Tag: Dire Results Of Domestic Abuse

Psychological Splitting from Abuse /Parental Alienation – Charlie McCarthy

The emotional strain and confusion resulting from parental conflict can be overwhelming. The child may feel powerless, torn between loyalty to both parents or fearful of displeasing the ‘favoured’ alienating parent. Fear of displeasing the alienating parent, coupled with emotional manipulation and coercion, may prompt the child to distance themselves emotionally from the targeted parent, resorting to disassociation as a protective measure or psychologically ‘split’. This is because the child’s mind instinctively resorts to disassociation to protect itself from intense emotional distress.

Disassociation offers the child a psychological escape from the distress caused by parental alienation. By emotionally detaching from the alienated parent, the child shields themselves from the pain and confusion of their situation, essentially numbing themselves to cope with the overwhelming emotional turmoil.

However, despite the challenges posed by this emotional cut-off/disassociation, there is hope for children affected by parental alienation. Children can overcome this defence mechanism and reconnect with the alienated parent. Even from afar, the alienated parent can be a beacon of stability and love, providing a role model for their child. With time, understanding, and intervention, reconnection is possible, offering healing and restoration to families affected by parental alienation.

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Justifying mistreatment/ Narcissism

A narcissist or toxic person will find every excuse in the book to justify their mistreatment or abuse.

They believe that because they “feel” a certain way about you, were “told” something about you, “heard” something about you, or “think” something negative about you, they are entitled to:

• Disrespect you

• Devalue you

• Bully you

• Try to control you

• Treat you badly

• Take their anger out on you

They will always blame their actions and behaviors on you or someone else. They rarely apologize to those they hurt—unless it benefits them or gets them something they want.

Your worth is not defined by their projections. Refuse to be a part of their cycle and take back your power.

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White Hats – Parental Alienation/ Charlie McCarthy

Amid gross injustice, misunderstanding, lack of support, enormous grief, and obstructed contact and communication because of a vengeful, selfish, alienating ex (and/or others), the ‘target’ rejected parent still strives towards an end to the conflict even though they’re often left with no option but to ‘fight’ in court, while valiantly trying to rebuild their connection to their much loved and missed children. These are the ones who demonstrate a genuine concern for their child’s well-being and do what they can to maintain a loving and supportive relationship, despite every effort of the alienating parent to sabotage things.’Target’ parents act with integrity and prioritise their child’s emotional needs over personal grievances, representing the epitome of selflessness and unconditional love.

We are talking about heroes.

‘White hats’ typically refers to high-level government officials or insiders who, it’s believed, are working to expose corruption in the deep state, to dismantle a global conspiracy of corruption on every level, and disordered state control and crimes against humanity. Whatever your take on this, I’m likening alienating parents to white hats here for the sake of an analogy which you know I’m partial to when writing these posts. When will people see the blatant lies and false narratives of the alienating parent? When will people know it is the target, rejected parent who stands for truth, authenticity, and love? And that the apparently loving, protective one who has positioned themselves as all powerful and the only parent needed is actually doing so much more harm than good, despite appearances.

It could be seen as a battle between good and evil, ‘white hats’ and ‘villains’ on the world stage and at home, the ‘target’ parents and alienators.

I believe love is mightier than hate. I believe ‘parental alienation’ – despite being called a pseudo-science by some, and despite us having to use terms such as ‘target’ and even ‘parental alienation’ – will one day (soon let’s hope) be widely recognised as psychological abuse, with informed and trained legal and mental health professionals donning ‘white hats’ and stepping into their role as heroes supporting and taking action to combat abuse alongside the parent heroes, like you.

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When the “ living connection ” of mother & child is broken

One of the most challenging goodbyes occurs when we love someone yet recognize the impossibility of establishing a healthy relationship with them. Remaining in the relationship means continuing to wait for changes that will never materialize, tolerating hurtful actions, accepting minimal effort, and losing ourselves in an attempt to avoid loss. Although departing will be painful, it will ultimately lead to healing. Conversely, staying will perpetuate the cycle of hurt, causing the wound to deepen. Sometimes, choosing to leave is not a reflection of a lack of love for the person, but rather a demonstration of self-love and self-care, which necessitates leaving with love. -Unknown