Tag: trauma

Medical aging

I began noticing this around the birth of 3rd son and it really bothered me . Upon hearing the words of an Austrian “ healer “ , who told me 13 years ago “ you have birthed 3 sons, your job is done , you can die . I realized that was the subliminal message from most of the medical community . Dismissed

A judge ruled that “ a child does not need its Mother , after aged 7 “, and I felt that was in retaliation to the women’s movement .

How very stupid , ignorant and sexist and now as it recalibrates, with King Trump , the repressive , depressive at the help , we get to walk it back .

Remembering and Releasing . Making room for what we need now , what we earned , pulling Heaven to Earth

My body houses my soul and my spirit ❤️

I did not write this but think all should read it.

I didnt ask for my body to fail.
My favorite quote from my doctor was, “it can’t really be that bad if you are still working and doing everything you do. “ I told him I didn’t know I had a choice. 🤷🏻‍♀️
Years in pain, tired and the many changes in me for no reason or apparent reason … Hiding everything from someone else, pretending to be doing better than you are; until it no longer works. No matter how strong you want to be.

Then the moment comes when they tell you what you have … You have mixed feelings: you finally know what you have, but how do you deal with it?
Lack of encouragement, wanting to lie down, taking medication frequently; having a whole pharmacy on top of the nightstand.

Then, the daily responses, “Why did you get so fat?” “I have this great diet, if you just go out and exercised.
That once beautiful hair of yours now awful and it falls out.
What happened to you??….
This is all true and that’s why I’m sharing it!

Silent and invisible diseases do exist …
When you have an invisible disease it is difficult to argue from your perspective with ignorant people.
Life takes a lot of turns !!!

Tired of being told:

  • Did you go to the doctor?
  • Have you tried this?
  • Have you tried that?
  • I don’t know what else we can do for you…

Yes! I tried and still try everything !!!
Doctors say this disease is forever. That I will not heal. However, I am not giving up, but I want to make others realize:

  • A nap will not cure me but it will help me …
  • I am not lazy, I take medication and it sometimes makes me sleepy.
  • I am not angry but sometimes cranky with pain.
  • I struggle daily with pain, mobility problems, fatigue, the criticism of my environment.

Most frustratingly, people look at me and say, “It can’t be that bad; you look good “
Despite the fact that my body is experiencing excruciating pain everywhere, of course I look good, I always try to look good, it is an “invisible” disease.

This disease affects me physically, mentally and emotionally. Because rare autoimmune diseases cannot be seen, but we feel them.

And they are there … Silent attack but extra painful.

I AM LOOKING AT THOSE WHO TAKE TIME TO READ THIS POST TO THE END.

The following request is sent to the post:
Please, for me and in honor of someone who fights against:

-ALS
-Ankylosing Spondylitis
-Lupus
-MS
-POTS
-Dysautonomia
-Crohn’s Disease

  • Ménière’s Disease
    -Addisons Disease
    -Hashimotos Disease
    -Graves Disease
    -FND
    -Depression
    -Anxiety
    -Autoimmune disease
    -Sjogrens syndrome
    -Polycystic ovary syndrome.
    -Kidney Desease
    -Rheumatoid arthritis.
    -Chronic pain
    -Endometriosis.
    -migraines
    -Multiple sclerosis.
    -Myasthenia gravis.
    -Pulmonary hypertension.
    -Epstein Barr syndrome.
    -Chronic fatigue syndrome.
    -Diabetes
    -Fibromyalgia.
    -Raynaud and Scleroderma.
    -Neuralgia of the trigeminal
    -Epilepsy
    -Cancer
    -Hypothyroidism
    -Arachnoiditis
    -NEAD
    -Vasculitis
    -Neuropathy
    Lymphedema
    -Alpha 1 antitrypsin deficiency
    -Traumatic brain injury
    or some other disease you can’t see

I would like 5 of my friends to post (not share) this message to show that you are always there when that someone needs to talk.

In support of a friend, a family member who is fighting any of these diseases. Just say “done”❤️

Toxic Women

She’s toxic, right? That’s the story you’re telling everyone now… but let’s back up for a second. Was she toxic when she gave you her trust, completely and without hesitation? Was she toxic when she believed every word you said, even when her gut told her something wasn’t right? Was she toxic when she kept choosing you, over and over, even after you showed her why she shouldn’t?

Or did she become “toxic” after you broke her spirit?

After the lies you told… after the nights she cried herself to sleep wondering why she wasn’t enough… after the silent treatments, the manipulation, the disrespect, the gaslighting. After the texts from other women. After you made her feel like she was losing her mind for reacting to the things you were actually doing. You didn’t just hurt her…you rewired her.

She wasn’t toxic. She was tired.

She stayed through heartbreak after heartbreak, still hoping you’d change, still trying to love you through the damage. But the more she stayed, the more pieces of herself she lost. And when she finally started snapping… when the love turned into survival… suddenly, she’s the problem?

No. You don’t get to break a woman down and then call her crazy for not being whole.

You don’t get to paint her as bitter or unstable when all she ever wanted was loyalty, effort, and truth.

The truth is, you damaged someone who would have given you the world. And now you want sympathy because she’s no longer soft with you? You didn’t just lose a good woman. You turned her into someone she never wanted to be. That’s not toxicity… that’s trauma. And it came from you.

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Alienators are mentally ill

People who are mentally stable—who feel balanced, happy, and secure, and who love and are loved—don’t engage in alienating behaviour. They don’t need to overpower or control others. Alienating behaviours typically stem from fear, unhealed wounds, selfishness, and narcissism. It is rooted in deep insecurity, entitlement, and a relentless need to dominate or punish for perceived wrongs to their ego/character. Narcissistic people lack empathy, guilt, and remorse. They exploit those around them and justify their most harmful actions.⁠

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Alienating parents don’t care about the feelings, needs, or well-being of others—even their own children—unless it serves them. Their relationships are purely transactional. They exploit and manipulate those around them, presenting a charming and sweet façade when they want something, but discarding or punishing people when they’re no longer useful. To the sociopathic character, true kindness is weakness. They see others as pawns in their game, people to use, control, or discard when necessary.⁠

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There is always a price to pay for remaining entangled with an abusive person, and the best approach is to distance ourselves as soon as possible. But beyond distancing, we can empower ourselves by understanding how they operate. Their behaviour is highly manipulative, but also predictable. Their motivation is entirely self-serving. Their needs, wants, and desires are paramount. They have no equal—they feel superior, beyond reproach, and above the law. They will not hear or believe anything that contradicts their worldview. They do not apologise or admit fault. Instead, they twist reality to suit themselves, projecting blame onto others/the target parent. They build themselves up by tearing others down. They fabricate allegations, lie without hesitation, and manipulate conflicts to get what they want.

Unfortunately, those caught in their web often accept whatever ‘crumbs’ they offer because it provides temporary relief, creating the illusion that they might change. But they don’t change. Their anger is a means of control. Their lies and blame-shifting serve to deflect from their own behaviour. Their favourite subject? Themselves. Their friends? People who can boost their image or serve a purpose/enable. Criticism is intolerable. To them, the rules do not apply—they break them, rewrite them, and twist the truth without a second thought.

Remember, the behaviour of the alienating parent is not a reflection of your worth or abilities as a parent. Continue to stand firm in your love for your child, and seek out the support you need to navigate this challenging journey. Reach out if I can help you with the coaching I offer.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach