Tag: abuse

Crazywise. Documentary Screening & Panel Session w/ Dr Gabor Mate’

Crazy…or wise? The traditional wisdom of indigenous cultures often contradicts modern views about a mental health crisis. Is it a ‘calling’ to grow or just a ‘broken brain’? The documentary CRAZYWISE explores what can be learned from people around the world who have turned their psychological crisis into a positive transformative experience.

Join Gabor and Director Phil Borges for a Q&A about the film on February 2, 2022 at 11am Pacific.

There is a screening of the film at 9:30am Pacific, prior to the Q&A with Gabor.

The event is free and open to the public.

For more information and to register:
https://event.newschool.edu/crazywisescreening

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End favoritism, weaponized rivalry & Competition

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/202201/why-we-need-stop-normalizing-sibling-rivalry?error_code=1349037&error_message=User+opted+out+of+platform%3A+The+action+attempted+is+disallowed%2C+because+the+user+has+opted+out+of+Facebook+platform.#_=_

Reclaiming the Sovereignty of Motherhood

Clearly , I was a married , single mother , who was disposable.

Shame on anyone in such a distortion, negating the bond of mother and child to infinity to hide truths worthy of exposure and healing ; be it force or choice .

“Maintaining sovereignty as a mother seems to be an impossible task for many women in capitalist patriarchal societies. I saw a quote on Facebook recently from Mamá Kaur that said, “It’s not motherhood that’s exhausting. What’s exhausting is to nurture in a world that doesn’t care for and support its mothers.” That rang true for me.

When I was a single mother especially, the last thing I felt was sovereign. As I wrote in Single Mothers Speak on Patriarchy, “It’s hard to feel like a Goddess when you’re worried sick about how you are going to feed your kids. You can do all the affirmations and self-help work you want, but it is a rare woman who feels empowered living in poverty.”

https://www.magoism.net/2021/12/book-excerpt-8-on-the-wings-of-isis-reclaiming-the-sovereignty-of-auset-ed-by-trista-hendren-et-al/

Choosing the Scapegoat Child /Child Abuse

These days decry , demand getting off the fence , of owing your truth after factual discernment of all influences in your life .

It’s shocking, Traumatic and extremely lonely and fraught with fear and anxiety .

I did it my way , rightly or wrongly on my own .

I realize I was an emotional parent in the lives of two parents who loved each other passionately and weathered much , including infidelity and reunion. What they lacked in child rearing was highly influenced by Distortions in their own lives ,including Dad leaving home due to his Dad not buying his school books . He lived with an Aunt & Uncle as I’ve learned. Dad held many of his traumas deeply and I was proud to hold him in his shadow , his griefs, his long held feelings that he wasn’t enough ..he never made it . I knew his anger as pain , deep emotional pain and I had lessons , many only once , where he blew up , and I simply pointed out the results, or impact on me and found it unacceptable .

Mom was not an emotional communicater especially matters of the heart UNTIL my marriage, birthing our 1st year with a week to spare .. Past says ” had to marry ” excuse me ?!

Already highly sensitive , Mom’s “Twilight Sleep” RX for childbirth, added to her trauma as soon as she discovered she was pregnant in degrees she dismissed or lived with. Twilight Sleep prohibits bonding as the Mom has an outer body experience and “forgets ” her birthing experience . Handed her babu, she has no idea of who babu is …scary huh?

So I truly get it , and her and it’s been very difficult to heal past wounds of mother but forgiveness began with our 1st born son. Forgiveness came when I accepted she was too bound and scared to face her shadows of which I am aware of to a degree and as I became aware of facts , they meshed with memory and affirmed intuitively.

I trust my self after years of delving into memory , written, spoken, pictures , 1st person stories and emotions that I translate with what I see , hear and experience .

I am trusted in my intuition, and I council and am counciled with out much disturbed energy , my home is my haven , my solace, my peace …

The end of shaky ground in my home life , all the resistance is clarifying in reality .

I am at peace and in forward motion as I navigate very trying times , that have tested me hugely on many levels but I held the light , I rest , I eat as much and as well as possible .

I took charge , and dared to parent myself. Dad was the mother in a bonding that challenged Mom , because she had no soul or spiritual connection due to Twilight Sleep to me and my Pisces nature , her Sagittarius fire , it felt like a competition, and that leeched into the multifaceted scarcity of unity in our family..It was divisive and certainly not something I wanted for children I brought to earth .

I forgave myself for being in a place that accepted masked folks , trying my best to flow with many issues that insulted my soul and were compounded with a son , for who I wanted parents, siblings and enough of all good things , most of all love .

His trauma has been abused and supported in hatred and fear as rage seeps , accusations repeat and retreating and silence is granted him and I enshrouded in death , muted , forgotten , past

This legacy is not healthy, wealthy or wise and that’s why all that should be considered is revealed and the options of healing intensified or ignored are a matter of free will and destiny .

I’m surrendered , Thy Will Being Done .

Blessings & Peace

Dona Luna

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/202104/how-toxic-families-choose-child-scapegoat

Never Ever Better or Authentic or Reality Based

Not healthy nor wise in any way shape or form to hold faith of healing change .

Releasing all that distorted life , all contracts created to serve ONE …

Most accounts that teach about narcissistic abuse recovery are straightforward about the impossibility of repairing a relationship with a narcissist.⁠
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But, there are other accounts, some led by popular teachers and psychologists, that insist there is hope.⁠
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I’m here to spread the news that this is false. ⁠
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You cannot heal your relationship with a narcissist because in order for that to happen, the narcissist would need to WANT it to happen.⁠
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The narcissist would need to develop empathy, which isn’t possible. Narcissists cannot be taught empathy. All they can do is pretend.⁠
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No amount of “trauma-informed” therapy will make a lick of difference to a narcissist. ⁠
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You cannot heal a narcissist’s avoidant attachment style. They will not put in the effort to make that happen. They do not WANT to bond healthily with one person (including their own children).⁠
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Narcissists do not want stable relationships with one partner. The very idea of being in a normal relationship with one person bores them to tears and frightens them to their core.⁠
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Narcissists thrive on instability, drama, chaos, manipulation, and infidelity. These are the things that are exciting to narcissists. These are the things narcissists NEED.⁠
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And before you go thinking that you can offer these things to them, know that they don’t want one player in their game. They want multiple players who are positioned against each other.⁠
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They want different people fighting over them. ⁠
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They enjoy it when people get to their breaking point.⁠
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They are pleased when they’re able to hurt people emotionally.⁠
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Narcissism is part of the dark triad. It’s a close second to psychopathy. Anyone who would lead you to believe there are “safe” levels of narcissism or that narcissists on the so-called “low end” of the spectrum can have healthy relationships is either disillusioned or straight-up lying. ⁠
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Most therapists and teachers know full well that you can’t make things work with a narcissist. Other folks are trying to set themselves apart by appealing to the dream that there IS a way to make it work, exploiting your deepest vulnerabilities and exposing you to further trauma.

Holding you in my heart. Xo

Kim