Tag: love

Saying Good Bye to a Parent

When you say goodbye to a parent.

You are suddenly living in a whole new world.

You are no longer ‘the child’ and regardless of how long you have officially been ‘grown up’ for, you realise you actually never were until this moment. The shock of this adjustment will shake your very core.

When you have finally said goodbye to both your parents, assuming you were lucky enough to have had two. You are an orphan on this earth and that never, ever gets easier to take no matter how old and grey you are yourself and no matter how many children of your own you have.

You see, a part of your body is physically connected to the people that made it and also a part of your soul. When they no longer live, it is as if you are missing something practical that you need – like a finger or an arm. Because really, you are. You are missing your parent and that is something far more necessary than any limb.

And yet the connection is so strong it carries on somehow, no-one knows how exactly. But they are there. In some way, shape or form they are still guiding you if you listen closely enough. You can hear the words they would choose to say to you.

You can feel the warmth of their approval, their smile when a goal is achieved, their all-consuming love filling the air around you when a baby is born they haven’t met.

If you watch your children very closely you will see that they too have a connection with your parents long after they are gone. They will say things that resonate with you because it brings so many memories of the parent you are missing. They will carry on traits, thoughts and sometimes they will even see them in their dreams.

This is not something we can explain.

Love is a very mystical and wondrous entity.

It is far better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all and grief, grief is the price of that love. The deeper the love the stronger the grief.

When you say goodbye to a parent, do not forget to connect with that little girl who still lives inside you somewhere.

Take very good care of her, for she, she will be alone and scared.

When you say goodbye to your parents, you lose an identity, a place in the world. When the people who put you on this earth are no longer here, it changes everything.

Look after yourself the way they looked after you and listen out for them when you need it the most.

They never really leave.

Donna Ashworth

From ‘to the women’: https://tinyurl.com/ye9f93zd

#fathersday #griefpoetry

Bow Out , Gracefully

My Mom once told me that she walked into a room where a couple of friends were discussing her, they didn’t know she was there. She shook her head, smiled and walked away. 🕊
My Mom also told me that she had a friend who talked bad about her, she never knew that Mom found out, Mom never mentioned it. She smiled and walked away from this friendship. 🕊
She told me she had family who chose to shift her out of their life because she stood up for herself for a change. And because she stopped crossing oceans for them when they would not even help her cross a bridge. She smiled, shook her head and walked away. 🕊
So I asked her how she could just walk away from people that betrayed her while pretending to be her friends or family? 🕊
She answered that every time she came to a crossroad like that, she had to decide who will be going forward on her journey with her. This showed her who she cannot take along with her. 🕊
So she explained to me that you should never get mad at a person who betrays you, even in the name of friendship or family. Just gracefully bow out and enjoy your journey with all the new people God puts in their place. 🕊

TruelyMadlyDeeply:Love

Someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. They can love you in a way you have never been loved and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons you must leave. Because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. And there is the love that will be ready.
Nayyirah Waheed

Monet

DO you Love Me 💘

“Do you love me?” ” asked Alice.
“No, I don’t love you!” ” responded the White Rabbit.
Alice frown and shook her hands as she would whenever she felt hurt.
See ? the White Rabbit replied to her
Now you’re going to start wondering what makes you so imperfect and what did you do wrong so I can’t love you even a little.
You know, that’s why I can’t love you.
You won’t always be loved Alice, there will be days when others will be tired and bored of life, head in the clouds, and hurt you.
Because that’s how people are, they somehow end up hurting each other’s feelings, either through indifference, misunderstanding, or conflict with themselves.
If you do not love yourself, at least a little, if you do not create an armor of self-love and happiness around your heart, the weak nerves caused by others will become lethal and destroy you.


***The first time I saw you I made a pact with myself: “I will avoid loving you until you learn to love yourself. ” 💜

  • Lewis Carroll in Alice in Wonderland

Love yourself…….Get into your Power

Watch “LOVE. (Ultimate Mix, 2020) – John Lennon/Plastic Ono Band (official music video 4K)” on YouTube

LOVE.
The story behind the song in the words of John Lennon & Yoko Ono.

John: I’d always had a fantasy about a woman who would be a beautiful, intelligent, dark-haired, high-cheekboned, free-spirited artist (à la Juliette Gréco).

My soul mate. Someone that I had already known but somehow had lost. A woman who would give me what I got from a man intellectually. I wanted someone I could be myself with.

With Yoko I really knew love for the first time. The only woman I’d ever met who was my equal in every way imaginable. My better, actually. The dream became a reality.

Yoko: He had a very intelligent side that appealed to me and also a kind of sensitivity. He was awake but he was a bit unfocused, like a lost soul.

John: I was lonely. I didn’t have full communication with anybody and it took a bit of adjusting.

Yoko: and then when we met, he suddenly had a clear vision like he used to have when he was a boy.

John: She rediscovered the thing that existed in me before I left Liverpool and re-cultivated the natural John Lennon that had been lost in the Beatles.

She encouraged me to be myself because it was me that she fell in love with, not the Beatles or whatever I was.

Yoko: he was incredibly shy. I know you’re not going to believe this, but he was. And that made me feel like we were two of a kind.

John: She came and reminded me that there was light. And when you remember there’s light, you don’t want to get back in the dark again.

Yoko: I was a very lonely person before I met John. When I met him I stared to open up a little through love and that’s the greatest thing that happened to me yet.

I had never met anybody else who could understand me. That’s rare. Most men really don’t. We understand each other so well. I’m not lonely any more, which is a shocking experience, really.

John: Love is a great gift, like a precious flower. You have to feed it and look after it. It has to be nurtured like a very sensitive animal because that’s what it is.

You have to work at love. You don’t just sit round with it and it doesn’t just do it for you. You’ve got to be very careful with it. It’s the most delicate thing you can be given.

Yoko: When you send love to your loved one, you are not just sending love to the special person in your life, you are sending your love to yourself, our planet and the universe.

Remember:
A dream you dream alone is only a dream.
A dream you dream together is reality.

Happy Valentine’s Day ❤️

Sacred Romance

“The Sacred Romance calls to us every moment of our lives. It whispers to us on the wind, invites us through the laughter of good friends, reaches out to us through the touch of someone we love. We’ve heard it in our favorite music, sensed it at the birth of our first child, been drawn to it while watching the shimmer of a sunset on the ocean. It is even present in times of great personal suffering–the illness of a child, the loss of a marriage, the death of a friend. Something calls to us through experiences like these and rouses an inconsolable longing for intimacy, beauty, and adventure. This longing is the most important part of any human personality. It fuels our search for meaning, for wholeness, for a sense of being truly alive. However we may describe this deep desire, it is the most important thing about us, our heart of hearts, the passion of our life. A voice that calls to us in this place is none other that the voice of God.” 
John Eldredge from the book “Sacred Romance.”

Grief is a Portal Into Life

With the uttermost tenderness,
no need to rush,
place your hand on your heart
and gently knock on the Door of Grief.

What do you sense could be waiting for you
behind this door? What wants to be named,
honored and held?

Maybe it is obvious,
a loss so stark and unavoidable,
one that knocks you over
with a weight more massive and frightening
than you think you can bear.

Or maybe it is more of a subtle ache—
losses of hugs, of dreams,
of days, of relationships,
of the familiar slipping out of your hands.

Grief is a portal
into Life.

Grief shows us how deeply we loved.

Be gentle with your heart,

~ Chameli Ardagh

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