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Signs of manipulation

15 SIGNS YOU’RE BEING MANIPULATED:

1. They never apologize, even when they know they’re wrong.

2. They always make excuses or give empty promises.

3. They use your weaknesses against you.

4. They prioritize others but treat you like an option.

5. They try to control you.

6. They use guilt trips.

7. They twist your words to benefit themselves.

8. They shut down and get defensive instead of talking.

9. They project their feelings onto you.

10. They gaslight you to create self-doubt.

11. They give you the silent treatment.

12. They lie constantly.

13. They leave you feeling crazy and confused.

14. They always make you feel like you’re walking on eggshells.

15. They always play the victim.

Recognizing these signs is the first step to taking back control. You deserve respect, kindness, and healthy relationships.

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Woman Power

Having an understanding of this as a new wife and Mother , I was not supported or acknowledged as having any value .

At the time of X’s departure I was not myself and unable to respond correctly ; incorrectly assuming since I had legal representation, I was being cared for .

Protected

I was horribly wrong .

As the years passed and I worked hard on myself , I did grow empowered and motivated to finish old business . I know accept why on many levels how varied challenges hindered my progress , except for my faith . I think there are more than a few who grasp who I am . A male friend just stated how strong I am in a phone call .

I am grateful for the hands on my back and repel the hands that hold knives !

THE 6 POWERS OF A WOMAN

Your power as a woman goes beyond your body. It’s okay to have great curves! The ability to get a man chase you hard is power on its own. Having a hour glass (figure 😎 shape is an automatic magnet for lustful men and some can eat the very sand at your feet just to get in between your thigh. Getting a man pant after you is power but your power goes beyond sensuality, sex and seduction, they don’t last! We are talking about lasting power here!

You carry so much power that you are not aware of. This power can make you a success. It can make your man an outstanding success. Make you a voice to reckon with and cause great changes in the society.

1. YOU HAVE THE POWER OF WORDS

Words are powerful! They can make or break someone. No! They can shatter someone to a million pieces without repair! Women are known with verbal power! Either to make, mend, destroy or kill! It is in every woman! By words alone, Delilah brought Samson to his death! By words, Jezebel made her husband commit murder! By words, Esther the queen saved a whole nation! By words, Abigail saved her life from death and became the wife of a king! By words, Adichie Chimamanda Ngozie is promoting feminism in Africa and beyond! By words, Linda Ikeji amassed billions of Naira into her account! Whether written or verbal, your words carry power! With your words you can end up a global success, challenge your man to success and change the society for good! Maximize your tongue by using words to your advantage!

2. YOU HAVE BODY POWER!

Men are attracted to beautiful women. Use your feminine body to your advantage! Not by sleeping around for money/job/promotion, etc you lose power and control that way. The moment you give a man sex he is not entitled to through marriage, he loses respect for you and you lose power! Package for excellence!

Be irresistible, charming, appealing, comely and worth chasing then divert his attention from your body(clothed body please. I’m not asking you to go about naked/show him your boobs and curves. You get what I mean) to your mind, intellect, talents, potentials and vision. That is how to hold a man spell bound! That is how to make him stay glued. That is how to command respect and honour. That s what make some men chase certain women hard till they marry them and after marriage, support with all you’ve got till he becomes a phenomenal success. You have the brain, wisdom, power, intellect, money and God to help your man succeed, that power lies within you. Maximize it!

3. YOU HAVE BRAIN POWER!

Women are blessed with the power of imagination. What you can see, you can achieve! Women who go out to change the world always do so especially when you have divine backing! You can be the next Nigerian president, you can build orphanages, you can create women empowerment programmes, you can rescue juvenile delinquents, you can cause great changes in the society. You can feed the poor, you can end up a great philanthropist.

4. YOU HAVE THE POWER OF INFLUENCE

You can influence your man, children, neighbour, friends and family for good. The power is within you. Once your mind is made up to achieve a result, cause a great change or turn your man to an international stardom, you can! You can influence a whole community, nation or country! You can influence your customers/clients and attract more money into your account. The power of influence lies within you. Esther the queen influenced a whole nation to fast and pray till they obtained their freedom. You are a great influencer!

5. YOU HAVE MONEY POWER!

Because women are naturally endowed with relationship skills, it’s easier to win more customers/clients and swell your bank account beyond your imagination. You can make as much money as you want.

6. YOU HAVE GOD POWER

Women connect with God at a deeper level than men. Not all women though, but a good percentage of women draw strength deeply and powerfully from God than their male counterparts who like to go macho with everything to the point of self destruction! Maximize your God power! With deep, intimate relationship with Him, you will draw power to achieve the impossible and up a phenomenal success. A role model millions look up to round the world.

Every woman carry power. Maximize yours, unleash it and end up a celebrity!

Holding peace

You are a rockstar! Whereas, an alienating parent engages in emotional abuse and manipulative tactics. Their actions can stem from deep-seated emotional issues, such as unresolved trauma, low self-esteem, or a need for control and power.

During a divorce or separation, this internal conflict is exacerbated, as the alienating parent may perceive the dissolution of the relationship as a personal attack or rejection. A narcissistic wound. They’re angry, resentful, and a desire for revenge can manifest in the weaponisation of your children as pawns or collateral to further their agenda. In their distorted worldview, they may view you as an enemy to be defeated rather than a co-parent to collaborate with.

Their controlling and manipulative behaviours are an attempt to exert dominance and influence. They may engage in character assassination, spreading false narratives and actively trying to alienate the child from you and anyone associated with you. Their actions can create an environment of fear, anxiety, and instability for everyone involved. An inability to separate their own emotional struggles from their role as a parent can lead to emotional neglect and confusion for the children who unfortunately get caught in the crossfire, feeling torn between their loyalty to both parents and manipulated into taking sides with the alienating parent.

You cannot change an alienator. You can only change how you deal with them. You must become the rock that protects yourself and your children and provides support to your family. There are plenty of tools and techniques to help you do this, creating emotional and mental strength and resilience.

If you are interested, check out my 9-step program. I also offer 1-2-1 coaching both of which guide you through the process of becoming a ROCK.

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Liberation

The person I needed the most taught me that I don’t need nobody, a painful yet liberating lesson etched in the scars of my heart, where love and abandonment once entwined like fractured vines.

Their absence became my greatest teacher, guiding me through the dark landscape of self-discovery, where I unearthed an inner strength, a resilient voice that whispers “I am enough” amidst the echoes of rejection.

In the hollow of their departure, I found a profound sense of self-sufficiency, learning to fill the void with my own light, nurturing a garden of self-love that blooms in the cracks of shattered dreams.

Their silence became my loudest awakening, alerting me to the realization that my worth isn’t anchored in someone else’s approval, but in the unwavering acceptance of myself.

Through the fire of their neglect, I forged an unshakeable resolve, tempered by the understanding that true freedom lies not in the arms of others, but in the unyielding love I hold for myself.

Wounded Angel Child

The wounded child inside many males is a boy who, when he first spoke his truths, was silenced by paternal sadism, by a patriarchal world that did not want him to claim his true feelings. The wounded child inside many females is a girl who was taught from early childhood that she must become something other than herself, deny her true feelings, in order to attract and please others. When men and women punish each other for truth telling, we reinforce the notion that lies are better. To be loving we willingly hear the other’s truth, and most important, we affirm the value of truth telling. Lies may make people feel better, but they do not help them to know love. ~bell hooks

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(Art: ‘The Wounded Angel’, 1903 by Hugo Simberg)

The Bottomless Pit of learned ingratitude- Charlie McCready

Alienated parents often experience a painful dynamic where their children feel they have to “payback” for perceived shortcomings. This belief is instilled by the alienating parent, who paints (projects) a picture of the targeted parent as neglectful or selfish. The child, who has been led to believe these narratives, may come to expect constant compensation for the perceived wrongs.⁠

In reality, the alienated parent has been prevented from giving their love and support. Their attempts to provide for and connect with their child have been limited or entirely blocked. Despite their genuine efforts and desire to be involved, the child has been conditioned to see these efforts as inadequate.⁠

The alienated child often becomes complicit in this dynamic, unknowingly perpetuating the cycle of blame. They carry the belief that they have been short-changed by the targeted parent, even though the reality is that the alienated parent had so much more time and love to give. This disconnect creates a lasting sense of injustice and unresolved tension.⁠

Understanding this dynamic can help alienated parents find some solace in knowing that the problem is not rooted in their actions but in the manipulative influence of the alienating parent. It isn’t easy to be blamed so mistakenly when we know our children truly have been shortchanged – against our wishes and at the instigation of the alienating parent – and we have to, despite all adversity, triggers, injustice, grief …, maintain our patience, empathy, and continued efforts to rebuild trust and connection with their children.⁠

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