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Bridge over troubled water – Charlie McCready

The most profoundly healing and helpful thing we can offer our alienated child/ren is our own healing. That is the same whether they’re currently in our lives or not. It doesn’t help them to know we’re in pain (angry, grieving, holding onto the past) and it doesn’t draw them back to us, quite the opposite. They also suffered and if they’re ever aware of the part they’ve played (or been induced into playing) there’s enormous guilt and grief and shame for them too. We subconsciously hold onto grief as a reminder, a bridge of sorts to the old life we miss, our alienated child. We feel the void, the ache in our hearts as a physical sensation that, in some ways, we find it hard to let go of, almost as if to do so means we’re forgetting, not doing enough, and we’re not allowed to be happy without feeling guilty. But we owe it to ourselves, and our child/ren to be happy and lead the way. It’s not selfishness. It’s strong and it’s loving. Even without children around, we can start working on ourselves. Healing ourselves is also the way to heal the world. One person at a time, the more we heal, the more people around us can too. It has a ripple effect. Someone has to stop the generational trauma – let it be you. Psychologist, D.W. Winnicott, said we don’t need to be perfect parents, we just need to avoid harming our children. Most of us have childhood wounds, and if we don’t sort them out, we can inadvertently pass them down. As we say, hurt people hurt people, so do healed people heal people.

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Embracing Femininity

“A woman who embraces her femininity is a beacon of strength, not a whisper in the shadows. She is the embodiment of grace and power, together with the silk of her gentleness and the steel of her resolve. In her, the dance of the universe finds its most intricate steps, for she understands that her femininity is not a limit but an expanse, a vast sky under which her spirit soars and her dreams take flight. This woman knows that her power does not come from mimicking the roar of thunder or the sharpness of the blade, but from the relentless tide of the ocean, gentle enough to cradle the moon’s reflection, yet strong enough to sculpt the face of the earth. She moves through the world with the knowledge that her love, intuition, and empathy are forces of nature in their own right, capable of nurturing life, healing wounds, and toppling walls. Her femininity is her scepter and her crown, and with it, she rules not by dominion, but by inspiring the world to a higher calling of beauty, compassion, and resilience. In embracing her true nature, she becomes not just a woman, but a luminous force, lighting the path for all who follow, proving that the greatest power lies in being unabashedly, unapologetically, and uniquely oneself.”

-Steve De’lano Garcia