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Alienated Children – Cognitive Dissonance

Alienated children often suffer from cognitive dissonance as they struggle to reconcile the negative narrative imposed on them by the alienating parent and their own genuine feelings and memories of the ‘target’ parent. This can lead them to seek reasons to justify their rejection of a loved, loving, available and non-abusive parent. It’s also a means to align with the alienating parent who presents as stronger and apparently safer. This is what the child wants – safety, security, love. Initially, they may subconsciously prioritise pleasing the controlling alienating parent to avoid conflict or further manipulation. ⁠

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The alienated child consciously or unconsciously seeks evidence, often exaggerated or distorted, that supports the negative image the alienating parent has portrayed of the ‘target’ parent. Information can be twisted out of all recognition. There are many examples of this. A phone call can be called harassment. Gifts can be bribery. Virtually everything can seem wrong as the alienating parent repositions it, and unfortunately, the child learns this behaviour and starts to put it into practise themselves. This can involve past and present events. Happy memories can be erased and reprogrammed in a negative light. ⁠

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But it has to be remembered that when the child does this, it is a way of surviving a dreadful ordeal and somehow trying to justify and validate the behaviours they’ve been coerced into. I’ve heard it so many times from adults who were alienated children that it really helped them to know their rejected parent was always there for them, waiting, in the background, with love, giving them hope that one day everything would be okay.⁠

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Craig Childress, PsyD – Child Attachment Pathology & Child Abuse

I think I’m going to Coffee talk you twice tomorrow.

In the first one I’ll answer a question. In the second I’m going to talk to teachers – and the principal. For schools, it’s mostly the principal who’s involved, but the teacher should know what’s up.

Mostly teachers need to keep their heads down and remain non-involved… mostly it’s navigating the parent conferences. It’s the principal and the front office where most of the inter-parental action happens.

Sometimes it’s the records thing. Sometimes it’s a child tantrum in the office at exchange. Sometimes it’s a missed pick-up because the allied parent already picked the child up.

Triangulation is a hallmark of manipulative pathology. General public bystanders need to de-triangulate. It’s the psychologists who should be handling it. But they’re not.

Everything is a problem because the doctor psychologists in the family courts aren’t doing their job of fixing the problem. That’s their profession, that’s their job – to fix the mental health problem.

In this case, child attachment pathology and child abuse.

This isn’t a custody issue. Its a treatment issue. We need to fix the problem. To fix the problem we first have to identify what the problem is – i.e., which parent is abusing the child?

Diagnosis guides treatment. If we try to treat cancer with insulin, the patient dies from the misdiagnosed cancer. What is the diagnosis?

Start there. Once we have an accurate diagnosis for what the problem is, then we can develop an effective treatment plan to fix the problem… whatever the problem is.

That’s what we do in healthcare. You go to the doctor when you’re sick and the doctor diagnoses what’s causing your problem and then gives you a treatment plan to fix the problem.

Diagnosis first, then treatment. The treatment depends on the diagnosis, are we treating cancer or diabetes – which parent is abusing the child?

If a child is rejecting a parent, one parent or the other is abusing the child because abusive parenting is the ONLY thing that causes a symptom of a child rejecting a parent.

The ONLY diagnostic question is which parent is abusing the child?

Once the doctors start doing their job… everything will be fixed because they’ll fix the problem.

I should tell you how to fix problems. Maybe I should start with the basics of behavior change. Do you want to change any aspect of your life? I should tell you how to do that.

It’s relatively easy. The problem is you won’t do it. It’s called “resistance” and it arrived with Freud and has been the obstacle forever after.

I should tell you about Alfred Adler and why people want their problems. I should tell you about depression and anxiety too – just kind of orientations.

Should I tell you about Sapolsky and how it doesn’t matter what you do because it’s all Determined? Probably not.

I should talk to the teachers and principals to give them suggestions for navigating their child end of inter-parental custody conflict. We’ll see how the spirit moves me.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist
WA 61538481
OR 3942 – CA 18857

Inside the mind of Domestic Abusers

Let’s acknowledge that Domestic Abuse

in 2025 is Intimate Partner Violence

High Conflict

Mercenary , Manipulative Malignant

It is Spiritual

It is physical and psychological

It is financial, the never ending story

of projected blasphemy’s that create

an aura of heroic survival despite

the insanity of your partner .

Hatred lives in the heart of racist ,

discrimination, who superiority

rules all around him .

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Alienating Parent & Narcissism -Charlie McCready

It has been established that in most cases an Alienator is Narcissistic.

Despite its prevalence and devastating consequences, parental alienation remains one of the most misunderstood and underreported forms of abuse, sometimes, in itself, invalidated and maligned, with dire repercussions for families, and this, in turn, damages the very fabric of our societies.

At its core, parental alienation involves a distorted and toxic manipulation of familial relationships, particularly in the context of separation or divorce. It encompasses a spectrum of abusive behaviours, from emotional manipulation and coercive control to psychological abuse and child maltreatment. An alienating parent nefariously orchestrates it, but it can also involve step-parents, grandparents and others. Far too often, it’s further enabled by anyone, including professionals in the mental health and legal space, who doesn’t recognise and understand the dynamics behind the pathology. ‘Parental alienation’ is often disguised as love and protectiveness by a caring, concerned parent. In contrast, the more mentally healthy, ‘target’ parent who seeks peaceful resolution and a form of co-parenting can be mistaken for the agitator and the problem, particularly when the ‘voice of the child’ (coached and aligned with the alienating parent) has the last word. Sometimes, the ‘target’ alienated parent doesn’t even get to share their side of things. And this very divisiveness, this black-and-white thinking, is to the advantage of the triangulating (divide and conquer) adversarial parent in an adversarial situation. This is generalising, of course; there are many grey areas, and it’s not to say the alienating parent can’t sometimes act with genuine love, and the ‘target’ parent doesn’t sometimes, especially given the injustice, grief and anger, this situation evokes, act as the more emotional parent. The alienating parent, by contrast, can come across as calm, confident, charming … and this is before we throw narcissistic traits into the mix too

Furthermore, the targeted parent, unjustly maligned and emotionally battered, often faces the isolation of not being heard and understood and a labyrinthine legal and mental health landscape. The true extent of the abuse often eludes well-meaning professionals who may inadvertently contribute to the perpetuation of parental alienation due to a lack of awareness and understanding. Mental health professionals, legal practitioners, and communities must be equipped to recognise the signs, intervene effectively, and provide the necessary resources for healing and reconciliation. It’s a false economy not to invest in a better understanding and support for those caught up in ‘parental alienation’. The repercussions extend far beyond the immediate family unit when the harm it causes impacts communities, schools, and society at large. By acknowledging and addressing this form of abuse, we could pave the way for healthier, more connected societies where the sacred bonds of family are honoured and the well-being of children is prioritised above all.

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Eclipse Energy Report

This eclipse season marks a crossroad and a divine opportunity to shed your story all that is not authentic and in true alliance with truth both on a personal and a collective level. The new earth has shifted into her new orbital dimensional octave and thus you may feel disorientated and no longer being able to make sense of your self.

In other words you may feel an alienation to your old self and to those who you previously felt aligned with vibrationally because those that have done and are in the process of the inner work of shedding their story are literally in a sort of death process and are or have already now shifted to a higher octave that is attuned and aligned with your christed source essence, through which your human persona is dissolved.

This can be a gradual process or an abrupt shift, that can be a shock to your human self. In other words you may loose the sense of self and all the conditioning that kept you trapped in the mind construct hollowgram of who you thought you were.

The photonic light coming through this eclipse window is dismantling every bit of you that is out of tune with your soul’s essence. Because the incoming source light is not coherent vibrationally with duality mindset beliefs or imprints, that have previously distorted or disabled your ability to see thru the veil of deception. The veils of deception are dissolving and with it the mind trap of distortion of separation and of perception of time.

This may cause a sense of loosing controle, as your sense of self is dissolving. You might feel disorientated and in no man’s land and truly that is not just a temporary transitional space you are moving thru as you navigate thru this death portal that is designed for you to shed all that kept you in separation from your source origin and all the expressions of god that you “have been” and are living as your multidimenional self in the time/space continium in order to transcend the polarity and matrix of 3D. This sense of nothing-ness is the divine space of grace that you will embace and perceive once your human self let go.

Your human self may struggle and fight for it’s “life” and refuse to surrender to this death process for it is making no sense of being a no one but actually this no one or sense of being nothing is the very essence of your source self where you have transcended the construct of an individualised separate self.

A deep sadness may surface and be felt these coming weeks, this is the remnants and ancient memory stored within your cells of the “downfall from grace” which you experienced milleniums ago dating back to the times of the downfall of Atlantis and Lemuria, which are surfacing right now as well as other time lines where you experienced death and/or separation from god. This time on you have the opportunity to exit the death loop karmic wheel and unite with god as a living soul in embodiment. This has never happened before and this is indeed the very purpose of why you came here. To be the living christ in the flesh. To transcend the illusion from time and death which is the fundamental construct of the 3rd dimension. Bc of the timeline collapse you may go thru a timeline review which is caused by the dissolving of the mind construct of time that allows you to feel, sense and perceive every part of you is co-existing side by side in this time space continium on different frequency bandwidths.

Once you surrender completely and allow for this death process to kick in and take you “over” you cross the separation veil, which have kept you separate from your very source and true essence of divine love. In other words you reconnect with source and all your expressions of your parallel higher dimensional expressions which aligns and attunes you to your angelic and galactic blueprint..

You will suddenly realise, that the veil of maya is only a mind construct that is a fatamorgana hollow construct that is only held intact through your mind and in the coherent frequency bandwidth on which it vibrates which was set in place to hold you imprisoned in the mind prison of separation.

Now this eclipse window is a resurrection ascension gateway designed to usher you through the eye of the needle which peaks or should I say bursts at the upcoming solar eclipse on March 29th. It is an unplugging from the old frequency bandwidth of the old earth. The old earth matrix has already separated from the new earth likened to a snake shedding its skin so thus the feeling of depresion or anxiety, that many are feeling is caused bc your body and mind is in opposition to surrender and dissolve to give way for source energy to take up full occupancy of your body and god omnipresence to merge into being within your human vessel. When I merged with the elohim and solar logoi years ago I had the sense of falling which ignited deep fear of loosing controle but as I let go I instantly felt like I was floating in space spiraling in oneness with source of all that is and I felt a profound uplifting onto a higher vibrational octave of divine grace and rapture, which is our naturel state of being and home band frequency.

As you are letting go of the 3D mind construct that your body has vibrated on and been constricted to you may feel all sorts of physical symptoms as your physical body and cells are releasing the mind constriction of your body as a limited space of 3D density that you were trapped in.

So now this body construct is being dismantled thru the higher photonic light pouring in from the cosmos and turning your body into a more fluid state. Your cells are turning crystaline and density in your very bones is being alchemized by the galactic plasma and this process can be painful and causing distress as it decompresses into liquid plasma and starts to vibrate on higher octaves of light.

The affects of polarity that is still in place in the frequency bandwidth of 3D will only impact you to the extent that you allow it. Thus engaging in lower frequencies of us/versus them mindset will only create turmoil both physically, mentally and emotionally. Refrain from engaging in 3D lower timelines and those who vibrate on and engage in this realm for it will create attachments and prevent you from fully embodying christ consciouss with source. There is currently a lot of distractions set in place thru psyops to create drama and division.

The division has never been greater and will increase until the tipping point of the collective quantum shift. The best way you can assist in accelerating this is to detach from engaging in the us/versus them scenarious. Keep heart centered in 0-point neutrality. Trust the divine plan though nothing may make sense, you cannot figure out exactly what is going on and being played out on the world stage and there is no point of trying to make sense of it bc in truth nothing is as it seems. Find solace and peace within your sacred heart and breathe moment to moment and allow everything to unfold in divine grace. You are not missing out on anything. Trust the divine order and orchestration of the divine plan to unfold.

Embrace all that is being ripped apart all that is brought to the surface right now to be embraced, witnessed and let go off. The inner most core wounds of your human self is being displayed and expossed in the coming weeks thru this eclipse gateway for the resurrection into christ consciousness.

Time to get naked to love, to throw in the towel and surrender.

You got this. God in you is in charge.

Amma Grace ❤️

Poor Partner ? Good Father Myth

If a man believes he can protect his children while hurting his woman, he is deeply mistaken. What you give to your woman—whether love, respect, or pain—is what she will pass on to your children. This is an undeniable truth of life, one you cannot escape. A woman is the emotional and spiritual foundation of a home, and her well-being influences the emotional climate of the entire family.

When a man nurtures and supports his woman, he creates an environment where love and safety thrive. This love flows through her and reaches the children. A woman who feels cherished and respected will radiate warmth and stability. Her sense of peace will naturally create a secure world for her children to grow and flourish in.

On the other hand, when a man chooses to hurt or neglect his woman, he disrupts the harmony of the home. Her pain doesn’t stay confined within her; it becomes a silent burden that shapes the atmosphere of the household. Children growing up in a space filled with tension and emotional distress often internalize those struggles, carrying them into their own lives.

It is essential for a man to recognize that his relationship with his woman sets the foundation for his children’s emotional development. If he provides her with love and security, his children will learn the importance of healthy relationships and emotional intelligence. If he chooses to cause her harm, he risks teaching his children to repeat the same patterns of dysfunction.

A woman’s role in a family is unique. She is often the heart of the home, and her energy influences the rhythm of daily life. When a man honors this role and treats her with care, he empowers her to fulfill it wholeheartedly. This empowerment doesn’t just benefit her—it shapes the emotional well-being of their children for generations.

A man cannot claim to be a good father while being a poor partner. His treatment of the mother of his children is one of the greatest lessons he teaches them. Sons will learn how to treat women by observing their father, and daughters will learn what to expect from men. Therefore, a father’s actions have a profound and lasting impact.

Many men fail to see this connection, assuming they can compartmentalize their relationships. They believe they can show up as loving fathers while being absent or hurtful partners. But children are incredibly perceptive. They notice the unspoken dynamics and carry those observations into their understanding of relationships.

The truth is, children thrive in an environment where both parents are emotionally healthy and supportive of one another. A man who uplifts his woman not only strengthens her but also creates a stable foundation for his children to grow upon. His love and respect set an example that shapes their worldview.

Men must also recognize that protecting their children goes beyond physical safety. It involves creating a space where emotional security is prioritized. This cannot happen if the mother of the children feels unsupported, neglected, or hurt. Emotional wounds within the family ripple outward, affecting everyone.

To truly protect your children, protect their mother. Nurture her spirit and honor her contributions. When you invest in her happiness and well-being, you invest in the emotional health of your entire family. What you give her, she will magnify and return to your children tenfold.

So dear man, the greatest legacy a man can leave for his children is the example of a loving and harmonious partnership. By treating his woman with care and respect, he teaches his children the value of love, kindness, and mutual support. This is the universal truth you cannot escape—and one every man must embrace.