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Adult Children ; Survivors of Alienation by parent

As target parents we sometimes lose sight of how hard it is for our alienated kids to reunify with us, especially when our alienated kids are adults as it seems they should be able to easily resume treating us normally. It’s important to remember that it can take super-natural bravery for our kids to reunify with us as they face so many hard and scary scenarios to reunify with us. One of the hard and scary scenarios they must face is…What to tell people about how they’re letting you back into their life when people have been thoroughly convinced that you’re too “crazy, unsafe, unstable, etc etc etc” to have a relationship with? Maybe you’ve been alienated for years to the point that you were excluded from the child’s biggest life moments such as their wedding or the birth of a child so people really are fully immersed in the lies that you’re deserving of total rejection. After all, you MUST be a monster to have not even been included in your own child’s wedding or the birth of their child. After many years of an alienation so deep with convincing lies, it can be overwhelming for the alienated adult child to think about how to explain to people why they would let you back into their life. After all, an alienated child is not going to say “Well, to be honest, my parent was never actually a bad person or did anything wrong. I was put in the position to reject them by my other parent.”

So what can or should you say if you want to reunify with your target parent but don’t know how to explain it to people. The answer is simple. As in almost everything related to reunification, saying less is more. All the adult child needs to say to people is “We’re working things out.” That’s it. “We’re working things out.” Repeat as needed. If you’re an adult child who is reunifying with your target parent and are struggling with this specific challenge, keep a few things in mind. 1) It only takes 2 seconds to say “We’re working things out.” 2 seconds. 2) When you give such a direct and firm answer, people rarely ask more questions. It’s highly unlikely that they will ask you for specifics. If they do ask you, you can say “We can talk about it later” or you can say “”We just wanted to work things out.” You’re under no obligation to anyone to explain further unless it’s someone you want to explain it to further. 3) 99.9% of people will be HAPPY for you! Their response will mostly likely be “That’s great!” because the truth is most people know that we all naturally want good relationships with both of our parents.

While it’s “simple” to make the 2 second statement of “We’re working things out,” we need to recognize that it’s still hard to do. And this is just ONE OF the reasons it’s hard for alienated adult kids to reunify with their target parent. We need to recognize the incredible courage an alienated adult child must use to reunify with their target parent. This is a bigger brave than many people can ever imagine.

Message 2Men The Great Remembrance

Dear Men..

We miss you.

Deeply.

When women gather together in circles..

we tell stories of how much we long for you. Crave you.

Pray for you to rise and meet us here.

We mourn your missing presence.

In our childhoods.

In the homes we’ve built without you.

In our beds.

We hold hands and beg God to set you free from whatever keeps you from standing at our sides.

Right here.

Here In intimacy.

In integrity.

In wholeness.

In freedom.

The places where you are caught in dishonesty..

shame..

fear..

addiction..

we grieve and rage over.

We see your pain and we see your power.

We miss you.

We love you.

We can’t wait for you to come home

For the men who have..

thank you so much.

Please call your brothers..

start men’s circles..

show them the manuals.

Tell them of what you gave up.

Of your brokenness and acceptance.

Of what it truly means to take up the mantle of protector.

Please.

There aren’t enough fathers..

resources and leaders for men to sit at the feet of.

The women have tried.

We can’t do it.

The restoration must come from within the Masculine.

The Feminine cannot mother grown men into wholeness.

We cannot strap men to our backs and walk.

We tried.

We bow out.

Not gracefully.

But in mournful acceptance nonetheless.

And we will wait for you to burst free from the shackles patriarchy has placed on you.

We pray.

We pray.

We pray.

For the Great Remembrance.

~ Shade Ashani

Joy

JOY

Joy does not arrive with a fanfare,

on a red carpet strewn with the flowers of a perfect life.

Joy sneaks in, as you pour a cup of coffee,

watching the sun hit your favourite tree, just right.

And you usher joy away,

because you are not ready for it.

Your house is not as it must be,

for such a distinguished guest.

But joy cares nothing for your messy home,

or your bank-balance,

or your waistline, you see.

Joy is supposed to slither through the cracks of your imperfect life,

that’s how joy works.

You cannot invite her, you can only be ready when she appears.

And hug her with meaning,

because in this very moment,

joy chose you.

Donna Ashworth

Art by Inge Löök Oy Ab

The Demon In you

Spiritually and Emotionally I stepped out of the energy that to me ( even in marriage )was highly casual with no intimacy or growth.

THE DEMON IN YOU

Sexual energy is the basic energy that will strengthen the entire chakra system. Every living thing in this world needs sexual energy to survive. This is because sexual energy is the Life Energy Force of all beings.

Demons (or in layman’s language is Satan), who live in the astral realm, need sexual energy to survive. But these “beings” do not have physical bodies so they use sexual energy mentally to exist.

This demon blends in with the inner impurities in the human body, just like when you have a dirty mind full of animal lust, then your sexual energy will be attracted and held in the Basic Chakra. When sexual energy is restrained and stagnates in the Basic Chakra, then this low energy frequency becomes food for the Demons.

Lust sex (lust) is the easiest way for Demons to absorb human sexual energy which is the nutrition for their lives to grow, develop, and get stronger. So they continue to strive so that the human mind is always dirty and lustful.

They control the human mind to keep it in a low vibration, through behavior that can trigger lustful thoughts. Because lustful is their vibration.

In fact, Demons are not completely bad, they just do things that are naturally programmed according to their nature. They exist to prevent you from achieving spiritual development by keeping the energy in the lower chakras, so that it cannot transform and transmute up to the upper chakras and transcendence. Your consciousness is not developing because the focus of energy is stuck in the lower chakras.

The higher the sexual energy you have, the more they will tempt you. Then you must be able to discipline yourself to see in a perspective that goes beyond your physical and five senses.

Everything that looks, feels, sounds, smells good for you, is not necessarily good for your soul.

Demons only have one intention, which is to keep you at a low frequency so they can use your energy for their health and strength.

They will survive by continuing to consume your sexual energy (life force), just like wild animals that prey on other animals to survive.

So as long as you continue to be trapped in animal lust, or live in lower chakra consciousness, you will become the “food” of the demons and become easily manipulated through the frequency of fear in survival.

The fear of survival, the fear of being alone, the fear of death, the fear of the dark, the fear… the fear… and the fear…

Fear and lust are tools they use to control you.

When a person has mastered his fear and lust, he will be freed from the illusion of the holographic matrix which is designed to suck up your spiritual energy.

As long as your sexual energy vibrates at the base chakra, you will only create “hell” on this earth.

But when you have been able to be sexually liberated through sexual alchemy, that is, by transmuting your sexual energy into the upper chakras, from lustful love to compassion-based love, then that sexual energy will awaken your consciousness, and move up to the Crown Chakra, so that you will help build “heaven” on this earth..

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Tomy Tan Light 🌠🌈✨⚜️

Mother

“The Body of My Mother

Tell me about your mother’s body. Her hands and her feet, her belly and her breasts. Tell me about her skin and her hair and the color of her eyes. Tell me about her smell—her breath, her underarms, the scent of her when she leaned in close.

In the beginning I do not want to know your grievances with her. Do not tell me, yet, about how she failed you, disappointed you, infuriated you, frightened you. Do not tell me about your relationship with her, much as I know you want to. No, let us leave all that, for now. Tell me about your mother’s body.

If she were an animal, and she was, I tell you this, she was, how would you describe her? Tell me about her fur and her funk, her fangs and her feathers. Did she fly? Did she burrow? Did she slither upon the ground or slink through the shadows of the forest at dusk or step into the meadow at noon her head held high?

You have reached out your hand to lay it upon hers and already I know that you have begun to cry.

Her hands were dry, her nails were always polished, her nails were chipped, her nails were long, her nails were bitten down until they bled. Her fingers were long, thin, swollen, tapered, stubby, and bent with arthritis. At the end of her life was her skin mottled with brown spots? Maybe you touched her hand after she died and felt it turn hard and cold. Maybe she is still alive, but it is a long time since you imagined touching her. Maybe you look at your own hands and always see hers.

Your mother’s body was your first home in this life. Deep within the darkness of her womb you came into the knowing of who you might be this time listening to her heart beat, smelling her blood from within, feeling her muscles contract around your body. Her body creating your body.

My mother was a tiger, her languorous haunches moving stealthily through the jungle. My mother was a seal, her body undulating in the waves. My mother was an imperious crow, muttering curses under her breath. My mother was a spider, a snake, a vole, a hawk. My mother was an animal.

She was magnificent, more than an ordinary beauty. Dark hair, green eyes, the face of a movie star. Elizabeth Taylor as Cleopatra, Cleopatra as Isis herself. Isis as the bird, the sow, the cow, and the scorpion. Her bosom was voluptuous and her belly soft. Her legs were long and her arches high. Hers was not a toned athleticism but the lazy muscularity of a cat.

I would never be as head-turning gorgeous as my mother. I knew that early on. But there it is I want to tell you not just about her but about us, and all the fraught love of mothers and daughters—the whole catastrophe of resentments, longing, betrayals, and devotion.

But I need to tell you about the body of my mother—and I need to hear about the body of your mother and together we must remember what was done to the bodies of all of our mothers. All of our mothers.

For a long time now their bodies, our bodies, have been under attack.”

~ Perdita Finn (an excerpt from her newest book under construction.)

https://wayoftherose.org/

Art: Kat Shaw

Kat Shaw Artist

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