Some of us were blessed with wonderful mothers. Some of us were blessed with challenging mothers. For some of us it’s a mix of both. Sometimes the best thing they could do for us was to show us all the examples of what kind of person we don’t want to be. Guidance can come in many different forms. But the important thing to remember is that you picked your parents for a very good reason. ❤️
I lost a son to suicide while he was attending Pepperdine university, and I am convinced by the writings that he left me, the medications prescribed are the main cause. His doctor – well….. he shouldn’t be practicing medicine. He is a glorified drug dealer.
Anyway, fast forward to my 22 year old, who has had nothing but negative outcomes from medication and cranial magnetic therapy, and remained suicidal. He was rescued from an attempt just a few weeks ago. We chose to skip inpatient after his last crisis, and instead, sent him to Michigan for a more holistic approach. I am happy to share that he is doing amazing. He gets into the hyperbaric chamber often. He receives peptide injections and he also went through infusions that were five infusions within 10 days. I am collecting information on this type of therapy and plan to take it to the legislators in NY. I will get the official verbiage and share it with you all. The large issue is, of course, insurance companies do not want to cover most of the cost.
I just want those who are in a struggle and nothing seems to help, but instead, makes them worsen, to know that there is hope and help out there. I know that the doctor who over prescribed and was not fit to treat my son, are a big part of the puzzle that took my son away to soon. I want to help fight what has been taking place for far to long. I am thankful for all who are wanting to do the same.
A Mom
𝘎𝘳𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘢 𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳.
It just means older.
Because our children will always be our babies.
They just will.
We’ll always look at them and see the little squishy baby who would just want to be cradled in our arms for hours sleeping,
or that vulnerable little toddler gazing up at us with wide eyes and chubby cheeks.
Grown doesn’t mean anything to a mother.
It doesn’t mean she won’t do everything possible to make their lives easier or to make them smile,
whether it’s making her college-aged child’s favorite chocolate cookies,
or going to the store and buying groceries for her child with small children so she doesn’t have to take everyone out.
𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥 𝘪𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥,
𝘪𝘵 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘢𝘨𝘦,
If they are 5, 12, 32, or 60,
𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵
how much taller they are than us,
𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘧𝘢𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦,
if they live in our house, neighborhood, or across the world,
𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦
0 to 6,
𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺’𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘣𝘦 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘯.
And we’ll always want to know every detail of their day,
and to hear they’re home safe from dinner, a trip, or back from the store.
And we’ll only continue to love them more with each passing year,
𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘥𝘰.
✍️: @livingfullaftered
📸: Unknown Artist
I left my ex a few years ago. We have 4 kids ages 23,21 and 17 year old twins. I was a stay at home mom for 21 years. My ex throughly alienated my kids, my family and my friends. It was brutal. The worst time of my life. I was alone with everyone I loved on my exes side.
Fast forward a year later and my kids and my family came back to me. They started sharing stories and what my ex was saying didn’t add up. I was beyond thrilled to have my kids and my family back.
It feels fake. We have some great times and have taken weekends away that were so much fun. But it feels fake sometimes. I always feel like I’m walking a fine line, and I am. It’s an ebb and flow sometimes the contact goes for months at a time. Sometimes they pull away. My oldest daughter seems to be the ring leader of when they talk to me and when they don’t. They all come to me when shit hits the fan with their dad and that happens often. Usually involving money.
I’ve set no boundaries because I’m terrified of them leaving again. And they did leave.
A couple of weeks ago my oldest daughter called me in a panic. Her dad bought a dog for her after our divorce and I have never seen the dog before. My ex apparently gave the dog something to eat that it shouldn’t have eaten and the dog began throwing up and wouldn’t stop. She asked her dad yo go to an emergency vet with her and he of course said no, the dog would be fine. She called me and I said I would go with her. The emergency vet bill was over $500 and she made no move to pay for it so I did. I became frustrated and told her that it’s her dad who should pay the bill since he’s the one that made her dog sick. Probably shouldn’t have said that but I did. I am the go to person and provide them with all their clothes, medical appts, school stuff and they don’t live with me. I’m am asked often to buy food for them because there isn’t food in the house they like. I ask myself often why am I buying food for them for their dads house???
Anyway I set some boundaries and tried to explain in a loving way without ever bad mouthing their dad that since they live with him maybe they should ask him to buy food they like and I wasn’t really in a financial position to pay $500 vet bills. (I’m a teacher and my ex makes a ridiculous amount of money) that didn’t go over well and they all stopped talking to me.
My twins birthday was in July and I didn’t get to see them. My mom sent money and gifts and my son who is 17 returned the money and gifts to my mom. My mom didn’t deserve this!
I know for a lot of you, you would love to have any contact and I get that. For me this is almost worse than not having contact. I never know when they will pull away again. It’s a constant roller coaster and every time they leave again it ruins me a little bit more. I’m tired of being the one texting them and telling them I’m sorry and basically begging for them to
come back. This time I haven’t done any of that. I set boundaries that my oldest daughter didn’t like and she (they) walked away.
When does it get better? Should I continue to be a door mat and let them treat me badly so they will be in my life? My therapist said boundaries are great but it sure didn’t work for me. I’m angry. I walked away from their narcissistic dad, I didn’t walk away from them.
Stop leaving your kids with them.
Stop leaving your children with your boyfriends you barely know.
Stop letting your family members you don’t entirely trust watch them because it’s free.
If you have a gut feeling about someone that doesn’t sit right with you when it comes to your child, cut all ties with this person.
If your little one comes to you and says I don’t want to stay with a particular person …. do me a favor and listen to them.
~ Cody Bret
And ALWAYS believe them!! I myself would rather believe them and be wrong, then call them a liar and be wrong 🤷🏼♀️ ~ Tawny M
I tested close to 100% and it was Super Hyper Sensitive. I believe the numbers here are not high enough , as vaccines , stress, trauma etc create a sensitivity that’s being diagnosed, horrifically , and medicated as a DSM , ” something else”
APA doing much harm.
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