Tag: trauma

Quality of Mom’s happiness has most effects on baby/child thriving

I had to consider my Mom , who was someone I tried to avoid due to her moods and distance …

Sad 😢

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Rediscovering yourself – Ending daily trauma with a Narcissist/ Gabor Mate’

Yes 💯🙌🙏❤️

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Unwanted things

I think there is something about people who were abused/neglected as kids that makes us embrace things that others consider monstrous. i dont think its a coincidence most of us like “creepy” animals like rats and crows. i dont think its a coincidence that we are the first to jump to the defense of “worthless” plants like dandelions. its why we get so attached to old toys and broken things. when you spend your whole life believing you’re not wanted, it turns you into a defender of the other unwanted things in the world. and you’re not just protecting them – you’re protecting the part of yourself that still believes you deserve to exist. just like they do. just like we all do.

Love yourself deeper than the pain of abuse ; you’re worth it

THIS IS FOR ANYONE WHO HAS SUFFERED FROM AN ABUSIVE AND NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP!

I know you went through all of it:

The pain.

The fights.

The screaming.

The gaslighting.

The guilt-tripping.

The threats.

The manipulations.

The emotional abuse.

The trauma.

The affairs.

Even worse, the physical abuse.

You called it love but the person who put you through this made you believe you’re being delusional. They made you think you’re the problem and that it’s your fault why the relationship failed.

You begged for them to stay.

You sent long texts and called a hundred times — but they never answered.

You had to throw away your dignity because you’d rather lose yourself than lose someone you love.

You cried for weeks and months, but there’s nothing else you could do to change what happened.

You went through hell but they just don’t care at all.

I hear you. I see you. I know how it felt because I’ve been there.

I want to remind you that this pain will not last forever. You didn’t do anything wrong for demanding to be treated right. They’re just not meant for you.

I swear that someday, you will heal, my love.

Please don’t blame yourself for loving deeper than the pain they gave you.

You are worth it and that will never change even after everything you’ve been through.

Please remember these words all too well.

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Survivors

“Some people survive and talk about it. Some people survive and go silent. Some people survive and create. Everyone deals with unimaginable pain in their own way, and everyone is entitled to that, without judgement. So the next time you look at someone’s life covetously, remember…you may not want to endure what they are enduring right now, at this moment, whilst they sit so quietly before you, looking like a calm ocean on a sunny day. Remember how vast the ocean’s boundaries are. Whilst somewhere the water is calm, in another place in the very same ocean, there is a colossal storm.” – Nikita Gill

Gaslighting

“Women have been driven mad, “gaslighted,” for centuries by the refutation of our experience and our instincts in a culture which validates only male experience. The truth of our bodies and our minds has been mystified to us. We therefore have a primary obligation to each other: not to undermine each others’ sense of reality for the sake of expediency; not to gaslight each other. …

Women have often felt insane when cleaving to the truth of our experience. Our future depends on the sanity of each of us, and we have a profound stake, beyond the personal, in the project of describing our reality as candidly and fully as we can to each other.”

― Adrienne Rich, “On Lies, Secrets, and Silence. Selected Prose 1966-1978”