Tag: Children

Grandparents

Being a grandparent allows you to be the parent you should have been the first time around but couldn’t be because of the “too many” expectations placed on parents.

You were too busy finding your footing and figuring it out—swept up in pressure and hurry.

But a grandparent has the time and perspective to be calm, attentive, forgiving, and fun.

They accept the mess.

They know the same bedrooms with unmade beds also had their grandchildren sleeping safe and sound with their minds at ease the night before.

They don’t yell because they know a child calling “grandma” or “grandpa” 20 times is a blessing.

And they don’t care if their grandchildren are the best at anything, as long as they’re happy and healthy. To them, they’re everything exactly as they are.

A GRANDPARENT’S LOVE IS ONE OF A KIND.

✍️: @livingfullaftered

No worries ; Holding calm

Husband said to his wife – I am going out with my friends. She replied – Ok.

After a while, son said – Mother, i got my results for mock exams and it’s not good. Son expected to get a scolding from his mother but to his surprise, his mother calmly said – Ok. If you work hard you will be able to do good and if not you have to repeat semester. It’s up to you.

Next day, her daughter came to her and hesitatingly said – Mother, I smashed car. Daughter was scared that mother would get angry but to her surprise, she said – Ok. take it to car shop and get it fixed.

Person was usually irritated and grumpy, was now suddenly changed. Seeing such reactions, everyone got worried and thought if something was wrong. Everyone came to her and asked, “Is something wrong? Why are you acting so calm?” She smiled and replied, “It took me a long time to realize that, each person is responsible for their own life.

I realized that my anguish, worrying, anxiety, stress… doesn’t solve your problems but aggravates mine. I realized that i can only give you advice if you ask but it depends on you to follow or not. Whatever decision you take, its consequences good or bad, you will have to live with them. I am not responsible for actions of anyone. I realized that i can only control myself. My job is to care for you, love you, encourage you but after that it all depends on you to solve you problems and find your own happiness.

Therefore, I should remain calm and let each of you solve your problems yourself.” Everyone at home was speechless. From that day on, the family began to function better because everyone in the house knew exactly what it is that they needed to do!

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Navigating No Contact – Charlie McCready

Your extended family may simply not understand you. They might believe it’s in everyone’s best interest that you reconcile with your ex-partner. ‘For the sake of the children’, they say! All they know is that you’re struggling and the children have cut off, or distanced themselves from you, and perhaps from them too. They don’t understand what’s really going on, and to be honest, most of us were blindsided by it too, having never heard of ‘parental alienation’ until it was happening to us, our partner or someone we know.⁠

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Going no contact and having unsupportive family members is not for the faint of heart. If you find yourself reading this post, know that you are taking a massively courageous step in your life. You are understanding and coming to accept this is where you’re at. Just because your family members don’t understand why you are going no contact, doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong. And if they’re not willing to try to understand, it’s not your job to explain or justify yourself. You’ve got enough going on just dealing with all this. When we protect ourselves from narcissistic people, we often discover the chameleon nature of the narcissist and see how in their other relationships, they may be present yet another facade. Extended family members may know the narcissistic in your life is a pillar of the community or great fun or ‘successful’ or charming or whatever it is, but this is just the front, the Hollywood facade. This is partly why extended family members and friends may not understand it from your point of view, and may wrongly think you’re being overdramatic or selfish. You are not. You are being self-protecting. This is a huge difference. Remind yourself that those who have your back or want to understand will. Those that do not will reveal their closed mindedness or personal agenda to you. Taking care of ourselves sometimes means going against the grain. It sometimes means doing things radically differently than the status quo. It also can entail trusting our intuition over the words of others and staying firmly rooted in our boundaries. I send you courage and love. Stay strong. ⁠

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Vulnerability to connect with a Narcissist

This describes the process from

past and I’m so thankful

those experiences are healed

and I have no co dependent

desires

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Cannot beg for love…

Begging for love is not my thing . I did beg , for marriage, and family

even as toxic as it was ..I was medicated to the gills, afraid , and holding

all the energy of an addict .

I knew after a time, I would never , ever find myself in that place again

and I have not .. I will not walk that back .

I’m not hard to love , as a few folks have tried to imprint upon me , or

suggest I’m competition.. with my child ? Nope .

Trauma and Drama , Control do not interest me at all.

Waking Self

I have had lots of help in the area , as before when a big shift is headed

towards me, there is no one …meaning I have to do this myself and that

I’m ready ..

The only faith I had , in this forwards leap was our sons being awake enough to not be negative , that they would show progress in their journey and silence was total and complete .. of course , I cry , full well knowing their intent , the power play , the never ending story .

Business is clearing , many gifts have come my way , and it’s going to happen .

For this I’m shown , that the human exchange , our sons being used or willing participating in continued efforts to abuse and control emotionally .

Or it’s just a moot point, dead …

So , my tears cleanse , my heart aches and I am surrendered to what is

revealed .. last year as this , the facts are facts ..

Which leaves room, space for those who do care , who do not intend me

harm or lack , who know their heart and minds , who can logically

acknowledge the tyranny , and see their path includes healing and

forgiveness, and growth ..

It’s challenging , exactly what it’s supposed to be , the gift that allows me

to complete this mission , lacking moral normalcy or universal law .

I am Thankful for the love and support and acceptance of others and

for the opportunity to hold my truths and preference for peace .

Ending the ripple effect of abuse , neglect , that’s malicious and malignant.

Thanking my ancestors for having the faith , love and support to show

me the way…💯❤️☮️