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Alienating Parent & Narcissism -Charlie McCready

It has been established that in most cases an Alienator is Narcissistic.

Despite its prevalence and devastating consequences, parental alienation remains one of the most misunderstood and underreported forms of abuse, sometimes, in itself, invalidated and maligned, with dire repercussions for families, and this, in turn, damages the very fabric of our societies.

At its core, parental alienation involves a distorted and toxic manipulation of familial relationships, particularly in the context of separation or divorce. It encompasses a spectrum of abusive behaviours, from emotional manipulation and coercive control to psychological abuse and child maltreatment. An alienating parent nefariously orchestrates it, but it can also involve step-parents, grandparents and others. Far too often, it’s further enabled by anyone, including professionals in the mental health and legal space, who doesn’t recognise and understand the dynamics behind the pathology. ‘Parental alienation’ is often disguised as love and protectiveness by a caring, concerned parent. In contrast, the more mentally healthy, ‘target’ parent who seeks peaceful resolution and a form of co-parenting can be mistaken for the agitator and the problem, particularly when the ‘voice of the child’ (coached and aligned with the alienating parent) has the last word. Sometimes, the ‘target’ alienated parent doesn’t even get to share their side of things. And this very divisiveness, this black-and-white thinking, is to the advantage of the triangulating (divide and conquer) adversarial parent in an adversarial situation. This is generalising, of course; there are many grey areas, and it’s not to say the alienating parent can’t sometimes act with genuine love, and the ‘target’ parent doesn’t sometimes, especially given the injustice, grief and anger, this situation evokes, act as the more emotional parent. The alienating parent, by contrast, can come across as calm, confident, charming … and this is before we throw narcissistic traits into the mix too

Furthermore, the targeted parent, unjustly maligned and emotionally battered, often faces the isolation of not being heard and understood and a labyrinthine legal and mental health landscape. The true extent of the abuse often eludes well-meaning professionals who may inadvertently contribute to the perpetuation of parental alienation due to a lack of awareness and understanding. Mental health professionals, legal practitioners, and communities must be equipped to recognise the signs, intervene effectively, and provide the necessary resources for healing and reconciliation. It’s a false economy not to invest in a better understanding and support for those caught up in ‘parental alienation’. The repercussions extend far beyond the immediate family unit when the harm it causes impacts communities, schools, and society at large. By acknowledging and addressing this form of abuse, we could pave the way for healthier, more connected societies where the sacred bonds of family are honoured and the well-being of children is prioritised above all.

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Poor Partner ? Good Father Myth

If a man believes he can protect his children while hurting his woman, he is deeply mistaken. What you give to your woman—whether love, respect, or pain—is what she will pass on to your children. This is an undeniable truth of life, one you cannot escape. A woman is the emotional and spiritual foundation of a home, and her well-being influences the emotional climate of the entire family.

When a man nurtures and supports his woman, he creates an environment where love and safety thrive. This love flows through her and reaches the children. A woman who feels cherished and respected will radiate warmth and stability. Her sense of peace will naturally create a secure world for her children to grow and flourish in.

On the other hand, when a man chooses to hurt or neglect his woman, he disrupts the harmony of the home. Her pain doesn’t stay confined within her; it becomes a silent burden that shapes the atmosphere of the household. Children growing up in a space filled with tension and emotional distress often internalize those struggles, carrying them into their own lives.

It is essential for a man to recognize that his relationship with his woman sets the foundation for his children’s emotional development. If he provides her with love and security, his children will learn the importance of healthy relationships and emotional intelligence. If he chooses to cause her harm, he risks teaching his children to repeat the same patterns of dysfunction.

A woman’s role in a family is unique. She is often the heart of the home, and her energy influences the rhythm of daily life. When a man honors this role and treats her with care, he empowers her to fulfill it wholeheartedly. This empowerment doesn’t just benefit her—it shapes the emotional well-being of their children for generations.

A man cannot claim to be a good father while being a poor partner. His treatment of the mother of his children is one of the greatest lessons he teaches them. Sons will learn how to treat women by observing their father, and daughters will learn what to expect from men. Therefore, a father’s actions have a profound and lasting impact.

Many men fail to see this connection, assuming they can compartmentalize their relationships. They believe they can show up as loving fathers while being absent or hurtful partners. But children are incredibly perceptive. They notice the unspoken dynamics and carry those observations into their understanding of relationships.

The truth is, children thrive in an environment where both parents are emotionally healthy and supportive of one another. A man who uplifts his woman not only strengthens her but also creates a stable foundation for his children to grow upon. His love and respect set an example that shapes their worldview.

Men must also recognize that protecting their children goes beyond physical safety. It involves creating a space where emotional security is prioritized. This cannot happen if the mother of the children feels unsupported, neglected, or hurt. Emotional wounds within the family ripple outward, affecting everyone.

To truly protect your children, protect their mother. Nurture her spirit and honor her contributions. When you invest in her happiness and well-being, you invest in the emotional health of your entire family. What you give her, she will magnify and return to your children tenfold.

So dear man, the greatest legacy a man can leave for his children is the example of a loving and harmonious partnership. By treating his woman with care and respect, he teaches his children the value of love, kindness, and mutual support. This is the universal truth you cannot escape—and one every man must embrace.

Being cheated on

Here’s the truth about being cheated on…

If you’ve been cheated on by the person you love, it doesn’t matter how much you love them, you need to understand that you deserve better and that it’s better to let them go.

When someone cheats on you, it changes who you are, and it changes how you think.

Because betrayal trauma is different; it’s one of the worst kinds.

Cheating is one of the most disrespectful and disgusting types of behaviour that someone can ever display in a relationship.

Most cheaters are some form of narcissists or at the very least have narcissistic personalities, and as such they’d rather blame the person they cheated on or the person they cheated with instead of properly taking accountability for their actions.

Trust that is broken as a result of betrayal is one of the worst forms of broken trust in a relationship.

You can still love this person but once that trust is broken, things will never be the same again.

It’s like a china vase being dropped on the ground; you can glue it back together but it’s never quite the same.

Every time you look at them, you’re going to remember what they did and how much it hurt.

You’re going to feel the anger, the pain, and their betrayal all over again.

You’re going to remember how to them you weren’t enough for them in the relationship.

It’s going to keep playing over and over again in your head no matter how much you love them.

And chances are, if they feel they’ve gotten away with it, they’re going to do it again!

You deserve better than this, and you need to make the decision to move on and find someone decent, who actually has morals, values, and integrity, because your relationship won’t ever be able to be quite the same again.

The reality is that people who cheat have the weakest mentalities, and they are some of the weakest people you’ll ever come across because of what they allowed to take place.

You deserve better than that, and you deserve better than feeling the pain of their betrayal every single day when you look at them.

You deserve someone who can be mature enough to appreciate what they have, and not act like a child who doesn’t know right from wrong.

Know you worth, walk away, and know that they’re just not worth it…

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Dr Craig Childress PsyD : Diagnoses Breakthrough 🎊 Child Phycological Abuse

I’ve been thinking…

Now that I have the three DSM-5 Diagnoses seminars up on my YouTube channel, 1) the DSM-5 Diagnosis, 2) Diagnosing a Persecutory Delusion, and 3) Diagnosing a Factitious Disorder Imposed on the Child, I know what my next Diagnosis Chapter is…

4) Diagnosing Child Abuse

Because the forensic custody evaluators never diagnosed the child abuse – they never diagnosed anything, they do something different of their own devising – they put all the legal professionals to sleep… like things weren’t that important.

This is child abuse. We need an accurate diagnosis in six to eight weeks.

Which means the legal system must respond much-much more quickly… however we also need the psychologists to conduct the clinical diagnostic assessments.

Parents and the courts can ask for a diagnostic assessment of the family conflict as much as you want, if the psychologists don’t do that then it’s not available.

A diagnostic assessment is being withheld from parents and the courts for the personal financial gain of the forensic custody evaluators.

I’m in the AFCC now. I’ll be encountering the forensic custody evaluators there, and they’ll be encountering me.

Paradigms are changing. It’s not incremental change, it’s transformational change. Forensic custody evaluations are entirely leaving – bye-bye – a failed experiment on parents and children.

Clinical psychology is returning, diagnosis and treatment.

All mental health professionals have duty to protect obligations. This is child abuse – and spousal abuse of the targeted parent by the allied using the child, and the child’s induced pathology, as the spousal abuse weapon.

Duty to protect obligations are active – we need to get a proper risk assessment with an accurate diagnosis within six to eight weeks.

Since it will be a disputed diagnosis, each litigant-parent should be allowed to appoint a consultant to participate in the diagnostic assessment sessions through telehealth.

The ONLY cause of the child’s symptoms – a child seeking to flee a parent; a directional change in a primary motivational system – is child abuse by one parent or the other.

We need a clinical diagnostic assessment for child abuse to the appropriate differential diagnoses for each parent. How do we assess for child abuse?

That’s what I’ll explain in the next seminar: Diagnosing Child Abuse.

I served as the Clinical Director for a three-university assessment and treatment center for children ages 0-to-5 in foster care, CPS was our primary referral source.

I’ve personally treated all four forms of child abuse, and I have lead the treatment teams for all forms of child abuse that have included CPS social worker involvement.

I should describe how to assess for child abuse.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 71538481

OR 3942 – CA 18857

Insidious manifestation of Domestic & Child Abuse ; Parental Alienation – Charlie McCready

Since the 1970s, scientists and psychologists have dedicated extensive research to parental alienation, establishing a clear link between this phenomenon and psychological maltreatment. After decades of ongoing study, parental alienation is now identified as one of the most insidious manifestations of domestic and child abuse, stemming from emotional abuse and family violence.

Parental alienation encompasses a set of characteristics associated with narcissistic and hostile aggressive parenting aimed at intentionally disrupting a child’s relationship with the other parent, usually following a high-conflict separation or divorce. These behaviours cause significant harm, resulting in profound damage to the mental and emotional well-being of the child. Psychologists researching parental alienation widely agree that it constitutes one of the most horrific forms of psychological violence.

Narcissism, marked by an absence of empathy, becomes evident in parental alienation, where the lack of concern for the suffering of both the targeted parent and child is shocking. The narcissistic parent employs manipulation and emotional exploitation to systematically dismantle the image of the targeted spouse, doing so in a brutal manner with the sole intent of eradicating the love the child shares with the other parent.

An alienating parent takes further destructive actions by sabotaging or blocking contact and then misleading the child into believing they’ve been abandoned and is unloved by the same blocked ‘target’ parent. This manipulative tactic encourages the child’s unjustified rejection of a parent they love and who loves them, constituting a form of child psychological abuse.

I’ve been through this myself. Reach out if I can help you with the coaching I offer.

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Pathology of Lies – Craig Childress , PsyD

Parallel Process

I will need to go silent on our world around us… it’s becoming too dangerous to speak out. But before I grow silent… I’ll make some observations for the 50% of minds who can see.

Compassion is a good thing. Empathy for the suffering of others is a good thing.

The absence of empathy is the capacity for cruelty – and the capacity for cruelty is the source of evil. The Dark Triad and Dark Tetrad are the core of evil.

The pathology in the family courts is evil. The pathology in our social surround is evil.

They – the target – whether in the family courts or in our society – “deserve” to suffer for their inadequacy… for their sins… for the bad things they supposedly did.

In the family courts, that’s the targeted parent who “deserves” to suffer – in our social surround… we have a variety of targets du jour. Pick your favorite target of fear – non-White people of color – the deep state – immigrants – liberals – LGBTQ – people who are different.

Anyone who makes me afraid.

In the family courts the targeted parent “deserves” to suffer because of their supposed inadequacy as a parent. That’s the narcissistic value system of cruelty – it’s okay to be cruel to someone when they “deserve” it.

The child is taught this narcissistic value of cruelty – and the child says immensely cruel things to the targeted parent because the parent supposedly “deserves” to suffer for what they did to the child, for their inadequacy as a parent.

In our social surround, the targets for cruelty are people of color, non-White immigrants, federal workers who are lazy, LGBTQ who are different, the media who criticize, Ukraine, pick your target who “deserve” to suffer because of the supposedly bad things they did.

Ukraine started the war – they deserve to suffer.

Trans-gender are different – they deserve to suffer.

People of color are not White – they deserve to suffer.

Federal workers are lazy parasites – they deserve to suffer.

The Jews killed Jesus – they deserve to suffer.

Pick your target. Whoever you want, whoever makes you afraid, whoever is different. The old woman who lives alone must be a witch – burn her.

They didn’t do bad things. They’re just normal-range people. The target, whether it’s the targeted parent in the family courts, or the targeted scapegoat in society, is just normal.

But they are villainized to justify the cruelty inflicted on them – they “deserve” to suffer, they “deserve” the cruelty.

We are purging our Shadow. We are purging our darkness within that we project onto the other to make them “deserve” our cruelty, reflecting our damaged love and bonding system, our absence of empathy for their suffering.

No one will comes. There’s no rescue. Not now, not when we’ve reached the purging of our Shadow. Your abuser can dominate you and do whatever they want… and there’s nothing you can do about it.

They have allies with power… you don’t. Accept your abuse like a good compliant victim.

Maga-mind is the pathological parent. Trump is the narcissistic dad variant (Dark Triad/Dark Tetrad). The 50% of the nation who are liberal (i.e., have normal-range compassion and empathy for the child-nation and each other) are the normal-range targeted parent in the parallel process of abuse.

The narcissistic dad-parent makes false allegations that are used to justify their cruelty – Ukraine started the war with Russia – whoever the “they” are of their selected victim will “deserve” to suffer for the bad things they did.

The bad things aren’t actually bad things… the bad things are the unresolved trauma from childhood – the lack of love – the attachment trauma – that is then projected onto the other.

The “bad-mommy” or “bad-man” of the family court narrative is not real, it’s a lie, it represents the unresolved trauma in the pathological parent from their childhood that is being projected onto the current normal-range mom or dad.

It’s called a scapegoat. The sins of the sinful person are projected into the target, and then the target is killed to supposedly alleviate the person’s sins.

There were no sins in the scapegoat. The targeted parent is a normal-range mom or dad, the sins of narcissistic cruelty are in the allied parent. The sins remain in the person and are never transferred to the scapegoat.

It’s all projection. To see inside them, flip what they say to make it about themselves… everything will be revealed.

Pathological Parent: “I’m not the inadequate parent (spouse) – you are. You deserve to suffer for your inadequacy as a parent (spouse). You never loved the child (me) as the child “deserves” to be loved (as I deserve to be loved).”

Truth: “I’m an inadequate parent (and spouse). I deserve to be rejected because of the bad things I am. I don’t love the child, I never loved you. I’m incapable of love because I’m inadequate as a person.”

Everything – everything – everything – about this pathology is projection. Flip it and you’ll see what’s going on. The pathological narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent isn’t revealing truth about the targeted parent… they are revealing the truth about themselves.

Pathological Parent: “The targeted parent is abusing the child” –

Reality: “I am abusing the child.”

The pathological parent decides who “deserves” their cruelty because of the “bad things” they did (the unresolved trauma from childhood that can never be solved) – it’s the unresolved trauma being projected out onto the target.

Pathological Parent: “I’m not bad – you are. You deserve to suffer for the bad things you do.”

What to look for in the assessment of the court-involved family conflict is the absence of empathy – the capacity for cruelty – probe for empathy and you won’t find it. A normal-range person will feel sad at the suffering of others – a pathologically cruel person won’t.

When prompted for empathy – when given a situation that should provoke empathy and compassion – the pathological parent (and child) in the family courts will respond that the targeted parent “deserves” to suffer for some past injury they supposedly inflicted on the child (or allied parent).

What’s interesting about this pathogen – i.e, about the projection of unresolved trauma in the attachment networks – a ripple of childhood attachment trauma – is that there are people who will be in the role of the targeted parent in the family court context, and who are in the role of the psychologically abusive parent in the social context of our times.

And they cannot see the parallel process. A shared delusion cannot – cannot – see itself… “despite contrary evidence” – it’s impossible.

I’m a mirror. I’m showing you to you. They will attack the mirror for the refection they see.

One reason among many that I post on Trump is to push the Maga-minds away from here.

I’m making a point not yet comprehended – I’m identifying a group of minds. They care more about Trump than they do their own children. I’m making a point about their motivations – I’m a mirror.

They can’t see themselves – no self-reflective insight. It’s impossible. Everything inside is projected out – that is the defense.

There’s a large group of targeted parents who won’t come to this location to receive the information I provide here about how to help their children, how to protect their child from child abuse, because they care more about Trump than they do the information.

If there is negative (contrary) information about Trump… their motivation to avoid the negative information will be stronger than their motivation to protect their child. It’s a cult.

How many times has the parent-child relationship in the family courts been described as a cult mind? That’s a good description of the fused psychological state.

I’m a mirror. I show you to you.

Another reason I comment about what’s happening is to teach using the parallel process for those 50% of minds that are not part of the shared persecutory delusion of “we’re being malevolently treated in some way” – who are not part of the cult.

The pathology of the Dark Triad/Dark Tetrad variant is on full display. It’s the core of evil.

We’re headed for complete destruction – with forensic psychology in the family courts – in our social surround. Same. Parallel process. It’s the same pathogen there and here, a Dark Triad/Dark Tetrad pathology.

Some things can only be seen looking the other direction in time. Trauma shuts down the frontal lobe executive function systems for three things – linear-logical reasoning – foresight and planning ahead – self-reflective insight.

The absence of foresight is going to become a substantial problem… for the forensic psychologists in the family courts… for the Trump administration.

Once you destroy, you then need to govern with a dysfunctional system. The mental health system in the family courts is completely broken. The system of forensic custody evaluations is entirely dysfunctional.

Same thing.

The exact same thing will happen in our social surround. Watch. Everything will be torn down and broken, beginning with the rule of law, everything will become chaotic and dysfunctional… just like the family courts and the mental health system in the courts.

There’s a reason no prior president ever did what Trump is doing. Do you want to know the reason? Wait… you’ll find out.

There are NO competent mental health services in the family courts. None. Zero. Parents are 98% UNABLE to get a diagnostic assessment of their families, and 100% unable to get effective treatment.

Let that sink in – understand it. There are no – none – zero – competent mental health services in the family courts. Parents cannot – cannot – get a diagnosis for the problem.

Everyone everywhere else, with all the other forms of pathology (problem) can get a diagnosis and treatment. Not parents and children in the family courts – zero – none.

We are headed into a state of complete dysfunction in the family courts – and – with our nation. This is the Encounter time. This is my time to Encounter the forensic psychologists directly. I’m going to collapse the dysfunctional system – so it can be properly rebuilt.

Trump is entirely collapsing the systems of government – so he and his minions can rebuild them in their desired image – long live King Donald I.

I’m encountering the forensic psychologists – by name – I’m destroying the “deep state” of psychologists who are disabling the mental health system response to the pathology.

I’m riding the same lines – just differently. I’m a clinical psychologist, so I’ve flipped some things on the lines of unfolding. Your lines will take a darker turn.

This is a pathology of lies – in the family courts – in our society.

Ukraine didn’t start the war. Russia did. Everything about this pathology is a lie. It isn’t about custody, it’s about treatment. The solution is NOT in the legal system, a child rejecting a parent is not a crime, it’s a pathology. The solution is in the healthcare system – diagnosis and treatment.

BUT… you can’t get a diagnosis or treatment. The systems in the family courts are 100% dysfunctional. We are headed toward the same thing everywhere around us.

We are purging. I’ll be purging the mental health system in the family courts of its incompetence… which will create a 100% dysfunctional system until competent mental health services can be established.

Trump and his Maga-mind minions are purging our society… which will create 100% dysfunctional systems. Same… but different outcomes.

The over-line is the incompetence polarity – the under-line is the competence pole of balance – one dark, one light.

What we’re watching is the Purging. If you want to see an excellent Purging, it’s the French Revolution. I know exactly what’s happening, I’m riding exactly the same lines.

We are in the Encounter phase in our social surround. I’m on the Encounter phase in the family courts. My work is precise. I’m riding lines of movement – cowabunga baby – this is going to be one helluva ride.

I’m estimating my departure from here in five years (plus or minus two)… then… everything becomes entirely your problem and entirely none of mine.

If you’re going to use my understanding and knowledge… you’d better use it quickly, I’m turning 70 this year and I’m not planning on sticking around.

I’ve done things to shorten the time of collapse in the family courts. There’s nothing I can do for you in our larger social surround. I spoke when I need to speak to protect the nation I love.

This is what you want. This is what you need. You need to purge your Shadow… again.

Now it’s time for me to grow silent… it’s becoming too dangerous to speak on the over-line. Hail Trump <Maga hand salute of mutual love>. Everything Trump does is exactly right.

Bots watch. Bots move. Advertising bots creating my algorithm for marketing are one thing, governmental surveillance bots searching for the “enemies within” to be purged are something else.

Elon Musk is going to save us. Elon Must is brilliant. Trump is the anointed of God. Trump is our savior. Mark Zuckerberg is a innovative genius and Meta is my favorite social media platform. We need more tax cuts for the wealthy… it will trickle down to everyone else eventually.

Bots are moving and watching – AI has arrived – Big Brother of 1984 is arriving a few years later than predicted by Orwell. Face recognition is here. They have our data. They know where we are. It’s not quite here yet… but I plan ahead.

I need to clean up my online algorithm so bots won’t locate me. Shhh… Hail Trump <Maga hand gesture of mutual love>. Trump is going to make America Great again. Canada should be our 51st state and we should get Greenland from Denmark. Gaza should be redeveloped into beachfront resorts for the wealthy. Ukraine started the war with Russia. Putin is on our side.

What’s in it for us?

I’ll need to grow silent soon so the bots won’t notice me once the surveillance bots arrive. I’m small, I’m inconspicuous. Nothing to see here. I’m leaving not arriving.

This is your world that’s coming, not mine. This is the world you wanted. This is the world you’ll get.

We need to fire the lazy federal workers. We need to deport immigrants to make our country White again, we need to eliminate the undesirable people. There are no trans-gender people, they don’t exist, and anyone who says they’re trans-gender should be banned from participation in our society and shunned… and they should be persecuted for being different.

Tariffs are an excellent economic policy. Elon Musk will save us. Elon Musk is brilliant and he’s our protector. Elon will make everything right with the world if we simply give him the power to do what he wants to fix the things that are broken.

For those of you following along on your Play at Home version of Parallel Process, as far as I can see, the family courts are ahead of our social surround. The collapse will be quicker, and the recovery will come sooner.

Germany in 1935 took ten years and a World War to reach Germany in 1945… and the world was in ruin when they arrived at the end. We’ve still a long way to go in an increasingly dangerous world around us.

Hail Trump <Maga hand gesture of mutual love>. Trump is always right. Trump is making America Great… again.

We’ll see what happens. June is when the next solid numbers arrive for your equations of you. Watch out for big rocks.

Never mind. It’s too late and there’s nothing the forensic psychologists can do at this point. There’s nothing you can do either. Complete destruction of the old ways is coming – here – there – everywhere.

Long live King Donald I, the anointed of God who will save our nation from the dangers it faces.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 61538481

OR 3942 – CA 18857