Tag: abuse narcissistic behavior

The Inconvenience of your Illness to Narcissistic

It was soul snatching to become aware just how little support I had in matters of my heath . It began with pregnancy and only grew worse .

A fall and sprained elbow had to await his need to continue an evening out of dinner and drink.

Hours after my fall ,I screamed as I tried to move my arm ,I had thrown up in pain ; did he take me to the ER

A former Vietnam ” Mash ” Dr examined me and gave me a shot of pain medicine.

Certainly had complaints when he helped wash my hair , commenting on my long hair , stating I should cut it off ! as it’s too long and I wasn’t worth his time nor effort

Lots of that ; much shadow involved that did much harm to our family .

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Trauma & Psychological Abuse

Some of the ways alienators will abuse and manipulate their children is by making them believe lies that will become foundational to their control.

Here are a few:

Your other parent is dangerous.

Your other parent doesn’t care for you.

Your other parent is unavailable for you.

Your other parent is a bad influence.

Which then leads to the abuser being the “better” choice:

I am the only parent who truly loves you.

I am the only parent who keeps you safe.

I am the only parent who is here for you.

I am the parent who sacrifices everything for you.

And results in the child having feelings of:

Betrayal (towards the alienator) for still desiring their “bad” parent.

Feeling guilty when they talk to or communicate with their “bad” parent.

Only being able to love and interact with their abuser.

Making Light of the Dark

IT WAS WOMEN – “It was not witches who burned.

It was women.

Women who were seen as

Too beautiful

Too outspoken

Had too much water in the well (yes, seriously)

Who had a birthmark

Women who were too skilled with herbal medicine

Too loud

Too quiet

Too much red in her hair

Women who had a strong nature connection

Women who danced

Women who sung

or anything else, really.

ANY WOMAN WAS AT RISK BURNING IN THE SIXTEEN HUNDREDS

Sisters testified and turned on each other when their babies were held under ice.

Children were tortured to confess their experiences with “witches” by being fake executed in ovens.

Women were held under water and if they float, they were guilty and executed.

If they sunk and drowned they were innocent.

Women were thrown off cliffs.

Women were put in deep holes in the ground.

The start of this madness was years of famine, war between religions and lots of fear. The churches said that witches, demons and the devil did exist and women were nothing but trouble. As we see even today, there is often a scapegoat created, and the chaos escalated in Sweden when the Bible became law and everything that did not line up with what the church said became lethal. The Bible fanaticism killed thousands of women.

Everything connected to a women became feared, especially her sexuality. It became labeled as dark and dangerous and was the core of the witch trials through out the world.

Why do I write this?

Because I think the usage of words are important, especially when we are doing the work to pull these murky, repressed and forgotten about stories to the surface. Because knowing our history is important when we are building the new world. When we are doing the healing work of our lineages and as women. To give the women who were slaughtered a voice, to give them redress and a chance of peace.

It was not witches who burned.

It was women.”~

~Fia Forsström

MY STORY: Horror of Family Court, Religion & Burning Witches

https://www.coralanikatheill.com/single-post/2016/02/20/horror-of-family-court-religion-burning-witches

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