Persecutory Delusion – Craig Childress PsyD

Persecutory Delusion

Diagnosis is a pattern-match of symptoms to diagnostic criteria. The pathology of concern in the family courts surrounding child custody conflict is a possible shared (induced) persecutory thought disorder created in the child from the pathogenic parenting of an allied narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent. The definition of a persecutory delusion is provided by the American Psychiatric Association:

From the APA: “Persecutory Type: delusions that the person (or someone to whom the person is close) is being malevolently treated in some way.” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000)

Google malevolent: having or showing a wish to do evil.

Writing in the journal, Family Court Review, Walters and Friedlander (2016) describe the shared persecutory delusion that is often present in the family courts surrounding child custody conflict and attachment pathology displayed by the child:

From Walters & Friedlander: “In some RRD families [resist-refuse dynamic], a parent’s underlying encapsulated delusion about the other parent is at the root of the intractability (cf. Johnston & Campbell, 1988, p. 53ff; Childress, 2013). An encapsulated delusion is a fixed, circumscribed belief that persists over time and is not altered by evidence of the inaccuracy of the belief.” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

From Walters & Friedlander: “When alienation is the predominant factor in the RRD [resist-refuse dynamic}, the theme of the favored parent’s fixed delusion often is that the rejected parent is sexually, physically, and/or emotionally abusing the child. The child may come to share the parent’s encapsulated delusion and to regard the beliefs as his/her own (cf. Childress, 2013).” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426).

Based on the nature and severity of the attachment pathology in the family courts, I recommend that a proper assessment for a possible shared (induced) persecutory delusion be conducted with families in high-conflict custody litigation that will return an accurate diagnosis regarding the nature of the pathology in the family, to then guide the development of an effective treatment plan to fix the pathology in the family.

The concern is that the allied parent is psychologically controlling and manipulating the child into creating a false pathology,

From Barber & Harmon: “Psychological control refers to parental behaviors that are intrusive and manipulative of children’s thoughts, feelings, and attachment to parents. These behaviors appear to be associated with disturbances in the psychoemotional boundaries between the child and parent, and hence with the development of an independent sense of self and identity.” (Barber & Harmon, 2002, p. 15)

From Soenens and Vansteenkiste: “Psychological control can be expressed through a variety of parental tactics, including (a) guilt-induction, which refers to the use of guilt inducing strategies to pressure children to comply with a parental request; (b) contingent love or love withdrawal, where parents make their attention, interest, care, and love contingent upon the children’s attainment of parental standards; (c) instilling anxiety, which refers to the induction of anxiety to make children comply with parental requests; and (d) invalidation of the child’s perspective, which pertains to parental constraining of the child’s spontaneous expression of thoughts and feelings.” (Soenens & Vansteenkiste, 2010, p. 75)

Participation in Child Abuse

One of the prominent professional dangers of misdiagnosing a shared persecutory delusion is that if the mental health professional and/or the Court misdiagnoses the pathology of a shared persecutory delusion and believes the shared delusion as if it was true, then the mental health professional and/or the Court become part of the shared delusion, they become part of the pathology. When that pathology is the psychological abuse of the child by an allied pathological parent, then the mental health professional and/or the Court become participants in the parent’s psychological abuse of the child by validating to the child that the child’s false (delusional) beliefs are true when they are, in fact, symptoms of an induced persecutory delusion.

The Court’s decision-making will be much enhanced by an accurate diagnosis of the problem returned by mental health services BEFORE making custody decisions influenced by the child’s pathology.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

Could Michigan’s Cost-Sharing Approach to Child Care Be Scaled Nationwide? | EdSurge News

Laura VanBlaricum did the math. She couldn’t return to work — not with the cost of infant care in her Michigan community, on the low wages she was …
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Teenagers n Adults – Human Condition

HumanCondition.com

By the age of 13, the reality of life deepens. Adults are unable to adequately explain the horror of the world to #teenagers because they themselves are in denial of the #humancondition.

But for teenagers, who can see it all clearly, the wrongness of adult behaviour is a mystery.

From their point of view, adults have been fake and fraudulent and don’t even admit that there is a very real and serious problem with human behaviour.

• Why is everyone so unhappy and preoccupied?

• Why are people so fake?

• Why do people kill each other?

• Why do parents fight so much?

• Why are we going to a party when people are starving?

There’s a huge issue in life that nobody is talking about, and children have had to discover for themselves why it was so necessary to ignore it. They’ve had to work out why adults find the human condition such an unconfrontable, off-limits subject. Eventually they too resign themselves to the reality of life, but given the truly awful world that adolescence have to resign themselves to, it’s little wonder they retreat, become retaliatory and try to block the whole world out, trying their utmost to resist the inevitable resignation to a life of denial.

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BUT wonderfully, adults can now be honest about the human condition, be honest about their fraudulent, superficial existence and explain why it has been such an important and necessary part of the human journey. The relief this honesty will bring to teenagers (and adults) is astronomical and most beautifully will allow them to retain their zest for life and make the need to resign to the hellish adult world unnecessary.

Thank goodness! http://www.humancondition.com

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Grieving for children

There’s a tendency sometimes to keep busy, so we don’t have too much time to wallow -it just takes us down. We fill our lives with activity and people to crowd out our racing, raging, uncomprehending minds. We’re heartbroken. We trawl through the refuge of the past, what we have left – photos, memories, reminders. We do our best to live in the present (yes, it’s a gift, and we’re grateful, but ….). We had hoped for a future, and we still do hope for that future with the ones we love very much a part of it. Not apart. A part. Our child/ren are out there. We love them. We miss them. Re-imagining the future is hard, and we could never have imagined it this way. What the hell happened? Who knew about alienation before it happened to us? We can dine out on ‘thinking positive’, and we can pride ourselves on our hearty fortitude (on the good days), but it’s with a huge dollop of reality on the side that leaves a bad taste in the mouth. This experience is traumatic and it is not for the weak-hearted/minded. Our unconditional love for our child/ren cannot be taken from us. This is true. But for all the platitudes and ‘it’ll get easier in time’ messages we get from well-intentioned people (and nobody truly understands who doesn’t experience it, however many letters they have after their name), alienation from our child/ren is no walk in the park. It is the biggest, most monumental challenge because it’s embroiled with injustice and lies and manipulation, it’s a living bereavement, it’s psychological abuse, and we worry for our child who’s been enmeshed in the disordered pathology of the alienating parent. But we have no choice but to sit with it, to be strong, and to keep sending out love, near or far. Come what may. We are not letting this experience define us. We keep the faith, we keep loving, we get up and get on with it, and we don’t quit.

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Cameron Diaz Says to ‘Normalize’ Couples Having ‘Separate Bedrooms’ | UsWeekly

I’m totally ok with this..coming together when you both want to. Have a place to retreat to on your own when necessary.. Never having to…thrilled to want to be together when both are in that heart centered place .

Trust like that – priceless

Cameron Diaz says we should ‘normalize’ married couples having ‘separate bedrooms’ or even separate houses
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Symptom of Parental Alienation/Child Psychological Abuse

When a child decides they never want to see one of their parents again, they might come up with a silly or made-up reason.

It could be a story with little or no real evidence, but somehow it becomes a strong, believable experience in their mind.

This often happens when a child is caught in the middle of a difficult family situation, and their emotions may lead them to create reasons that might not be entirely true.

It’s important for adults involved to understand and address these situations with sensitivity and care, considering the emotional impact on the child and working towards a resolution that benefits everyone involved.

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Christmas for the targeted parent

I know that a lot of you are not going to be with you child this Christmas. For some of you this will the first time you have this experience, for others you will have already been through this difficult period.

Whilst you cannot control the situation, you can control how you choose to respond.

Top tip # 1 – Keep yourself busy and try to make sure that you are with other people on Christmas Day and ideally other days as well.

Your X wants you to be feeling lonely and miserable, why do their job for them? If you are feeling sad and miserable, this will not impact what your children are doing. If you are managing to find comfort and even some happiness being with others, this will also not impact what your children are doing. It only impacts you!

Find some things that you want to do and which you have been denying yourself, such as treats or experiences. Book it and do it.

Push yourself to get out and do things, you will thank yourself later that you did.

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I personally know that x wants me to be low and emotional during this holiday season, and that just ain’t happening. It was not an unusual Xmas and I was home on my own…

X wishes me unalive , so grief filled that he can feed off that energy .

Once I accepted his shadow- demonic intentions, I just stayed intent and focused in my work/rest .

X as most Narcissists do, loves when I’m ill, and vulnerable , it consumes him , to seek revenge due to my silence .

I emailed x a plan to resolve the financial issues and business related problems mid month . No response .

I wrote our sons on the 25 th , wishing them a happy and safe holiday sharing my proposal email to x , which was generous given that he was illegal.

I’m sure he knows and is slinging some negative energy my way , though I have expressed that what he hexes me with is going coming back compounded to him.

He’s in control , no higher power , just him, his vendetta to shut me up and Divine has an accounting of all he has abused.

It’s his fate .

I know that a lot of you are not going to be with you child this Christmas. For some of you this will the first time you have this experience, for others you will have already been through this difficult period.

Whilst you cannot control the situation, you can control how you choose to respond.

Top tip # 1 – Keep yourself busy and try to make sure that you are with other people on Christmas Day and ideally other days as well.

Your X wants you to be feeling lonely and miserable, why do their job for them? If you are feeling sad and miserable, this will not impact what your children are doing. If you are managing to find comfort and even some happiness being with others, this will also not impact what your children are doing. It only impacts you!

Find some things that you want to do and which you have been denying yourself, such as treats or experiences. Book it and do it.

Push yourself to get out and do things, you will thank yourself later that you did.

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Sherrie Campbell PhD – the go to family manipulator

Our power-holding family members always have their one “go to” person to help them manipulate. Whenever confronted by us, they cry to this person about the horrible and awful ways we have treated them. They play the shocked and helpless victim of our abuse.

The dramatic story they tell is far from the truth because what our abusers leave out are the facts on who started the conflict to begin with. They start conflict, get us to react, then delete what they did in the retelling of the story, incensing their trusted (and most easily manipulated) confidants to turn on us.

This puts us the position to be further abused by these confidants who have no idea that they are judging us on false facts and a person who rewrote history before involving them. Our relationships often end with these middle people who have no interest in hearing any other side than that of our family member who has already poisoned them. The teaching to take is to let them believe what they want. You have only lost a fool who will believe anything they hear without further research.