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Christmas is hard

I have memories if Christmas that are very dear and a few pictures ; but I’m not attached to it anymore . That took a ton of healing and acceptance.

If Christmas is hard,

If you’ve lost someone dear.

Just look in your heart,

And you’ll know they’re still here.

The star in the sky,

The light falling snow.

The robin outside,

It seems like they know.

If this is a time,

When you’re struggling through.

Just do what you can,

For what matters, is you.

There’s no need to be merry,

There’s no need to bright.

Just do what you can,

It will all be alright.

Unknown ⭐

Artist Credit: Lisa Aisato

Serendipity Corner

#NationalGriefAwarenessWeek

Strength

I’ve spent so much of my life being the strong one—the one who keeps it together when everything feels like it’s falling apart, the one who pushes through even when the weight feels unbearable.

I’m so used to wearing that strength like armor that I almost forget what it feels like to be soft, to let my guard down. That’s why being treated with kindness means more than words can express. It’s not about needing someone to save me—I can handle the hard stuff—but feeling safe enough to be vulnerable, even for a moment.

When you’re used to carrying so much, even the smallest acts of gentleness feel like a reminder that I don’t have to be strong all the time, that it’s okay to rest. And sometimes, that’s exactly what I need.

~Mj Blossoms ~ Writer’s Blossoms

~ Art by Barley Bisher

The manipulated alienated child – Charlie Mc Cready

It’s painful for the alienated child when they realise they’d put their trust in a parent who didn’t entirely have their best interests in mind, they were mostly thinking of themselves. They were being childish, vengeful and selfish when as a parent they’d have been expected, and trusted to be emotionally mature, mentally balanced, nurturing, and unconditionally loving.

Coming to terms with being manipulated, lied to, and deprived of a relationship with a loving parent can be a challenging process for an alienated child. It often involves recognising and acknowledging what really happened, which can evoke feelings of anger, sadness, and betrayal. Healing and reconciliation requires support from people who understand parental alienation. They can gradually gain insight into the dynamics at play and develop a healthier perspective on the situation. It is essential for the child to separate their own identity and emotions from the alienating parent’s influence, allowing them to reclaim their autonomy and make informed decisions about their relationships. Ultimately, the healing process involves finding ways to rebuild trust, establish boundaries, and create a fulfilling life that includes a sense of love and connection with both parents, regardless of the alienating parent’s actions.

A significant amount of programming of false beliefs and fictions need to be untangled so they can move on with their life as a sovereign, happy, healthy-minded individual who is free to love who they choose, not only who their alienating parent allows them to love.

Alienated children need to be immensely brave and strong to break free, but they can and do. Some cut ties with the alienating parent; some find a way to have both parents in their lives, which was always the best situation for them.

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Matriarchal society of Native Americans ❤️💯

NURTURING:When Europeans first arrived in North America, they were amazed by the Indigenous People and their culture and how it differed from their own. Children appeared to be indulged and lavished with affection more than European children, who were often disciplined by force. This tenderness instilled in them a sense of honor and respect through example. Native appearance and dress were understandably different, but strangely, native infants at birth were as light of skin as any from Europe. As they aged, their skins took on the hues of adults.��The women of these strange new people were esteemed and honored by society, unlike European women. American tribes had a matriarchal society in which children “belonged” to their mothers and were raised by them. The words of these women held sway. It was often their voices that ended conflicts or chose a direction for the entire clan or tribe.��In this painting, the Clan Mothers welcome new additions to the village. They will be raised in the old ways and and someday may become leaders of their people. (written with the help of Beth Kennedy — author and Clan Mother)Courtesy ~ JohnBuxton

Do not underestimate

“Do not underestimate someone who has lost everything and is still here to tell the story.

Do not underestimate someone who has fought dearly for sobriety. Peace. Forgiveness. Self-love. Freedom. Authenticity. Truth.

Do not underestimate the lonely. They have braved wars that only those who understand the absence of human connection can do. Even now. They are holding it all together while coming so wildly undone. And sometimes we may see them unravel ever so softly. Or loudly. Or however their soul unties its cage the best.

Do not underestimate the ones who have suffered the kind of grief that does not seem to end. Who have been broken in places you did not even know existed. The ones who fell into silence because their lungs had no words left to speak.

We will not always be strong.

No.

But we are enduring.”✨♥️

Lisa Patterson -Poet and Artist♥️

A book , I find horribly sad

I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy is a powerful and deeply personal memoir that explores themes of control, abuse, self-discovery, and healing. Through candid storytelling, McCurdy reflects on her childhood as a child actor, her complex relationship with her mother, and her journey to finding her own identity.

Here are 10 lessons from the book:

1. Abuse Isn’t Always Obvious: Emotional manipulation and control, often disguised as love or care, can be just as harmful as physical abuse.

2. Seeking Approval Can Be Dangerous: The constant need to please others, especially parents, can lead to losing touch with your own desires and identity.

3. Trauma Shapes Behavior: Many struggles, such as eating disorders or anxiety, stem from unresolved trauma. Understanding the root of these issues is the first step to healing.

4. Setting Boundaries Is Essential: Breaking free from toxic relationships, even with family members, is necessary to protect your mental and emotional health.

5. Healing Is a Nonlinear Process: Recovery from abuse and trauma isn’t straightforward—it’s filled with ups and downs, but progress is possible.

6. Your Worth Isn’t Tied to Achievement: External success, like fame or wealth, doesn’t equate to personal fulfillment or self-worth.

7. Parents Aren’t Always Right: While we often view parents as infallible, it’s important to recognize and address their flaws and the harm they may cause.

8. It’s Okay to Feel Anger: Acknowledging and processing anger toward those who’ve hurt us is a healthy part of healing, even if it’s directed at a parent.

9. Self-Discovery Takes Time: Reclaiming your identity after years of control requires patience, exploration, and self-compassion.

10. Humor Can Be a Coping Mechanism: Finding humor in painful experiences can help process trauma and make it more bearable, though it’s important to balance humor with honesty.

Jennette McCurdy’s memoir is a raw, honest, and often darkly humorous account of surviving and healing from a painful past, ultimately offering hope to anyone navigating their own struggles.

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Woman Power

Having an understanding of this as a new wife and Mother , I was not supported or acknowledged as having any value .

At the time of X’s departure I was not myself and unable to respond correctly ; incorrectly assuming since I had legal representation, I was being cared for .

Protected

I was horribly wrong .

As the years passed and I worked hard on myself , I did grow empowered and motivated to finish old business . I know accept why on many levels how varied challenges hindered my progress , except for my faith . I think there are more than a few who grasp who I am . A male friend just stated how strong I am in a phone call .

I am grateful for the hands on my back and repel the hands that hold knives !

THE 6 POWERS OF A WOMAN

Your power as a woman goes beyond your body. It’s okay to have great curves! The ability to get a man chase you hard is power on its own. Having a hour glass (figure 😎 shape is an automatic magnet for lustful men and some can eat the very sand at your feet just to get in between your thigh. Getting a man pant after you is power but your power goes beyond sensuality, sex and seduction, they don’t last! We are talking about lasting power here!

You carry so much power that you are not aware of. This power can make you a success. It can make your man an outstanding success. Make you a voice to reckon with and cause great changes in the society.

1. YOU HAVE THE POWER OF WORDS

Words are powerful! They can make or break someone. No! They can shatter someone to a million pieces without repair! Women are known with verbal power! Either to make, mend, destroy or kill! It is in every woman! By words alone, Delilah brought Samson to his death! By words, Jezebel made her husband commit murder! By words, Esther the queen saved a whole nation! By words, Abigail saved her life from death and became the wife of a king! By words, Adichie Chimamanda Ngozie is promoting feminism in Africa and beyond! By words, Linda Ikeji amassed billions of Naira into her account! Whether written or verbal, your words carry power! With your words you can end up a global success, challenge your man to success and change the society for good! Maximize your tongue by using words to your advantage!

2. YOU HAVE BODY POWER!

Men are attracted to beautiful women. Use your feminine body to your advantage! Not by sleeping around for money/job/promotion, etc you lose power and control that way. The moment you give a man sex he is not entitled to through marriage, he loses respect for you and you lose power! Package for excellence!

Be irresistible, charming, appealing, comely and worth chasing then divert his attention from your body(clothed body please. I’m not asking you to go about naked/show him your boobs and curves. You get what I mean) to your mind, intellect, talents, potentials and vision. That is how to hold a man spell bound! That is how to make him stay glued. That is how to command respect and honour. That s what make some men chase certain women hard till they marry them and after marriage, support with all you’ve got till he becomes a phenomenal success. You have the brain, wisdom, power, intellect, money and God to help your man succeed, that power lies within you. Maximize it!

3. YOU HAVE BRAIN POWER!

Women are blessed with the power of imagination. What you can see, you can achieve! Women who go out to change the world always do so especially when you have divine backing! You can be the next Nigerian president, you can build orphanages, you can create women empowerment programmes, you can rescue juvenile delinquents, you can cause great changes in the society. You can feed the poor, you can end up a great philanthropist.

4. YOU HAVE THE POWER OF INFLUENCE

You can influence your man, children, neighbour, friends and family for good. The power is within you. Once your mind is made up to achieve a result, cause a great change or turn your man to an international stardom, you can! You can influence a whole community, nation or country! You can influence your customers/clients and attract more money into your account. The power of influence lies within you. Esther the queen influenced a whole nation to fast and pray till they obtained their freedom. You are a great influencer!

5. YOU HAVE MONEY POWER!

Because women are naturally endowed with relationship skills, it’s easier to win more customers/clients and swell your bank account beyond your imagination. You can make as much money as you want.

6. YOU HAVE GOD POWER

Women connect with God at a deeper level than men. Not all women though, but a good percentage of women draw strength deeply and powerfully from God than their male counterparts who like to go macho with everything to the point of self destruction! Maximize your God power! With deep, intimate relationship with Him, you will draw power to achieve the impossible and up a phenomenal success. A role model millions look up to round the world.

Every woman carry power. Maximize yours, unleash it and end up a celebrity!

Liberation

The person I needed the most taught me that I don’t need nobody, a painful yet liberating lesson etched in the scars of my heart, where love and abandonment once entwined like fractured vines.

Their absence became my greatest teacher, guiding me through the dark landscape of self-discovery, where I unearthed an inner strength, a resilient voice that whispers “I am enough” amidst the echoes of rejection.

In the hollow of their departure, I found a profound sense of self-sufficiency, learning to fill the void with my own light, nurturing a garden of self-love that blooms in the cracks of shattered dreams.

Their silence became my loudest awakening, alerting me to the realization that my worth isn’t anchored in someone else’s approval, but in the unwavering acceptance of myself.

Through the fire of their neglect, I forged an unshakeable resolve, tempered by the understanding that true freedom lies not in the arms of others, but in the unyielding love I hold for myself.