Tag: communication

Distorted truths – Narcissists lies =Controll

THIS IS WHY KNOWLEDGE IS THE ONLY WEAPON FOR ESCAPING THEIR GRIP.

What is so confusing is the way the narcissist takes some vulnerable thing you said or did in the relationship and turns it into a big deal. Like if you openly say something like you prefer to NOT drive a lot because of your nerves.

The narcissist will bring it up out of nowhere to deflect from their behaviors and you are left confused because while it is true, it doesn’t apply to the situation in the moment. At first you will want to defend yourself, and later you see the gaslight, and finally you see the disorder.

All that time you thought to yourself why is communication so hard? It’s because you are dealing with a person who can’t emotionally connect or care.and uses bits of truth and twists the narrative around to suit them in the moment. Keep healing survivors .💛

Not an option No Blurred Lines ❤️💯

When a man is unclear in his commitment to a woman, it often means he is still playing around. He might give mixed signals, promising love and loyalty one day, only to disappear emotionally the next. This inconsistency is not about confusion—it’s about keeping options open while enjoying the comfort of your presence. But the truth is, a woman often struggles to see this for what it is. She holds on to hope, believing that someday he will realize her worth and change. But, dear woman, let me tell you—someday rarely comes, and you cannot spend your life waiting for a man to step up.

You are not a project for someone to decide whether they are ready to invest in. You are not a placeholder for someone to figure out their priorities. You are a goddess, deserving of unwavering love and respect. A man who is truly ready for you will not make you question where you stand. His actions will match his words, and his commitment will be clear as day. Anything less than that is not your destiny—it’s a distraction from the life you are meant to live.

When you allow yourself to wait for someone who is unsure, you compromise your own worth. You put their indecisiveness above your peace, and that is never a fair trade. Remember, love does not thrive in uncertainty. It grows in security, respect, and mutual effort. A man who values you will not hesitate to choose you, to honor you, and to build a future with you. Anything less is not love—it’s a game, and you are far too valuable to play along.

The challenge for many women is that they confuse potential with reality. They see the good in a man and believe it will eventually surface fully. But potential is not enough. What you deserve is a partner who shows up for you every single day, not one who keeps you guessing or makes you doubt your place in their life. A man who loves you will make sure you know, not by words alone but through consistent actions.

Do not allow your hope to blind you to the truth. Sometimes, the hardest thing to do is to walk away from someone you love, but it is also the most empowering. When you choose yourself, you set a standard for how others should treat you. You teach the world that you will not settle for anything less than what you truly deserve. That choice is an act of love—for yourself.

To the women reading this: you are not someone’s option. You are not someone’s maybe. You are a woman of infinite value, and the right man will recognize that without hesitation. The one who is meant for you will not make you wait in confusion. He will come into your life with clarity, with purpose, and with the willingness to commit fully to you.

Stop shrinking yourself to fit into someone’s life. Stop dimming your light in the hope that they will finally see you. The right person will see you, as you are, and love every bit of it. They will not ask you to wait, to prove your worth, or to fight for their attention. They will show up, every single time, because they know what they have in you.

You are powerful beyond measure. You carry the strength of generations within you. You are not here to beg for love or to settle for crumbs of affection. You are here to live a life of purpose, surrounded by those who honor and cherish you. Do not let anyone convince you otherwise.

So, dear woman, know your worth. Love yourself fiercely and unapologetically. Walk away from anything that makes you feel less than whole. The universe is waiting to align you with the love and life you deserve, but first, you must choose yourself. Stop waiting for “one day.” Create your own day, your own happiness, and your own destiny.

A goddess does not chase. She stands firm in her power, knowing that what is meant for her will never require her to lose herself. You are that goddess. Step into your power and never settle for less than the divine love and respect that are your birthright. Truth is at some point you’ll realize that you’ve done too much for someone that the next possible step to do is to leave them alone & walk away. It’s not like you’re giving up but you have to draw the line from determination & desperation, what’s yours will be yours & what’s not yours will never be no matter how hard you try.

Unhealed Parents

A child’s first enemy is often an unhealed parent. It’s a subtle, almost invisible dynamic that creeps into a household without warning. Picture a parent, heavy with unprocessed pain, wielding their wounds like invisible weapons—sharp words, dismissive glances, unreachable affection. The child doesn’t see the parent’s trauma; they only feel the sting of its consequences. An unhealed parent might unintentionally pass down shame, anger, or fear, not because they don’t love their child, but because their own love has been tangled in the web of their past. Imagine a parent who flinches when their child cries—not because they don’t care, but because the sound dredges up their own unheard cries from decades ago. Without realizing it, they teach the child that emotions are dangerous, that their needs are burdensome.

Now, contrast this with a healed parent. Imagine a parent who has faced their own darkness, who has wrestled their demons and come out on the other side. They create a different kind of space for their child—a sanctuary where emotions are allowed to breathe and wounds can be mended instead of ignored. When a healed parent hears their child cry, they don’t recoil; they lean in. They don’t silence the child or rush to fix it. Instead, they validate, comfort, and teach resilience. The difference is profound. An unhealed parent unknowingly becomes an adversary, while a healed parent becomes a guide. One teaches survival; the other teaches thriving. And yet, the tragedy is that the unhealed parent was once a child too—a child whose first enemy might have been their own unhealed parent. The cycle is unrelenting until someone, somewhere, decides to break it.

Sweet Child of Mine

Sweet child of mine

I’d grab a star and

store it full of magic

and endless light to

carry you through,

out into days that

would take you

away although

never far enough

for distance, yet

pull you across

time where I’d

wrap myself in

the gentle folds

of remembrance,

an endless candle

illuminating every

eternal memory,

our days never

stretching long

enough when our

stories blended

into all the wonder

of your unwinding

imagination,

where I fell with you

back into a dream,

a child again holding

a gift I was given…

a heart-shaped star

full of light and magic.

gwj

(artist unknown)

Big Shift – Gemini Full Moon

Many of you are feeling the big shift that is coming, for our bodies, as divine conduits, predict the many energies that we are now welcoming and that are transforming our bodies like never before.

Energies that depending on the inner work we are doing at this time can bring many imbalances to the surface, experiencing profound sudden healings, clearings, and activations, as we continue allowing, surrendering, and remaining in our Higher Hearts.

Energies that may cause dizziness, or the sensation of vertigo, as we move between two dimensions, crossing the veils of illusions, and many other sensations as tremendous joy too, crying tears of joy to see all the wisdom we have too gained, and the harmonic timeline we are transiting into.

The change that many of us strongly feel is being anticipated by the Gemini Full Moon of tomorrow. Gemini is a great shifter, and as a catalyst of change, it is now aligned with Uranus in this moon, reflecting the massive transition occurring for all of us at this time, and that will be amplified next year. This is an important transit that anticipates what we are about to live next year, for we are already creating it with every thought, feeling, and act toward soul reclamation and hence, self-liberation.

The most important aspect in this Gemini full moon, apart from Mercury trine Mars and Jupiter Square Saturn, is the moon semisextile Uranus and the Sun quincunx Uranus, a significant aspect that triggers one of the most important planetary shifts that we will welcome next year and will be too reflected in our Heavens, Uranus moving into Gemini, on the 7th of July. A 7th month, for nothing in the Universe, happens by coincidence.

7th is a frequency that involves self-mastery, wisdom integration, and the acceleration in our ascension journey that many of us are experiencing. During this time many of you will start receiving the wisdom transmissions, the downloads, that will help you achieve a more illumined state of being, as nothing will be the same from this moment onwards.

Gemini moon in resonance with Uranus will help us heal all karmic memories, residual ones, and self-created ones, through fears, as often I find many of the ascending souls do not have karma, but fear of having it, bringing residual karma into their present selves.

It is a time to bring freedom into your wounded soul fragments, releasing painful memories and retrieving divine love for yourselves and all you have ever experienced, for you are not the same person you used to be anymore.

It is a time for adjustments and transformations that will conclude in divine timing, which is why it is so important to be patient, surrender, and trust in the divine, not wanting to force a certain result or healing to take place, for we never know when is the perfect time for All.

Gemini’s full moon, connected to Uranus, is the predecessor of this important planetary and individual gradual change. A frequency shift that we are preparing ourselves for, and that involves the total activation and reconnection of our light bodies, for we are just starting to shift at a physical level, reaching the initial steps to the process of body crystallization that awaits for all of us who are willing to transfigure our physical bodies.

Uranus and Gemini are great allies to radically show us what is not working in our lives, what is fragmented within and needs to be unified, which is why is such a sudden and often unpleasant energy. Forces that come to liberate us from the old paradigm, from who we are not, and from everything inorganic and false in essence.

Ours is the power to choose whether we wish to step into this path of conscious change and adaptation to it or continue in the old, for these Forces do not do the work for us, only support us in our chosen mission.

We are blessed to be living in this current planetary transition. Remember that each of you contributes with all your choices, energy, and intention.

May you always choose to continue becoming the illumined lovelight being that you are, Beloveds.

Within Infinite Love,

Natalia Alba

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Art by: Shambhala Light Visionary Art

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Craig Childress PsyD – Petition to the APA

Hey, hey, hey… do you know why I hand-delivered the Petition to the APA signed by 20,000 parents to the APA – to expose the pathogen in the APA… and in you… the targeted parents.

I took two parent advocates with me. Neither parent followed up with the APA. Nothing. They didn’t care about you – just them – “what about me?”

If it’s not directly relevant to them… they don’t care… you don’t care. I know that about you. The Petition to the APA was a “probe” of your motivational networks.

You… the targeted parents… are NOT motivated to solve the pathology in the family courts. You want to solve YOUR family situation… you don’t care about what happens to the other children and parents.

Just you.

I delivered the Petition to the APA for two reasons, 1) to document the APA was told – pursuant to Standard 1.05 – I fulfilled my mandatory (required) obligation. I told them.

What did they do? Nothing. That’s exactly negligent cover-up I wanted to expose in them… so I did. I knew what their motivation was… so I exposed it in the documentation… for now.

I’m solving the pathology in the family courts entirely by myself – goat – I’m a clinical psychologist and I’m working. This is my pathology. I’ve fixing systems to fix the pathology.

Now, in 2025, I’ll be turning into the AFCC to deliver broadside after broadside into their forensic custody evaluations… and once I’m sufficiently satisfied, I’ll turn into the APA with the same devastating cannon fire – I told you.

They gave the Petition to the APA to someone within the APA… I know who… it’s like the permanent paint banks put in bags of money in a robbery. When the robber opens the bag – bam – they’re marked with permanent paint.

The Petition to the APA is like that for all psychologists who read it – we all have mandatory, required, obligations under 1.04 and 1.05. There’s a reason for ethical standards. There’s a reason for Standards 1.04 & 1.05.

Sometimes… people just need to see.

I work two to five years ahead. Covid created a delay in my timing. The Petition to the APA is now beginning to glow. I’ll be re-activating it soon.

And it told me about you. You, the parents, never followed-up. Not exactly the you-parents current here, the you-parents who didn’t care about what happened to you… just to them.

So they parents left the awful-awful forensic psychologists they had… for you. Next.

You’re next. I watched. I documented it. That’s what I’ve been doing, documenting everything that’s there – everything – from minor’s counsels, to custody evaluators, to 4-day workshops, to self-proclaimed “experts” in made-up pathology, to the flying monkeys that harass anyone who tries to help you.

The core is the forensic psychologists – the betrayers – the ones who should protect… and don’t.

They exploited you for you money. That’s the only thing they did. They solved nothing with their experimental approach on you and your children. There’s no quasi-judicial role for doctors… they just made up that role.

Then they made up a new type of assessment for their experimental quasi-judicial role. It failed. Their experimental evaluation is “dangerous” and “harmful to children”, and it “lacks scientific and legal value”.

They are ignorant, incompetent, and unethical… and I’m going after their licenses for their negligently incompetent and unethical malpractice and failure in duty to protect obligations.

If a psychologist participates in child abuse and spousal abuse of their client… they should NOT be a psychologist. They have a duty to protect the child – and the parent – they are failing.

Miserably failing. Their experiment failed – and the lives of thousands of children and their parents were irrevocably destroyed by their failed experiment… these psychologists with names… that I know.

To reveal that which is hidden – The Mirror.

Mirror, Mirror on the wall, are the targeted parents motivated to solve the problem?

No. Only your problem. The targeted parents don’t care what happens to the others. I sent in a probe of their motivational systems… silence from the APA… silence from the parents.

I took two parent advocates with me to hand-deliver the Petition to the APA to the APA offices in Washington, DC… to probe your motivational networks (and to give you a weapon if you wanted one… you don’t want one).

Okay. If you require me to solve everything all by myself… I will. I am. I have. It will take longer. More children and parents of the future will be lost to the pathology.

But you don’t care – they didn’t care – about you – you don’t care about those who follow – “What about me?”

I understand. Your children mean the world to you, you’re afraid, disoriented, and abused – you have a traumatized brain. I understand why.

It’ll just take longer and we’ll lose more children and parents to the pathology. Oh well.

The Petition to the APA is not the only probe I have sent into the motivational networks of the targeted parents. You have the ruby slippers, you can solve this whenever you want… but you don’t – they didn’t.

So you’re here now in exactly the same position they were in… with exactly the same awful-awful doctors and no choice. Go ahead, prove “parental alienation” to a judge at trial just like all the others before you tried to the same outcome… failure and destruction of your lives.

Go ahead… do it over-and-over… try to prove a made-up pathology label rather than rely on the DSM-5. You – don’t – listen.

I have several probes into the parents (and other sectors) to obtain the information I needed… you don’t want to solve the pathology… you want to “prove something to someone”.

What do you want to “prove”? That you “deserve” to be a parent. You don’t believe you do. You question yourself.

Plus you’re abused. You’re an active spousal abuse victim. You have a traumatized brain. The problem isn’t you… it’s my folks, the psychologists… the betrayers.

One group of psychologists exploits you for your money and solves nothing, the forensic psychologists. One group of psychologists abandons you and your children to the pathology, the clinical psychologists.

You have NO competent mental health services in the family courts.

None. Zero.

Let that sink in… you have NO competent mental health services available to you… and professional psychology, the AFCC & APA, and the licensing boards don’t care.

I wonder why that is? I know why that is.

“Dr. Childress, how do I get a diagnosis for my child and family?” A: I don’t know when none of the doctors you have will diagnose pathology.

All the doctors everywhere else in healthcare will diagnose pathology – ADHD – cancer – diabetes – autism – only YOUR doctors, your “forensic” psychologists refuse to diagnose the problem.

And you accept that. They did, the ones before you… so now you have to accept it too. You cannot get a diagnosis for your child and family.

It’s child abuse – Psychological Child Abuse (V995.51) – a shared persecutory delusion and a false (factitious) attachment pathology imposed on the child for secondary gain to the allied parent – but you cannot get a diagnosis for the child abuse from your doctors.

And that will be true for the parents who follow after – because those who came before didn’t care about what happens to you… just them.

Just like you don’t care what happens to them… just you. No one is motivated to solve the pathology… not even you.

Mirror, Mirror, on the wall, show me their motivation.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 6153848 – CA PSY 18857