Tag: parents

Never cut a child’s wings short

NEVER, NEVER, EVER CUT A CHILD’S WINGS…

1. “My hands are small, and that’s why I spill the milk even when I don’t want to.”

2. “My legs are short. Please wait for me and walk slower so I can keep up with you.”

3. “Don’t hit my hands when I touch something colorful—I just want to learn.”

4. “Please look at me when I’m talking to you so I know you’re listening.”

5. “My feelings are still tender. Please don’t scold me all day. Let me make mistakes without making me feel stupid.”

6. “Don’t expect the bed I make or the drawing I paint to be perfect. Love me for trying my best.”

7. “Remember, I’m a child, not a small adult. Sometimes I don’t understand what you’re saying.”

8. “I love you so much. Please love me for who I am, not just for what I do.”

9. “Don’t reject me when you’re upset with me. If I come to give you a kiss, it’s because I feel alone, abandoned, and afraid.”

10. “When you yell at me, I get scared. Please explain what I’ve done wrong.”

11. “Don’t be angry when the night falls, and the dark feels scary. When I wake up and call you, your hug is the only thing that gives me peace.”

12. “When we go to the store, don’t let go of my hand. I feel like I’ll get lost and you’ll never find me.”

13. “I feel really sad when you argue. Sometimes I think it’s my fault, and my stomach tightens because I don’t know what to do.”

14. “I often see you hugging and caressing my brother. Do you love him more than me? Maybe because he’s cuter or smarter? But what about me… am I not your child too?”

15. “You scolded me harshly when I broke my favorite toy, and even more when I cried about it. I was already sad—I didn’t do it on purpose. Now I’ve lost it forever.”

16. “You got upset because I got dirty while playing. But the feeling of mud on my feet was so wonderful, and the afternoon was so lovely. I wish I knew how to wash my clothes by myself.”

17. “Today, you weren’t feeling well, and I got really worried. I tried to cheer you up with my games and stories. What would I do if something happened to you?”

18. “I’m scared of hell, and I don’t even know what it is… but I think it must be as terrible as being without you.”

19. “Even though I had fun staying with my uncles, I missed you so much the whole week. I wish parents never had vacations away from their children.”

20. “I’m so lucky! Out of all the children in the world, you chose me.”

As adults, we often forget what it was like to be a child—what hurt us, what scared us, what made us feel loved. Sometimes, children say these things out loud; other times, they only think them silently.

There should be a test before marriage

Later in marriage when you hit parenthood, you’ll realize what you really wish for in your spouse is not big money or ‘six-pack’. A pretty face and a good bank account are nice to have but at the end of the day, there’s so much more you should be looking for.

At 3am when your child is crying, and your eyes are heavy and your body is weak for postpartum, it will not be how he looks or what he owns that will matter. It’ll be the compassion in his heart and the love for you in his soul that push him out of the bed to attend the child immediately and tell you,

“Go back to sleep, love. I got this.”

If I could tell the younger people what to consider in a companion, I would say marry the man who will be the best father for your children. The man who will put you and your little family first, above all else. The man who is as responsible as you are in raising family because you both are in it together. In short, marry the person who will set a standard for a spouse in your children.

Because in all of these, whenever you watch your partner with your child, you’ll find yourself falling in love all over again.

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Babies feel what their Mom’s feel

I definitely believe this and the anger and neglect present during our first pregnancy did adversely affect me , thus our baby .

I pray there is a healing for our child(ren) for each were subjected to at the least was a disinterested Dad .

Alot of people dont know this, but the baby feels everything the mother feels.

Every heart break, every smile, every single emotional thing. Even touch! When hugging the father and just taking that time to breath the baby can feel that love. That feeling of warmth and security. At 22 weeks the baby has started to learn voices and can tell which voice is peaceful to its mother and which voice hurts the mother. They have become aware of most sounds around them. By 26 weeks the baby can develop emotions for him or herself on feelings the mother feels. By 30 weeks the baby has picked who’s voice it is most favored towards. Needless to say, dont stress yourself. Cause your baby feels it all. ❤️💕

Illustration by Brooklyn Walker Art

Psychological Splitting from Abuse /Parental Alienation – Charlie McCarthy

The emotional strain and confusion resulting from parental conflict can be overwhelming. The child may feel powerless, torn between loyalty to both parents or fearful of displeasing the ‘favoured’ alienating parent. Fear of displeasing the alienating parent, coupled with emotional manipulation and coercion, may prompt the child to distance themselves emotionally from the targeted parent, resorting to disassociation as a protective measure or psychologically ‘split’. This is because the child’s mind instinctively resorts to disassociation to protect itself from intense emotional distress.

Disassociation offers the child a psychological escape from the distress caused by parental alienation. By emotionally detaching from the alienated parent, the child shields themselves from the pain and confusion of their situation, essentially numbing themselves to cope with the overwhelming emotional turmoil.

However, despite the challenges posed by this emotional cut-off/disassociation, there is hope for children affected by parental alienation. Children can overcome this defence mechanism and reconnect with the alienated parent. Even from afar, the alienated parent can be a beacon of stability and love, providing a role model for their child. With time, understanding, and intervention, reconnection is possible, offering healing and restoration to families affected by parental alienation.

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Purpose in the Pain – Parental Alienation/Charlie McCarthy

In the harrowing and heartbreaking experience of parental alienation, we face a choice that can be as transformative as it is challenging: to emerge from the darkness, either bitter or better. The pain inflicted by the alienation of our children is indescribable (though I do try in my posts as best I can). It is natural to harbour bitterness towards the alienating parent and the unjust circumstances, the handling of it by others who are supposed to help. However, channelling that pain into growth, resilience, and self-discovery can lead to a profound transformation. There’s no denying it’s an arduous journey that demands immense strength, but by embracing the pain and using it as a catalyst for personal growth, we can become stronger, wiser, and more compassionate individuals.

Finding purpose in pain may initially seem inconceivable amidst the devastation of parental alienation. Yet, within the crucible of such suffering lies the potential for profound self-awareness. Some of us discover an unwavering commitment to advocating for the rights of alienated parents and their children. By navigating the intricate layers of emotional violence, manipulation, and grief, target parents can become powerful voices for change, shedding light on the insidious nature of parental alienation and spreading awareness about the urgent need for legislative reforms to protect families from this heinous phenomenon.

Though the journey is arduous, each step towards healing and self-improvement is a testament to the strength of the human spirit. The pain of parental alienation is not without purpose; it can be the fuel that drives our mission to bring about change and awareness about this form of abuse, impacting far too many wonderful, wrongly maligned, poorly supported and alienated/rejected parents. In the face of immense adversity, choosing to emerge better, not bitter, is a declaration of resilience and hope for a future where parent-child relationships can flourish and no one suffers the agony of being alienated from the ones they love.

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When the “ living connection ” of mother & child is broken

One of the most challenging goodbyes occurs when we love someone yet recognize the impossibility of establishing a healthy relationship with them. Remaining in the relationship means continuing to wait for changes that will never materialize, tolerating hurtful actions, accepting minimal effort, and losing ourselves in an attempt to avoid loss. Although departing will be painful, it will ultimately lead to healing. Conversely, staying will perpetuate the cycle of hurt, causing the wound to deepen. Sometimes, choosing to leave is not a reflection of a lack of love for the person, but rather a demonstration of self-love and self-care, which necessitates leaving with love. -Unknown