Over A Decade of Being Over Him

Never saw him as the package that included our sons .

Business of old , irregular , illegal is finally going to be resolved .

Surprised at the hold out ? Not I, I heard complaints over a $2 bank charge for him to automatically deposit my Spousal Support .. Of course he was relived of that , though judgements brought up his many car payments etc

Mentioned that he was to be responsible , however that varied ..the energy shifted and outcomes varied until the last hearing .

My words , he will never have enough of my money . It’s endless. I do not wish to question him due to his lying .

Initiate Partner Violence

Malignant

High Conflict

Very few lawyers know this , and it’s not merely Domestic Violence when a marriage is obtained when the other is targeted as the abuser .

It has delayed the liberation of our 3 children and their children until recent events , allow that his WAR is HIS and I release him to that eternal war within .

Clearing this took so much effort and resistance, but upon my ancestors revelations and history I learned I had the honor of clearing this , and added to my vow to create a safe world for Harper Ann who will never have the abusive experiences of her ancestors.

Of course that applies to 5 grandsons too

His kids

There’s lots to heal and I know that’s imposing but the rising out of that trauma has a universal theme ..a drum beat and one just need surrender to their highest power and ask to be gentle in the release ..knowing I was ready to leap forward and end the never ending narrative of an abuser who is a victim and owns his power in money and has spent plenty to thwart my truths .

My healing has been tested these past 7 months intensely but my faith remains .

I am grateful 🙏 🥲

Love % Blessings

Dona Luna ✌ ✌ ✌

Over it, long ago; the legacy of NPD , the Never Ending Pain

You can do all the research in the world to understand the inner workings of the narcissist’s mind, but it will do nothing to influence the outcome of the relationship.⁠

Narcissists don’t think like most people. You can try to appeal to their seemingly ‘hurt’ inner child, be the most devoted partner or family member, and do everything they ask of you, but it will not change a thing.⁠

Ever.⁠

Narcissists are not interested in stable, loving, reciprocal connections. The idea of meeting your emotional needs repulses them to the core. The only positive leanings they have about your love and devotion are that they can use your sentimental feelings against you for their own benefit.⁠

Here’s one thing I know to be absolutely true – when it comes to narcissists, we all want to believe we’ll be the exception to the rule, but none of us ever are.⁠

There simply is not a way to “make things work” with a narcissist that doesn’t involve erasing your own identity, emotions, and needs.⁠

You cannot set boundaries with them (none that they’ll honor, anyway)⁠

You can’t reason with them.⁠

You can’t get them to stop lying, cheating, betraying, etc.⁠

You cannot have a loving, reciprocal, healthy relationship if you’re the only one interested in having it.⁠

And this is the last thing on the narcissist’s mind, even if they try to convince you otherwise. Pay attention to patterns, because patterns never lie.⁠

Don’t forget to claim your free healing roadmap. It’s been downloaded tens of thousands of times and has helped people across the globe to begin their recovery in gentle and encouraging ways:

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Childress : NPD Pathology & Delusions

Narcissistic Pathology & Delusions

The narcissistic personality collapses into persecutory delusions under stress – like the stress created by their public rejection during and surrounding divorce.

This is a known fact about narcissistic personality pathology, that it collapses into persecutory and paranoid delusions under stress.

Theodore Millon is considered among the top experts in personality disorder pathology. He is author of the Millon Clinical Multi-Axial Inventory (MCMI), considered the gold standard assessment instrument of personality disorder pathology.

Theodore Millon wrote the book on personality pathology. Look at the title of the book. Then listen to what he says about narcissistic personality pathology.

Millon. T. (2011). Disorders of personality: Introducing a DSM/ICD spectrum from normal to abnormal. Hoboken: Wiley.

From Millon: “Under conditions of unrelieved adversity and failure, narcissists may decompensate into paranoid disorders. Owing to their excessive use of fantasy mechanisms, they are disposed to misinterpret events and to construct delusional beliefs. Unwilling to accept constraints on their independence and unable to accept the viewpoints of others, narcissists may isolate themselves from the corrective effects of shared thinking. Alone, they may ruminate and weave their beliefs into a network of fanciful and totally invalid suspicions.” (Millon, 2011, pp. 407-408).

From Millon: “Among narcissists, delusions often take form after a serious challenge or setback has upset their image of superiority and omnipotence. They tend to exhibit compensatory grandiosity and jealousy delusions in which they reconstruct reality to match the image they are unable or unwilling to give up. Delusional systems may also develop as a result of having felt betrayed and humiliated. Here we may see the rapid unfolding of persecutory delusions and an arrogant grandiosity characterized by verbal attacks and bombast.” (Millon, 2011, pp. 407-408).

It is a known fact of the pathology that the narcissistic personality will collapse into persecutory delusions under stress.

The rejection inherent to divorce will present the narcissistic parent with conditions of unrelieved adversity and failure. The narcissistic parent will decompensate into persecutory delusions.

We know this. This is an established fact about narcissistic personality pathology

Shared (induced) Delusional Disorder

The pathology of a shared delusional disorder is also called an induced delusional disorder.

Wehmeier Barth, & Remschmidt (2003). Induced Delusional Disorder. Psychopathology,

37-45.
https://www.karger.com/Article/Abstract/69657

From Wehmeier Barth, & Remschmidt: “Induced delusional disorder (or shared paranoid disorder), also known as folie à deux, is a fairly uncommon disturbance characterized by the presence of similar psychotic symptoms in two or more individuals. Most often the symptoms are delusional. Usually the ‘primary’ case, i.e. the individual who first develops psychotic symptoms, can be distinguished from one or more ‘secondary’ cases, in whom the symptoms are induced.”

From the American Psychiatric Association: “Usually the primary case in Shared Psychotic Disorder is dominant in the relationship and gradually imposes the delusional system on the more passive and initially healthy second person… Although most commonly seen in relationships of only two people, Shared Psychotic Disorder can occur in larger number of individuals, especially in family situations in which the parent is the primary case and the children, sometimes to varying degrees, adopt the parent’s delusional beliefs.” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000, p. 333)

Shared (induced) Delusions in Family Courts

The journal Family Court Review is the flagship journal of the AFCC.

From Walters & Friedlander: “In some RRD families [resist-refuse dynamic], a parent’s underlying encapsulated delusion about the other parent is at the root of the intractability (cf. Johnston & Campbell, 1988, p. 53ff; Childress, 2013). An encapsulated delusion is a fixed, circumscribed belief that persists over time and is not altered by evidence of the inaccuracy of the belief.” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

From Walters & Friedlander: “When alienation is the predominant factor in the RRD [resist-refuse dynamic}, the theme of the favored parent’s fixed delusion often is that the rejected parent is sexually, physically, and/or emotionally abusing the child. The child may come to share the parent’s encapsulated delusion and to regard the beliefs as his/her own (cf. Childress, 2013).” (Walters & Friedlander, 2016, p. 426)

Walters, M. G., & Friedlander, S. (2016). When a child rejects a parent: Working with the intractable resist/refuse dynamic. Family Court Review, 54(3), 424–445.

Diagnosis Guides Treatment

In healthcare, all of healthcare, including all of mental health care, diagnosis guides treatment. The treatment for cancer is different than the treatment for diabetes.

Is there a shared (induced) persecutory delusion created by the pathogenic parenting of the allied parent? Creating delusional thought disorder pathology in the child that then destroys their attachment bond to the other parent is a DSM-5 diagnosis of V-995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.

Diagnosis guides treatment. Is the DSM-5 diagnosis V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse? Was a proper risk assessment for possible Child Psychological Abuse conducted?

Apply knowledge to solve pathology, ignorance solves nothing.

2.04 Bases for Scientific and Professional Judgments
Psychologists’ work is based upon established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

https://www.karger.com/Article/Abstract/69657

Childress offers response to questions

Prepare your questions for Dr. Childress.

On this New Year, I will be providing an email address here and I’ll ask for your questions. Any question. From anyone.

I’m attending to parents, but attorneys and mental health professionals can ask questions too. Now-adult kids recovering. Anyone. Any question.

There’s no such thing as a dumb question. Well, actually, that’s not true, but that’s okay, ask it anyway. Any question.

Except what’s my favorite color, no trick questions to get me confused.

In January, I’ll ask you to send me your questions to the email address I provide. In February, I’ll start answering your questions on YouTube. All your questions. Even the stupid questions. My favorite color is blue, no wait… red… now look what you’ve done, I’m all confused.

Why not?

You have questions. That likely means more people just like you have the same question. I could answer your questions over-and-over each time one-by-one… or all together on YouTube – whee, don’t you love the Internet. I do. Best thing since fire.

So prepare your questions for Dr. Childress. I don’t need your stories. You think I need your stories to understand your questions, I don’t. I could tell you your stories. I want your questions – I can tell exactly your story by your question – each story has its questions.

I’ll won’t read your stories, I know your stories. I’ll read the sentences that end with this ? thing.

That sentence, the one that ends with that ? thing, is called a question. That’s what I’ll read and answer.

I’ll group your questions sort of, and I’ll start posting YouTube videos in February answering your questions, in 10-15 minute segments until there are no more questions – and a lot of answers on YouTube for everyone now and into the future.

Don’t ‘cha love the Internet. I do. Best thing since fire. Internet gud, and oh my goodness, no one knows your a dog. What’s your question for Dr. Childress? January 2022.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

My belief was chipped away until 2008..”friendship never was :WAR Within

Too many beautiful, loving folks believe they and the narcissist are soul mates or twin flames. They believe the narcissist is simply fulfilling the “runner” dynamic and will ‘come to their senses’ and return to the relationship sooner or later.⁣⁠
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And they will wait YEARS for this to happen, enduring untold, horrific abuse.⁣⁠
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Please understand that a soul mate will not betray you, stab you in the back, tell you pathological lies, or make it their duty to cause you to feel unworthy of their love. Only sadistic manipulators do that.⁣⁠
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Many writers and content creators are romanticizing emotional abuse and calling it ‘spiritual lessons’ and ‘evolution’.⁣⁠
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This is one of the worst forms of gaslighting.⁣⁠
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The truth is, staying in a relationship with an individual who emotionally abuses you and repeatedly breaks their promises can cause crippling levels of chronic depression due to repeated emotional traumas, the nature of which is made worse by the limiting beliefs we form in response to the narcissist’s degrading verbal assaults.⁣⁠
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Even more alarming, repeated emotional injuries shrink the brain’s hippocampus, which is responsible for memory and learning, while enlarging the amygdala, which houses primitive emotions such as fear, grief, guilt, envy, and shame.⁣⁠

In short, you habitually become hijacked by your freeze response, unable to form rational thoughts or reactions. Over time, this becomes your baseline state of being. It’s a cycle of emotional destruction of the most grievous kind.⁣⁠
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⁣⁠I cannot recommend enough to stop romanticizing abuse and stop self-abandoning.

The Modules of THRIVE are dedicated to helping you evolve into a healed version of yourself so you can say “NO” to continued abuse.

And you will be restored in more incredible ways than you ever believed possible.

Learn more about THRIVE here: https://bit.ly/331a4j7

Much love xo

Kim

Offering of Shadow & 🕯️ Light on Correction of Jabs , Stabs , Toxins

I am not a candidate for any vaccine as I

experienced double vaccines in 2005 in a low

state of immunity and lost several days , coupled

with now decades of research and 1st hand

life stories .

I have experienced the side effects of “shedding”

and felt it best to be safer than sorry so I have

doubled my efforts to provide my body with

rest , great nutrition , less stress and faith in

the products I use and the years of building these

essential alternatives in my “tool box ” which I

fully credit to my very existence on this planet .

Lacking funds during this slow transition of

settling in another temporary home , while plans

gel towards building; a reality I’ve lived with

for 4 decades of financial insecurity in a partner-

ship that wasn’t ….should be totally resolved

by the holidays ..2 decades of every effort to

hold the distortions as the truths , of my not

deserving family interaction during the holidays.

The vulgarity shone brightest during holidays

as competition ruled and our sons and I received

token gifts while “family” was treated on high .

It was a demand performance , never missed

on Christmas Day , each year a replay of food

gossip and blatant alienation /abuse .

I will be sharing valid info as I network with

a genius who is sharing their experience as well.

I have had radiation poisoning, which we are

all are experiencing and it was pretty nasty .

Physically vunerable with moving etc , I worked

outside on a very hot day and sweating amps

up the radiation side effects , which began with

a knot or lump on my right neck . Very soon I had

blisters which spread in areas where I had

perspired and so I treated it with Poison Oak

Salve and began internal clearing as well.

I used a Black Drawing Salve , Chickweed

and topical Ozone and realized with a

transformer in the front yard and a possible5G

my highly sensitive body had absorbed radiation.

Everything is dried up, but the experience

woke some dormant health issues and injuries

and that’s had to be addressed as well.

So I am extremely behind but I have great faith

I can provide information that’s going to make

a difference in someone’s life …if only one

I am content ..

I’ll be back with pictures and lable will be Jab.

Blessings & Much Peace ,

Dona Luna

NPD do not co parent

😝 Narcissists don’t co-parent. They don’t want to fall in line and do the right thing. They don’t want to be held accountable, follow the rules and regulations, and don’t want to be harmonious. They don’t want to play on a team.

The only thing a narcissist is interested in – is narcissistic supply. This means, “I can affect other people significantly enough to know that I exist.” It’s the attention they crave more than anything else.

So, when you are attempting to co-parent with a narcissist, they are going to trigger you. They’re going to be uncooperative. They’re going to say one thing and do another. They will use the children as pawns, absolutely to trigger you to get a reaction, which means – I’m significant enough to affect you.

A narcissist wants to play games and use all of these tactics to punish you. How dare you leave them? Or how dare you try and get on with your life? Or how dare you tell other people what they are or how they behave? How dare you?

The false self can’t deal with that. So, punishing you by using the children as pawns is a very, very common tactic.

For an answer to all this – have a look at these resources –

Parallel Parenting – https://bit.ly/3bmz9ZO.

All People Co-Parenting With A Narcissist Needs These Tools – https://bit.ly/3k1maRd.

The Thriver’s Guide To Co-Parenting With A Narcissist – https://bit.ly/3k1HWnT.

Like so many other Thrivers – use the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) to detox from the narcissist to give you the strength and empowerment to give yourself and your children a brighter future.

Full details of NARP can be found here – https://bit.ly/33bIGyY.

Much love xo ❤️