Tag: trauma

Ending all narcissistic research is close for me

Dissecting and investigating the narcissist’s behaviors and relationship crimes may help you feel validated and to understand that it’s not you…but you don’t want to waste years of your life in that space.

No one has ever cracked the narcissistic code and went on to have a healed relationship with a narcissist.⁠

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I feel so sorrowful for folks when I see they’ve been out of their toxic relationships for 5, 10, 15 years, or more and they are still lamenting the relationship. ⁠

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This tells me they are still internalizing the false blame for the relationship ending; that they are still seeking answers; that they are addicted to researching narcissism and staying stuck in heartbreak and trauma.⁠

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Toxic relationships cause a biochemical addiction (also known as peptide addiction). It’s no different from an addiction to drugs, alcohol, or smoking…or any type of addiction.⁠

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Just as a smoker may quit smoking yet get addicted to nicotine gum, a narcissistic abuse survivor can quit the narcissist, but become addicted to researching narcissism.⁠

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Case in point – a few times each year, I put out surveys asking my followers and email subscribers what kind of material they want me to publish. Most people say they want more healing material. So, I put out more healing material and it barely receives any views or engagement. But if I put out anything with the word “narcissist” in it, it is consumed like mad.⁠

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That’s not to say you shouldn’t be in support groups designed for forward movement and healing, but that the hours-a-day binge-watching YouTube videos and reading material on narcissism will keep you stuck indefinitely if you don’t put an expiration date on it. ⁠

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Part of recovery is learning to take care of your psyche. You will eventually need to stop consuming information about narcissists and turn toward information, treatment, and programs that will help you finally heal and move forward. ⁠

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Otherwise, you could be stuck for life. ⁠

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💪 If you’d like gentle guidance on taking your power back from the narcissist, join me and other wonderful thrivers in my therapist-approved resources. ⁠

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Childress on Gardner

Debate. I wanna debate someone sometime.

I don’t care who, I don’t care what it’s about. It can be about forensic psychology. It can be about Gardner’s PAS. It can be about AB-PA. It can be about the future of the family courts.

Forensic psychology is a failed experiment in service delivery that needs to end, and we need to return to clinical psychology – diagnosis and treatment – in the family courts.

Forensic psychology needs to end. It solves nothing and never has.

Gardner’s PAS is the worst model for a pathology ever developed in the history of humanity – the worst – in 2013 it had a full and complete review by the American Psychiatric Association and it was fully rejected as a diagnostic construct.

The Gardnerian PAS “experts” are a fringe group of mental health people (not professionals) who reject the diagnostic guidance of the American Psychiatric Association and the ethical guidance of the American Psychological Association.

Forensic psychology and Gardner’s PAS are both creations of the pathology designed to degrade the mental health response to the pathology. We need to return to clinical psychology.

We need to establish standards of practice to which ALL mental health people can be held accountable – this is the APA ethics code. Everyone – everyone – must apply exactly the same knowledge (the best) to reach exactly the same conclusions (accurate) and make exactly the same recommendations (effective).

Everyone must be held accountable to ethical standards of practice – ethical practice is not optional – it is required… mandatory… no exceptions because you think you’re “special” – everyone.

Do you want to argue that? Fine. Let’s debate. A 2-hour moderated online debate – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: The Role of Forensic and Clinical Psychology in the Family Courts – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: Does PAS Offer a Solution to Custody Conflict in the Family Courts? Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: Does AB-PA Offer a Solution to Custody Conflict in the Family Courts? Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: AB-PA vs. PAS as a Solution for the Family Courts – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: Does “Parental Alienation” Exist? – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: Are Forensic Psychology and PAS Creations of the Pathology? – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

Topic: Anything You’d Like – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

A 2-hour online moderated debate – Dr. Chidress vs. Anyone about anything. Pick the topic, pick the opponent, set the date and the platform, send me an invite… and let’s debate the issues.

Dr. Childress vs. Anyone about anything.

Bill Bernet? Jennifer Harman? Karen Woodall? Anyone?

Stahl or Simon? Susan Deutsch? Matthew Sullivan? Anyone?

Crickets is all I hear. The pathogen does not want to debate issues, it wants to hide in ignorance and apathy.

If there’s a debate… there’s clarity… and it remains online, up on the Internet for everyone to see. The pathogen does not want to be seen. They refuse to debate because they will be exposed for all to see.

I know that. They know that. I see the pathogen moving in minds that you don’t necessarily see… yet.

Forensic psychology and Gardner’s PAS are products of a pathogen – a trauma pathogen in the attachment networks – their purpose is to degrade the mental health response in the family courts.

Forensic psychology is the capture – PAS is the bait.

Find a forensic psychologist or PAS “expert” who disagrees – Debate – a 2-hour moderated online Debate: Is Forensic Psychology a Product of the Pathology it Seeks to Solve?

Find a Gardnerian “expert” who disagrees – Debate – a 2-hour moderated online Debate: Was PAS Created by the Pathology as Bait for Parents?

Topic: Is Forensic Psychology in Violation of Multiple Ethical Standards and Principles of the APA Ethics Code?

Affirmative – Dr. Childress
Negative – ? ? ? no one… because it’s true.

The forensic psychologists are exploiting a “vulnerable population” (compromised autonomy in decision-making) for their own personal financial gain. Forensic psychology is in violation of Principle D Justice protections for equal-access and equal-quality of services. Forensic psychologists are routinely and consistently in violation of Standards 2.04, 9.01, 2.01, and 3.04 of the APA ethics code, and routinely in violation of the duty to protect obligations.

Debate – Dr. Childress vs. Anyone.

July, 2022… I wonder how long they can hide? The pathogen loves to hide. That’s it’s first defense. It’s second defense is to seek allies. Don’t agree… let’s debate it – anywhere – anytime – anyone.

The pathogen hides… not anymore.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Narcissist Take Away Consent

Narcissists take away your consent. This can happen in many different contexts and ways. Whether it’s duping you into a relationship where their intentions are misrepresented or your resources exploited, sexually abusing you, profiting off your labor in the workplace, taking away your rights as a medical patient, or imposing upon you traumas that violate your well-being, they feel entitled to take what they want without permission. They erode your agency and ability to consent in an informed way.

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The induced patient; yet another experience

I spent almost three decades in the system. Forced treatments caused me to lose everything. Job, home, relationships, my reputation. I was reduced to a drooling shuffling incontinente moron that couldn’t read a sentence!
I ran for my life and went through horrible withdrawals. The bipolar schizoaffective that NEVER WAS!!
I haven’t had a single episode of depression in almost 6 years since I started the withdrawal from their poisons. Rounds and rounds of ECTS. Depression was my primary symptom but the cause all of it was the treatments. By drugs by electricity by forced confinement and lies. By being treated Less than Human. I was hospitalized all most every year, sometimes several times a year.
None of that now, No hospitals, no obsessive thoughts, no symptoms!! No drugs, No mental health system!!!
I am SLOWLY recovering some of my brain. So much damage. So much loss.
I’m working part time now and I have a car.
I wouldn’t even turn the lights on when I brushed my hair when I was so drugged I could barely walk.
It’s HORRENDOUS what they do to people, what they did to me…
I tried to get a lawyer, I was so angry that I thought I could demand change.
No one would take my case.
I would still sue, if I had the chance.