😝 Narcissists don’t co-parent. They don’t want to fall in line and do the right thing. They don’t want to be held accountable, follow the rules and regulations, and don’t want to be harmonious. They don’t want to play on a team.
The only thing a narcissist is interested in – is narcissistic supply. This means, “I can affect other people significantly enough to know that I exist.” It’s the attention they crave more than anything else.
So, when you are attempting to co-parent with a narcissist, they are going to trigger you. They’re going to be uncooperative. They’re going to say one thing and do another. They will use the children as pawns, absolutely to trigger you to get a reaction, which means – I’m significant enough to affect you.
A narcissist wants to play games and use all of these tactics to punish you. How dare you leave them? Or how dare you try and get on with your life? Or how dare you tell other people what they are or how they behave? How dare you?
The false self can’t deal with that. So, punishing you by using the children as pawns is a very, very common tactic.
For an answer to all this – have a look at these resources –
Parallel Parenting – https://bit.ly/3bmz9ZO.
All People Co-Parenting With A Narcissist Needs These Tools – https://bit.ly/3k1maRd.
The Thriver’s Guide To Co-Parenting With A Narcissist – https://bit.ly/3k1HWnT.
Like so many other Thrivers – use the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) to detox from the narcissist to give you the strength and empowerment to give yourself and your children a brighter future.
Full details of NARP can be found here – https://bit.ly/33bIGyY.
Much love xo ❤️
Unfortunately, as the ex wife of a landlord
who has distorted everything business , financial
as well as our personal life and certainly with
regard to our 3 sons and 6 grandchildren ( that I know
His residence to change , his slow and methodical
planning of years , aided by his family whose opinion
of me , was critical from the get go because I didn’t
accept , that I had to wear a fake mask , or hold a man
on high , when he lived in distortion far too much .
Was it my imagination , that I saw higher sides in him
and held faith for his more attached and balanced
mood in consistent growth ? I have realized our family
was a business , his pride at creating 3 sons to carry
his family name 📛📛📛📛📛📛📛📛📛 had nothing to
do with me ..Secrets and untruths have been held
rotting the core of what was , with our son’s and I
and aided by many who agreed to shut me up , has
ultimately failed .
As any professional , dare retaliate in these unique times
of COVID , their boomerangs will be swift …But just in
their very acts , those wormholes are being exposed
and there are no exemptions .
Any professional business who puts folks in jeopardy
in foundational ways to retaliate , repeadly , covering
themselves , taking no responsibility , discriminations ,
failure to comply with code , forced evacuations that
are delicious with over powering abusive energy ,
enjoying the trauma for the recipient to whom
all abuse is projected .
I lived through this, survived this and I KNOW what
this is .
And I know I am called on , and called to aide others
as much as I can . *** new leases have clasuses that
stipulate that they cannot be legally held ” responsible “,
the same language ex used in his divorce , making me
responsible for legal and health , and every freaking
thing negative , as 20 years with yet another who
met him energetically , and delighted in increased
abuse , as did others who joined in family ,
savoring my son’s disposal of me , adding the death
of our son’s mom , was a complete and done deal
and they wanted nothing to do with me .
Shadow of the matriarch , who has ruled with a
vengeance, that negates a peaceful landing upon
exit from this plane of existence .
The choice is his, to liberate himself or stay as is ..
I’ve been long gone, exhumed from the grave , and
the box of Distortion , and my voice is clear and
much needed , plus Spirit is in the house .
My house , and I am , I am home And that’s magnetic
as my tribe awakens and we converge in cosmic
love and joy 💖.
Blessings & Peace
I have known her, and the distorted behaviors
are weaponized when I don’t cow down , and bow.
The French in me appreciates this song , though
I don’t know the words , my soul does .
Liberation …I know true liberation of spirit as gift
gift is laid before me , even in deep loss , I grasp
my miss is my mercy .
A conversation with a friend who has waited for my
contact patiently , after a harmonizing near death
now receiving gifts and love and support she has been
lacking , in a state of greif , failing to achieve her dreams
and now heroically survives and thrives..
We are going to council her experience and write it
for its multiple affirmations should reach masses .
I had an interview on podcast , my 1st , though my vision
shared the possibility .. the clarity was not as we wanted
corrections can be made and rescheduled for next week.
I was however calm , and enjoyed myself and this
stage fright thing is cured …
Ms Moon is budding in Virgo and its been an opposition
to this Pisces as a targeted dump bucket for 4.5 decades
my past ….North Node in Aquarius is my South Node
my Destiny , my past life sign and our new age ….
So , tonight I read the distorted responses of Beloved
who is in his past, projecting , shadow spewing
And yes , I feel ……liberated .
Blessings & Peace ,
😘 Dona Luna