Dad speaks out on why a child says no , to targeted parent . ChildAbuse

Father’s family gets custody of son after mom tries to sell him for $2,500 |

On June 29, special agents executed a drug search warrant at a residence in Corpus Christi and found 8-year-old Roland Olivarez III who was allegedly sold and purchased.
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Depression in Men: It Looks Different Than You Might Think

Much more to add , ASAP .

There is a big emphasis in our society on men being strong and tough. They should be able to handle anything and shouldn’t struggle with emotions and feelings.
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Custody exchange in parking lot ends with father dead, mom’s boyfriend charged with murder

I suspect there is much more to the story …

The children, a boy and a girl, witnessed the shooting but neither were injured, officers say.
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For Domestic Violence Survivors, Family Court Becomes Site of Continued Abuse

This too is changing , as awareness becomes reality ,

compassionate folks who stand beside children in

courts , insuring no trauma, or advantage is targeted

against a child in continuation of a parent who

is indisposed , disadvantaged , out monied , ie

discriminated against in every way . A very grievous,

vulgar and unnecessary , socially accepted human

rights violation.. And it’s motion of transformation

is upon us as leaders domestically abuse us , shadow

is exposed and thankfully a million stars align

to open a healing as never imagined ..Heaven

on Hearth begins with Peace in Ones ♥️

Family courts often lean toward joint custody, a preference that some abusers use to continue harassing former partners.
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Donald Trump Says Men WhoTake Care of Their Kids Are Acting ‘Like the Wife’ | Fortune

Discovery of this adaptation with the father of my child , was

further enhanced by an attitude of ownership . If I were graded t

it would have been incomplete in every way . His nurture was

seldom and utilized to remedy a situation , he was not able

to navigate emotionally. In our 1st year , I was subjected to

devastating abuses that I had to review in triggered C- PTSD

which was not known to me at the time…it was a hell

come to earth.

In denial of anything but surface , friendship that often insulted

even that , and the unexpected rages never afforded me security.

That became personified in his partner , and the committee of

3 enjoyed the insults that occurred when I was allowed to

participate in son’s life experiences .. I was not allowed knowledge

of much including a near death crisis as our youngest attended

college out of state .. Of course he feels I failed as a Mom

an addict via psychiatry by choice to get out of being his mom.

Lacking emotion , adhering to the male model of affluence,

belonging to the right clubs , knowing the right person to call

a ” brother” who will aide and never tell. His nickname in

his home ” brother” , cannot connect emotionally , a feminine

reaction abused out of him? Or modeled by a society that has

allowed his life lessons to be ” evaporated ” if disagreeable to

uphold his perception of importance in his world.

I represent his failures , his secrets , his failings , and his imbalance

of masculine and feminine energy . Disrespect , and Abuse is

from inside out , and very repressive and depressive .. he

withheld to the point of reducing himself to a void , and my

surrogacy as he embraced breakneck change and success in

his career , our home became ever more a place to drop in,

participate as much as he could , much in the social aspect

giving the look of normal family …Doors were never shut against

him , he busted them through ..he had ever increasing

meetings or out of towns , speaking his truths , ie confessing

by 3rd person stories , always another guy , which began 3

months into our marriage . His employees also were his cover

for sexual pursuits that I painfully discovered never conveyed

love, intimacy or attachment .

As a very sick, physically ill , misdiagnosed mental patient

his detachment was utterly soul snatching , as I painfully

watched the erosion of our ” family” knowing his search

for love would never end .. Draining those who failed him

he has chosen to continue his efforts to hold me responsible

for my abuse and the loss of all the connectedness with our

sons, his brother/friends , ever ” his ” …

Trump talks about his views on fatherhood in a series of past interviews
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Splitting Psychologically: lacking empathy or freezing fear in triggered C-PTSD .

A common trait of alienated children is Psychological Splitting.

Psychological Splitting is the inability to hold opposing thoughts, feelings, or beliefs. Some might say that a person who splits sees the world in terms of black or white, all or nothing. It’s a distorted way of thinking in which the positive or negative attributes of a person or event are neither weighed nor cohesive.

“Relatively underdeveloped personalities, most especially borderline personalities, have a hard time incorporating into consciousness seemingly contradictory aspects of the same person or thing. So, they unconsciously separate or “split” objects into two categories, seeing the “good” side of a person or thing as the part they find acceptable and the “bad” side of the person or thing as the part they find painful or unacceptable. And, it’s much more than just seeing both a good and a bad side to everything. They actually “split” a single entity into two opposing realities, conceptualizing for example a mother who has both a gentle and a terrifying side as alternately “good mommy,” or “bad mommy.” As a result, they will often alternate between over-idealizing and devaluing the same person. Underdeveloped and poorly integrated personalities not only separate difficult to integrate external “objects” or persons this way, but they also “split” into disparate parts aspects of themselves that are hard to integrate into a cohesive whole.” – Dr George Simon, Phd. Due to this many alienated children suffer from identity disturbance. They also see their alienated parent as “all bad” and their alienating parent as “all good”. Whereas a “normal range” person can recognize their own and others negative and positive qualities as a cohesive whole.

Understanding this all or nothing, black and white distorted thinking can help a parent react accordingly to their child’s attacks. Once you understand that they are using a defense mechanism, where they cannot hold good and bad qualities in a person at once, the attacks become depersonalized. And once you can depersonalize from the things they say, you can stop reacting.

So how do I help my child?

Stay calm, do not react to this polarized way of thinking. It is delusional and reacting to it only solidifies it in their mind. See it for what it is, a defense mechanism. Show up in empathy and teach critical thinking skills.

Mariska Hargitay documentary on rape kit crisis puts survivors front and center – Women’s Media Center

The standards and practices accepted as normal

have surfaced to expose the reality of apathetic ,

often abusive treatment in times of extreme trauma.

As harsh as we know this situation is for the feminine ,

I know men have to be heard , and healed of sexual

force that few seek help for.

What remains within both? Rage …Children carry this

in ways that are not acknowledged ..

One goal I have is to see a safe healing place for our

women and children , fleeing abuse.. Privatized

due to the inept abuse of current systems , our local

women healers getting to the heart of the matter , thus

returning a family within that woman , supported

uplifted , loved thru a shameful power trip , avoiding

more abuses ❤️ Empowered !

Mariska Hargitay documentary on rape kit crisis puts survivors front and center – Women’s Media Center
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The Hidden Danger For Mothers And Children In Family Court

My experience in Civil Court and Va Supreme

court has been too often , vulgar , threatening

stating inability to ” force” and berating me

openly , in a vulnerable state , I’m always

triggered in Ex’s space and more so when

he’s speaking lies , or saying ego , ownership

of sons and me ( in our co owned property)

as if I must listen to my ex , only accepted as

“Alleged ” Domestic Abuser, never even looking

at medical charts , that clearly state I was hit

I was neglected , I was medicated for a mental

illness that wax and continues to abuse me.

It has been said that Child Abuse /PAS has the same

deadly effects on a child as sex abuse..

Courts are ill prepared , refusing to 21st century truths

that’s family courts are money and power , discriminating

and #ErasingFamilies , based on false models

like Psychiatry who overlooks much of these dynamics

and targets 1 person, usually targeted as I was for not

participating in fake godless Christian discrimination

of myself and sons .. with me disposed of , sons

eventually were targeted by love that told them

I did not deserve their affection , I was crazy and

I had property that I did not deserve ..

So glad this horrific abuse is being exposed

and transformed , Healing families with truths

and return to love within self healing , surrender

and acceptance of responsibility …our children

whatever age , and we targeted parents deserve

this …❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹

Decades ago, mothers may have been more likely to gain custody, but now judges in family court are going to the other extreme and might not believe abuse.
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