😝 Narcissists don’t co-parent. They don’t want to fall in line and do the right thing. They don’t want to be held accountable, follow the rules and regulations, and don’t want to be harmonious. They don’t want to play on a team.
The only thing a narcissist is interested in – is narcissistic supply. This means, “I can affect other people significantly enough to know that I exist.” It’s the attention they crave more than anything else.
So, when you are attempting to co-parent with a narcissist, they are going to trigger you. They’re going to be uncooperative. They’re going to say one thing and do another. They will use the children as pawns, absolutely to trigger you to get a reaction, which means – I’m significant enough to affect you.
A narcissist wants to play games and use all of these tactics to punish you. How dare you leave them? Or how dare you try and get on with your life? Or how dare you tell other people what they are or how they behave? How dare you?
The false self can’t deal with that. So, punishing you by using the children as pawns is a very, very common tactic.
For an answer to all this – have a look at these resources –
Parallel Parenting – https://bit.ly/3bmz9ZO.
All People Co-Parenting With A Narcissist Needs These Tools – https://bit.ly/3k1maRd.
The Thriver’s Guide To Co-Parenting With A Narcissist – https://bit.ly/3k1HWnT.
Like so many other Thrivers – use the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) to detox from the narcissist to give you the strength and empowerment to give yourself and your children a brighter future.
Full details of NARP can be found here – https://bit.ly/33bIGyY.
Much love xo ❤️
