06/human-rights-education-can-shift-medical-students-perspectives-on-psychiatry/

Family Systems – Craig Childress , PsyD

I used this descriptive diagram of Minuchin’s Structural family diagram in my recent review of a forensic custody evaluation.

Honest to god, how lazy a psychologist do you have to be to not even learn about family systems when you’re assessing a family conflict for the court.

I have to educate them, the psychologists. I have to educate them about family pathology before I can have a professional-level discussion with them – they are ignorant like a rock – and immensely lazy and apathetic.

Easy prey on the savanna. I suspect that my presence within the herd of forensic psychologists will soon be signaled and they’ll start to panic and flee – a wild stampede.

I think you have a RICO lawsuit on them, but I’m not an attorney, just a psychologist looking at my own people’s behavior.

It looks like the parallel process may go RICO on Trump in Georgia. I’m not a lawyer – thank god – but it looks like a RICO lawsuit for professional psychology in the family courts is warranted from where I sit as psychologist, with the AFCC and APA as the deep-pocket co-conspirators, and I’d add the 50 state licensing boards all for the cover-up.

Ultimately, you can drop the APA and licensing boards, but put them on to start. If they created Guidelines for forensic custody evalutations, then they placed their imprimatur of credibility on the practice – they take responsibility for it if they support it.

The AFCC is definitely on the hook. I think the APA is too. I’d even put the licensing boards on it – it was their job to ensure competence and ethical practice – why did they fail? Pull the string – RICO.

Just the discovery alone on the AFCC and APA regarding what they know about the unethical practices in forensic psychology would be interesting – the NY Blue Ribbon Commission on Forensic Custody Evaluations found serious problems… why are the AFCC and APA unaware of these problems?

Perhaps they’re not unaware. Perhaps they’re covering up.

Deutsch? Pull the string on the Petition to the APA signed by over 20,000 parents… where did that go? Who did they give the Petition to? What did they do about the ethical violations called to their attention? Cover up.

They know. They just don’t care… until they do.

Oh well, not my worry, RICOs come and RICOs go, I’m only a lone clinical psychologist in private practice doing what I do because it’s what I do… I protect children from child abuse. I’m a trauma psychologist out of foster care, look at my vitae, I’m not from the family courts.

That’s why I’m here, this my pathology – child abuse and complex trauma. There is active child abuse in the family courts, and active spousal abuse using the child as the weapon – both undiagnosed – both untreated.

There’s active child abuse and active spousal abuse in the family courts… and no one is stopping it.

There are dark personality parents in the family courts – Dark Triad – Vulnerable Dark Triad – Dark Tetrad – the core of evil (Book et al., 2015; 2016)… undiagnosed and untreated.

Professional psychology in the family courts is a mess. It always has been, it’s just becoming visible now as their house of financial exploitation collapses.

One-by-one. I’m in the courts now, reviewing their reports one-by-one, line-by-line. I’m here to protect my kids.

I’m here to protect my children from their abusers. Not the other parent, they’re just pathological. I’m here to protect the children and the healthy parent from their psychological abuse by their betrayers – the ones who should protect… and don’t.

My people. My psychology people are the child abusers. My-oh-my, that should NEVER happen. But it has. So one-by-one I’ll protect my kids from the ignorance and incompetence of the forensic psychologists.

But then you’ll have no one. Get ready for the collapse.

The clinical psychologists have abandoned you – the pathology and family courts are too dangerous to their license. Forensic psychology has merely exploited you for your money and destroyed your life and the lives of your children.

When forensic psychology collapses (NY Blue Ribbon Commission), there will be no involvement of professional psychology in the family courts. I’d suggest you file a RICO to get the attention of the APA, AFCC, the 50 state licensing boards, and major media.

Do what you want with the lawsuit after that – once the argument is made, the point is made and you have their attention to the point you’re making.

The parents and children in the family courts deserve – deserve – competent mental health services. The court deserves – deserves – the highest caliber of professional information to rely on in making its momentous decisions affecting the lives of children.

So… let’s do that. It can be done – easy peasy – a pilot program for the family courts with university involvement for evaluation research. Develop the standardized high-quality diagnostic assessment and treatment protocols for the pathology in the family courts, layer-in early intervention – voila – done.

They’re just not motivated to solve anything. I wonder why that is?

Here’s an additional explanatory diagram to help you explain the pathology to your doctors – honest to god, they are ignorant like a rock. Ignorant, incompetent, unethical, and just plain lazy.

And their yours – your own “special” psychologists just for you. No other pathology has their own “special” psychologists… just you. Lucky you. Why is that?

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY18857

Sherri Campbell PhD

Absolutely correct , it’s been ongoing for decades .. I’ve don’t my work to extract myself from their blasphemy . I tend to think they prefer playing the victim , I’m told friends of sons think me dead. The woman I was certain ,no longer exist , due to the alienation and continued abuse that they laughed at , competitively winning is vital..So lying about me, distorting my words is a fun game , nothing more .

Damage done , it’s time to reap what’s been sewn .

One of the key goals of a smear campaign is to gather anyone and everyone to believe a false narrative being told about you. The reason this is the goal is because it separates you from everyone important and not important to you.

Emotionally abusive family members want to make sure you will be left without any support system. They have an impeccable ability to triangulate others into abusing and ostracizing you. They build a false narrative to make them look innocent and as if they are being abused by you.

The natural impulse you will have will be to defend yourself; to right the wrongs. As counterintuitive as this may seem, your truth will more effectively come out through being non-defensive, quiet and non-reactive to what they are doing and saying. To accomplish this, you must focus more on moving on with your new life than with the lies being told about you in the old life.