Neanderthal Husband gives advice

It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are oversensitive, and there’s nothing worse than an oversen*sitive woman.

My name is Mike. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Pat to get a full-time job, along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed. Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work.

Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don’t yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men’s Grill at the club, so eating out is not reasonable. I’m ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it’s not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner.

I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won’t clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.

Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, Boys, we take ’em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two, or even three days. That way, she won’t have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn’t hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half-finished mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I’m a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me, too.

I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support my wife. I’m not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, Guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.

EDITOR’S NOTE:

Mike, died suddenly on July 23 of a perforated rectum. The police report says he was found with a Calloway extra-long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing, and a sledge hammer laying nearby. His wife was arrested and charged with murd*er. The all-woman jury took only 10 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that Mike, somehow without looking, accidentally sat down on his golf club. 🙃😛🤣🤣

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Heavy Hearts 😢❤️ /Charlie McCready

Parents whose children have been coerced and manipulated to reject them carry a heavy heart. The pain of being unjustly and cruelly alienated from one’s own children is an emotionally devastating and deeply challenging cross to bear. Carrying on means persevering through difficult circumstances, remaining resilient in the face of adversity, and prioritising your well-being and personal growth. It involves finding ways to cope with the emotional pain, and seeking support from trusted individuals. It means getting on with your life but hoping your child will regain clarity and autonomy. Ultimately, carrying on despite this heavy burden is an act of resilience, love, and hope. It is a testament to your strength and determination to navigate the challenges of parental alienation while keeping your heart open for the possibility of reconciliation and a renewed connection with your children. You are AMAZING.

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Forensic Custody Evaluation-Craig Childress

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When I conduct a line-by-line review of a forensic custody evaluation, I generate a Checklist of Applied Knowledge at the end of my review.

The Checklist of Applied Knowledge provides a structured way to document compliance with Standard 2.04 and the application of the “established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline” as the bases for their professional judgments.

It’s a 4-page checklist with a one-page written Summary. Here’s the written Summary for a recent review:

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Checklist of Applied Knowledge for Dr. Xyz

A Checklist of Applied Knowledge was used to evaluate Dr. XYZ’s application of the established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline as the bases for her professional judgments. Based on a review of Dr. XYZ’s report, no domain of established professional knowledge was evident in application as the bases for her professional judgments.

Applied Knowledge:

• Family Systems: Despite Dr. XYZ being tasked with assessing a family conflict, no family systems constructs were evident in her reporting or analysis.

• Attachment: Despite Dr. XYZ assessing severe attachment pathology being displayed by the children toward their father, no application of attachment constructs was evident in her reporting or analysis of the family conflict.

• Trauma Pathology: Despite Dr. XYZ assessing issues of possible child abuse, as well as issues of possible spousal abuse, no constructs from complex trauma or child abuse were evident in her reporting or analysis of the family conflict.

• Personality Pathology: Despite indicators in the reported data of possible personality pathology in a parent (possible narcissistic-borderline-dark personality pathology), no constructs from personality pathology were evident in her reporting or analysis of the family conflict.

• Child Development: Despite assessing childhood pathology across multiple child developmental levels, no constructs from child development were evident in her reporting or analysis.

• Self Psychology: Despite assessing the psychological development of children within the parent-child relationship, no constructs from self psychology were applied regarding the psychological development of children in the parent-child psychological relationship.

• DSM-5 Diagnostic System: No diagnostic constructs from the DSM-5 were applied, despite multiple relevant differential diagnoses including:

1) a possible shared shared/induced persecutory delusion (DSM-5 297.1)

2) a possible factitious attachment pathology being imposed on the child for secondary gain to the parent (DSM-5 300.19),

3) possible psychological child abuse (DSM-5 V995.51)

4) possible spousal psychological abuse of the father by the mother using the children’s induced pathology as the spousal abuse weapon (DSM-5 V995.82)

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Diagnostic Formulation

No diagnosis was provided by Dr. XYZ. No discussion of any diagnostic issues was provided. No theoretical orientation was evident in case formulation, and no organized case formulation was offered.

Treatment Plan Formulation

No treatment plan formulation was offered.

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Hello, I’m Dr. Childress. It’s a pleasure to meet you. I’ve been asked by an attorney in this matter to review your report.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857