Parential Alienation-Child Abuse – Page 1788

The popular term points toward very real problems of male violence and sexism. But it risks misrepresenting what actually causes them.
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Traumatic Grief , Craig Childress PsyD

Our children grow, they leave the nest, they move into independent lives… just as we did… and just as their children will… it’s the way of things. It’s sad to see our little ones leave, but then it’s good to have our big ones here.

Finding life’s rhythms is helpful.

The treatment for traumatic grief is to restore the attachment bond. Are you dead? No. Is the child dead? No. Then the treatment for traumatic grief is to restore the attachment bond… as fast as we possibly can.

It’s not good to leave an un-repaired breach to the parent-child bond, that is the WORST possible thing we can do.

You use several terms that would require more precise definition for a precise answer:

Post-traumatic. Our goal is not to help a person cope with ongoing abuse and trauma, it is to end the ongoing abuse and trauma. So then, is your question about recovering a healtthy life for the parent once the child’s bond to the parent has been recovered and restored?

Or are you believing that your bond to your child will not be recovered, and you are asking how to attain a healthy life if your child does not return to the bond?

Post-traumatic with recovery? Or without recovery?

With recovery, good. Without recovery, different but still good… sort of. You are more than a “parent.”

Growth. Growth means you are changing. What is the possibility of you changing? Pretty good, I’d say. Sadness gives us roots, it gives us depth. Lots of growth in sadness. We could do with a little less growth over here, and more consolidation of growth in love and bonding.

Growth or recovery? Growth, always. Parent’s recovery… with the child back or without the child back? With the child back, good. Without the child back, good, but different – hard. The sadness is so great, the grief so large. It takes a fair degree of love and nurture to process that amount of sad.

That’s why it’s called “traumatic” grief – it’s traumatic. Complex trauma; traumatic grief.

The treatment for traumatic grief is to restore the attachment bond as fast as we possibly can.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Trauma Pathology : Craig Childress PsyD

Your families contain a trauma pathology… an attachment trauma. In trauma world it’s called complex trauma, and your families are the rippling of complex trauma from one generation to the next.

The current location of trauma is in the allied parent. This person has unresolved childhood trauma, attachment-related complex trauma, that is now being transferred to the child by the aberrant and distorted parenting practices that this unresolved trauma creates.

Once we know trauma, the patterns are evident.

The pattern mimics actual trauma, so it confuses the ignorant, they think it’s actual traumatic parenting now by you, the targeted parent, that’s causing the symptom features of trauma in the child’s presentation (rejection, hostility, and expressed anxiety and fearfulness).

Those are all presumed to be the symptoms of child abuse and trauma. They’re not, but ignorance doesn’t actually know that, because ignorance has never actually worked with child abuse and trauma.

Those symptoms by the child, hostile-rejection and expressed anxiety and fearfulness, are what someone would imagine the child’s symptoms to be from child abuse, they’re wrong. Those are not the symptoms displayed by authentically abused children.

It is a display, a kabuki theater of supposed trauma and victimization – a reenactment.

It is a reenactment of the allied parent’s own childhood complex trauma experience, now played out with the current family members, each assigned their roles in the psychological drama.

The child is cast into the pivotal role as the “victimized child” who needs protecting from the “abusive parent.” The targeted parent is automatically cast into the villain’s role by the child’s “victimized child” role, as the supposedly evil “abusive parent.” This casing then allows the allied parent to self-adopt and conspicuously display the coveted rescuer role, the all-wonderful “protective parent.”

It’s all a false drama. A story, a ripple of themes created long ago, in complex trauma, relationship-based trauma, of the allied parent growing up.

Freud talked about it. He called it the transference, the transfer of trauma patterns from childhood to current family relationships, the acting out and reliving of childhood trauma in current relationships.

Bowlby talked about it. He talked about our internal working models of attachment, patterns of expectations that guide and direct all our future bonding relationships.

Beck talks about it. He calls them the schemas that are formed in childhood experience, patterns in our brain that organize our perceptions of subsequent events and relationships.

van der Kolk talks about it. He calls it the reenactment of trauma into the current family relationships.

Trauma is a dissociative pathology, it affects identity organization. People sometimes call it personality disorder pathology, narcissistic and borderline.

The allied parent’s complex trauma was reactivated by the failed marriage and divorce, triggered by the rejection and abandonment from the spousal attachment figure. Those are attachment trauma triggers.

The reactivated trauma-anxiety creates a persecutory delusion that drops into the trauma pattern of childhood; “abusive parent”/”victimized child”/”protective parent” – a false story imposed on now.

This is the origin of the persecutory delusion shared by the child and the allied parent. The allied parent “induces” the child into believing the child is being “victimized” by the targeted parent, the “victimized child” role of the false drama, the reenactment of trauma from long ago.

The allied parent is the “primary case” of the false drama, the delusion, and this parent “gradually imposes” the false beliefs onto the child – to destroy the child’s bond to the other parent.

For secondary gain. The allied parent is imposing a delusion onto the child – in order to destroy the child’s bond to the other parent; secondary gain. This is where the DSM-5 diagnosis of Factitious Disorder Imposed on Another (Munchausen by proxy) becomes a prominent diagnostic consideration.

Listen to what the American Psychiatric Association says about the parenting in this pathology.

From the APA: “Shared Psychotic Disorder can occur in larger number of individuals, especially in family situations in which the parent is the primary case and the children, sometimes to varying degrees, adopt the parent’s delusional beliefs.” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000)

From the APA: “Usually the primary case in Shared Psychotic Disorder is dominant in the relationship and gradually imposes the delusional system on the more passive and initially healthy second person.” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000)

From the APA: “The essential feature of Shared Psychotic Disorder (Folie a Deux) is a delusion that develops in an individual who is involved in a close relationship with another person (sometimes termed the “inducer” or “the primary case”).

The allied parent “imposes” a delusional belief system onto the child, the allied parent is the “inducer” of the child’s persecutory delusional beliefs in supposed “victimization” (the “victimized child”), in order to destroy the child’s relationship bond with the oher parent, the targeted parent – “targeted” for a brutal and savage form of IPV spousal abuse using the child, and the child’s “imposed” and “induced” delusional pathology, as the weapon.

None of this is me. None of this is a “new theory” of Dr. Childress. That is simply ignorance.

Google ignorance: lack of knowledge or information.

Google sloth: reluctance to work or make an effort; laziness.

Google negligence: failure to take proper care in doing something.

The ICD-10 diagnosis of a Shared Psychotic Disorder is F24. Creating a delusional-psychotic pathology in the child that destroys the child’s attachment bond to the other parent is a DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.

Apply knowledge to solve pathology. Ignorance solves nothing.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Tom Kenyon : Energy Magnetic Fields

The magnetic field of earth is involved in a perturbation or morphing.

This is taking place interdimensionally,

and the net effect is incremental surges

in amplitude or strengthof the magnetic field

This morphing of earth’s magnetic field

is like a wave that rises and falls very quickly, and

the oscillations are minute, but distinct. This is having

a very strange effect upon human consciousness,

specifically your biological experience.

Many people are experiencing an increase of exhaustion and weariness. (these symptoms are also caused by movements of energies from deep space as they pass through

your galaxy and your solar system.)

But this (perturbation) is of a different category.

This is caused by the magnetic field itself,

which is responding to the deep energies from space.

It is a response of the molten core of your earth itself; and

the magnetic field is having a conversation with the cosmos,

if you wish to think of it in this metaphorical way.

Now, your

science does not view things in this manner, but from

our perspective the magnetic field is having a conversation

with these cosmic visitors, the energies from deep space

, which are, by nature, catalysts for spiritual evolution.

Another set of symptoms directly related to the perturbations of

your magnetic field are distinct changes in how you hold short term memory—because memory is a function of the magnetics of your own nervous system and that of earth.

Your brain processes information through the minute gravitational andnon-gravitational fields of it’s own structure and it is affected directly by fluctuations in the earth’s magnetic field.

And so you can expect an increase in short term memory anomalies. You may find yourself speaking a sentence and suddenly the words do not come to you or you mix up the words from their normal syntax.

While in some cases this is the sign of a brain disorder,

you will find this happening within the general populace at an increasing rate. Escalations in collective short-term memory glitches will lead humanity to a most novel situation.

This situation is an opportunity or a curse,

, depending on how you work with it.

The opportunity is to see through the mental matrix of

your own creation. What we mean by this is when your mind

is unable to continue its story line in the ways it is used to,

you have an opportunity to glimpse the realities behind

the curtain (of perception).

You are the ones who have created the curtain, and

you have done this to keep yourselves separated from things you do not wish to see or experience directly,

or in some cases what others do not wish you to see

or experience directly.

We refer here to the unseen manipulators of

your collective reality—

those who hold the economic and political reins of power.

We have said before that there are forces on your planet

that actively resist

the impulse for spiritual evolution.

They are invested in continuing their lies through

the misappropriation of information in order to control you.

Their job is getting more difficult.

Their job is getting more difficult because the perturbation of

the magnetic field creates gaps in the creation of mental realities projected by the human mind.

They –

meaning those who wish to control and manipulate you –

have vast resources at their command, and they

are employing every one of them. But they cannot control

the magnetic field of the earth! And for this,

you should give thanks.

The impulse that is affecting the magnetic field of the earth comes from far beyond their locus of influence. It is

our expectation, based upon our understanding of

hyper-dimensional physics, that the perturbations of

your magnetic field are going to increase over the next several years. Those of you who are sensitive energetically are the ones feeling this most intensely at the present moment,

but we suspect that in the next two to three years most people will be affected by this in a way they are consciously aware of, even if they do not know why.

We have a couple of suggestions for dealing with the situation.

Our first suggestion is the easiest. It involves understanding

your connection to the core of the earth itself.

As an energetic being, in addition to your flesh and blood,

you can form a conscious energetic relationship

with the core of the earth.

This understanding, or orientation, is that you are immersed in and surrounded by, earth’s magnetic field.

By going into mental resonance with the core of the earth

(the generator of earth’s magnetic field),

you become energetically stabilized. The earth,

as a conscious being, can reveal herself to you in ways

that are difficult to describe because your culture does not have a language for this. And you have been manipulated and controlled to insure that you do not have an awareness of this, for it could be one of your greatest strengths.

By entering into resonance with the core of the earth

you become more conscious of the earth as a living conscious being.

Through this link, you receive a type of energetic-solidity—

even in the midst of earth’s increasing chaos.

The odd thing about it, however, is that when you bring

yourself to your senses, so to speak, you are less controllable, less “manipulatable” by those forces that control the thought stream of humanity through mis-information, manipulation

and mind-control.

In other words, forming a direct conscious relationship

with the earth’s core bypasses many of the affects

of what we call life-negative technologies.

If you wish to do something in addition to entering into

mental resonance with the core of the earth, we suggest using your pranic tube, a subtle energetic channel that runs from above your head, through the center of your body, and

into the earth. This tube, this channel,

can be extended deep into the earth, down into the very core itself, and also above the head deep into space.

In this method you are not dealing

with extending the channel beyond the top of the head. Instead,

You only extend the channel into the core of the earth.

But the essential thing is not so much the sending of this channel into the earth. The essential thing is to understand that you are in resonance with the core of the earth simply by knowing it. This will impart a sense of stability even in the midst of increasing chaos. It will awaken your senses.

It will bring

you into greater conscious relationship to earth. And,

we must caution you that it will also de-hypnotize you—

make you less controllable. And you will see through

the lies around you more clearly !

The second suggestion involves developing a conscious relationship

to the core of the galaxy.

Essentially, understand that you can be in resonance with the core of the Milky Way Galaxy, which is a black hole, and

that in similar ways to being in resonance with the core of the earth,

you can become stabilized in relationship to the galaxy.

If you are capable of this, simply hearing this described to you will activate the knowingness of how to do it.

It is not a complex affair. It is quite simple,

but requires the understanding that

a part of you is not limited by the time and space coordinates

of your physical body.

It requires an understanding that consciousness can extend instantaneously, anywhere in time and space, and by extending your consciousness

to the galactic core,

you are stabilized in relationship to the galaxy.

The ideal is to be in relationship to earth’s core and

the core of the galaxy simultaneously.

Then you will be able to ride the waves of energy

from deep space with a greater degree of mastery.

But, again, we caution you that this will make you less controllable, harder to hypnotize, and then you may

have the very odd experience of waking up while many around

you are still asleep.

What you do with this awareness is, of course,

Your choice and your response-ability.

~ Tom Kenyon ❤