Endings

I did have highlights , but the recoil of 2 living situations that did not ” help ” but hindered my growth in healing physically, enjoying more time outs .Balancing out my world . I managed despite conflicts that have made every effort to halt progress …rather digression , projected blame and rage as the lower selves joined in every effort to prevent exorcism and change ; displacement, remaining as is Distorted and heavy with the burden .

I am grateful for foods donated locally and heavy at years end !

Cash and gas ⛽are not presently forthcoming , and I’m allowing that flow , utilizing my quite time , and the basic cooking plan that challenging without my kitchen ware ..spices etc .

As the current situation has been chronic and awareness of why that has been controlled and judged guilty , inferior and a waste of air space by a man in Distortions that contributed to the severance of any healthy relationship of balance with HIS kids .

He’s justified in contracts that disadvantage me of income after creating a divorce that allowed his control of my finances. This has been breached, in a continuation of his WAR .

I have survived against his many and varied efforts , denied truths and shuns any response or responsibility for truthfully parenting in the best interest of our sons , physical and mental health .

Realizing that, repeatedly cost me faith in myself for having misjudged the character of the father of our sons . I has begun to forgive myself , when I began to study and accept NPD as reality ..I tried on that shadow personally , and it nearly took me out .

I love each son forever & always and pray for their liberation of parenting and elders who disadvantaged them , in ways that had bound them in secrets and trauma .

Never to conceal ?

Never to reveal?

Never to heal a scared bond ?

Transformations are a

reality .Recent events denote

imbalances and continued

rejection of positive flow , so

I am focused on getting my

” house ” in order .

Resting & Rejuvenation despite

Challenges …

Blessings & Peace

All the Best in 2022!

Dona Luna

Narcissist Try To Make You Invisible ; Dead While Alive

When you reevaluate the pattern of narcissists in your life, you may have noticed a distinct feeling of invisibility as you were shoved to the side as a background character in your own life time and time again. Think of it this way: attention-seeking narcissists or otherwise toxic people work very hard to maintain the spotlight. In order to do so, they have to cast what feels akin to an invisibility spell over those they know will be “too visible” seen and noticed by others. They know your traits and assets make you someone who is a “main character” – someone who authentically brings attention to them without even trying because of their empathy, natural charisma and intelligence. If you have this pattern in your life, it’s time to recognize the ways in which you have been “hidden” from others by the narcissists in your life so people couldn’t see you accurately. Whether it was through smear campaigns or simply hogging the stage, realize that you do deserve to be visible and to be the main character of your life story without others downplaying who you are. Not in a narcissistic way but in a healthy self-loving way. You too deserve attention, acknowledgment and care. 💖🤗 #narcissisticabuse #toxicpeople #toxicrelationships #shahidaarabi #emotionalabuse #selfcare #healing

Stop Walking On Eggshells

To love someone long-term is to attend a thousand funerals of the people they used to be.

The people they’re too exhausted to be any longer. The people they grew out of, the people they never ended up growing into. We so badly want the people we love to get their spark back when it burns out, to become speedily found when they are lost.

But it is not our job to hold anyone accountable to the people they used to be. It is our job to travel with them between each version and to honour what emerges along the way. Sometimes it will be an even more luminescent flame. Sometimes it will be a flicker that temporarily floods the room with a perfect and necessary darkness.

~ Heidi Priebe

https://stopwalkingoneggshells.com/#

Risk & Limitations of Antidepressants

“The drugging of the American public is one of those strange, well-known, but under-discussed issues that are never quite fully represented in the conversation about where our culture is and where it’s heading.

As of 2016, one in six American adults were taking psychiatric medications, a staggering number that is accompanied by the fact that the mental health industry in America is worth well over $200 billion a year.

We’ve been led to believe that our doctors are the end-all-be-all authority on what’s good for our health and that their advice is backed up by rigorous and undeniable scientific proof. What we’re not told, however, is that scientific research today is highly suspect and often outright corrupted by the pharmaceutical industry.

Furthermore, we really don’t yet understand the full range of consequences involved in taking prescription psychiatric medications instead of pursuing other, natural possibilities.

Medical researcher Craig Wagner has compiled eight years of study of psychiatric medications and their effects, and he has distilled his findings into three easy-to-grasp infographics that will shatter your perceptions about the efficacy and safety of these medications.

We really don’t have a truthful understanding of this issue, but these graphics will help put it into perspective.”

— Alex Pietrowski, Staff Writer for The Waking Times

HealthScandalsRevealed 👊😎👊

My belief was chipped away until 2008..”friendship never was :WAR Within

Too many beautiful, loving folks believe they and the narcissist are soul mates or twin flames. They believe the narcissist is simply fulfilling the “runner” dynamic and will ‘come to their senses’ and return to the relationship sooner or later.⁣⁠
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And they will wait YEARS for this to happen, enduring untold, horrific abuse.⁣⁠
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Please understand that a soul mate will not betray you, stab you in the back, tell you pathological lies, or make it their duty to cause you to feel unworthy of their love. Only sadistic manipulators do that.⁣⁠
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Many writers and content creators are romanticizing emotional abuse and calling it ‘spiritual lessons’ and ‘evolution’.⁣⁠
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This is one of the worst forms of gaslighting.⁣⁠
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The truth is, staying in a relationship with an individual who emotionally abuses you and repeatedly breaks their promises can cause crippling levels of chronic depression due to repeated emotional traumas, the nature of which is made worse by the limiting beliefs we form in response to the narcissist’s degrading verbal assaults.⁣⁠
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Even more alarming, repeated emotional injuries shrink the brain’s hippocampus, which is responsible for memory and learning, while enlarging the amygdala, which houses primitive emotions such as fear, grief, guilt, envy, and shame.⁣⁠

In short, you habitually become hijacked by your freeze response, unable to form rational thoughts or reactions. Over time, this becomes your baseline state of being. It’s a cycle of emotional destruction of the most grievous kind.⁣⁠
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⁣⁠I cannot recommend enough to stop romanticizing abuse and stop self-abandoning.

The Modules of THRIVE are dedicated to helping you evolve into a healed version of yourself so you can say “NO” to continued abuse.

And you will be restored in more incredible ways than you ever believed possible.

Learn more about THRIVE here: https://bit.ly/331a4j7

Much love xo

Kim

Childress : Professional Knowledge

The “established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline” of professional psychology is:

Attachment – Bowlby and others
Family systems therapy – Minuchin and others
Personality disorders – Beck and others
Complex trauma – van der Kolk and others
Child development – Tronick and others
Self psychology – Kohut and others
ICD-10 & DSM-5 diagnostic systems

2.04 Bases for Scientific and Professional Judgments
Psychologists’ work is based upon established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline.

If the psychologist’s work is NOT based upon the established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline, then they are in violation of Standard 2.04 Bases of Scientific and Professional Judgments – they are unethical psychologists.

Psychologists are required to know the established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline based on their background education, training, and professional experience.

2.01 Boundaries of Competence
(a) Psychologists provide services, teach, and conduct research with populations and in areas only within the boundaries of their competence, based on their education, training, supervised experience, consultation, study, or professional experience.

If the psychologist is providing services outside the boundaries of their competence based on their education, training, and experience, then they are unethical psychologists for violation to Standard 2.01 Boundaries of Competence.

Psychologists must base their opinions contained in their recommendations, reports, and diagnostic or evaluative statements, including forensic testimony, on information and techniques sufficient to substantiate their findings.

9.01 Bases for Assessments
(a) Psychologists base the opinions contained in their recommendations, reports, and diagnostic or evaluative statements, including forensic testimony, on information and techniques sufficient to substantiate their findings. (See also Standard 2.04, Bases for Scientific and Professional Judgments .)

If the opinions of the psychologist as contained in their recommendations, reports, and diagnostic or evaluative statements is NOT based on information sufficient to substantiate their findings, then they are unethical psychologists in violation of Standard 9.01 Bases of Assessment.

Information: Bowlby – Minuchin – Beck – van der Kolk – Tronick – Kohut – ICD-10 & DSM-5 diagnostic systems

Techniques: Mental Status Exam of thought and perception

Parents have rights guaranteed to them by the ethics code of the American Psychological Association. Ethical practice is mandatory, not optional, for all psychologists.

The “forensic” psychologists control the licensing boards. All court-involved complaints made to licensing boards are given to “forensic” psychologists for review – and they exempt themselves from all ethical standards of practice… because they can.

We need to expose the corruption of the licensing boards. Make them cover-up their unethical practice… over-and-over again. You have rights – but only if you stand up and demand your rights.

They won’t give them to you – the licensing boards are not set up to protect the consumer from unethical practice by “forensic” psychologists – they are set up to protect the unethical “forensic” psychologists from accountability for their ignorant, incompetent, and unethical practice.

Google ignorant: lack of knowledge or information

They are ignorant by definition of the English language – and they are too lazy to learn what they’re doing.

2.03 Maintaining Competence
Psychologists undertake ongoing efforts to develop and maintain their competence.

Google incompetence: inability to do something successfully

Did they solve your child’s pathology? They are ignorant and incompetent. They solve nothing because their are ignorant, lazy, and unethical.

Google negligence: failure to take proper care in doing something. Law: failure to use reasonable care, resulting in damage or injury to another.

Were their violations of Standard 2.04 Bases for Scientific and Professional Judgments, Standard 2.01 Boundaries of Competence, Standard 2.03 Maintaining Competence, and Standard 9.01 Bases for Assessment, of the APA ethics code negligent professional practice?

The pathology of concern is a shared persecutory delusion with the allied parent as the primary case – also called the “inducer” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000). The ICD-10 diagnosis for a shared persecutory delusion is F24.

From the journal, Family Court Review:

From Walters & Friedlander: “In some RRD families [resist-refuse dynamic], a parent’s underlying encapsulated delusion about the other parent is at the root of the intractability (cf. Johnston & Campbell, 1988, p. 53ff; Childress , 2013). An encapsulated delusion is a fixed, circumscribed belief that persists over time and is not altered by evidence of the inaccuracy of the belief.”

Walters, M. G., & Friedlander, S. (2016). When a child rejects a parent: Working with the intractable resist/refuse dynamic. Family Court Review, 54(3), 424–445.

From the APA: “Shared Psychotic Disorder can occur in larger number of individuals, especially in family situations in which the parent is the primary case and the children, sometimes to varying degrees, adopt the parent’s delusional beliefs.” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000, p. 333)

From the APA: “Persecutory Type: delusions that the person (or someone to whom the person is close) is being malevolently treated in some way.” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000)

Google malevolent: having or showing a wish to do evil to others.

Does the child have a fixed and false belief that is maintained despite contrary evidence that the targeted parent has a “wish to do evil” to the them? Does the allied parent share this fixed and false belief that the targeted parent has a “wish to do evil” to the child? – that would be a shared persecutory delusion.

If you – as the mental health professional, because of your negligence, ignorance, and unethical practice – believe the shared delusion, then you become PART of the shared delusion, you become PART of the pathology.

When that pathology is child abuse – you, the mental health person – become part of the child abuse – you become the child abuser. The “betrayer” – the one who should protect… but doesn’t.

You, the parents, are more powerful than you know, but only if you stand up for your rights – not beg to have someone recognize some made-up pathology – you have rights, but only if you ground yourselves in the “established scientific and professional knowledge” of professional psychology.

You’re the moms. You’re the dads. You just need support. You have support.

This is child abuse – DSM-5 V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.

This is spousal abuse using the child as the weapon – DSM-5 V995.82.

All psychologists have two legally obligating duties, the duty of care and the duty to protect.

The “forensic” psychologists are failing in their duty to protect the child from child abuse, and they are failing in their duty to protect the targeted parent from spousal emotional and psychological abuse using the child as the weapon.

This is child abuse. This is spousal emotional and psychological abuse using the child as the weapon.

It needs to stop. Now.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

2:5 Full Time Jobs Normal for Mom , low no pay

As a stay at home Mom I had vision for my life , when each son was in school . My own business had great appeal and I had varied interest to consider .

Of course having a purpose in his life, meant doing what he wanted , which was a lot of being away from home and spending lots of money 💰if and when he chose .

It was important for him to align with the appearance of success and harmony.

I don’t feel that at any point in 21 years of being in the same home, when he was at home .. he wasn’t present ..

He is deeply defensive , and concerned for his happiness .

Never seeing the whole , bonded and dedicated to a partnership , ongoing , that sucks the positive energy from a relationship .

Never considering my needs , my need for action , and support I can assure you emotions never factored into an equation of self preservation on high .

So of course I never did enough .

My body responded to the distorted home life , the projected blame in silence.

Of course I was a monster Mom and must have earned that designation as an induced mental patient who was aware of treachery within the family , the abusive side effects on our children and the trauma.

21 years of his WAR , taking as many prisoners as possible and holding his position though its clear, his truth is neigh , force or choice .

Ignoring my effort to inform him of factual results , none more vital than allowing truth to heal wounds in each child , the multifaceted irregular and illegal truths are forced into light by a crisis .

I asked for 13k to take a course in integrated nutrition in 2005. Of course he said no, he had other priorities and overinflated income that was always spending more than coming in .

Failing to see the results of my ability to produce income and or hoping to keep me down on the economic scale is a reality .

That shows up in the divorce contract , signed when I was medicated into Bipolar ll , secreting the mental , physical , spiritual and financial abuse in a distortion that made me responsible for everything .

Medical and Legal were my responsibility .

The Virginia Supreme Court heard my case on that word responsible , and I lost .

Instead of asking for cost of living increases , the presentation was asking for an increase to cover medical insurance.

Insurance in 2005 was $300ish and Co pays which were going up.

Anthem Blue Cross took 3k from me , to being health insurance at 1k permonth. My 1st bill 2 weeks later was 3k and I decided to release AMA and medical insurance .

Anthem Blue Cross did not receive a claim from me , NOR did they refund my money .

The side effects of malignancy in a marriage are many including surviving the intended death , that a human being prefers in order to escape facts that allow healing for 4 adults and 6 grandchildren.

I have assured him of a conclusion of unfinished, unclarified business , extortion and leverage of children who deserve release and responsibility; who lost their Mom , were deprived of a safe foundation , taught to fear and hate Mom , for the WIN 🏆.

Current situations highlight this discord and distortion and I’m assured of closure and healing time to further my intentions in regard to a career. Vision and dreams of childhood have a part in my future, as well as intentions and dreams of my work , my spiritual and my physical will be in harmony .

The unfinished, the continued secrets , lies and intentions to divest me of any of progress as he’s benefited with each and every obstacle and has never felt obligated to assist , even after an agreement signed 4 years ago .

Motherhood , was destroyed in varied acts and lack of respect and support by a partner who remained BOSS man , lacking knowledge or a desire to be part of a whole , has no idea of partnership or a partners worth .

Only what a person offers , produces , negating the spirit and soul needs .

I have accepted my value , and with each example of abuse and delay in my Grand Design , I release more any attachment to anyone who continues to accept a version of me that does not exist and dishonors my essence .

I am worthy to create a new life freed of the responsibility of abuses and negatives that created Mom as past , and never to discuss past , or honor it.

https://www.baby-chick.com/study-says-motherhood-is-equivalent-to-working-2-5-full-time-jobs/